I can never forget this set of ladies. I have dated several ladies but my experiences with these ones will stick to my memory till I die.
They are:




1. RECHARGE CARD: I use to tag her as my recharge card because she always like to send me recharge card. To be candid, it was through "mtn share & sell.' Whenever I'm in need of airtime, she will be the next thing on my mind...




2. THE COOK: chai, i can never forget .........(name withheld) she knows how to cook more than her mother (not my mother). She is a Delta girl, she taught me how to eat starch-soup. Each time i got hungry she was the next thing that came to my mind..





3. WEDDING PLANNER: Oh my God, whenever we're together, what she likes discussing about is our wedding, how to print our invitation card, the kind of wedding she's going to wear, our matrimonial car, bed blah blah blah etc. I will just be hearing her (not listening). I will just smile but for my mind "don't you know the economy situation?"




4. Miss FASHION: I cant forget you oo, hmmmmm, she likes fashion, she knows how to combine colours. In the area, every guy talks about how she dresses. I thank God for her, she used to buy me shoes, clothes. Infact, she also helped to increase my swaggs. But the problem I have with her is that she is not intelligent, does'nt know how to sum up 2+2. Imagine when i ever asked her the capital of Nigeria, she replied me confidently and said IKEJA..




5. BED-MATICIAN: Chai, hmmmm, she top the list. I used to tag her as my comforter: she sabi the thing: she's the only one that use to remind me of my KONJI, her backstence is good and her breast-tense is better.



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1. The little opportunity given to a monkey to wear cloths, does not guarantee it to join the
dinning table.




2. Girls are like mangoes, while you are waiting for them to be ripe, others are eating them with
salt.




3. Whoever presents his own head to break coconut would not be able to partake in the
eating of it.




4. A man who hangs around a beautiful girl without saying a word ends up fetching water for
guests at her wedding.




5. A man who counts his money after withdrawing from the ATM has trust issues.




6. If something that was going to chop off your head only knocked off your cap, you should be
grateful.




7. When a girl has beauty without Brains, the Private parts suffer the most.




8. Having a Female as a Best friend is like having Chicken for a pet, You will eat it some day.




9. The wolf on the hill is not as hungry as the wolf climbing the hill.




10. Never let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent & kick them out.
11. Life goes on, Even if you don't want it to.




12. Drinking garri doesn't mean you're poor but allowing it to swell before drinking is poverty.




13. The buttocks are like a married couple though there is constant friction between them, they will still love and live together.




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Can you imagine? LMAO!

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I can't just imagine what I would do if i were in her shoes..

To leak or not to leak?


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Do you agree with Victoria?

Do you know the answer?

Ladies!! Sincere Answers Only!

Thinking about this topic, i have been wondering who the focus should be,- the guys or the girls or the parents or all of the above. If you have noticed in almost every university in Nigeria you would find a lot of 'undergraduate couples'; i.e, male and female students living as husbands and wives. You find a lot of this misguided people in virtually all schools, it is so bad that they are duly recognised and acknowledged as couples by fellow students, lodge mates,neighbours and even leaders of various students unions. Little wonder there are awards like 'best couple of the year', 'most stylish couple of the year' e.t.c, shamelessly and thoughtlessly received by students. Like i pointed out earlier i really don't know who to focus on this topic but let me keep typing.....




The rate at which girls live with their boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is painfully alarming. Most times, these young girls are very beautiful, smart with a bright and promising future.They cohabit with this boys who are their fellow students 'small boys' as roommates, surprisingly and often times very funny the silly girl would always introduce the small boy as her fiance and then one begins to wonder if they have an idea the meaning and weight of the word fiancé??.




Our society is really sick courtesy of those that live in it. these girls collect either hostel fees or house rent from unsuspecting parents and most times struggling parents and end up in the house of a boy. Hold up girls ,lets reason together, because most times you girls are at the loosing end; You struggled possibly for several years to gain admission, then you suddenly became a prayer warrior posting and shouting 'Amen' at the slightest provocation, you fasted and sowed seeds in different churches, you had only one prayer point filled with promises of your loyalty and devotion to God, 'if only HE would answer your prayer' and now that HE has done HIS part and you have gained that admission don't you think HE is expecting you to fulfill your part too??
Many of you just got your admission, mostly diploma students and once you just settle down especially from your second year, crazy thoughts would start creeping into your head, by then the heat of the rush would have been over, and if God didnt capture you possibly through any of the campus fellowships, the boys would have caught you. In most schools there is an unregistered, even unrecognized by the school authority but well offered course for the boys of course and for most boys its a course that should not be carried over. they start with the normal toasting and soon they would persuade you to move in with them, and trust boys they could give you a thousand and one 'logical' reasons to make you give in. Wait..hold up again, before you agree to move in to move in and live with a boy in campus, ask your self these questions;




Why are you in school in the first place??, would the boy marry you in case you get pregnant??, are you ready to go through series of abortions like many girls before you??, what advice will you give to your children in future??, and most importantly, after school what next??, will the relationship lead you anywhere??. oh boy!! this post is finally addressing the female folks, i didnt plan it this way but then they are the worst hit by the consequences of illicit sexual relationships, they are the once that turn out sore losers and in the end this misguided females are the first to cry out there is no good man out there when they are the once who gave in to misguided teen lost, underage and illicit sexual relationships.




Let me remind you that part of the reasons you are in school is NOT to get the husband and wife experience; to see what it feels like for the boy to provide money for food and for the girl to go the market for food stuffs and cook.that's a total misplacement of purpose, a guy when asked said he was learning how to be a romantic and caring husband, shame!!!,and then you would hear the girl say they are not doing anything o, and they are just roommates yet she commits countless abortions before graduation.



If it true that gaining admission into the university gives you unlimited freedom, your parents are not there, no blood relation or even distant relation around to guide and monitor you, but what about giving your womanhood some respect??.



Sent in By Chukwuemerie Emmanuel Okoye{concerned citizen}.



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1. If Your Girlfriend comes to your House and Joins you in Drinking Garri, Please Marry Her. .
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2. If you take her Out To a Restaurant and She Orders Cheap Food and Pure Water instead of Expensive meals, She is Understanding, Marry her.
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3. If She sees Someone with Bugatti but decides to follow You with no Car, My Brother Take Her Home As Soon As Possible. .
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4. If She Comes to your House Cooks For You and Washes Your Clothes Including Your Boxer, Man What Are You Waiting For??
.


5. You gave her 50K for Shopping but She went for a Simple Dress and Brought Back 40k to you, Man Marry Her Because she read Economics. .
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6. If She Calls you Everyday and asks if you Need Help, Brother Claim her Hand in Marrage !! .
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7. If She used to give You her Pocket Money Every Week, She loves you. Please Marry Her. .
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8. If both of you enter A Bus and She Pays, Man That is a good sign.. Go For Her!! .
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9. Whenever She is Eating with you and She's Eating only the Bone while you eat Meat, She Respects You Just Marry Her. .
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10. When you Ask her What She Wants and She says Nothing, Brother she Deserves Everything. Give Her All You Have. .
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QUESTION !! !! .
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GUYS WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS??

Photo!! This is How You Can Tell if a Woman is Sleeping with Too Many Men..

