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If you know this, he's very easy to track down and he will forever regret his actions. Just visit your bank u used to transfer money to him with the evidence of payment and business deal to file a report on him. Also send another report to EFCC with details.
While your bank will flag his VBN for scam, he will be the meat for EFCC.

What if he has withdrawn the money?

I do not have evidence of the deal as it was just a WhatsApp group in which he removed everyone. All I have is transaction evidence. The other group members have these also

Please I recently joined a WhatsApp group where the Admin trades for you and the guy made away with our money, about 1 million.


Please how do we nail this guy?


We have his name and bank details

chrisking125:



You know his or her name?

Yes and bank account details

Hmm. Can EFCC take up the issue or even the police?

Hello guys, I recently joined a WhatsApp group where the admin helps us trade.


He got away with our money, up to 1 million.

How do I get this man??

@Renderhelp,

My husband lost his job 3 years ago and he has been unemployed since then. He refused to take on any menial job or work for little salary because he is a graduate.


I have been the one footing all our bills and paying the children's school fees. Things have been really hard.


Sometimes I don't have enough money to buy meat to cook with, anytime this happens my husband will reject the food and claim it is an insult to serve the head of the house food without meat.

I used to buy 200 naira worth of beef before to serve him but now the least amount of beef is 500 naira which I can't afford.

He has stopped eating my food for a week now, I'm afraid he will starve and fall sick. How else can I beg him to eat?

@Renderhelp,

Since I started being intimate with my boyfriend he loves to pee on my body after or before sex, one time he even asked if I could drink his urine but I refused.

I love him very much but I find this thing disgusting and humiliating. He said he would end the relationship if I refuse him.

I don't want him to leave me, how can I enjoy his urine?

We shouldn't blame our government for everything.

Use your common sense, stop giving birth to children you can't afford to take care of.


Use contraceptives!!!

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Help @Renderhelp,

I am a single mother with 2 kids. I divorced my husband few years ago.

I stay in Egbeda axis of Lagos and getting an apartment here as an unmarried woman is very difficult.

Since I moved into this apartment I have not had peace, I feel more like a slave than a tenant.

My Landlord makes my kids and I go to his church, we are not allowed to miss any church service or go to another church. He once removed my former church sticker from my door.

We are not allowed to wear trousers, sleeveless, jeweleries or hair extensions in his compound. If we break his rules he would call us witches and threaten to evict us.

We have to sweep the compound and clean his cars every morning.

We share a meter with the Landlord so we have to split the bills. This man always tell me the amount to pay without showing me the bill teller, I usually pay 8k and above monthly!

He doesn't let us in or out of his compound after 9pm. He has made us sleep out twice because of this.

We are the only tenants in his compound. I paid 2 years rent in advance and I have only spent 3 months in this compound. I might turn into a mad woman if I keep on staying here. How can I get back my rent and move?

@Renderhelp,

Why are most ladies these days so dirty?? All they care about is a heavy makeup on their face, fake hair and expensive phones!

I met this girl at the airport and she was looking so beautiful and reserved, the high class type...my kinda girl. She told me she was visiting calabar for sight seeing. I was going to visit my mum but I immediately switched plans, I told her I wanted to spend the weekend with her which she happily agreed to.

Fast forward to when I wanted to go down on her, that was the BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE!

I was cold to her all through the night till the next day. I deleted her number afterwards.

I don't need an advice @Renderhelp. I just need you to spread the message to ladies out there; Cleanliness is the new sexy!

I just found out my daughter has been flirting for free suya and she is just 13!

How I got to know was that she came back crying to tell me the suya man asked her to pay him the 5000 naira worth of suya he has been giving her for free because she refused to date him.

I never knew this was going on because I usually give her 200 naira to school everyday which I thought she buys the suya with.

She confessed she has been telling him she likes him so he would give she and her friends free meat.

He is threatening to beat her up. I would have gone to confront him personally but he is from the North, I don't want to get stabbed. Should I go to the police? I don't think so , he has many Northern brothers in the area and my family might get attacked.

I don't want to pay him the 5000 naira because he is a pedophile.

What should I do to save my baby?

Their love seems real...unlike most contract celebrity marriage

@Renderhelp,

I used to be a frequent customer of a popular brothel in my area where I met my wife.

She was a sex worker there and I became her favorite customer. She started giving me huge discounts, sometimes when I was very broke she would tell me to pay later. Sometimes she lends me money which I never had intentions to pay her back.

