Nobody bats an eye when men date multiple women, and ladies, you can do the same. Casting a wider net makes it easier to find Mr. Right! You know how when you meet a guy you like, you always seem to meet another one at the same time? When it rains it pours, right? Well, breaking news, ladies!
It’s okay for you to see both of them at once! Stop worrying about how society judges you. It’s an unfair double standard. Get out there and go for it! It’s not for everyone, some people are just hardwired for pure monogamy. But try it and you might be surprised.
There are so many potential benefits to dating multiple guys at a time. And if you do it right, there’s very little downside. If you’re respectful of the guys, then no feelings will get hurt. And don’t worry about what your friends and family will think. Just tell those that you think will support you. Those who won’t, well, they don’t need to know, do they?
Why it’s better to date more than just one guy at a time. You may think that dating multiple guys makes you a cheater, but you're not even official yet! Why waste time dating just one guy, when you can sift through an entire bunch and pick the one that’s right for you?


#1 Honesty… But not too much. Dating two or more guys doesn’t mean you should stop caring about their feelings. It’s not okay to lie or make someone believe that you’re exclusive with them when you’re not. As always, you’ve got to follow the golden rule of “do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.” Nobody wants to be cheated on.
You don’t necessarily have to tell a guy that you’re seeing someone else, at least not initially. If you’re just screwing, then all is fair, but if he’s taking you on dates, and treating you more like a girlfriend, it’s time to ‘fess up. Maybe he’ll accept it or maybe he won’t, but you owe it to a guy to tell him at that point.


#2 Fun and exciting. There’s definitely something thrilling about dating more than one guy at a time. It always feels good to be wanted, and you can double up on that feeling, when it’s coming from two men. And since you’ve been hearing for your whole life that it’s wrong wrong wrong for women to sleep around, there’s the added excitement of breaking that taboo. It’s also just fun.
Life is short, and you always regret what you don’t do more than the things you try. Live in the moment and be the advocate for your own pleasure. Stop caring about what other people think. If you know someone will judge you for dating multiple guys, then it’s none of their business, and they don’t have to know. It’s your life, so enjoy it.


#3 Practice makes perfect. Sex gets better and better the more of it you have. This is true both in terms of knowing what you need for your own pleasure, and what it takes to drive a guy wild. Even if your ultimate plan is to settle down with your dream man in the future, he’ll be easier to find and keep if you’re giving him great sex.
People have got to get it out of their heads that an experienced woman is a slut, or any other negative word you can think of. Everyone should strive to be a better lover, and the only way to get better at anything is to practice at it. Athletes get better by training with a variety of teammates and opponents, with different skill levels and playing styles. Why should sex be any different?


#4 Hard to get. There’s just something really hot about a woman that a lot of guys are after. You might be worried that people who see you with separate guys will think badly of you. Here’s how it really works when men know you are seeing a couple of guys: the losers who never had a chance in the first place call you a slut.
The real men want to know why they’re being left out. It seems paradoxical. Why should dating around make you seem harder to get, not easier. But that’s how it works. Dating multiple men will make you an object of desire. Remember, the guys who call you a slut are going home every night to a large porn collection, not a woman.


#5 Confidence boost. When you’re feeling confident, you get way more attention from the opposite sex. Confidence really is one of the most attractive qualities, and the best way to have the feeling of confidence is to feel wanted. When you know there are two or even more guys just waiting for your call, you know you’re hot. People around you will notice too.
It’s often said that people who have just had sex have a glow around them. It’s quite common for both men and women to be hit on a lot during the few hours after sex. Most of this is the confidence boost that sex gives. When you date more than one guy, you’ll have a perpetual glow about you. You’ll walk with your head high and a confident smile, and you’ll notice a surge in the amount of attention you get.


#6 Best of all worlds. Most women are aroused by a lot of different types of sex. One night she might want slow, passionate sex with lots of eye contact and kissing. The next, she might want hair pulling, and dirty talk. And it doesn’t stop there: there’s dominating him, he dominating her, dress up, role play, toys, long MouthAction sessions for him and for her, fast hard pounding, slow deep thrusting, the list is really endless. Of course, not all women are into each and every one of these, but most probably are turned on by at least a few of them.


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Here's the difference between a healthy lie and a hurtful lie ...
If I told you that lying was good for your relationship would you believe me?
Trust me. I'm telling the truth!
Sure, we've all been told that 100% honesty is the best foundation for happy and healthy relationships. And for the most part, that's dead-on.
But what if I told you that telling the truth has the potential to create unnecessary conflict, breed insecurity, and humiliate or hurt your partner's feelings?
Hmmm. That probably explains why couples lie to each other an average of three times a week. Researchers call it "deceptive affection," because it comes from a place of deep love and caring. In fact, most agree that telling little white lies for the right reasons can actually strengthen your bond.
Nevertheless, fibbing about sexual or emotional fidelity, financial issues, or lying to manipulate your partner (or to save your own butt) are major no-nos.
But truth be told, there are certain scenarios where it can behoves you — and your relationship — to withhold the "whole" truth ...
Here are five times when it's okay to omit some of those details:


1. When he asks about your exes
Curiosity pertaining to your previous relationships is normal. But does he really need to know that you once dated a professional athlete or that your most recent ex-boyfriend was great in the sack? It's fine to drop a name or two, briefly mention the span of time you dated and a quick explanation for the break up (with an emphasis on the latter). However, divulging too many details can conjure up comparisons and lead to feelings of jealousy, insecurity and inadequacy. So, even if it's not entirely true, quickly change the subject by saying exactly what he's longing to hear, "why are we even talking about this, babe? You know you're the best I've ever had!"


2. When you have a secret (but harmless) crush
There's nothing wrong with checking out other guys when you're in a committed relationship. Who doesn't? And don't think for a nanosecond that your S.O. isn't checking out other women. But your man doesn't need to hear about your hot new co-worker with the six-pack abs. Your crush will pass and your relationship will be stronger because you didn't go for total honesty and avoided making your guy jealous over nothing. So, zip it! Or, if you must, gush to your girlfriends.


3. When you seriously dislike his friends
Unless his pals are outright rude or try to hit on you, dissing them can come across as insulting or even make your guy feel pressured to "choose sides." These are his buds and he's not likely to dump them. Besides, chances are, you have a few gal pals that drive him nuts too. So, to keep the peace, squelch your true feelings. And if you can't stand his friends, spend more time with yours!


4. When you hate the gift he got you
It stinks to get a gift you're not into, but the last thing you want to do is crush your guy's feelings — or his giving spirit. Instead, grit your teeth and remember that it really is the thought that counts. Nobody's saying you have to gush when he totally misses the mark, but do: smile, hug him and express appreciation for the time and effort he put into choosing something, especially, for you. Then get to work at dropping blatant hints before the next special occasion arrives.


5. When your most recent sexual encounter was just meh
In long-term relationships, lovemaking is sometimes just so-so. That's normal. Mind-blowing sex doesn't happen every time you jump in the sack. But that doesn't mean you need to comment, "Wow, you were a bit off your game tonight, huh?" Better to snuggle up close and tell him how much you love him. Then, next time, guide his hand to your hot spots and tell him how much he's turning you on. That's bound to boost his confidence to the point that he makes your toes curl. No lie!

Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/06/5-times-its-actually-good-to-lie-to_20.html

Meeting new women is always a challenge. Crowded bars and parties may seem like great spots, but not only do you have to compete with a lot of guys in these places, but you also have to deal with the fact that many women do not like meeting men at bars and have a natural resistance to men who approach them in these settings.
In fact, many women see men who are on the prowl at bars and parties as guys who only want one-night stands. The key to meeting new women is to approach them in places where they can get a sense of your personality and see that not only do you have interests, but you also share some of theirs. Here are 5 of the best places to meet quality women.


1. Health Classes....
Women like guys who take care of themselves and stay in shape. Fitness classes are not just for women, so to meet women who also take care of their bodies and minds, think about taking a fitness class like yoga, kickboxing or CrossFit. This is in a closed environment, and since everyone is doing exactly the same workout, it makes it a lot more comfortable to socialize. Women tend to regularly attend the same classes each week, so this is a natural opportunity to get to know them over time with no pressure.


2. Special Interest Classes....
Single women try to keep themselves busy, and the ones who are always learning and growing are very good to be with. You may want to consider taking special interest classes like dance instruction, foreign languages, cooking, art, massage therapy or Pilates. You may find that special someone in classes like these.


3. Libraries and Book Stores....
There is always the possibility of meeting a single woman between the bookcases. Libraries and bookstores are some of the hottest places to meet single women. Places like Barnes & Nobles have places to sit down and read, and you might be able to get into good conversations with some smart and attractive women.


4. Church...
Many churches have weekly or monthly activities outside of their regular program for singles to become involved in. People in places of worship probably have more activities lined up than you could ever imagine. Consider this a gold mine in meeting single women with good values.


5. Art Galleries...
You will find women at places like art galleries to be better educated, have class and confidence. If you do not know about the artists or a particular piece, act with confidence, find a woman who is familiar with the exhibit and ask her to explain it to you.


Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/05/best-places-to-meet-women.html

Cutehector:
Nice one riwo


Buh some ladies would also like smth casual , dnt u think?