Are you one of those who stop believing in real love?
Do you think you don’t deserve to be loved? Remove these negative thoughts and beliefs from your life and follow these tiny tips to finally find your love in 2016. Faith works wonders. It moves mountains and helps people achieve their goals. When you allow love to have a special place in your heart, finding your soul mate becomes easier than ever.



1. Make love your priority Last year:
I was sad and lonely. I believed I didn’t need anyone in my life. I believed I would be better off alone. The word ‘love’ was removed from my vocabulary and I avoided the couples at all costs. Instead of being open and kind to men, I literally hated them. I was rude and selfish. My grandma once told me that I would never find my true love if I didn’t make it a priority. If your priority is your job, or friends, or hobby, chances are you won’t find your soul mate this year. Open your heart. Let yourself be happy. Let others love you. Start looking for opportunities to meet new guys. Tell yourself that you’re not worse than others. You can love and be loved.



2. Acknowledge what a true relationship is:
Relationships aren’t about flowers, sweets, restaurants, dates, kisses and sex only. Building a long-term relationship requires some time, effort and commitment. Genuine love is a mess of all kinds of emotions. Both partners learn how to cope with those emotions together. If one of you isn’t involved, your relationship has no future. Prepare yourself for this commitment and tell yourself that you are really ready (physically and mentally) to start a new relationship.



3. Discover the world:
Spending most of the time at home watching your favourite shows and dreaming about big, real love will land you nowhere. Leave your comfort zone today to find your soul mate tomorrow. Travel, visit museums, go to the cinema by yourself, volunteer or try out new hobbies. Spend more time among people, not gadgets. The world is full of wonderful people. Don’t hide from them. Start a conversation with strangers, make new friends and let others know that you are single.



4. Fall in love with yourself:
We used to believe selfish people love themselves. In reality, every one of us should master the art of self-love. Jennifer Lopez’s words hit home: “You’ve got to love yourself first. You’ve got to be okay on your own before you can be okay with somebody else.” Women who don’t love themselves usually end up staying in unhealthy relationships. Your potential partner should see and know that you won’t allow him to treat you badly.



5. Get over your fear of rejection:
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. The fear of rejection may prevent you from finding your love. Getting rejected by a man isn’t the end of your life. Keep trying to start a new relationship and one day you will definitely succeed. If you haven’t been in relationships for many years, begin with dating apps. There are many online dating apps out there that are free and easy to use.



6. Don’t hope for the first date:
When going out on your first date, don’t make big plans like getting married and having kids. He might not be the one you’re looking for. Don’t give up and keep trying until you realize he is your soul mate. When I went out on my very first date, I hoped it would be successful and I would finally be happy. However, that date was a huge disappointment and disaster. I was so sad that spent another month feeling depressed and lost. Modern people set wrong life goals. They strive to reach success, get a promotion, make more money or travel around the globe, forgetting about love. Include this feeling in your life and make it a priority this year if you’re sick and tired of being single. You deserve to be happy. 2016 is going to be a year of love, which means you have all chances to finally find your soul mate. The tips mentioned above may point you in the right direction.


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Recently found this interesting piece online which was written by tunnamania11. It is about the categories of virginity amongst women. Yeah, you heard that right. Read the funny piece below......



1. Primary Virgin This consists of girls that do not allow any form of intimacy. Their lips has never been kissed, their breasts has never been smooched and their body has never been caressed. We all know what they are called *wink*



2. Secondary Virgin This consists of girls that allow kissing, smooching and caressing. They do all these with their full clothes ON because they are so fearful that they could yield to sex when aroused but mostly shyness of allowing a guy see their body could be the reason.



3. Tertiary Virgin This consists of girls that allow kissing, smooching, caressing , cuddling unclad, finger and also giving and receiving BJ. They are also called professional virgins, their only fear is that they are not yet ready to be a mother. So guys, there you have the three types of virgins. So when she tells you she is a virgin, ask her where she belong before you start giving preferential treatments of a primary virgin to a tertiary virgin…

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It’s better to know in advance. Dating can feel like you are walking through a minefield — you never know who is going to work and who is going to break your heart. Take a look at some of my experiences with men that I’ve dated and see if you can learn to watch for these mines (or signs) before it’s too late:



1. He asks for your number, but he never calls When I lived in the USA I met an Australian guy and he asked for my number. Even though I wasn’t really interested in men at the time, he really put up a chase for it, and it was flattering. After I gave it to him, he told me he would call, but after a while I realized that was never going to happen. Why did he say all those things and never follow through? He was just out of a divorce, and he was still getting over that. Keep in mind that sometimes guys ask for your number without ever having the intention of calling — it’s totally normal. But those (obviously) aren’t the type of guys that you want to spend your time with.



2. He just wants to play cat and mouse games Some men just LOVE the thrill of the chase. It’ll involve a ton of chemistry, but he’ll avoid getting too attached. I remember being obsessed with this guy in my home town, and he pursued me over and over again even though he knew that we really didn’t work. Why? Because he knew I liked him so much. He knew that he could have said anything to me and I probably would have agreed at the time. Guys like him like to play the field and they love the game — they aren’t looking for a committed relationship.



3. He acts like your boyfriend, but he never commits The most hurtful of them all, and probably the most frustrating, is the guy who acts like your boyfriend and never commits. In hindsight, thank goodness he didn’t! The reason why I stayed with a guy like this was because he treated me better than any other guy had before — we stayed in fancy hotels, had expensive dinners, extravagant holidays. I even thought I could overlook the lack of attraction on my part, but in the end I just kidded with myself. What’s he doing now? He’s still single and has commitment phobia. He used to call women ‘marriage missiles’.



4. He says he doesn’t believe in marriage When man tells you he doesn’t believe in marriage when you WANT to be married it’s a very important decision-point for you. There are only two reasons why he will say this; either he genuinely DOESN’T believe in marriage or he doesn’t want to marry you. Either way, you’re not going to get what you want. Instead of sticking around, cut your losses and go find what you do want. Yes it’s scary, but it’s worth it. What really makes you hurt is not the guy’s actions — they aren’t necessarily out to get you — but it hurts so much because you sacrificed a part of yourself and your ideals for him. It’s important that you don’t deny yourself and that you remain true to yourself. If you look at my life experiences the writing was on the wall with all the men I dated, the signs where obvious. So if you’re dating a man right now and it’s not feeling right or you feel like he’s going to hurt you in the long run, maybe try taking a look at how you both line up.



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Here are 6 tips on how not to toast a girl.


1.Baby, what is your name ?. Don't use names like "baby" or "sweetheart" if you just met her for the first time. Personally, this turns me off.


2. You look familiar, have we met before ?. This is a line you shouldn't use unless she really seems familiar to you. You might end up embarrassing yourself with the following: "I think I saw you last week in Schaerbeek". The lady in question lives in Leuven and doesn't even know where Schaerbeek is situated. So if you aren't sure whether she seems familiar to you or not, just introduce yourself.


3. Show your swag. "Swag" isn't about popping Rosé, Hennessy and Alomo...You only attract flies. "Swag" is the way you move, the way you talk, your composure.