I had to deceive her that I loved her to enjoy more benefits, I did this because I was very poor. I'm a graduate but I had no job then.

She later got pregnant for me. I told her I wasn't the father of her child and even if I was I had no money to start a family. She begged me and told me she was going to buy me an okada with the money she had saved. The only reason I decided to take her in as my wife was because of the okada she bought.

After 3 years of living together I have come to love my wife and daughter but I am suspecting she is seeing other men.

Sometimes before I go out in the morning to ride my okada, I usually drop 500 naira for her to cook with. When I get back home in the evening she will serve me a rich meal with lots of meat. I usually want to ask her where she gets the money from but the food is too tempting to say no to.

She also helps to pay the house rent when I can't and she provides our daughter's school fees. She sells cups of rice on a small scale in front of our compound so I pretend that is where she gets her income from.

I am afraid that one day she will give me AIDS or any other disease with her lifestyle. I am also jealous that she is seeing other men. I'm afraid that if I argue with her she will stop giving me money.

My close friend advised me to borrow the money she is saving to open a provision store and also sell my bike and run away to another state for a year to punish her.

I don't have peace of mind, what should I do??

@Renderhelp,

Yes I said it, MY HUSBAND IS WORSE THAN A PIG! I will say it a thousand times because I am fed up.

I don't know if getting married gave him the license to become so dirty and filthy. We don't have any kids yet but I feel like I'm cleaning up after 5 children. I usually serve his food on the dining table but this man would take the food to our bedroom, lay on the bed and watch TV while eating. When he's done, soup stains will be all over the bed sheet, oil on the TV remote and cracked pieces of bones on the bedroom floor. He doesn't even bother Calling me to take away the dirty plates, he will just shove them under the bed and sleep off.

His use of toilet is another wahala, he pisses on the floor most times and he always forgets to flush. He has this dirty habit of wiping his arse with tissue and dumping it in the bin, he has this weird belief that toilet papers clogs the toilet!!! I have to take out the trash more than 3 times a day because of this. I also see shiet stains whenever I wash his boxers.

He also has this bad habit of stealing meat from the pot. For example if I cook soup with 20 pieces of meat in the morning, by evening only 2 pieces will remain. This gets me very angry because we always fight anytime I ask for money to cook.

He dumps his clothes everywhere in the house, he dumps pieces of paper, pure water nylon everywhere!!! I always pick them up 24/7.

He is also very careless. My younger sis once told me my husband is "jagajaga". He doesn't dress well and care about his looks anymore which was one of the qualities that attracted me to him in the first place.

I have complained to him severally but he gets worse by the day. I told his mother and she said men are like children and its my responsibility to take care and clean up after him.

I can't take it any more and I want a divorce. Should I divorce him? We don't have kids

This behavior is often synonymous with people with borderline personality disorder.

People with BPD tend to make friends so quickly and easily and once their new friends hurt them, they dump them like a piece of hot rock.

They tend to love easily an commit to relationships with their whole heart and they feel you should do the same for them because of this they are very sensitive, being in a relationship with them is like walking on eggshells, any mistake you make they sense it as betrayal and cut you off immediately.

They have a sense low self esteem and feel worthless most of the time. They always need constant loving, that is why they make friends so easily, They do not have a 'personality' because they try to mirror each new friend they make, for instance I want to be Mr A's friend and his best colour is red, I then tell him my best colour is red also just so we have something in common, the next day, I tell Mr B my favorite colour is Pink because that is what he likes and I begin to wear pink shirts everyday just to please him.

You will be surprised that after all this efforts to gain trust and love from people the BPD patient can change their mind about the new "friend" that same week and never speak to the person again for what seems to be a flimsy excuse. They also see a person as all bad or all good...never in between.It is not their fault as they are very emotional and feel pain and sadness more than we do.
They also tend to be clingy in nature.

I can't list all the symptoms here.

Don't get me wrong, this is not a diagnosis. Your brother MAY or MAY NOT have BPD! But he MAY amongst other things.

The earlier he seeks help the better. Keep on loving him unconditionally. Cheers!

@Renderhelp,

My Mother is 66 years Old and has chosen to marry a 23 year old guy.

I won't mention this Guy's tribe because of the tribalistic bigots here but he is from the Eastern region of Nigeria (these people are known to be lovers of money and crafty in nature)

This boy was her tenant, he occupied the boys quarters. She stays in the main house alone with her maid and we thought it wise to bring in a young male tenant to help clear the compound once a while and be a handyman like fixing light bulbs and the rest.