Yeah! Yeah!!

Ever gone on a date with a guy and it goes so well that you think, “This is it. He’s the one”? Turns out, you’re not “the one” to him. He’s not even looking for “the one”; he’s just looking for a casual hookup with no commitment. You wish you knew this before you agreed to a second, third, and fourth date, plus an introduction to your friends and your three cats. So how can you avoid this type of guy? Women’s Health Magazine gives us 5 ways to determine whether or not he’s worth your time:


1. He’s not in a rush to spend time with you. According to psychologist and dating coach Jennifer B. Rhodes, a guy who seems too eager to spend time with you may be more interested in hooking up than hanging out. And when he loses interest, you can bet you’ll never see or hear from him again. A guy who’s genuinely interested in you will take his time, and be respectful of your time and availability. To determine which one he is, Rhodes says that if he reaches out to you too early, ask him to wait and see if he does, or runs the other way.


2. He texts and calls back within a day. An interested guy will respond to your texts within 24 hours, and if you ask him to call you, he will, says Rhodes. If he takes longer than 3 days, he may only be looking for something more casual, not a commitment.


3. He can have deep conversations with you. Two days after the first meeting, if your conversations go beyond the discussion of the newest episode of Game of Thrones, he’s interested in a commitment, Rhodes says. Conversations about family, your childhood, and religious beliefs are just a few of the serious topics you can both go on and on about. If he’s uncomfortable talking about himself and his background, he’s not looking for anything serious.


4. He doesn’t talk about how awful his ex was. Venting about an ex or denying responsibility for a breakup can mean two things: 1) he’s not over her, and 2) he’s not mature enough to handle a relationship. Judy Rosenberg, a clinical psychologist and dating coach, says that a guy who bad-mouths his ex might be very bad at communication, which is vital in any healthy relationship.


5. He has healthy relationships with family and friends. Rosenberg says that a guy who maintains healthy family relationships and friendships is a guy capable of a healthy romantic relationship. Even caring for a pet signifies his readiness for a commitment. Within two days, ask him how often he spends time with his family or friends.
Rosenberg also says that if many of his friends are in committed relationships, there’s a high chance he’s looking for one, too. So, before you jump into anything with a guy, make sure he’s ready to commit to you, not just string you along for the ride.

Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/07/5-ways-to-tell-hes-serious-about-you.html

You meet a hot guy at a bar. He’s attractive, and he has that carefree demeanor that you thought was only possible in romantic comedies. After a couple of drinks and some great conversation, you decide to come over to his place to get the ball rolling. You notice that he lives in a pretty big house, so you congratulate yourself on finding a guy who’s stable.
But once he unlocks the front door, he whispers to you… “We have to be quiet, my parents might wake up.” Uh oh. You’re hooking up with a guy who lives with mommy and daddy. Now don’t get me wrong, living with your parents isn’t that big of a deal. But you may start to wonder why he’s living with them, when he’s at the age where living independently is more common.
Does he have issues? Do his parents have issues? Is he living the good life by freeloading off his parents? Is this a case of arrested development? And most importantly, is it really that big of a deal? What’s it like to date a guy who lives with his parents? For those of you who have never dated a guy who still lives with his parents, here’s all you need to know.

#1 The best things in life are free. You get it, you totally do. You know why your boyfriend is living in his childhood bedroom. It’s free. In fact, everything is free. There’s no rent. He doesn’t have to buy groceries and cook his food. His mother will even wash his clothes and collect his dirty laundry. She says it’s economical that way. But we know it’s because mothers cannot resist their children. And why do you enjoy seeing your boy get pampered by his mom? Well, the money that he gets to save goes to your “gift” money. Who wouldn’t want that?

#2 Meet the family. It’s every girlfriend’s dream. Getting introduced to the family means something serious is going on with the relationship. But, not you. You already met his family, because there will always be that time when his parents will suddenly come home unexpectedly. We’re just hoping you have all your clothes on when they do. Well, you actually are one of the lucky ones, because not every girl gets to be introduced to the parents of their significant others. Think of this as an advantage rather than something shameful. After all, one of the end goals of all girls is to meet the family of their boyfriends. You just got there earlier than everybody else.

#3 Getting to know you.The term “getting to know your boyfriend” is being taken to a whole new level. You don’t just get to know him as he is now, you get to know his child version. Chances are, if he is still staying in his childhood home, there might still be remnants of who he was when he was still the little baby in the house… Just like he is now. He might still have some of his favorite toys, even the soft ones, somewhere under that huge pile of dirty clothes. Posters of his favorite bands, movies, or comic books are also all over his room. This will be a trip down memory lane for you and him. A chance not every girlfriend gets to have.

#4 Family ties. How does he treat his younger siblings? Is he bullying them? How about his older siblings or his parents? Do you see fear, respect, or nonchalance? The way he treats his family will most likely be the way he will treat you. If you get to see your guy surrounded by family and he acts like a jerk around them, then that’s your cue to get out of there. But if you see that he is a sensible, family-oriented guy, then you know you’re in good hands.

#5 You can take the lead when he finally moves out. Eventually, your guy may realize that he’ll need to move out of his parents’ home. When that time comes, and you’re still around, you can hope that you at least have a say when it comes to picking out the best apartment for him. You can even convince him to live close to your place, so that you can spend all the more time together. The cons of dating a guy who lives with his parents Along with the pros are, of course, the cons. You may have seen these cons coming a mile away, but let’s go through them anyway.

*.#1 Privacy restrictions. For one thing, anything that you do that requires an R rating will need to be done within the confines of his bedroom. You’re lucky if he’s got his own bathroom, but what if you badly need to pee mid-make out session, and you don’t want to risk running into his dad when you’ve got your hair and clothes all in disarray?

*.#2 Interruptus. There will be times when, in the heat of the moment, your guy’s mom will suddenly knock on the door to announce that dinner is ready. Of course, you’ll need to be there. But who would want to give up on potentially great sex to go downstairs and have dinner and small talk with the family?

*.#3 Paper-thin walls. No loud noises during sex. No loud music. All conversations have a volume limit for fear that your guy’s parents might hear any unsavory details. Even when you’re frustrated and arguing, you can’t make a scene because you’re in his parents’ house.

*.#4 Obligations. He may be a freeloader, but he’ll need to fulfill some obligations from time to time. And there will be some obligations that his mom won’t mind saying out loud, even when you’re there. So what you once thought would be a relaxing bonding moment with your guy will turn out to be you sitting around, while he has to do some chores or errands.

Dating a guy who lives with his parents can be both, a blessing and a nightmare. It depends on how you will be reacting to it. If you love the guy enough, then you will try to see the beauty in it. Source: www.riseup247.com

Being in the dating game, can be time consuming, especially if you are a busy person. Asking questions will help eliminate the unnecessary parties.


1. Why me? Do not be scared, it is not an insecurity question. You simply want to know and understand his reason for choosing/picking you. His reason can be interesting too, so go for it, ask.


2. What is your aim/purpose in dating? You want to know if he wants casual sex or something more serious like a permanent relationship. This helps with jumping in too deep into something that is not mutual.


3. When is sex appropriate? Will he expect to have access to your body like a husband would? Will it be worth it? It is an emotional matter for women, so it should not be taken lightly.


4. How is/was the relationship between his mother and father? You want to know what was modelled for him as a young child. His opinion about women might be revealed here.


5 .Do you have men in your life that you are accountable to? Every man should have other men in his life that he is accountable to. It does not necessarily have to be biological father, but someone they look up to and who keep them motivated and inspired.

Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/09/ladies-here-are-5-questions-that-you.html

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There is a time when you meet a guy that makes your heart beat faster and your palms sweat. You KNOW you can’t stop thinking about him, but how to make him think about you?


#Be yourself... If you want this guy to notice you for something, let that something be the real you, not someone made up. Guys aren't stupid; he will find out that you are faking it as soon as you get tired of pretending to be his dream girl. What will happen then? He might not like what he sees.


#Believe in yourself... Tell yourself: I can do it, I am good enough! Believe what you are saying, everyone is equal, you deserve the best. Are you too shy and don’t know how to “promote” yourself? Here is a tip: We all have some good qualities, so, think about yours. Maybe you have a great smile? Use it to your advantage. Do you have a great sense of humour? Then use it! Guys appreciate humour as much as girls do! Try to make him laugh as much as you can, think the joke over before you say it though!


#Express yourself... Express yourself through your appearance. Always look your best when around him! Dressing well, smelling sweet and looking fresh does the trick. Have your own unique look, wear a little makeup, dress in your own style, express yourself through your appearance. Unique people seem to go by noticed, so therefore, if you express your individuality he is bound to think about you..


#Smile... Smiles should be sincere and not forced, guys can’t resist a sweet, warm smile, so use yours! Do not force it, let it come naturally. Whether you like your smile or not, it is a good way to catch someone’s eye. Give him your winning smile; he won’t be able to keep it off his mind.


#Analyse... Listen to him. If you remember details and names he mentions you will come off as a caring person. Notice things about him others don’t, he will start to wonder why you pay so much attention. Of course, be sure not to overdo this, you may come off as a ‘stalker’


#Play hard to get... Playing hard to get can be risky, never go overboard with this little trick. You don’t want to present yourself as too available; he will begin to miss your company. He may start to wonder why he misses your company, or why you can’t always hang out with him. If this trick is done correctly, you will surely be on his mind.