4. Mind your language. Don't come out saying: "Baby, I just wanna fucking know who you fucking are". I would just dust my shoe and walk out. I'm not even bragging. To be honest there are no "real" tips on how to "toast" a female. It depends on who you are. You may be wondering why girls always front. It's not about what we get from fronting. It is the point some of us are trying to prove. And mind you, sometimes it is not fronting. It is called. "I just don't like you". The feeling is not necessarily mutual.


5. Don't brag. It may attract some type of girls though.


6.. She is hard to get ? Play along. The key thing is to always respect yourself no matter what. But that certainly does not mean you should act like a fool. And don't be pushy. NICE AND SLOW, that is what the ladies love.

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The white girl topic is like the elephant in the room right now. Everyone sees it, but no one wants to acknowledge it. Well I say why not acknowledge said elephant. So here’s 10 reasons black men prefer white girls (if you’re offended, f#ck you and your feelings).


10. White girls can get their hair wet. It’s summertime. Who wants to be at the pool with a girl who’ only concern is not getting her weave wet. White girls just jump in the pool without any care.



09. White girls don’t talk back. Put a little aggression in your voice and she will do whatever you say. That doesn’t fly with other races though. They wanna fight. Always.


08. It’ easier introducing them to your family/friends. “Everyone, this is Amber," is WAY easier on the ears than, “Everyone, this is Shaniqua. Just saying.


07. White girls have WAY less restrictions in the bedroom than other races. You can basically do whatever, wherever with them. And they’ll smile through it all.


06. White girls aren’t looking to be in a rap video. Meaning when y’all go out, she’s not looking for you to buy out the bar and light the club up with sparklers. She doesn’t care about any of that sh*t. She just wants her drinks and music.


05. White girls have no problem spoiling their men with gifts. The LOVE that shit! It’s an ego boost for them. (See Kim Kardashian’s birthday present to Kanye? OK then.)


04. White girls don’t give you as many headaches as other races. There’s no nagging, complaining, and other annoying ass behavior. No running through your phone and wanting to know who such and such is.


03. White girls cater to and love to take care of their men. Cooking? No problem. Cleaning? No problem. Anything else you want? No problem.


02. You ever receive head from a white girl? I rest my case. Which all really sums up my number 1 reason black guys prefer white women:


01. White girls are just more FUN. There’s no other way to put it. If you just want to have fun without any of the negative sh*t, get you a white girl.

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Here Are 11 signs you are a married side chick:


1: Every member of his family and his friends knows he has a girlfriend.. Your husband does not hide her from them.


2: Your husband takes his girlfriend to his family get together, business meetings, birthday parties, child's dedication of his friends, etc.


3:He calls you by your name, but calls his girlfriend "Boo","honeypie","sweetheart".


4: Your husband's girlfriend uses your children picture as display picture on Whatsapp, BBM, Facebook and captions them with"my cuties" "my adorables"..


5: He tells you he does not have money, but you always see tellers everywhere around the house which shows he spends on his girlfriend.


6: He rejects your food at any given opportunity..


7: He beats you, if you complain too much or you mistakenly call his girlfriend on phone..
8: Your husband has his girlfriend's numerous pictures on his phone.


9: He receives and call his girlfriend right in your presence without any regards for you.
10: Your husband gives his girlfriend the guts to call and insult you anytime she deems fit.



11: He gives you excuses of being tired anything you want s*x, but whenever you see his numerous chat with his girlfriend, they are always on about the great s*x they share, how he can't wait to have her again and mind blowing orgasms that comes with it.


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Lol, this is just hilarious. Guys read and meditate on this o! so you don’t fall victim. I didn’t write it though so don’t ask me how i know all these. Oya confess, ever met a girl like this ?!?


1). You picked her up from the Street or Club. Maybe she was even standing in front of an uncompleted building


2). You don’t know her real name or even her surname. Maybe she even told you her name is just Mary……That’s all.


3). She agrees to sleep with you on the first day in fact, she agrees to move into your place no questions asked.


4). She never gets tired, She can pound yam, fry garri, grind pepper, go market , cooks and still sleep’s with you when she’s done.


5). She always looks perfect, even first thing in the morning. No pimples ,her makeup looks permanent and everything is always in the right place.


6). She never talks about her family and doesn’t have any friend.


7) Ever since you met her, your life has turned upside down but of course, your grandma in the village is the cause, cool. All she cares about is Brazilian hair.


. She has stopped you from eating Fish. Ever since you met her, its either chicken or meat, nothing from the sea.


9). Finally, She’s the perfect Girl. she doesn’t ask you.
for anything. She doesn’t care about Valentines day and you don’t even know her birthday. She never gets jealous or goes through you phone..


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Ladies, not every guy is a member of the lucky sperm club. Not every poor guy today is worth investing in. Some are simply hopeless and will never hit it big.
Some are purely millionaires in the making. But to spare you from waking up one morning realizing you’ve invested your time, effort and youth for nothing, here’s the rule of thumb I’ve used to sift out good penny stocks.



*.1. He knows he is good at something... Knowing his worth is usually the first step towards wealth creation. Baby-sitting, baking, gardening or whatever so long as he recognises that the skills he honed are exchangeable for money.


*.2. He is self-disciplined...
He has the ability to concentrate on future financial goals without swaying from everyday tasks that will lead him there. No matter how boring or unpleasant.


*.3. He blames himself, not others...
He thinks it’s always his fault. Either partially or entirely. It might seem a little sadistic but it’s him actually knowing that he has control over his environment, decisions and ultimately his own future.


*.4. He lives below his means.... It doesn’t mean he’s a miser. He chooses to accumulate more wealth rather than to succumb to short-lived pleasures of buying a Rolex or a BMW. Someone in the relationship has to make this sacrifice at the beginning. If not him, who else?


*.5. He is a doer.....
He doesn’t blabber on and on about how he is going to do something great. He just does it. He doesn’t complain about doing stuff. He just does it.


*.6. He is extremely curious....
He takes time and effort to figure out the nuts and bolts of why things work or don’t work. Opportunity sometimes arises when he stumbles upon an unserved niche.


*.7. He is thick skinned...
He has the balls to execute his crazy plans. Whatever they may be. Failure doesn’t concern him. Or should I say he isn’t afraid of being laughed at if he didn’t succeed. He repeats 6 and tries again. Investing in men is largely based on intrinsic value. You’ll win some and you’ll lose some. But when you do win, make sure you win big. So good luck ladies. May the dating market be forever bullish..


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Actress Genevieve Nnaji says she will get married whenever her man finds her. Genevieve said this in a recent interview with Encomium magazine. When asked when she will be getting married, Genevieve said "When he finds me". Asked if he hasn't found her yet,
she said "Exactly".


Genevieve says she has been absent from the movie scene because she couldn't find any script that was worth her time..


"I didn't take a break. Yes you haven't seen me in any film but it is not my doing. I read at least three or four scripts a week for the past five years. That is to show you how bad it is. I am very careful when it comes to what I take part in.


There is so much or nothing you can do to convince me. I have to love a story so that I can bring it to life. It is not a one man band. The story needs to entice. The character needs to be appealing and then, you are one with it. With that, it becomes easy to be a good actor. If I don't get a good script, I am not going on set. I haven't seen anything worth my while in years, that is the truth. I don't know who did what we did in the 90s. If you can't beat your last job, what is the point? You might as well take a bow but I am not bowing out yet"
she said.

