well well well... he realised his foolishness and decides to take back what he owns... after he has learnt the hard way... I would rather invest in myself, my family than someone I call girlfriend... men do foolish things when they are in love, but instead of the women to see this as a sign of his genuine love for them, they will rather use him till he has become shadow of his former self...

I won't be surprised if the reason they had to stop dating was because she was cheating on him which is quite normal to these people that refer themselves to "Gen Z hoes" ... but do you expect her to say the truth of what really transpired between them? lol, in a delusional woman's world, she's never wrong... even when caught in the act, it's all the man's fault... taking responsibility for their wrongdoings is never their thing, they will rather shift blame than change themselves for the better... yeah, the delusion is high like that...

Nice thread...

happy birthday bros.. God bless you

Jewessgratitud3:


Anything that makes you see a woman as stingy means you're relying on her money or depending on her for one form of survival or the other and that is why you will even know she's stingy in the first place.


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you didn't answer my question.. oh I guess you're lady, mehn my bad.. I'm sorry for even quoting you in the first place... anything you say, I agree...

jmoore:

You don't even know what a septic tank is.

lol obviously...

@ op, the thing with human is, when it is readily gotten and easily available, we tend to take it for granted, this is what lead to wastage... in a rural place whereby, getting water is like finding a lost pin in an ocean, you won't find this kind of behaviour... that's just human for you... until a restrictive practice is put in place like the example you gave, it will continue...

Jewessgratitud3:
You're calling a woman selfish because she no spend 5naira for you. She be your papa abi your guardian? It's this kind of mentality that make many of you enter marriage with zero naira in your account expecting the woman to bring to the table otherwise she'll be tagged selfish.

Look, never expect anything from a woman or use that a bases to chose a wife otherwise disappoinment will just be smiling at you all the way. As a man make your own money and be financially stable and bouyant to a level where you won't need to look on the woman's money.

Na wa o. Na so e dey start. If she starts giving now, any day she doesn't give, na wahala

lemme agree with what you said... but hope the man isn't selfish if he doesn't spend on the woman because he nor be her papa or guardian as well.?? because what is good for the goose should also be good for the gander abi nor be so??

this is why I say that most people just read without comprehension... the OP isn't saying men should depend on their wife's money but they should watch out if she's stingy... some women even at the point of death or emergency will never spend out of their money to get things done, they will never, they believe since he's the man, he should carry everything for head even if it means he should cut of his head to get out of the situation... I don't even want to look at a woman's money, but I won't condone a selfish woman because that actually says alot about her...

OP, number 4 on the list should be if she's not appreciative, that's actually a red flag...

This is why we keep telling men, women don't lower your standards, so why should you as a man lower yours? be ruthless in your choice of women you choose to be with... if she doesn't meet your standards.. dump her! she has to earn a place in your life, she has to earn it, not being given for free... she has to work for it if she wants part of it..

when you're broke and valueless, they ignore you because to them, you're below their level... when you've toiled hard, do the same thing to them... if she belongs to the street, just leave her there...

Biglittlelois:


The bolded, are you willfully blind or what, why are you trying to paint the mother in a bad light because she's against having anything to do with a married man? Op was first mad and angry after that discovery and the mum reacted same way too so what exactly are you driving at?

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you're likely a woman so I would rather save my energy...

sometimes it happens because the man couldn't control himself, sometimes it's due to the fact that the woman knows what she's doing... I've experienced such sexual harassment before... this lady keeps rubbing off her body with mine under the guise of no space...

for an average man, this is enough to get him hard because of the sexual signals it automatically sends to the brain, this doesn't mean the man calls for it... if women had something that's quite visible as the penis when erect in public, we would actually understand that women can very much as well be perverts... but because no evidence, we put all blame on the man...smh

Ishilove:

Shey this one na talk? Shey you didn't see where she admitted that she is dealing with trauma and is not mentally ready? Shey you didn't see where she is seeing bright, red flags in this man's character?

Una go just dey cap like it is compulsory to marry the very first man that proposes to a lady irregardless of character flaws and compatibility.