#Lips... Lick and bite your lips! While you are talking to the guy that you like, wet your lips with the tip of your tongue without sticking it out. Biting it from side to side may tempt him to kiss you! As per usual, be sure not to overdo this, he may think there is something wrong with you…


#Be mysterious... Don’t reveal too much information about yourself straight away… keep him guessing! Try to be mysterious; he will be dying to know more about you. A little trick you may find handy: Act like you are about to tell him something, but then ‘change your mind’ and don’t tell him. You will leave him wondering about what you where going to say.


#Don’t try too hard... Trying too hard may lead him to thinking you are easy. Take time to hang out with your friends and enjoy some alone-time. Don’t be clingy! If you’re not always with him, this will actually give him time to think about you.
Think about it, you don’t constantly think about your friend if they are right there next to you, do you? -If none of this works, don’t assume there’s something wrong with you!


Plenty of girls have been there loads of times and it’s almost never your fault! If a certain guy doesn't like you for you then he’s obviously not the right guy for you. He may just think of you as a close friend. Don’t stress over it.

Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/05/10-ways-to-make-guy-think-about-you.html

In our haste and desperation to be in a relationship, a lot of people lose their self-worth and self-esteem. When you love someone, it’s natural for you to have certain expectations from that person. But out of desperation, a lot of people lower their standards of how they should be treated by their partners. They overlook so many things which may be a pointer that you are just an option and not a priority.
A lot of people out there are under the impression that they are a ‘serious girlfriend’ or ‘wife-to-be’ when in reality, they are nothing more than certified side chicks, a play thing or booty call. Everyone wants to be reassured in love, because uncertainty could drive one crazy.
It hurts a lot to discover that you have been wasting your time and emotions on someone who never considered you a priority and you’re eventually left alone to pick up the pieces of your life. Ever feel like you’re being taken for granted in your relationship? Watch out for these signs to know if you’re an option or priority.

1. He won’t introduce you to his family/friends: If you’ve been with this guy for over a year and you haven’t met his friends or family, you are clearly just an option. If he has never asked you to hang out with them, go to a party or get together with them, then you need to start thinking of moving on. Sure, you may not want to hang out with his friends much, but it should be your decision and they should at least know you.

2. He never takes you out: If all you do is hang out with him in his house, you are definitely a side chick. Chances are that you are a secret and he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. He probably has some other girl, who he doesn’t want to find out about you.

3. He takes forever to reply your messages or missed call: It can be very annoying when you call your partner and he doesn’t pick up or return your calls and you know he is are not busy. Sometimes, you send a message and he takes forever to reply. The most annoying is when you confront him and he has nothing to say or gives a flimsy excuse.

4. He doesn’t care what’s happening in your life: If you are in a relationship and your partner is not bothered about what is happening in your life, you are not that important to him. If he really cares about you, he would take the time to ask about your day and what’s going on in your life.

5. You are not one of the first people to know about huge events in his life: If you are a priority in his life, you should be among the first set of people to find out about events in his life. If you have to find out about his promotion or other things from a third party, then you are obviously an option.

6. He only calls you at night even on weekends: Some guys will give the excuse of being ‘too busy’. If you are that important to him, he will not wait until the day is almost over before he remembers you exist. If he is not too busy to call other people and pick calls, he shouldn’t be too busy to call you.

7. He doesn’t spend the holidays with you: We know there are situations where he may have to work or handle an important issue but even then, he can still squeeze out a little time for you.

8. He never remembers anything you say: If you have a partner who never remembers anything you tell him, you are obviously an option. He clearly isn’t interested in anything you have to say because you are not an important part of his life.

9. They are never there when you need them but they expect you to always be there: If he’s not there the majority of the time, especially moments when you need him, you need start thinking of moving on and getting someone who truly cares. The funny thing is this same guy who is not there gets angry and picks a fight when you are not around during his time of need.

10. They keep bailing on you: You make plans to see or hang out and he keeps cancelling and giving excuses. Most of the time, on the planned day, his phone is switched off and you can’t even reach him. At the end of the day, he comes up with a flimsy excuse.

11. It’s a one-sided relationship, and that one side is all you: If someone wants you to be in their life they will make room for you. Why should you be the only one putting in all the effort while he does nothing? Why should you be the only one making the calls and checking up on him? Communication is a two-way thing. If he isn’t putting in any effort, he obviously are not a priority in his life. So, if you’re in a relationship where you have to keep wondering where you stand, it’s high time you started thinking of moving on to something better.
Gracefully walk away with your self-esteem intact. Chances are that this guy is not looking for a real relationship at the moment or at least not the kind you’re looking for. No one deserves to be anybody’s play thing or spare tyre. You deserve nothing less than the best, no matter where you’ve been or what you’ve been through. So don’t settle for anything less than the best. Source: www.riseup247.com

WHY do older dudes like ’em young? So many ladies ask me what is up with older men dating younger women. There is actually an evolutionary psychological theory surrounding this common “phenomenon”. There have been many studies conducted exploring the reasons behind older men dating younger woman.
One of them published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, looked at 400 romantic ads in the Swedish newspapers Göteborgs-Posten and Aftonbladet and on the websites Spraydate and Match.com. Men in all categories prefer younger partners. Of a total of 97 men who mentioned age in their ads, only three were looking for an older partner — among men aged 40 to 59, only one out of 67.

Women I've interviewed between the ages of 40 and 70 largely believe men their age are not interested in dating someone their own age. Studies show older men prefer youth and beauty first for mate selection and women choose men who offer resources and stability. It’s no surprise there are a number of websites emerging and profiting from these “mutually benefiting” relationships. The “successful older man” seeking “young attractive female” is commonplace. Let’s reveal a few of the reasons behind older men dating younger women.

1.He’s Having A Mid-Life Crisis. Well this is an easy explanation. Men, who feel they’ve been “tied down” for far too long or what he considers a marriage of obligation, feel as if he’s been cheated of his youth and his “fun years.” It’s as if he seeks a younger woman to replace his older model (wife) and convince himself somehow that dating a younger woman will bring back his youthfulness and give him a second chance to have fun again. A gentleman dating a younger woman is not like a time machine. This is about the same time he spends his money more freely on extravagant man toys, replaces his wardrobe, invests in hair club for men and maybe hires a personal trainer. Some men date younger woman to prove to themselves they haven’t lost his touch.

2.He Wants Kids. I’ve encountered many men over 40 who admit to wanting more kids — regardless of the fact that they might've already raised a few. They believe that dating a younger woman, in this case, is a requirement (or excuse) to decrease the odds of any birth defects or health risks. If an older man hasn’t had the chance to father a child, he seeks a younger woman for this specific purpose. This seems more like a fostering plan for some, but some men want to carry on their legacy with children of their own. Men have biological clocks, too, if you didn’t already know. They assume older women can’t safely have children.

3.He Assumes All Women His Age Are Like His Ex.As the saying goes, “Once burnt, twice shy.” Some men have this ridiculous belief women their own age are all the same. I’ll share an example. If he’s had a bad experience with his partner going through menopause, frankly it scares the crap out of him to think about having to go through it all over again with someone new. Menopause seems to be the cause of many failed marriages (or at least that’s what some men I’ve talked with blame it on). If he’s ever been online dating or on a few sour blind dates with a woman who’s still bitter about her breakup, he suddenly thinks they’re ALL like that.
Younger women, who have never been in a serious relationship or “tainted” by a bad marriage, seem like a great option for an older man seeking a stress and drama-free relationship. Unfortunately for him, his assumptions about dating a younger woman being “hassle-free” may be very, very wrong. Most relationships require work and cooperation to make them successful.
Thankfully not all older men seek younger women for a relationship. When you consider what makes a successful long-term, healthy relationship last, age is just one consideration in a number of relationship factors to consider. Source: www.riseup247.com

People may try to make you feel ashamed of the clothes you wear or the job you have but you should never take those remarks seriously. You can be nice and kind but there’s always someone who is ready to judge and criticise you all day long. Don’t let them break your self-confidence. Instead, let others think what they want but keep doing what you need and it`ll bring you closer to success. Here are the most important things you should be proud of, despite being shamed or judged by other people.

1. Weight Most people are obsessed with their weight these days. Whether you are skinny or plump, it means nothing at all if you feel healthy. When you meet someone who tries to hurt you by telling you that you have to put on weight or drop it, get rid of those people in your life. It`s your own body and only you can decide whether to change it or not. The number of the scale doesn’t make you a bad person so ignore any comments about your weight.

2. Gender Your gender is not something you could choose. As a woman, you should be proud of your gender. Although women are considered weak, we are even more powerful with all our beauty and brilliant intuition than men. You know that being a woman is a valuable gift. We give birth to a new life and make the world happier place to live in, therefore you should never feel ashamed of your gender.

3. The number of guys People often judge those women who have had many relationships. You surely shouldn`t care about that. If your boyfriend is interested in the number of guys you had in the past, you have a full right to avoid answering to this question. If you want to answer, don’t feel ashamed of the number of men that you’ve been with. It’s your life so if he doesn’t understand you, it doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you – it means he doesn’t love you.