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If you see that your girlfriend exhibits any of the following warning signs, you have reason to be concerned.....



1. She puts her girlfriends ahead of you All women are entitled to a girl’s night out here and there with their girlfriends, but if spending time with their girlfriends has begun to take priority over you and she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs, she is definitely losing interest in you..
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2. She avoids public affection with you.. If your girlfriend has allowed you to kiss her or hold her hand in public in the past and suddenly begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you without an obvious reason, you have reason to worry about her interest level in the relationship.



3. She’s lost interest in sex (with you) If she has suddenly become bored by your performance in bed and you’re rarely hitting the sheets anymore, she may be wishing for someone else to rub her the right way.



4. She starts fights with you.. If she has all of a sudden noticeably lowered her tolerance level for your little mistakes, constantly picks fights and turns every little thing into an argument or a disagreement, chances are her interest level has lowered and she is probably unhappy about the way your relationship is going.



5. She shows interest in other guys.. If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and flirting with other men while you’re right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she’s shopping around for another man.



6. She’s put distance between you... A woman who is in a happy relationship always makes time for her partner. So if all of a sudden you don’t see your girlfriend for a week or more and when she does answer your calls, she is busy and is always in a rush to get off the phone with you, something is definitely wrong. Take this as hint that she wants time apart to explore what it feels like to be away from you.



7. She’s no longer affectionate toward you.. If she just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you’re always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, a breakup may be impending.



8. She begins saying “I” instead of “we”... If you feel like your girlfriend hardly talks, doesn’t contribute much to the conversations you have your and she starts to use “I” instead of “we” when talking about the future, this means that she does not see a future with you in it anymore.



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Interested in reconnecting with an old flame? Know the right (and totally WRONG) times to do so. I was shocked to spy my old boyfriend’s face on my Facebook newsfeed, in a group photo from a college friend’s recent party. After he’d dumped me, I hadn’t seen him in years. Ready to end the animosity between us, I private messaged him. He didn’t answer. I felt rejected … again. Then I realized, I was fine with the radio silence. Why? Because
I now had a great job, a sweeter guy, and was better off without him. Re-meeting exes can be fraught.
Just ask Rihanna and Selena how it feels at music awards to bump into Chris Brown and Justin Bieber. After re-meeting my five worst breakups of all time to find out what had gone wrong, and publishing a novel about a former boyfriend who snubbed me in public (pretending he didn’t know who I was), I’ve devised a code of rules on amorous reconnection. Whether it’s to say hello, express remorse, or resurrect your relationship, consider re-calling your lost love if:



1. You’re compelled to apologise. If you treated somebody horribly and later wish you hadn’t, it’s never too late to say you’re sorry. But a brief note via social media is much smarter than showing up at someone’s home or work unannounced in the Nirvana T-shirt you stole from him. Keep it short and sweet, the way AA amends usually go. Say what you did wrong and what you feel badly about. “I’m sorry I left without explaining to you what was really going on. I never meant to hurt you and I hope you’ll accept my belated apology.” Ask yourself if it’s the kind of mea culpa you’d appreciate getting, and if so, atone away.



2. You have big news. If you’re about to wed, divorce, give birth, your parents are splitting, someone close died, or you’re coming out or transitioning like Caitlyn Jenner, you may want to share a major milestone with your former confidante. Perhaps first visit a counselor, clergy, or therapist to explore your expectations. (Making someone jealous is not good motivation.) Then, if you’re compelled to give your ex an update, so they don’t find out on Facebook, do it low key.


Try a short, innocuous letter, email, text, IM, or leave the phone message, “When you have time, I’d love to talk,” and consider having coffee. When I told one former beau that I was getting engaged, he emailed, “Congrats. Can I be your second husband?” That made me smile and almost erased the bad juju from our breakup. But make sure not to spill your gut-wrenched confessional poetry in a long, heavy, emotional drunk text, or reach out at midnight on Valentine’s Day.



3. You can handle a brash brush-off. When I asked my high school boyfriend out for a drink to talk about what happened in our past, he emailed, “I’d rather take out my own appendix with a bottle of Jack and a dull spoon.” Luckily, I was in a good emotional space, and stole his line for a laugh in my book. But it did hurt my feelings. You may learn that your ex is now living blissfully with a woman who’s smarter and cooler than you are, is still angry, or wants nothing to do with you. So if you email him, expect nothing in return. Plan dinner and a double feature with your best friend and turn off your iPhone so you don’t check your messages incessantly.



4. You’re finishing old business. My friend Amy was always bothered that she’d never returned money from selling the engagement ring her ex-fiancé had given her. Though she assumed he was now blissfully wed and well off, she finally sent him a check with a note explaining the debt. She was surprised to learn his wife was ill and he was appreciative of the money. In my case, an ex-boyfriend recently asked to borrow $250. He’d been generous when I was a broke grad student, so I obliged, calling it a gift. He wrote me a lovely thank you. In a weird way, being able to aid him assuaged some of my guilt and helped us both.



5. You’ve never forgotten. Leaving the tearful phone message, “I’m still not over you!” is overkill. But if you’re single and can ascertain that your ex isn’t currently involved with someone, there are classy ways to reconnect without embarrassing yourself. My friend Michelle sent a nice holiday card to the fiancé she’d left in grad school, writing the line: “Truthfully, you’re the best guy I ever met and I still think about you.” He called her and they wound up married, long after their original broken engagement. On the other hand, NEVER revisit your romantic history when:


*.1. Someone close to you is tying the knot. Feeling lonely or frustratingly single while having to be a bridesmaid at a friend’s wedding isn’t a good reason to re-locate your last lover. This impulse is based on jealousy or competitiveness (externals), NOT an authentic longing for someone special and specific. It didn’t work for Julia Roberts or Kate Hudson in any Rom-Coms and it won’t work for you either.


*.2. You hear he moved on. There should be a law that the dumper has to wait until the dumpee finds a more perfect partner. Unfortunately, that rarely happens. So seeing photos on Instagram of your ex who said he wasn’t ready to commit to you — now giving a ring to your replacement — doesn’t justify you texting him “WTF,” sharing the hashtag #SlittingMyWrist, or SnapChatting your hottest half-unclad selfie kissing...

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To boost your bond at any stage in the game, follow these trust-amplifying tips:



Let him plan date night: Trust is learned and earned—you’ll grant it, over time, to those who act supportive, dependable, and trustworthy, says Luchies. To give your partner opportunities to strut his stuff, ask him to make decisions that affect you.



Start small: let him choose a restaurant. When he picks a place that suits your palate—not the burger joint he frequents with his friends—you’ll feel more comfortable relying on him for bigger decisions.




Show him your flaws: Not everyone can tally a dinner tab tip in her head, or wake up in the morning with her hair as well-coiffed as it was the night before. But when you let him see your true colors, you give him the opportunity to accept the real you—even it reflects your insecurities. Once you realize that he won’t berate you for your math skills, or reject you for your bed head, you’ll feel more comfortable revealing bigger things—like life goals and family issues—and trust that he’ll be totally supportive.
Confide in him: If you leave your office fuming, don’t keep it all in when you meet him for after-work drinks. “By and large, you get what you give,” says Joel Block, Ph.D., a certified couples therapist and author of more than 20 books on love and sex, including Broken Promises, Mended Hearts: Maintaining Trust In Love Relationships. “If you’re open and self-revealing, your partner is more likely to be more open with you.”