My brother called me last month to tell me that the boy has moved into the main house with my mother! When I called my mum she told me not to stress myself about it as they were already in love and planning to do a small court wedding.

We tried to advise her against it but to no avail. We even met the boy to threaten him but he seemed confident about the whole issue and told us he is giving her love. He also accused us of abandoning our mum as we don't visit her often. I slapped him and he said he was going to sign an undertaking at the police station and if anything happens to him we will be arrested.

I believe that this boy is after my mother's wealth and properties and he might even kill her after marriage. My mother is confined to a wheel chair so I wonder whatelse he sees except her money.

How do we put an end to this madness?

@Renderhelp

My Wife has this bad habit of tying wrapper without underwear in and around the house. I have warned her against it severally but she won't listen.

Early this year, she got into a fight with our neighbor over water. She was tying only wrapper and it came loose exposing her full nudity to everyone in the compound! She didn't even care and continued fighting while some silly boys took pictures. I was the one who separated the fight.


Yesterday she went to the Akara seller close to our house to buy some. The Akara woman mistakenly burnt a batch and the customers refused to buy them so she asked them to take them for free and they rushed to get it. My wife was struggling to get the free Akara and her wrapper came loose again!! She didn't even wear panties or bra under. Stark unclad!!!

She hadn't even entered the house when I heard he news. I was so ashamed. I have sent her back to her Father's house to learn how to dress decently.

Am I being too harsh?

@Renderhelp

I am an Aussie married to a Nigerian man. He was a poor immigrant when we met. After we got married, he helped manage my Ranch. I must say, he's a hardworking bloke and a little Aussie battler.

I always wanted kids but he was never interested. He said the world was too wicked for innocent kids and I agreed.

He always sends a huge part of our income to his family in Nigeria especially his late brother's wife. I asked him why he does that and he said its part of the Nigerian culture.

One day, I was going through our bank statement and I thought to look up his brother's wife's profile on Facebook. I was shocked to see she had a few month old baby as her husband died years ago. I kept scrolling and I saw the wedding photos of she and my husband.

When I asked my husband, he apologises and explained to me about the culture of men inheriting their late brother's wife. I told him he was murking around, but I looked it up online and it was true!

I asked if he was the father of the baby and he agreed. He thought the woman was on pills. He said he had to perform his 'duty' to her if not she will report to the village chief and they will have him flogged at the square.

He suggested we bring the baby to Australia to stay with us. We are trying to process that and I'm thrilled about it.

I reckon this culture is bizarre and Nigerians are living in the dark ages. I am a true blue and I haven't seen or heard anything so ridiculous. I hope your parts become civilized soon enough.

TA!

Hi @Renderhelp...

I am so confused and tired. I don't understand what is wrong with my 8 year old daughter.

Everyone calls her an ogbanje and I'm starting to think its true.. She is a tricky person and acts older than her age.

One day, I sent her to buy me 2 crates of eggs from a nearby store. I gave her 2000 naira. She spent hours and I became worried, so I went to look for her. I saw her on the way and her eyes were red, she had been crying bitterly. She told me the eggs fell into the gutter and she couldn't jump in to get it as the gutters were flooded. I told her not to worry and we went home.

That same day, my neighbor came to ask me why I sent my daughter to eat at a fast food restaurant alone and I didn't send my other kids. I was surprised and told her I didn't. She said she saw my daughter eating rice, chicken and icecream .. That was how I found out she had lied about the eggs. I flogged her thoroughly that day.

That night, I had my bath and applied lotion on my body. Few minutes later, my body became hot. Both my eyes and private parts were on fire. I ran into the bathroom to pour cold water on my body. I was like a mad woman that night.

The next day, I checked my cream and saw it was red with particles of pepper in it. I became afraid of my daughter that day!!!

She also steals a lot. We can't hide money in the house anymore. Our neighbors have warned their kids to stay away from my daughter.
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Recently, she quarreled with a little boy and slapped him. She later went back to apologise to him and asked him to hug her. The boy hugged her not knowing she had a razor blade in her hand which she used to tear his back. We took the boy to a clinic and paid for his treatment. We also had to apologise to his parents.

My mother suggested we should take her to see a prophet but I don't trust those men.

My daughter is just 8 years old and she is so evil...how about when she becomes a teenager??!!

We have beaten, punished and advised her but she's getting worse by the day.

Please help my daughter!