4. The way of thinking. Everyone has their own point of view. You may have some special way of thinking and not everyone is able to understand you. People tend to criticize things that they can`t understand thus you may feel someone is trying to make fun of you. But your thoughts are unique and you should be proud of them regardless of the situation.

5. Hobbies. When a man decides to do something (for example, cooking) no one makes fun of them. On the other hand, when a woman wants to do something that generally men do, everyone notices that and some try to prevent you from doing what you really want. Your hobby is your personal interest that shouldn`t depend on someone`s point of view, except yours, of course. If you are interested in boxing, your gender shouldn`t bother you. Doing something that gives you pleasure is great and it doesn`t need to be appreciated by everyone around you.

6. Diet. If you are a vegetarian you know how it’s hard and boring to tell others that you are fine and healthy and you don’t want to eat meat. When I decided to give up meat for good, it was a shock to everyone I knew at that time, and even still many wonder how I can live without meat at all. I feel great, look great and I’m absolutely healthy, so what’s the problem? I’m proud of my eating habits and not going to get rid of any of them.

7. Clothes Enjoy wearing bold clothes? Great. It’s okay to show off your skin every now and then. Clothes count for first impressions. What you wear doesn`t define you, your brain or your spiritual inner world. If someone doesn’t like your style, ignore them. While it’s useful to change and improve your style, it shouldn’t be the main problem of your life.

8. Career. Whether you want to become a successful lawyer or you dream of becoming a stay-at-home mom, it’s your choice. Never feel ashamed of it. It`s your own life and you can decide what to do to be happier and wealthier. It’s okay to be interested in earning money as well as it’s better to give birth to 5 or more kids. You can’t please everyone and you are not supposed to live according to someone’s rules. It’s your own life. Never let anyone shame you for your own decisions.
Most of those that try to make fun of you simply can`t make their own choice and their terrible attitude is the only thing they can do to protect themselves. Have you ever felt ashamed of any of these things?

Source: http://www.riseup247.com/2015/07/ladies-8-things-you-should-never-feel.html

I will have to be blunt with you here; if you don’t exactly know how to make girls you want to impress you then you will find it quite hard getting them to fall in love with you. How many times have a girl told you how much she loves you? None has ever told you she loves you, right?
Let me guess; if a girl had ever told you she loves you then it was way back in secondary school, back then when it seemed girls were quite easy to get. Now no girl says that to you anymore. You know what? We, me and you, are now about to change that. I will show you exactly how to make girls confess to been in love with you every single time.

You see, like you I was once a flop when it comes with girls, till I decided to fix that part of my life. These days I frequently get texts from as much girls as I could handle telling me how much they love me. So what did I start doing differently to start getting such amazing results; I will repeat it again: TO GET AS MUCH GIRLS AS YOU WANT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU, YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO MAKE THEM WANT TO IMPRESS YOU.

When I first started working part time in a radio station way back, there was this girl. A co-worker, who wasn’t really pretty – just manageable, this girl walked up to me one day and told me she really liked me…as in, from all indications it was a romantic kind of like. You know what I did?

A girl hadn’t ever been that direct around me before and so when that girl told me she liked me It literary drove me mad; I started showing up around her more often, got her number and started sending sweet texts to her almost on daily basis, I called her up almost every night just to say Goodnight. Just two weeks after doing all those sweet stuffs I thought would make her like me more I noticed she was changing her attitude around me.
At a point time she stopped picking my calls and started avoiding me around the office. I kept up doing all my sweet things when one day she called me up and told me to just stop, said about a few harsh things I can’t write here and then told me she just got a boyfriend. And that was the end…I was confused as hell. What had gone wrong? It wasn’t until years later when I started becoming good with girls that it dawned on me that I had tried too hard…trying too hard makes girls lose interest. You know the approach I use now? I don’t try too hard anymore, matter of fact, I don’t try at all – I just lay back and have them impress me instead.

When they call me up I don’t pick and I don’t return the call for sometimes three days straight. When I finally call I never apologize. If a girl I am seeing comes to my house without telling me before hand, I would sometimes tell I was a bit busy, can’t see her now and would call her up when I am free. She might call to see me and I would tell her that something happened and that I was not in the mood to see her.

She might send me a love text and I will never reply it. When she says she loves me to my face I sometimes don’t say I love her back. I just smile and say talk you (I know, sounds extreme right?) Why does this work so well with girls? Simple – It’s because they are not used to it, guys are always trying to impress them but when a guy comes around and doesn’t try to impress them it makes them wonder why.

Most times in the process of figuring out why you are not trying to impress her like other guys she will start trying to get you attracted to her and that is just what you want – when a girl starts making moves to get a guy attracted to her she too starts getting attracted to the guy. Think back to all the girls that haven’t taken you seriously in the past; the more they mistreated you the more you seem to want to have her. You may think girls won’t chase a guy or try to get him attracted to her. You may think if you act like she is to impress you then it might chase her off. The fact is this; you are right. If you misuse this secret I just showed you then it might backfire.

These secrets, I am pretty sure, will get more girls sending “I love you” texts to your phone in the next one month than the number that sent you that kind of texts in the past 5 years of your life. Source: www.riseup247.com

What is “normal,” anyway? Are any of us normal? Aren’t we all a little crazy in one way or another?
Well, maybe, but you gotta draw the line somewhere. Here’s something to think about: Doesn’t it seem like — at least in the realm of male/female relationships — there seems to be a disproportionate amount of women who fit the “crazy” bill better than men? And believe it or not, I’m not trying to be sexist here,

I’m genuinely curious about this; it’s not that men don’t have character defects or psychological issues that make them behave inappropriately, it’s just that those guys are always “dicks” or maybe “weirdos” (and there are plenty of them out there), but women are always “crazy.” Is it a body chemistry thing? Societal gender roles? Is there something about dating men that causes this transformation? I don’t know.

Somebody should get to studying that, I guess. In the meantime, here are 50 signs that the girl you’re dating might be what we like to call “crazy.” And you can trust me on this one — I’ve done extensive research in the field.

1. She’s unbelievable in bed. It’s an undisputed fact that crazy women are incredible in the sack. That’s how they get you.

2. She’s got the crazy eyes. We all get crazy eyes from time to time—from stress, lack of sleep, etc. But if they’re part of the unique snowflake that makes her, that’s a really bad sign.

3. She runs hot and cold. She loves you; she hates you; you’re the only one for her; maybe it’s not working out. Her mood changes more than a remote control held by an 11-year-old with ADD.

4. Your texts and emails have been mysteriously deleted. Confronting you about your communications isn’t necessarily crazy, but tampering with them is.

5. She makes drastic changes in her appearance. Some girls like to mix it up every now and then, and that’s cool, but too drastic too often indicates identity issues. And shaving her head is a dead giveaway.

6. Everything anyone says about her is a lie. Odds are, she’s been called crazy before, and this is her attempt at heading that off at the pass. She wants you to trust her and only her, and that can be pretty creepy.

7. All other women are bitches. Crazy girls don’t tend to get along with the sane variety.

8. All other women more attractive than her are whores. God help you if you look at one in her presence.

9. She’s admitted to stalking someone before. Three separate girls I’ve dated have told me this. I still can’t figure out what possible positive outcome revealing this information would accomplish.

10. Everyone wants to ruin her because they’re jealous. Extreme narcissism cuts both ways—she thinks everyone adores her, and those who don’t are green with envy.

11. She clings tightly to “truths” she’s decided on, even if there’s no evidence to support them. Crazy people tend to spend a lot of time inside their own head, where there’s no one else to inject things like… you know… logic or reason. Once she’s fixated on something, she never changes her mind.

12. Her place is either too messy or too clean. If it’s too clean, just bail out now. You probably won’t get the great sex you’re after out of this one.

13. All her ex-boyfriends are still madly in love with her. Because in her mind, there’s no reason why anyone wouldn’t want to be with her. When you’re her ex, you’ll be in that club, too.

14. She likes to “surprise” you. Everybody likes fun little surprises every once in a while, but if she keeps showing up where she’s not invited, like work or guys’night, there’s a good chance she’s watching your every move.

15. She goes way too far when you’re having an argument. Attacking your family and friends, calling out your insecurities, threatening to kill herself or cut your dick off while you’re sleeping — these are subtle signs that she’s not so great at handling conflict.

16. Self-help bonanza. Most people can get through life’s troubles with their gut, their friends and their family. But she’s got every self-improvement book ever written, a shelf full of New Age crystals, dream catchers and assorted bullshit like that. This is someone who’s tried everything… and none of it has worked.

17. She calls and texts too much. There’s no number that’s a good limit, especially if you keep responding, but if you feel like she’s “checking in” too much, you might want to change your number.

18. Those playful punches… hurt. You pretend they don’t because, you know, you don’t want to come off like a pussy. But this is a bad sign of what’s to come if/when you really piss her off.

19. She criticizes your mother. And not gently, mind you. Most women know that they need to be sensitive when talking about your mom, but sometimes a girl will act like the woman who gave birth to you is her mortal enemy and try to poison you against her. Run.