Don’t judge. Every time your partner tells you something personal—like the major mistake he made at work—it’s a critical moment that can either strengthen your intimacy or deteriorate it, says Block. If you criticise his behaviour or dismiss his feelings, he’ll think twice about confiding in you next time. To make him feel accepted and promote more self-disclosure, express empathy and suggest solutions. And if he judges you?

Say this: “I need to feel safe confiding in you and right now I feel attacked.” Keep your promises“Trust goes both ways,” says Luchies. Meaning? If you’re not dependable, you can’t expect your partner to be.



To show him you’re trustworthy, be accountable: If he asks you to watch his intramural basketball game, show up before the first buzzer to secure a bleacher seat where he can see you from the court. And if you say you’ll call him before bed, actually pick up the phone before you tuck in. Be yourself in front of othersIf you tell him you got a measly raise, and tell his parents about your absolutely A-M-A-Z-I-N-G promotion, he’ll wonder what else you’re capable of hiding.



Present yourself accurately no matter what crowd you’re in, and you’ll show him you’re a person who’s worthy of his trust. Tell him the truth“Even small lies are like psychological termites,” says Block. “They take unnoticeable bites over time and eventually weaken the foundation of your relationship.” So if your new statement bag cost more than what your guy earns in a month, be honest when he asks what you paid.



Arrive on time If you say you’ll be over at 7, but miss your train, call him to say you’ll be closer to 8:10. Being on time isn’t just considerate: it’s part of being able to count on someone, says Block. And if he knows he can count on you, then he’ll make more of an effort to show that he’s equally dependable.



Take his side…or at least be diplomatic. Sometimes it’s more important to be supportive than it is to be right. When you're brought into an argument between him and his buddy, stand up for your guy. And when he’s wrong? Say, “You both have good points, and I can see where you're both coming from.” Then, discuss it later in private.



Avoid unnecessary secrecy. Especially if your partner has been betrayed before—or worse: you’ve cheated on him—it’s important to be as open as possible. So tell him who you’re texting. And leave your phone unlocked. “Don’t think of it as supervision. It’s making a choice to help the other person heal,” says Block.


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Do you Love him, yet he doesn't care about u, he doesn't even act like you exist? Relax.. you're not the only one suffering from this kind of situation, and the truth is, it hurts, it depresses, and it makes one feel frustrated. This short write up will help you get over him quickly, and get a much better life.


1. Bear in mind that he is not one in a million, rather he is just one out of a million. Get rid of the idea that if only you can get this man to commit to you, life will suddenly be a bed of roses for you.. Always bear in mind that rejection will happen throughout your life, and you cannot avoid it.. Be strong. When someone rejects you, do not reject yourself. Life goes on.


2. Don't blame yourself. Focusing on the idea that if you change, you can win him over gives you a false sense of control. Many things in this life are completely out of our control, including how other people feel about us.


3. Don't take rejection personally. Know that it wasn't meant to be for a good reason. Rejection helps you learn what is right for you. Please do not harm yourself just because you've fallen out of 'love'. One-sided love is never love.


4. Ask yourself a some questions that can fuel your resolve to get rid of him: Below are some questions you could ask yourself:

*.Why should I waste my time on someone who doesn't care about me?

*.Why should I spend my time on someone who isn't willing to spend his time on me?

*.Why should I squander my emotions on someone who doesn't have emotions towards me?

*.Why should I waste my tears on someone who will never care?

*.Why should I be missing him, thinking about him, caring about him, and loving him when I gain nothing in return?5. Stop stalking him on Social Media. Stalking him through social media will only prolong your agony. But, don't block him on Social Media. He will be able to see how happy you are and that you are strong enough to get through the pain he caused you.


6. If you have decided to forget about him and move on, stand on it. Don't delay. Don't make excuses for you not to move on. Any slight delay, could change your mind, and if that happens, you'd be falling back to square one.


7. Avoid trying to make him feel bad. If you really feel that he owes you an apology, then ask for it. If he apologizes, accept it and move on. If he doesn't, let it go. He'll definitely apologize when he's ready. Trust me, they always realize their mistake in the long run.


8. Cut off all communication with him.


9. Do something that can distract your mind from him, even if it's just for a little while. Go for a jog, clean your room, cook or bake something, just do anything!


10. Pretend like you don't care. If you start to pretend that you don't care and that it doesn't bother you, eventually, you really won't care and it really won't bother you. Live your life, invest in yourself.


11. Don't be harsh towards him even after the rejection. Who knows, there may be another guy in the room who is interested in you. Don't blow that chance because of this guy again.


12. Find a guy who will make you smile, dry your tears, and who is always willing to spend his time. A guy who will shower you with love, concern, and affections, not this guy who has indirectly made you give him all and doesn't appreciate it. He doesn't deserve you at all!


13. Finally, If you've tried all of the above for months, maybe years, and you've tried everything else you can think of, and you're going on two or three years of still obsessing over a lost love, then you should talk with your doctor. Please let us know what you think and share your tips in the comment section below.


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Forgive me for how awful this might sound, but sometimes you fellas are a little lame when it comes to that whole gift giving thing. It seems like, more often than not, a lot of guys steer towards the flowers, candy, jewelry, coupon book, and stuffed animal route when it comes to getting a gift for a gal.
And, I don’t really blame you. I mean, after doing a little research for this article I see that’s the advice from a lot of articles out there. But gals don’t always want the overly cliché things. We also don’t always want something extravagant and romantic.


A good gift should show that you pay attention to who your gal truly is (and not like you just Googled “what to buy your lady for her birthday”). So, here are 10 things your girlfriend actually wants for her birthday.
Street fair/Market. Now, I know at first glance this kind of thing might not seem like it’s a birthday gift but trust me it is. The good thing about places like this is you can make a whole afternoon or day of it. You can splurge and buy her a few things she fancies while you’re wandering around. You can also usually get some kind of treats to eat and drink. And, if it’s a farmers market then you can surprise her by grabbing some ingredients to cook dinner or make something tasty later that night.
Tickets to a play, museum, etc. she’s always talked about Most plays, museums, and other cultural things are just pricey enough that sometimes you toss it aside when splurging on yourself, but inexpensive enough that it’s not too over the top as a birthday gift. So, if there is something she’s mentioned wanting to see definitely go grab the tickets and take her.


Something that helps her work on a hobby or interest I had just started dating my fiance around my birthday last year. He ended up getting me this really nice notebook as a gift. I swooned. A lot. It was one of the best gifts ever. I still have it and I still use it.


Dinner at a restaurant you know she’d never take herself to (but that you know she really wants to go to) This kind of works the same way as the whole play and museum thing. Maybe it’s something she saw on Food Network or just something she thinks would be really cool. Either way, it could be the perfect spot for a present (and celebration).