Wo, op, block his ass and work on your mental health. For all we know, he could be the problem and not the so called 'abusive wife'.

ehn na her choice because I nor know how the matter con dey pain you pass person wey wan marry lmao... if she's not mentally ready, she should stay single na, afterall the man nor dey force am..

sooner or later she will have to make a choice, and I hope she doesn't regret the person she later ends up with due to the "trauma and not mentally ready"... lol it's not that she's not mentally ready, it's because of the fact that he's married and her mother is against it, not because of the man's character... I don't see where the red flags you pointed out is located... tell me one red flag you noticed aside from the fact that he's already married which is not a red flag to me...

and besides, didn't you see where I said she should ask herself those questions in the post you quoted or you didn't read to comprehend?

Nengiraw:
I can’t really answer all that, he is still keeping me in a loophole, but the daughter part, he said he wanted me to know, that’s why he was in the room with her, when she was crying so I would hear her.

you see, his intentions might be good, you may never know, just tread carefully and seek God's help, anyway I modified my post, read again...

Ehn no wahala na, he's free to marry more than one wife, but your mom might be against it, which I understand but that doesn't make him a bad person...

did he hide this fact from you?

is he a good person?

is his family well-to-do?

is he treating his wife and family well?

does he have the potentials of a leader?

what is the relationship between him and his previous wife and does she know? are they still together?

if you answered yes to all these questions, you have nothing to worry about... but if you answered no, move on.. it's better to marry a faithful married man, than a deadbeat or toxic single man... As long as his wife knows about it, then you have nothing to worry about... if you were my sister, I would advice you the same... his intentions for not telling them earlier if he was married might be because he knew what your possible reaction would be especially when you guys haven't met, so he wanted you guys to meet before he made things clear to you, he didn't lie to them, he just didn't made mentioned of it until it was time for you to know... and he didn't lie to you when you asked...

most women needs to get off the delusion that they must marry a single man... we have less good and responsible men who are ready or even interested in marriage now.. if you're lucky to find one, you better hold him tight and treat him well irrespective of whether he's married or not, there's no harm in being a second or third wife... you can be number 3 and even be at peace than someone that call herself number one but her husband keeps frolicking with additional 7 ladies and prostitutes with no peace of mind... your choice... I respect men who married more than one wife legally than men who married one but keeps womanising... those second category of men take care of the concubines outside than their homes and children...

without the influence of drugs, gun and the likes and just only one person, it seems practically impossible but since men are physically stronger than women, after several attempts and tussle, the lady will succumb to the pressure due to tiredness especially if the man is well built and much stronger than her... but if not, it's practically impossible for an average man to rape a woman without the influence of the aforementioned or with the aid of another man...

Because how will you enjoy the thing sef after all the wahala just for pvssy? You now see why weak men and simps are dangerous to the society?? death penalty should be the wages of rapists and false rape accusers as well...

you did wrong with the first woman and also with the second woman... this is why we keep telling men, if you let emotions override your thinking as a man, you'll suffer greatly for it because no one would be there to save you when problem arises...

you've started spending on a woman even before she agrees to date you, even started taking up her responsibility whilst she keeps getting fvcked by her man telling you about being partially divorced bullshits or whatever...?? what the fvck man? is that how desperate you are?? is there no other woman you can talk to? is she your personal lord and saviour??

secondly, a woman you told your intentions straight away and she accepted almost immediately might be because of these reasons, she might be just tired of staying single for too long due to her biological clock, she's being in series of relationships with the bad guys and now she feels it's now time to settle down with a beta provider or she might be really into you, for this case, I feel the the first and second option would be the main reason why she accepted you almost immediately and even pushing to meet your parents... RUN O!

You've already told her your intentions, why won't she package herself to you? do you even know her that much? do you know anything about her past life? is she hiding anything dangerous or incriminating from you?

if you don fvck your wife like 3-5 times, na that time your eye go clear wella .. you go con be like say wetin I dey even enjoy for this marriage sef especially if you guys are into no sex till marriage... one of the main reason most men marry is sex and in the end, most end up getting disappointed if they didn't find what they expected...

you don enter am, endure.. and if you wan enjoy more, go marry another wife... you have the freedom to do that...