20. She hijacks your social media. You’re off the market and she wants every single person you’ve ever met to know it. For every post you make, she leaves five comments. She tags herself in photos she’s not even in. She’s a bunny boiler, for sure.

21. Her favorite book is“The Bell Jar.” Sylvia Plath literally wrote the book on crazy chicks.

22. You run into a guy she used to date, and he’s not jealous of you---

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1. She Is Excessively Interested in What You Do for Living & Your Financial Status It is quite common for a person to ask about your work and what you do. When two people talk to each other, a lot of the conversations will be about work and your interests. However, when she is just looking for your cash, you will find that there is a level of obsession taking place.
Typically, unless the two of you are very serious, she should not be interested in your financial status. When she starts asking about how much you make, when you will move up in a company or what your current debt levels are, the girl is simply too interested in cash. The only exception to this rule would be someone in the same field as you that simply wants to see if their salary is aligned with what a man receives.

2. She Lacks Any Career Aspirations YOU KNOW SHE’S A GOLD DIGGER IF… Aspirations are something that every person must have. In fact, you had an aspiration to find out of if your woman is a gold digger or not. Unfortunately, we are no longer living in a time where women will not work, or at least think about it. The reality is that she will likely have to work and you should not be with her if all you are is an ATM machine.
If she has no career aspirations and would rather stay at her dead-end job instead of bettering herself, chances are you would be supporting her throughout the relationship.

3. She Asks for Expensive Gifts. Have you heard the expression “it’s the thought that counts?” Well, when giving a woman a gift, she should never ask the price or ask for a more expensive alternative. If her birthday or a special holiday is coming up and she asks for an really pricey gift, she is simply in it for the money. You never want to be with a lady that asks or demands costly gifts. If she loves and respects you, she will be happy with a gift of both $5 or $5,000 value.

4. She Gets Mad If She Does Not Get What She Wants. A woman that goes ballistic or gives you a guilt trip when she doesn't get what she wants will simply get worse over time. Unfortunately, this is a sign that is so evident that you will want to run the other way. There is no price tag attached to love and if she can’t handle not getting what she wants in a mature manner, it is not worth the effort to stay with her.

5. She Is Always in Financial Trouble or Crisis Financial crisis is a little tricky to discern when it comes to a detecting whether she is just after your cash. A person that just lost their job may be in a money crisis, but they are not necessarily after your finances. However, if she has a good job but is always broke, you may have a woman that simply has no financial responsibility.
This will lead to her asking you for cash, or if your relationship gets serious, she will be the one causing debt and leading you to financial instability. Younger girls may have budgeting issues, but older women should not. If she can’t control her spending habits, she may just be using you for money.

6. Her Friends Are Gold-diggers as Well You can tell a lot about a woman by meeting people from her closest circle. If a girl has a lot of friends that are only after men for their money, she will likely have this same attitude. People attract others that they have things in common with. If her buddies, especially her best friend, is a gold-digger, you need to tread lightly. Keep in mind: While she may not emulate her friends, many women do in this regard.

7. She Never Wants to Pay for Anything Traditionally, men pay for the bill, but times are changing. While you may do so when going out to a fancy restaurant or when you invite her to go out to eat, you should not be the one paying the bill if you go out for a cup of coffee or she wants to stop for a snack when you are not hungry. The idea that you have to pay for everything is simply fading away. If she demands or asserts that you must be the payer of all bills, she is stuck in a time that no longer exists. It is okay to pay for the bill, but it should never be something that is always done or expected by her.

8. She Is a Clothes-Brand Freak How Do You Know If She’s A Gold Digger? How much do brands matter to you? Like most men, you probably do not pay much attention to the brands that you wear. Women, on the other hand, may like a certain brand that scream expensive. Gucci, Prada and various others cost more than some people’s entire weekly paycheck. If she is wearing only the best of the best brands and will not settle for less, she may feel entitled or she may be unwilling to choose items that are less expensive,

9. She Does Not Use Words Like Please; Thank You Too Much “Please” and “thank you” are simply words that mean a lot when they are said. When you break down this meaning, you will see why these are so important to a person.
*.Please– Asking for an item in a polite manner shows respect and general courtesy. This is asking for something versus demanding.
*.Thank you– Appreciative in nature, the words “thank you” indicate that a person is appreciative of an action you took. If she does not say these two words, she simply expects things to be done for her and doesn't respect you or your feelings.

10. She Is Obsessed with Acquiring High Social Status Social status is definitely an indicator that she may be a gold digger or very high maintenance. Source: www.riseup247.com

You need to stop wasting your time with the people that you should know won’t work out. And you would know this if you actually paid attention to what’s happening. I know you’re not blind. And you’re probably not stupid. But chances are that you’re making mistakes that you could and should avoid. If you feel these three ways, you’re not truly in love.


1. You love your partner for how he or she makes you ‘feel.’ Feelings — or, as I like to call them, “misleading little bastards” — may be enough to make you fall in love with somebody. But that’s only if you’re naive. Most of what you’re feeling is a physiological response to the other person’s physical and psychological qualities (the way he or she loves, acts, thinks, etc.).
A person’s looks change over time. I’m sorry to tell you this, but it doesn’t get prettier. Just the same, someone’s inner self changes too. If it’s the right person, the changes will be less shocking. But people do change over time. If this is all that’s keeping you in love, then know that your love will fade.


2. You both want the same things in life. While it’s crucial to be compatible with the person you’re going to share your life with, compatibility isn’t everything. Maybe your partner makes you feel incredible. Maybe this person also wants to live in Hawaii, have three kids and spend days on the beach — just like you. But your relationship can still fall apart, because that’s not what matters most. Wanting the same things in life doesn’t guarantee total compatibility. Compatibility also means having similar personalities and values. Compatibility extends beyond the superficial. And if that’s all you have, how can you call it true love?


3. You’re with this person only for the sake of not being alone. No one wants to be alone. People fear it above all else — even more than death. They fear missing out on memories and experiences. They fear that they will leave this world alone, with no one to hold them and reassure them that everything will be okay. But that’s not enough of a reason to be with someone you don’t truly love. Ultimately, it doesn’t take a lifetime to know if the love you share is true. While people do change, the part of them that makes them who they are stays the same. They improve, but their core stays the same. This isn’t to say that true love is enough to keep two people together. Just like you might be deluded into believing you’re truly in love with your partner, you might mistake actual true love when you’re face-to-face with it.

People are capable of being stupid, making mistakes and screwing everything up. Believe me. I’ve lived it. Be observant. Be analytical. Be brave. And, most importantly, be honest. Source: www.riseup247.com

It feels so exciting when you fall in love and start a new relationship! New relationships are about hope, some expectations and fresh feelings. But sometimes a new relationship collapses when they hardly starts. I’ve been thinking about all my relationships, both successful and not so successful, and I’ve come to the conclusion that a good start determines the further outcome of your relationship. When you just start dating someone it’s very easy to make mistakes and scary the person away. Sure, every relationship is highly individual and unique, but here some universal tips to remember when you start a new relationship.


1. Don’t pursue your boyfriend I always found it difficult. When I fall in love with someone I want to spend every second with this person to get to know him better. I became literally obsessed with the guy and it’s often the main cause of all my unsuccessful relationships. Such an excessive attention is the sure way to frighten the person off. Try to avoid calling him every hour or typing romantic messages if you’ve just started dating. Guys love when a girl can take the first step, but they cannot stand when the girl is persistent or even annoying. On the other hand, try not to hold him back. Avoid these two extremes and find the golden mean in your communication.


2. Don’t pretend to be someone else When you like someone it’s natural that you want reciprocity. You want to gain the person’s approval and try hard to correspond to his expectations and preferences. However, you cannot make a different version of yourself. Sooner or later you’ll get tired to play this game and when he gets to know your true self, it’ll break your partner’s heart. When you pretend to be someone else, your guy cannot appreciate your real personality. If you know that your guy loves blue-eyed blondes, but you have beautiful brown tresses, you shouldn’t even think to dye your hair color! Try to be honest and open from the very beginning.


3. Your new boyfriend isn’t your previous one Never ever try to compare your current boyfriend with your previous ones. Moreover, you should never discuss your previous relationships with your guy. It’s the easiest way to make him suspicious and jealous about all your male friends, which will surely lead to a breakdown. This rule works both ways. While you should keep silent about your previous guys, try not to ask him about his girlfriends as well. You don’t really need to know the person’s past to get to know him better. While dating him you’ll have plenty of opportunities to see everything with your own eyes.


4. Avoid being too fast You’ve just started dating, but you’re already imagining your wedding and a happy family with 3 kids and a dog. Wait for a second, aren’t you too fast? Don’t cherish illusions as for your common future; everything is very uncertain at the beginning of your relationship and you still need a lot of time to explore each other. If you hint that you have some plans as for your future, be sure your relationship won’t go too far. I’ve noticed that most of my successful relationships occurred when I thought I had no chances with the guy. Remember that your relationship should develop its natural way. Your boyfriend shouldn’t tell you ‘I love you’ on the third date.