Some type of food she loves that’s really hard to get Has she travelled to Europe? Or did she once live in a different city? If so, there’s a good chance there might be something really tasty that she can rarely find. It could even be something as simple as Cincinnati Chili or a Chicago dog. Find out if you can get it or maybe there is a good recipe and you can make it.


Something to remember where she’s from (assuming she likes where she’s from) Maybe it’s the fact that I have lived in a city of transplants for so long, but a lot of people I know don’t live in the place where they grew up. Sites like Etsy have lots of pictures, jewellery, and other items from various places that will totally throwback to her childhood.


A funny t-shirt to remind her of an inside joke between the two of you My fiancé once bought me a Soul Glo shirt. (If you don’t know what that is Google it and go watch Coming to America immediately.) It wasn’t for any special occasion, but still applies here. It’s from a movie that we both quote religiously and it makes us laugh. It also gave me the warm fuzzies.


Some kind of experience that you wouldn’t normally do If you’re gal is a little adventurous then take a walk on the wild side. It could be fun for both of you actually. It doesn’t have to be something traditional like sky diving or bungee jumping though it can be.
You could also try something out of the box like taking a pig butchering class.


Hand crafted/unique jewelry OK, I can openly admit that jewelry is pretty awesome and most gals like jewelry. But that doesn’t mean you have to go with a heart shaped diamond pendant. You can also look for something that’s a little more unique and one-of-a-kind. Again, check out Etsy.


Something seasonal. Who says that you can only do birthday related things on your birthday? You can also do something that’s fun and seasonal. Is it fall? How about a pumpkin patch? If it’s winter you could go sledding. If it’s summer you could go catch a baseball game or watch some fireworks.


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I have been getting loads and loads of emails and messages from guys who want me to write on this topic. And you know what, I am going to reveal to you 3 tricks that you can use to approach any girl, talk to her, get her number and leave and she won’t know that you just toasted her. I know, sounds confusing right? Stay with me, you will get this.


Now, to what I was saying: One painful thing most guys pass through is seeing pretty gorgeous girls they would like to talk to but, due to fear of been insulted or embarrassed by the babe, what they do is to allow that fear make them not to make a move on her. Sometimes these girls are not just pretty but friendly also, yet – the very thought of walking up to her and starting a conversation makes your heart pound, with sweat pouring down your face.


Then after you have succeeded in convincing yourself not to approach her, you go home and imagine all the things you would have said – if only you had approached her It’s absolutely normal, I know how you feel – every guy feels that way from time to time. But you know what; using these secrets I am about to reveal right here you would be able to walk to any girl no matter how classy she is and get her number and she would be happy to give it to you, even if you two just met. With this secret you won’t be afraid of getting embarrassed by a girl again. Now, let’s begin… Forget whatever you’ve been told while growing up The step by step formula to use in approaching girls is this:

#1. Approach with an Ice breaker


#2. Make a Rapport


#3. Inject player’s conversational skills


#4. Take her number and leave.


Now; I will take number one first


#1. APPROACH WITH AN ICE-BREAKER: THE BASICS:
Most guys still approach girls with the same methods they used as teenagers. They walk up to a girl, tell her they like her and expect her to drop her number into his phone. Haba na, na jaz? Here is the hard truth, bro…so far she is more than 18, no girl will type her phone number into your phone just because you told her you like her. Not unless you are Michael Jackson or Jay Z. Here is why: One;


Girls hear “I like you all the time”. It doesn’t work anymore; it worked when she was in secondary school – but after two heartbreaks, her eyes have cleared my guy. Two; when you tell a girl that you like her, she will automatically begin to play hard to get – that is what she was trained to do from when she started getting her first toasters If you don’t use “ice breakers” when walking up to a girl she would either not take you seriously, or she would be rude to you or she would just plainly ignore you.


So what are ice breakers? They are just tricks or excuse you use just to talk to a girl and to lower her defences. Let me give you real life examples: when you walk up to a girl and say something like; “hi, I will be quick with this – I was having an argument with a friend and he said girls are more interested in money than love, you seem smart, I think you answer would make sense – what do you think, money or love – which works on you girl?” I know; it’s long abi? But guess what, it always works – every single time. 9 times out of ten, this simple question has always led to a girl blabbing about how love is more important or love is more important (it never fails for me).

After she has blabbed on a bit; here is the next trick – smile, say something like – “wow, that was so insightful, you be great analyser sha. My friend really needs to hear you speak – I would love to continue this conversation some other time, gat to run now” Then bring out your phone and add: “call your number, please” This is basic psychology – when you ask a girl for her phone number in this way she would have little resistance giving you her number. This is why: One; You have tricked her into believing you just want her number to further the conversation and If she says no, it would seem like she is taking the whole interaction too seriously. Two; she doesn’t have to play hard to get because you gave her the impression that you only need her opinion, and not her number so you can “chyke” her.


This is major trick of all these players who effortlessly get girl’s number – there is nothing special about them, they just know these things, that’s all. If you just walk up to a girl you just met, sing “love poems” for her and expect her to drop her number for you then you go beg tire o. Now; if she still refuses to give you her number after you have used this little trick what it means is that you didn’t use the following during your conversation with her. #2. Making a Rapport #3. Injecting player’s conversational skills


TIP #2: CREATING RAPPORT Some days ago, i had gone to a shopping mall with a friend and we where in line to buy fresh bread from the bakery inside the mall. Somewhere in the front was this very pretty gorgeous classy babe – she was extremely hot. At that point i felt like i had to know her, so i walked up to her, initiated a conversation, had her laughing like crazy and by the time i was done she gave me her number and asked me to call her up anytime. when i got back to my friend, his jaws were dropped in surprise and he asked me: “how did you that, na risk you take o – in front of all these people na him you go chyke that kind babe”? I laughed. That is what guys don’t get. The thing is this; i didn’t chyke that girl. I just talked to her. Let me explain;.....

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Having bad girl traits doesn’t mean you should be a bad girl yourself. It`s much better to master some of these traits than to be totally bad. Being a bad girl is all about constant troubles more than about having fun. Perhaps your boyfriend wants you to be not just a gentle girl and his beloved, but also his best friend who can do some crazy things and make his life more interesting. You should not only try to make him responsible, self-aware and purposeful, but also become interested in his entertainments and prove that you`re not worse than his fellows. Men love women with nice sense of humor and those who can sometimes become a bit “crazy”. Let’s say, if you try to be a bad girl once in a while, your man`ll probably love you even more. Here are 8 bad girl traits your boyfriend wants you to have…



1. Unexpectedness. Mostly men hate the daily routine that women usually offer them, as they don`t want to stuck in the point of no return. That’s the reason why they need an unexpected, adventurous woman, when they finally settle down. When things go this way, every day becomes different and interesting. With an adventurous girl he can do something unusual instead of watching daily news. Suggest him visit some interesting place you’ve never been to or take him on an unexpected road trip. All this will help jazz up your boring everyday life.


2. Self-assurance It`s not a secret that confident women are more popular among men than those who doesn’t know what they want and what they need it for. It`s a pure truth. Your boyfriend will surely help you to make difficult decisions, but you shouldn’t bother him every time you`re not sure about some trifle. Try to become more self-assured and then you`ll see how it’s important for your boyfriend to know that you can’t stand up for yourself.