1) a woman can never love you unconditionally

2) see everything she does for you as a debt

3) she will always put her child before you.. given the choice to save your life or child, she will always choose the child..

4) women are not loyal to you but your power

5) your past sacrifices means nothing when she's about to move on

6) women will only help if they have something to gain from you, in most cases, greater than what you did for them... women mostly don't invest irrationally...

7) Do not expect loyalty from a woman who's not loyal to her body..

lol, the funny thing is, if a girl is really innocent, she won't be the one to say she's innocent.. if you're a man with game, you would know quite easily if a girl is truly innocent or pretending to be...

and by the way, if you're talking about innocence, it can mean two things.. one is, she knows all about sex and all of that due to internet and the media but she doesn't engage in it, this is still quite good... second one is full innocence where she's naive when it comes to that aspect... this is also very good but needs someone good to guide her to avoid falling prey to badd guys or else, no turning back when she finally gets to know about it..

Both sexes have nothing to gain and much to lose... for men, it makes them lose focus.. their chances of being derailed increases, while exposing them to various risks, loss of life and wealth... for women, it makes them unable to pairbond, destroy their mental psyche, high chances of depression and various addictions... this is why a man who fornicates would most likely engage in fraud, betting, drinking or gambling... for women, they engage in self-destructive acts like hookups, show of nudity and continue in this line until they are totally destroyed...

Fornication is not something you should be proud of... People engage in it, but the foolish ones are those who think they are actually doing worthy by engaging in the act... some even see it as some kind of achievement... Chastity and abstinence is still the way.. stay away from fornication..

oracle009:
Chat gpt

I doubt... You should be able to recognise AI developed texts from the way the grammar is structured.. it's actually very good but not professional... well, the goal is to sell the products, as long as it sells, who gives a fvck about the English or the way it was said...? nice one.

The whole wedding thing is unnecessary in the first place... the most important things are the acceptance, introduction and dowry which is a unique gift for the virgin bride... all other things are totally unnecessary and waste of time and resources...

the wedding even sets evil eye into the marriage, because when you try to impress those who don't like you, you're only inviting trouble to your home... not everyone invited to the wedding will be genuinely happy for you..

olosho brother and olosho sister, quite a good family... hope you're sure you're the true son of your father?

so what's the picture attached for? are you selling market or na the thing wey you wan give in-laws be that?

that aside, this is why we keep telling men, women eat weak and nice men for breakfast... you dey sponsor her life while she dey enjoy the ride... you think they care about you? women have no atom of respect for nice men... they only care about serious relationship when they are damaged, broken and useless... for now, they still think life revolves around them...

assuming you're a man with game, you would have understood that you don't tell a woman your real intentions until you've got to know her first, since you've already told her you're looking for a serious relationship, why won't she form to you even though she was a grade A olosho...? women will devour you if you give them the chance... they will eat you whole!

learn game, be the player not the one getting played... life is cruel..

turmacs:
don't be stupid, the OP clearly mentioned "app" and not "website"...One would think you'd be smart since you play chess, SMH.

I guess you're the dumb one... you don't even know the app in the first place... the jokes are on you.. it's even quite funny as you were the one to first throw insult at what you don't know... oh no, how people can be so foolish... well, I think I recognize this moniker, you create foolish threads and make senseless comments alot, so I guess foolishness is already part of your psyche... smh

Prettyballer:


I am but It now complicated jaare. Life happens

lmao, one thing about fake monikers is their inconsistencies.. they always fail to keep up with their lies... lmao, you once said you're married and now you're thinking of helping someone out "just once" ??... my guy shey you nor go try another format abi you nor see say things don hard for this country?...

abi shey na joblessness for the country dey make people create phulish threads up and down...??

if she says she's breaking up with me, if I want to increase her blood pressure, I would even ask her that "what took her so long to make that decision" lol, any replies she gives after that would not be replied to from that moment onwards... women are fickle... always stay 10 steps ahead of them or else, they will destroy you... and always remember, before she initiates any breakup, there's already a guy at the corner... she's probably cheating before she even says so...