5. Don’t be the center of attention When you want to impress your new boyfriend, you can go too far boasting about your personality, interests, hobbies or whatever else. However, you can get too tiresome and boring. Instead, try to talk about his personality. Take an interest in his work, hobbies, family and past. When he’s talking about something, be a careful and active listener. Guys will never tell you that, but they like to be complimented! Compliments will raise his self-esteem and dignity. Say some kind words about his achievements or personal qualities.


6. Don’t gather information If you have common friends, don’t try to question them about your boyfriend. This is of crucial importance when it comes to his previous girls and relationships. If your guy finds out that (be sure he’ll find out), you will have a great difficulty trying to explain the situation to him. You shouldn’t rely on his social accounts either. What the person pretends to be online and what the person actually is are two totally different things. The best way to understand your partner is communication and spending time together.


7. Don’t be a perfectionist Many relationships fail simply because you expect too much from the person. Several years ago I composed the list of features I expected from my potential boyfriend. There were nearly fifteen traits of character, if I’m not mistaken. No wonder all my relationships collapsed very soon since I was too high-maintenance and any man could hardly satisfy my needs. However, I’ve realized that I’m not ideal either, so it’s rather dishonest to expect perfection from someone else. Both of you are human beings and it’s natural that you have some shortcomings and imperfections. A new relationship always gives you a chance to start everything anew. Even though the outcome of your relationship depends on many factors, you can still do a lot to make a good start.
Follow the aforementioned tips if you want to start a successful relationship and get married. What are some lessons you’ve learned from your past relationships? Source: www.riseup247.com

Social media is one of the greatest tools on the planet for staying connected, but ironically, it’s also potentially one of the most dangerous forces for tearing relationships apart. Here are a few of the most dangerous and destructive behaviors that you should avoid at all costs. If you don’t have the self-control to stop doing these things online, you, your relationships and the world would probably be a lot better off if you just deleted all your social media accounts. If you want to protect your relationships and your own reputation, NEVER do the following…


1. Publicly criticize or vent about someone. Especially in marriage, one of your primary roles as a spouse is to protect your spouse. That protection is not only a physical protection but a protection of their honor. It is never appropriate to air someone else’s dirty laundry in a public forum just to make yourself feel justified in your frustration towards them. This is also not a way to promote healing or growth in your relationship; it just creates a cycle of more resentment and dysfunction. Praise people publicly and if there’s ever a need for criticism, always give it privately and humbly.


2. Post anything at all while you’re angry or intoxicated. Anger and alcohol have one thing in common…they both make you say things that you’ll usually regret later. Ranting while you’re angry is kind of like throwing up…it might make you feel better, but it will make everyone around you feel sick.


3. Belittle people with opinions or beliefs different than your own. Especially in election seasons, I watch in disbelief as my “friends” from both sides of the aisle sling mud at one another on facebook. There’s rarely healthy or meaningful dialogue or debate; only insults and generalizations. I’m a person of strong convictions and I hope you are as well, but climbing on to an online soapbox and shouting insults at those who disagree with us isn’t a way to build relationships or win people to our way of thinking; it’s just another way to damage relationships.
Here’s the bottom line…every word you speak (whether online or in person) has lasting effects, so let wisdom guide your words. When I was a kid, Mom would say, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!” I think that’s especially good advice when it comes to social media. Source: www.riseup247.com

If you’re the one who messed up, it’s time you fessed up. Your relationship broke up. Maybe you lied or cheated. No matter what happened, getting your ex to forgive you is a little bit of work. But listen, it’s not completely impossible. First, a warning, however. Your ex’s forgiveness is never guaranteed. You might never get your ex to completely forgive you. What I can offer is a roadmap. And hopefully the roadmap will lead you to forgiveness and a second chance.


1. Decide what you really want. Sometimes all of this striving won’t really get you the kind of relationship that you want in the end. It’s important to take a step back and think about whether it’s your ex who you miss or it’s the act of being in a relationship with them that’s really bothering you.You can do everything under the sun to get your ex back, but if your relationship with them isn’t right in the first place, it’s a huge waste of time and energy. Once you get clear on this, and it’s your ex who you indeed miss, proceed.


2. Take complete responsibility for your part and apologize sincerely. So often we think that providing a genuine apology is a weakness, when really it’s the first step in getting things between the two of you to where they’re good again. Think of your sincere apology as opening the door and clearing the way to a better future between the two of you.
One caveat. You can’t apologize sloppily. What do I mean by sloppily? “Oh my goodness dear, wonderful ex, I’m the most wrong person in the history of wrongness, and everything I ever did was for us and I somehow lost my path. I love you now and forever, please forgive me. I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry.” There are a few problems with this. It comes off ultra pathetic, and it’s clear that you’re trying to get something from your ex.
Now, you ARE trying to get something from them (their forgiveness) but they can’t lose respect for you during your apology! This is better: “I wanted to let you know that I’m really sorry for (whatever I did). It wasn’t the right thing to do or fair to you. You deserve better. I’m sorry.” This is better for several reasons. First, it’s crystal clear exactly what you’re apologizing for. You aren’t groveling for the entire history of your relationship or making yourself look like a pathetic, sappy mess. You’re also recognizing and taking responsibility for the hurt that you caused them. Get in, get it done, get out.


3. Accept that they might punish you for a while. Sometimes we hope that we’ll say the magic apology and our ex will immediately jump back into our arms, ready to forget about everything that happened. Unfortunately, this seldom happens. Depending on what you did, your ex is possibly still angry with you and will have a difficult time treating you the way you wish they would treat you.
Now, I never advocate letting anyone abuse you, and it’s up to you to decide how much of an emotional beating you’re willing to take. However, happy times might not happen again right away, and you’ve got to let them work through the anger and hurt, even after your sincere apology. That leads me to my next point.


4. Give them time and space to forgive you. Knowing that they’re still upset or hurt can make us feel guilty and bad in our ex’s presence. We yearn for things between us to go back to how they once were, and we just want to get the whole process over with so things are happy again. The problem is that often we want all of this way too soon. It can take a long time for someone to feel better around you, and you have to recognize this when looking for forgiveness. Let them process their feelings and give them some space to do it.


5. Avoid becoming defensive. It’s up to you to maintain a clear head in the face of whatever they might toss your way. Avoid the temptation to roll into an emotional ball, re-apologize, or launch into more explanations for your behavior. Stay calm, accept that they’re still emotional about what happened, and make them feel heard. A good statement like “I completely understand why you’re upset about that,” works well. Let them get it out, and then gently move the conversation on or remove yourself from it.

You listing the 24 reasons why you did what you did and apologizing profusely YET AGAIN will just add fuel to the fire. Instead, keep your eye on your real end goal — a harmonious relationship with your ex. Getting defensive and fighting doesn’t accomplish that goal. I realize it’s hard when you feel like they’re attacking you, but it’s so important that you avoid saying something that you know will devastate them. Don’t fight back. Stay cool.


6. Continue trying to make it fun, even though it’s not fun right now. The biggest mistake that people make with their exes is that they let negative patterns continue while they’re trying to get their ex back. What I mean is that instead of using their actions to remind their ex how amazing things were in the beginning of their relationship, they go back in and rehash all of the old, negative emotions.

If you really want your ex to forgive you, this is the wrong thing to do because it reinforces the negative pattern between the two of you. If they’re going to forgive you and repair your relationship, breaking that negative cycle is absolutely crucial. Source: www.riseup247.com

So maybe there’s a reason your BF can’t stand your BFF. Can men and women just be friends? Most people agree that they can, with the help of clear boundaries. But when does an opposite s*x friendship cross the line? All relationships, whether romantic or friendly, are based upon some form of attraction. It’s not always physical or s*xual.
However, there’s some mutual interest or commonality that draws two people towards one another. While opposite s*x friendships may start off with the best of intentions, often the lines become blurred as the relationship develops. Here are 17 red flags that you’re either in a danger zone or have already crossed the line into more than just friendship with your “friend.”

1. You wait to share conversations with your friend.

2. You discuss your relationship problems with them and it’s a form of criticism towards your partner.

3. Your friend discusses his/her relationship problems with you.

4. You look forward to seeing your friend more than your own partner (The average couple engages in approximately five minutes of quality conversation per day).

5. You start making comparisons between your partner and your friend.

6. You offer more compassion and concern to your friend than your partner.

7. You fantasize what life is like with your friend.

8. You spend more alone time with your friend than your partner.

9. Your partner has absolutely no access to your conversations with your friend (voice mails, texts, emails, Social Media, etc.).

10. You secretly spend money on your friend without your partner’s knowledge.

11. Your friend is a source of argument and discord with your partner.

12. You lie and secretly figure out ways to spend time with your friend (leave early, stay late, etc.).

13. You accuse your partner of jealousy every time your friend is discussed.

14. You create exclusive rituals with your friend that you both highly anticipate.

15. You share feelings and intimate conversations with your friend, which creates an emotional connection.

16. You engage in sexually suggestive conversation with your friend.

17. You frequent social places and events without your partner, hoping to run into your friend. Where do you stand on opposite-s*x friendships? Whatever your answer is, make sure that you and your spouse are on the same page. Remember, that’s the most important relationship of all. Source: www.riseup247.com

If your partner is anything like mine – he has lots of fabulous beauty products – you can save some cash and steal some of those goodies without feeling guilty. Couples have a tendency to split the cost and share everything they have, from home and car to food and pets. But they rarely, if at all consider sharing their beauty products, except men’s razors. But it’s not the only thing you can steal from him. Whether you tell him or you hope he’ll never know, here are those products to steal from your partner:


1. Face cleanser. Who said girls and guys can’t use the same face cleanser? If you’re running out of your face cleanser and you’re almost broke, steal your boyfriend’s face wash. First, he’ll never notice that. Second, if he’ll notice, he won’t mind. After all, it’s hard to go a week or so without cleansing your face, isn’t it?