3. Disobedience. Men’s obsession about intercourse isn’t a surprise. Men need someone to do naughty things in the bed and out, even in public places. They adore women who act according to all rules in the street but goes unexpectedly crazy when in private. Let your boyfriend enjoy that disobedient girl you can sometimes become.


4. Self-directedness To have a lovely husband close to you, you should be able to take care of yourself and stand up for yourself. You shouldn’t dump all your needs on him. Men don`t appreciate it. They are ready to help women with men’s work, but you should manage to do all you need yourself. Guys love those who`re not afraid to live alone, but have made a choice to live the entire life with them. It`s pleasant for him to be not only an “all do-cohabitant”, but a beloved husband.


5. Straightforwardness A woman often wants her guy to guess what she wants or even become a seer who’s able to see her mind. Try to avoid such a mistake. Your man wants to know exactly what you want and what he has to do with that. His happiness depends on your straightforwardness, so be blunt, if you want to have less communication problems. Sometimes straightforwardness may seem to be rude, but remember that he prefers it, so don`t worry to say directly what you think.


6. Dominance. Generally, men are dominant, but they are also happy to be under your control. You don`t have to rule your partner all the time, but once in a while it`ll be pleasant for him and you`ll see it at once. Be brave and seductive to surprise your boyfriend with your unexpected dominance.


7. Passion. I`m talking about passion that`s a needed adding to every kiss. Kisses look nice even without it, but everything becomes a kind of something artificial. All men want to have a passionate women, who feels every touch and adores every piece of their skin. Passion plays an important role in relationships, so if you can`t feel it while you`re kissing your man, you probably need to look for someone else to fall in love with.


8. Impudence. This trait works well when he`s uncertain about something and can`t take a difficult decision. Say something impudent yet supportive to your men. While women prefer to hear soft and delicate stuff to be inspired with, men sometimes need to be told something rude and pleasant at the same time. You may say that he annoys you with his doubts about a new project, though you know that he always does everything perfectly well. Learn how to be rude and inspiring at the same time. Your significant other will thank you.
You see, there`s no need to become bad at all, but you can enjoy the advantages of having bad girl traits. Women know that men are big children, so try to entertain your kid, if you want him to be happy. Plus, you'll also find it interesting to behave the way that`s unusual to you. You should always develop yourself and mastering some of these traits is also a part of your self-development. Although some of these traits may be bad in one situation, they may also be irreplaceable in another one. Love your man and let him get what he needs for true happiness. What bad girl traits do you already possess?

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Being the girlfriend on the side doesn't have it's perks. You'll end up being heartbroken because only a few men will leave their wives for the mistress.


Firstly, your man has other commitments and you are 'the other woman'. It's advisable never to put your hopes and expectations on him, unless you think your relationship will end well.

Here are reasons a man will choose to stay with his wife:


1. They have children. Your man feels responsible for the children he has with his wife. Raising kids is a lifetime commitment. He feels grateful that his wife painfully carried his babies and laboured to deliver them. Only a few fathers will break the bond they have with these children over another woman.

2. Though his wife has put on extra weight over the years, he still sees her as the same beautiful women he met years ago. He might want to sleep with a younger body, which is how you came into the picture, but your man is more attracted to his wife's soul and can separate sex from true feelings.

3. His wife may not understand his needs but he doesn't really care. Your man just uses you to pass little time away from home, but will never leave home.

4. Though his wife nags him all the time... guess what? He's used to it. And he probably believes that if he marries you, you'll nag him as much as she does.

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Here is our list of 10 annoying female habits. Feel free to add to the list!



1. Empty Fuel Tank: This is one thing that most women specialize in. No matter how many times you tell her to keep an eye on the fuel tank meter while driving, she will find it impossible to locate it leaving the fuel tank empty for you to drive the next day.


2. Saying ‘I’m fine’ when they are not: So she stood in front of the television while the football match was on, you got annoyed and now all sorts of issues have been bought up. Then she says it – that passive-aggressive statement that marks the start of the dreaded silent treatment: “I'm fine”. Ladies, if you're unhappy just outline the problem and then we can sort it out and carry on as normal.


3. Constantly asking what you are thinking: They take your silence and the faraway look in your eye to assume you are in the midst of some romantic revelry when in fact, your mind has wandered to that difficult level on Halo 2. This means you have to think of something suitably appropriate before it becomes obvious you were committing the cardinal sin of not thinking about her. Asking what we’re thinking is basically a nice way of saying ‘you aren’t allowed to have private thoughts, unless they’re about me’.


4. Winning arguments by crying: A woman cries whenever she knows she can’t win. This kind of emotional blackmail drives men go crazy! It’s fine for women to cry if they are genuinely hurt, but using crying as a manipulative tool is damaging to any relationship.


5. Trying to change us: Women have a tendency to take up charity projects and forcibly attempt to change the behaviour of their men. They try their best to make him a better man by pushing him into doing something he doesn’t like or doesn’t want to do. They fail to understand that for two people to be in a relationship it is not necessary for them to be alike. Unlike men, they fail to understand the cliché “Opposites attract”.


6. Sex is key: This is one thing women use as a weapon in their romantic relationships. Men express their love through physical intimacy. A problem faced by almost all men is that whenever there is a discord, women withhold sex which makes the man feel unwanted.


7. Annoying pet names: ‘Jiggily poo, sweety pie, sweet cheeks, babu’. These pet names may not be appreciated as you think especially when you call him with these pet names in public.


8. Talking during a film: Instead of watching the movie quietly and understanding the plot, they will ask a million questions. “Do you think he is going to get eaten?” she will ask. “Do you think it will be alright in the end?”; “Oh God! Something horrible is going to happen now. What will they do now?” The only suitable answer for all these annoying questions is that you are not psychic and if she watches the movie quietly she will get all the answers to her questions.


9. The Cleanliness Talk: “A place for everything and everything in its place,” she says. Well, that’s a nice idea, but who has the time? It’s far more fun to throw our clothes here and there as if a bomb went off in the closet.


10. Does my behind look too fat in these red shoes? She will hover over something for eternity: This dress or that? Red shoes or blue? Men don’t have the patience to wait until she matches every piece of that outfit and just when it seems to be coming together they change their mind and start all over again.


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I’ve been in a relationship for a long time. Seven years to be precise. And to tell you the truth, I’ve always been happy in love. We met in college and he wooed me for a few months before I finally gave him the nod. And things could never have been better for both of us. We even joined the same workplace and shared every moment happily with each other.


But about six months ago, I joined another organisation with a better paycheck. And that’s when things started to spiral out of control. If you would have asked me then if I would have ever cheated on my boyfriend, you would have heard me banish the thought in a flash. But life, as they say, can take interesting and unpredictable turns along the way.


Experiencing my freedom. At first, I was nervous to not have him around me to depend on. But within a couple of weeks, I fit right into my new workplace and everything was perfect. The people were great and a lot of fun. At the same time, I met a great guy in my new workplace who had a huge crush on me. He constantly asked me out and flirted with me. It was a laugh at first, and soon enough, I was having a lot of fun flirting back with him. It was harmless and a new experience, and that thought excited me.