and after breakup, don't try to initiate contact and don't try to make anyone jealous, just focus on your own thing and act as if you're just passing through a normal day... no emotions, no drama... some men after their girl breaks up with them or ask for space, they try to make their ex jealous by posting about relationship stuff or other things just to spice them up, I see this as childish... if you're a man with game and options, you wouldn't even notice if someone leaves your life or not... practice emotional detachment, do not invest in relationships that add no tangible benefit to your life... as a man, guard your heart ruthlessly, because if you give an unworthy woman access to your core, your life will never remain the same...

once a young man can afford 3 square meals, the next thing he thinks of is marriage... smh, he now feels he's capable, not knowing he's venturing into a path of no return... these two that have barely passed teenage years thinks they are in love with each other, not knowing they are setting up themselves for disaster ahead.. this one wey just wan write jamb sef don dey do rubbish.. should you keep the kid? how many do we know that you've aborted or she has aborted... smh

this generation is doomed...

23jerryking:
Lol. They have made me lost a lot in life with that line o . Obedience is not better again o. Make sacrifices and enjoy the dividends

ahhh

na you con understand that one oo

genius43:


Obedience to what instruction? Did you create a rule to mobile usage we have to obey?

alaye dey your lane... Cho Cho Cho Cho... I know you'll reply, because I just referred to one of your family members which is Xiaomi... typical Xiomi slave

23jerryking:
I agree with almost all you said o. But they push updates to us so as to kill the phone? Really? Updates are meant to improve the phone bro!!! For instance, I'm using redmi 10C, Android 13 and MIUI 14. The best performance has come within the period that I've started using this update, the phone came with Android 11, but I'm on 13 now and according to Xiaomi, this is the final OS update. Except security patches once in a while, so I fail to agree with that your last paragraph about top phone makers using updates as a tac to get to us.

lol you don't need to agree but it's the truth... do you expect them to openly say this to you? lol

and I said some updates and not all updates... it's better to be on the safe side as obedience is better than sacrifice..

ExtraUniqueGuy:

I know there are several others who update theirs regularly with no issues. But, why risk it? ... I've learnt a good lesson, if it ain't spoilt, don't fix it. However, still do you .

you see this your last paragraph, na the main thing be that... why would I want to fix what's not broken?... so many apps and softwares were broken due to updates... even the security they said it will cater for even opened it up for more security breach due to the bugs introduced by updates... if you aren't facing any major issues with the phone, why the need to update...?

in case you don't know, some updates are pushed to phone to even slow down the phone or kill it slowly so that you can abandon it and go for a newer one... it's a tactic top phone brands have been using for years and I don't get to see why Xiomi should be an exception... it's just what it is..

ExtraUniqueGuy:


Sadly, your phone is is already on self-destruct mode. Watch out for next occurrences: cameras not working, sound not working and ultimately, phone dies never to wake up again.

My advice, don't ever update your phone again.
If you ever get a Redmi device, don't ever update it. (You can never tell whether or not it'll happen to your device... But, no report of such cases on phones never updated.

Trust me, I've been there.

if I was the one that said this, all hell would have let loose on this thread... some people are brand slaves and they will always defend anything even if it's obvious...

the syndrome of "because it doesn't happen to me, that means they are lying", smh.. some people will surely learn the hard way... the problem with Xiomi is still their software, I don't know who their software engineers are, they really need to work on that else that will be their shortcoming... because of my redmi, some of my other friends have also gotten a phone from this brand but to be on the safer side, I always tell them not to update it and they've been enjoying their mobile without any issues.... Xiomi software is poor, really poor and that affects their hardware... if you wan kill yourself over this, na you know... no brand is infallible...pick your poison... even transsion wey una dey insult sef don dey improve... if to say na transsion get some phones like Poco M3 or redmi 9t, omoo dem go hear wehhn..

do not be a brand slave... if you feel a brand doesn't offer you value for your money anymore or their issues is getting too much, try other brands... dem nor use chain hold you for leg... because las las, na you get your money, and if anything happen, na you go still suffer am..