2. Zit cream. If both of you have skin problems like breakouts, blackheads and whiteheads, you can use one zit cream together. Men’s acne isn’t that different from women’s, so why spend tons of money on two separate zit creams when you can use only one? Who knows, maybe his zit cream will help you banish those pimples faster than yours?


3. Hair products. From shampoo to hair putty, you can steal any of his hair products you need right now. While yes, the scent of his shampoo is, well, a bit manly, but who cares? You won’t smell for long. Plus, if you use hair wax or mousse, that “manly” scent will quickly disappear. It’s better to use his shampoo than go with greasy hair all day long.


4. Shaving cream. Many girls are guilty of using their boyfriends’ shaving creams. But I decided to remind you. Just in case. While most beauty experts don’t recommend using men’s shaving creams, I have another opinion. Women’s shaving creams are made for legs, which means they do contain some harsh ingredients. Men’s shaving creams, on the contrary, are made for a face, which means they are a lot milder and softer for your beautiful legs than your ordinary shaving gel. What’s your choice?


5. Lip balm. My guy has a very sensitive lips so he can’t leave home without grabbing one of his fav lip balms (yep, he has lots of them.) When I’m too lazy to buy some lip balm for myself (or I just don’t want to spend my hard-earned bucks) I steal it from my boo. If you have chapped, dry lips and want a truly moisturizing lip balm, opt for your boyfriend’s one to get an instant relief.


6. Beard oil. If your boyfriend has a beard and use a high quality beard oil, I have good news for you. You can save a bit on your hair oil by using his beard oil once a week. He won’t notice it, but your locks will be more luscious, shining and healthy than ever. Perhaps, you’ve never think of it, but give it a try while your guy is hanging out with his friends. You won’t regret it!


7. Body wash. While taking shower you suddenly find out your body wash is almost done, what to do? No worries. Grab your boyfriend’s body wash and enjoy his smell all day long. It’s a good idea for gals who have long-distant relationships.


8. Cologne. Nowadays there are plenty of men’s fragrances that smell great, or even better, on women. Expand your fragrance choices by using your boyfriend’s cologne once in a while. If you wear it correctly, you won’t smell like a guy, don’t worry. Your boo may not even notice that you wear his fav fragrance. Ready to play a trick on him?

9. Deodorant Finally, you can also steal a deodorant from him. Women’s deodorants are overrated, overpriced and less effective than men’s deodorants. Plus, most women’s deodorants have terrible scents, especially when you get sweaty. Stealing your guy’s deodorant is a win-win solution! We all do it! Men steal our beauty goodies while we steal theirs. There’s nothing wrong in it. You might end up finding something better without spending money on new products that do more harm than good. Well, ladies, are you ready to be honest right now? What beauty products have you already stolen from your man? Source: www.riseup247.com

In any relationship, it’s crucial to stay yourself. That`s completely true and needs no explanation but being the forbidden fruit to men can make your life much easier. However, there`s no need to pretend that you`re not interested in guys at all. Being irresistible to men will let you get what you want from them without hurting their feelings or just using people`s trust. The other advantage of your insuperability is that it helps to hold a man close to you so that he never loses interest in your person. Here’s how to become that forbidden fruit for men:


1. Wait and date It may seem that this guy is really the one you need. However, even this strong yet often mistaken feeling should not interfere with your patience. Don`t a rush to tell the guy you like him. Be wise and strong. Behave the way a grown up woman does and give him a chance to show that he deserves you. Play with him. Run away and let him catch up with you but don`t go too far. If you do everything correctly, you`ll see that it`s even more exciting to keep the disturbing tension between you two a bit longer than usual. A hot man, who usually has no problems to take any woman to his bedroom, should do something more to win you. As a result, he acknowledges your unique individuality and becomes head-to-heel obsessed with you.


2. Diffidence causes indifference Confidence is genuinely one of the best girl`s traits. It`ll help you be the forbidden fruit to men as well. Stay confident and believe in everything you do to become the one who attracts men’s attention. Don’t be too self-confident, though. Otherwise, you`ll never manage to win a man`s appreciation.


3. Be a riddle We all like unusual things – something we love but can`t explain to ourselves. Try to be more intricate in men`s eyes. Don`t be an open book to everyone. They`re likely to be passionate about a woman they don`t know well. When a guy completes his crushe`s puzzle, he probably won`t be interested in such a woman anymore. Therefore, one of the most basic things to do to become irresistible to men is to keep a mystery about yourself.


4. Move like a cat A woman`s body can be a powerful tool that let you win any guy’s heart. Learn your body language and use it properly to become irresistible to men. The last thing you want to do is move your body like a stripper every time your meet him. Move like a cat with grace, charm, pace and style. If you’ve just started dating that guy, you can touch his hand, or run your fingers up and down his shoulder but nothing more. Think what other mini gestures will drive him crazy and practice more to become a real wild cat.


5. Don’t be his boss If you`re already in a relationship, the thing to avoid doing to stay irresistible is being bossy. Don`t rule your relationship like if there`s no his opinion. If all you do together belongs to your personal wishes only, your boyfriend will soon start looking for someone else. No man needs a partner who`d say him what to do. He needs the one who`d inspire and back him up.


6. The one you need is you Don`t let men think that you can`t live without them. Show that your life is happy even without a soul mate. Don`t pretend but just do so. Spend enough time improving yourself instead of crying over your crush. Even if you already have a partner you really love with all your heart, don`t be blind to the rest of the world except him. If a man sees that your comfort zone is something more than a relationship, he`ll always do his best to make you happy without asking for anything in return.


7. Joke and laugh but don’t be rough You don`t need to be a clown but having a good sense of humor will definitely help you be more attractive. Positive attitude also shows your confidence and you look independent in others` eyes. Joke when you feel it`s needed and laugh when you want to. Don`t be too serious because people may think that you have no time for pleasure like all those businesswomen. If you do, your crush will think that his attempt to ask you out on a date would probably be denied and he wouldn`t even try. Be simpler.


8. Don’t be a queen Some girls think that being needy is what makes us real women. They require 100% of attention from a guy and shower him with hundreds of obligations. Men hate needy and clingy girls. If you want him to be with you for long, don`t cage his life. Give him more personal space and don`t call or text every 10 minutes. It`ll make a man miss you and find more time to spend with you.

If you want to be irresistible to men, don’t be afraid to change yourself. Become more independent and don`t rely on a man`s support anytime you encounter problems. When he realizes that you`re worth nothing without him, he feels his power and starts ruling you and your life. Try to be lovely, serious, good humored, confident and sexy at the same time and it`ll make you a truly forbidden fruit every man would like to taste. What is the most difficult task for you from this list? Source: www.riseup247.com

If you cheat on someone, you simply don’t love or respect that person fiercely enough. — If you cheat on someone you’re dating, you don’t love that person. I’m sorry, but it’s true. If you are unfaithful, you are not in love. I don’t care if people “make mistakes.” I don’t give a flying f*ck if we’re “all human.” Cheating is not a mistake you make when you truly love someone. Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time:

YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE.


Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal and very preachy. If you are a person who has cheated on someone and still believes you love that person, you’re about to have your a*s handed to you. When I bring up this subject in my social circle, it quickly dissolves into a heated debate. Allow me to explain why I am undoubtedly correct when I say that you cannot cheat on someone you love. Let’s start at the very beginning. I should probably note that I’m not a saint when it comes to relationships. I know… shocker! I’m, in fact, a true, undoubted sinner. I’m a notorious cheater.

I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never really wanting to commit to a relationship — but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one. I’ve always valued my independence and ability to do whatever the f*ck I want, but I also enjoy having someone to cuddle and go to dinner with. During my bizarre and dreadfully muddled dating history, I’ve been the gluttonous harpy who must have her cake and eat it too.
My ideal situation was having my boyfriend wait for me at home while I was off kissing strangers in sketchy dive bars. In an ideal word, my boyfriend would have understood my need to be free. But that doesn’t happen in reality. In reality, I lied. I was “in a relationship” only when my boyfriend was present. I was a sh*tty girlfriend. I openly admit this. On top of all of this, I’m pretty transparent about my habits and the insatiability that stems from my deep-seated FOMO. But every guy who comes my way is positive that he will be the guy to change me. He will be the guy to make me give up my cheating ways. I had to wonder what was so wrong with me that I felt compelled to cheat on my boyfriends. I had to question why I never really felt guilty. I came to realize that everything had to do with the tepid feelings I had for the men I was dating.