Life with my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I wanted to move in together, but we put that thought away for a few more months because of my new job and its schedule. We spent our evenings together and an occasional weekend too, when he wasn’t hanging out with the boys. I don’t know where we went wrong, but somewhere along the way, things started to get on edge. He started asking me a lot of questions about my workplace and I started getting annoyed with his constant calls during my busy work hours.


Somehow, we just weren’t getting used to the fact that we weren’t around each other anymore. When I missed him, he was busy. When he missed me, I was busy. It was very frustrating. Soon, we started fighting over petty things. Eventually, I started to believe that my boyfriend had been taking me for granted all this while. He wouldn’t like meeting me over weekends because he was busy doing something else or hanging out with his friends. So I started taking him for granted. I pretended like I was busy during the weekdays. I started to like the attention And in the midst of all this confusion in my love life, the guy from office who had a crush on me started asking me out more often.


Eventually, I yielded one evening and we went out for a drink. And it was so awesome! I had such a nice time with this guy who was such a charmer and smooth talker. I couldn’t stop thinking about him and was secretly waiting for him to ask me out again. He did ask me out again for lunch the next day. Soon enough, this guy who liked me started wooing me. He took me out to fancy dinners and splurged on extravagant gifts and diamonds. We watched movies and had candle light dinners. But my boyfriend had no idea of any of this.


Taking the next plunge into lust. One day, after a bitter fight with my boyfriend over the phone, I called this guy who had a crush on me and asked him to take me out because I wasn’t feeling too good. He drove to my place immediately and we went to get a few drinks. I liked this guy a lot because he was always there for me. He cared for me and pampered me, something my boyfriend seemed to have forgotten recently. And on the way back home, we shared our first kiss. I really liked it. I invited him back to my place and the next thing I knew, we were making drunken love on my bed. I felt better than I felt for the last seven years with my boyfriend.


I felt weak and passionate, like a fire that has awakened within me. I loved every single emotion I was feeling. He wasn’t my boyfriend, but I just liked him a lot. But deep inside I loved my own boyfriend and knew this guy could never take my boyfriend’s place. But each time I made love with this guy who had a crush on me, it made me feel good because I felt like I was getting back at my boyfriend for treating me badly. Stepping deeper into the fields of lust I knew I cheated on my boyfriend, but somehow, it didn’t feel bad. Instead, I felt bold and empowered. I even felt powerful. I wanted more.
There was a guy from my university who used to like me. I liked him too, but I couldn’t do anything about it because I was dating my boyfriend. And he knew that. I called him up and started flirting with him. Soon enough, we planned a date that evening. That very night, I got him into my bed and had the best sex of my life, for the second time in a week! I was having so much fun juggling three guys in bed, my boyfriend, a guy from work and a guy from college. It felt like a dream come true. At that point, I knew I only loved my boyfriend and no other guy, but the buffet of sex I was having was making me delirious. All of a sudden, I loved my life.


My ignorant boyfriend comes back. It’s easy to see why I stop caring about my boyfriend and our petty fights anymore. I told my boyfriend I wanted a break from the relationship. He thought I was upset about the petty fights. My boyfriend had no idea it was because I hated getting his calls while I was having sex with my new lovers. He tried to woo me back. He came to me in tears and asked me if we could work on our relationship. I loved him, but I was confused. Did I really want to go back to that........

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Doesn't matter if they are engaged, single and searching or single and free, there are some questions and comments you should never direct towards single women. While some may take it well, smile and walk away, other women may find those comments really embarrassing and react negatively towards you. Paula Beaton of All Women Stalklists those comments that you should never make to a single lady.


1. "Are you ever going to get married?":Implying that someone is sad, lonely and desperate by asking them if they’re going to hurry up and get married is just plain rude. Perhaps you don’t want to get married, and you’re happy with your young, free and single lifestyle. Or perhaps you’re waiting for the right #man rather than rushing into commitment with just anyone who comes along. This question is definitely a major no-no and is one of the #things not to say to a single woman, especially if you want her to remain friends with you!


2. "By the time I was your age...":I’m sure we’ve all had older women approach us and say this. By the time they were our age, they were married with two children and a third on the way. Society is changing, and young #women are focusing more on their careers and their social life rather than just settling down and having a family, and there’s nothing wrong with this. The next #time someone says this to you, just smile and say, ‘that must have been hard work. I love the freedom of being able to travel and go out with the girls whenever I like.


3. "If he hasn't proposed by now...":You should never, ever say this to a friend or anyone else. There’s some stupid rule out there which says if a #man hasn’t proposed after 18 months, he never will. That’s simply not true! We all move at our own pace when it comes to relationships, so if you’ve been with your guy a while and you’re considering marriage, don’t rush #things. Just as you might not have felt ready for a serious #relationship right at the start, he might not be ready to settle down yet, and other factors come into play such as age, financial stability etc.


4. "How long have you been single for now?":Don’t rub it in just because you’re loved up – you shouldn’t make your single friends feel bad. If you’re single yourself, even more reason not to ask, as nobody wants to be reminded of how long they’ve been single for. Being single at the same #time as your friends is usually a lot of fun, as you’ve got girlfriends at hand for every event that crops up, and you can even go on double blind-dates.


5. "You need to have kids before you turn 30":Any mention of a woman’s biological clock is guaranteed to drive her crazy, and I personally hate when #people start speaking to me about this. Firstly, my biological clock is none of your business, and whether I do or don’t decide to have children is nothing to do with you. Secondly, it’s just not true that you need to have your first child before you’re 30. There are plenty of #women who don’t even think about settling down and having kids until they’re in their 40s or older, so don’t feel pressured by society – do it when it feels right for you.


6. "I don't understand why you are still single":This is something that #people have often said to me when I was younger, and it’s guaranteed to start the self-doubting questions and over-analyzing that we all do when we’re alone. It gets you thinking, ‘what’s wrong with me?’ and wondering why you don’t have a #boyfriend when everyone else does. Instead of worrying about why you’re single, embrace it, have fun and #grow as a person, so that when you do find Mr Right, you’ll be ready to wow him with stories of your amazing experiences.


7. "Would you like to come to the cinema with me and my boyfriend?":Nobody likes to feel like a gooseberry, and whilst well-meaning friends have often invited me out with them and their other half, it always feels a bit awkward. With your #best friend and her bloke, this is usually okay, but with anyone else, it just feels like you’re intruding on their couple time. The cinema is an especially awkward experience if there are three of you; it’s far better to go for a casual lunch or drinks instead!


8. "You have so much free time, I wish I was single":Sometimes, when you’re in a relationship, you long for the freedom of being single. Likewise, when you’re single, you find yourself daydreaming about loved-up coupledom. I know whenever I’m single, especially in the winter months, I find myself wishing for someone to cozy up and watch a movie with. We normally want what we can’t have; but don’t go wishing away your #relationship and making out that you’re so jealous of your friend’s single status, when most of the time you’re happy to have a partner in crime.


9. "You're single, I'm single, so let's have some no strings fun":Guys, this is one for you. Just because a #girl is single doesn’t mean she’s always up for ‘no-strings’ fun. Some of us are actually looking for something a bit more meaningful, so just because we’re out at the bar with our friends, don’t make any assumptions! It’s far better to get to know us and find out for yourself what we’re looking for – if you’re just interested in one thing then many of us will just keep looking.

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