I didn’t care enough about my relationships to not risk ruining them. I didn’t respect my partners enough to treat them like they were my partners. After a lot of contemplation, I’ve become absolutely sure that if you love someone and respect someone enough, you cannot cheat on that person. You simply cannot. It would kill you. Let’s talk about respect. It all comes down to respect. If you truly respect the person you’ve committed to, you will never be able to cheat on him or her. You would just not be capable of doing that to someone you care deeply about. For the first time in my crazy, messed-up love life, I believe that I am truly in love — madly, head-over-heels kind of love.
The difference with this relationship is that I have a deep and profound respect for my boyfriend. He treats me beautifully, he challenges me, and he is there for me whenever I need him. He is my best friend. I’m repulsed by the thought of letting another guy touch me. It makes my skin crawl. The idea of hurting someone I respect so much breaks my heart. I couldn’t. I wouldn’t. The only time I would do something like that would be if I didn’t honor him the way that I do. If you cheat on your partner, you do not respect him or her enough not to betray stray. You may as well leave now.
Your infidelity is all the proof you need that the two of you are not right for each other. You can certainly care for your partner, but you don’t care ENOUGH. I’ve cared for the men I have cheated on. I have loved each and every one of them in my own way. But I didn’t love them enough to be faithful. You can certainly care for — and love — a person you betray. You can obviously have feelings for this person. (You two are in a relationship, after all.) But you don’t love him or her enough.


If you truly loved this person with all of your heart, there would be no one else. Other men or women would not even exist for you. It’s understandable that you don’t want to give this person up. You love him or her. You want to be with him or her. But this is what you need to understand: If you cannot sacrifice the touch of another person — if you cannot resist the physical urge to f*ck someone else in favor of honoring your relationship — you do not value that relationship enough. You can feel that love, but it does not burn brightly enough. If you cheat on someone, you simply don’t love or respect that person fiercely enough. Allow me to restate my thesis:
YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE. I should know. I’ve been there..

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If marriage is in your future, you may be interested to know that your chances of getting divorced could be linked to the age at which you get hitched. And, new stats suggest that saying your vows later in life isn’t necessarily better, reports Yahoo Health.

A few years back, sociologist Nicholas Wolfinger, PhD, of University of Utah noticed a strange new pattern across data from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG): Marriage success and the age at which people married were not directly correlated (that is, in a straight line that showed increased success with increased marriage age, for example).


Instead, there was a small age window in the late 20s and early 30s that touted the lowest divorce rates overall. After a meta-analysis of over 10,000 NSFG respondents, plus a replication study conducted on his own, Dr. Wolfinger once again saw this remarkable U-shaped correlation, proving that what may have once been a linear relationship — marry as late as possible for the best chance of making it in the long haul — is now a sloping curve of delicate planning.


Predictably, newlywed teens and early twenty-some-things still run the greatest risk for divorce, but those who marry in their mid-30s and beyond run a similarly high risk. These results suggest that the best time to get married is in the aptly-named “Goldilocks age range” of 28 to 32. What, exactly, happened between 1995 and 2013 to cause that sudden drop-off of marriage viability in the thirtysomething set? Many factors could be at play, from the sudden onset of hookup culture FOMO to difficulties accommodating a partner’s ways after “years spent flying solo,” as Yahoo suggests.

That 28-32 age range may seem later than ideal to some, but as new Gallup data confirms, people in their 20s and 30s are taking longer to tie the knot than they have in previous decades. They’re often opting for cohabitation without a ring rather than boarding the marriage train. All we know for certain about the “Goldilocks age range” for marriage is this, straight from Dr.Wolfinger: “Its existence is beyond question.” So you may want to put away that wedding Pinterest board for another couple of years. Source: www.riseup247.com

So you’re having trouble getting past the first date, with pretty much everyone you’ve spent time with lately. You can’t figure out what’s going wrong. Do you have bad breath? Is the restaurant you always suggest too expensive? Is your new haircut ugly? Possibly.
But maybe you’re not the problem at all. It’s just, well, the things you like to talk about. As fun as it can be to share that crazy story about getting the stomach flu on your trip to Thailand, or to explain how you can’t believe you ever voted for President Obama, you may not leave your date impressed when you bring up these topics. Yes, you’ll certainly be remembered by them, but probably not in the best of ways. They’ll probably share your stories over drinks with their friends, laughing about what a “weirdo” you were. And no, don’t expect them to text you tomorrow.
Eccentricities that you think are charming and delightful are not super cute to that hot girl sitting in front of you. Not everyone is charmed by your irrational fear of birds, or thinks Irritable Bowel Syndrome is appropriate dinner table conversation. While you’re at it, you may just want to err on the side of caution, and avoid these topics in general (Note: All listed topics have not gone over so well in real life dating situations, just in case you were wondering):



1. Politics Most of the time, people feel strongly about certain political issues, particularly when it comes to social issues and foreign policy. Unless you know for a fact that your date only reads the news when they’re bored in a doctor’s office waiting room, or they share your precise political position of “fiscally conservative, socially liberal with a hawkish perspective on foreign policy,” it’s better to just skip politics.
Politics stir up strong emotions, as most well-informed people already have their stance on major issues like abortion, immigration, and war, and your beliefs are not going to change their mind. If you try to discuss it, you may put the other person on the defensive. Politics are something to discuss down the line, lest they keep you from giving a great person a shot at a second date. So wait until you’ve realized that you actually like and respect one another as people. Then you can decide that you simply “cannot date someone who actually liked Bill Clinton.”


2. Religion People are religious about religion. Prolific, right? The reality is, many people are either raised with a religion and have cherished it for years, are raised with a religion and absolutely hate it, or were raised with no religion at all and don’t believe in it. Like politics, a lot of people have strong feelings about it. A lot don’t, which will make it an easier topic of conversation down the road. But religion is not the best material for the initial stages of dating.
Of course it’s important that your religious values align somewhat, or at least don’t conflict. Still, the subject is deeply personal to some, deeply upsetting to others, and it could definitely put you and/or your date on the defensive (again). Religion is serious stuff. It’s one thing to simply say, “I was raised Catholic,” “I don’t go to church,” or “I’m Jewish and going to Israel for a Birth Right trip.” It’s a whole other thing to discuss the intricacies of your upbringing in the church, or the extent to which you don’t believe in God. Unless of course you met at church and know that you have common ground on the subject, in which case, you’re probably fine.


3. Bodily Functions. Don’t tell her you just farted. No, really, she won’t think it’s funny. She’ll just be afraid that she’s going to smell it. Ideally, you won’t fart, burp, or anything else at dinner. But men in particular seem willing to talk about bodily functions pretty casually, especially compared with women.
Unfortunately, unless she’s your best friend who you’ve known for years, she probably doesn’t want to think of you that way just yet. Sure, we all do these things, but it doesn’t mean we can’t pretend that the person we’re with isn’t a little smelly and a little gross sometimes. It’s nice to sustain that illusion for as long as possible, and see someone in the best, most unrealistic light possible while we still can.


4. Creepy Sexual Comments. Even if you think it’s not creepy, it probably is coming across that way. Saying anything sexual, unless you’re dating just to hook up, is most likely not going to go over well, especially with the ladies. In addition to making you sound like you’re coming on way too strong, it also breaks down any level of romanticism.
It’s fun to have a little mystery in the beginning, and wonder what the other person is thinking. Sexual comments make it pretty clear what you want from the get-go. And while it’s nice to know that the person you’re with is attracted to you, it’s also great to see that they’re interested in your wit, charm, and remarkable intelligence.
5. Illnesses.

Source: www.riseup247.com

sweetorgasms:
well dis post is nt my bizzness bcaus i have dated girls b4 but i have no EX

Lolz. So the girls you dated before, what do you call them??

When there’s no chance of rekindling the romance you once had, sometimes you’re left with only one choice: Move on. Here are 10 ways to help you forget about him and move on:


1. Change Your Frame Of Mind Our minds are so incredibly powerful that you can control your thinking, even when you think you can’t. He’s holding important space in your mind, and it’s time to kick him out! He’s no longer welcome anymore.


2. Close The Door When you start to think of him, visualize a beautiful, large red door and slam it firmly closed. Then immediately change your thoughts to something fun, relaxing and/or positive. You are in control, and you’re choosing positivity.


3. Stop Social Media Snooping You can’t watch him on social media to see what he’s doing or who he’s with. Social media makes everyone look happy, so this will only hurt you! Block him so it’s not even a temptation.
4. Don’t Ask Friends For Updates Hearing what he’s doing with his new woman or friends is just a way to hurt yourself and prolong the pain, so stop asking.


5. No Drive-Bys Stay away from his house. No late night drive-bys to see who’s there. Out of sight, out of mind.
6. Delete His Contact Information Erase his numbers and email from your phone (and all electronics), just in case you’re tempted to try to contact him in a weak moment. Stay strong. You can do this!


7. Stop Talking About Him You can discuss the ordeal with your friends when it happens, but do not keep rehashing it. If you feel the need to understand it better, counseling is a great way to deal with this.
8. Keep Busy Push yourself to get out and be with your friends, family or start something new. Try a new hobby — exercising, group activities, anything that keeps your mind occupied.


9. Journal Writing is very therapeutic and helps you heal. It’s important to journal the negative experiences because our minds have a way of only remembering the good times when we’re lonely.


10. Use Positive Affirmations Daily Every morning and evening give yourself affirmations to build your self-esteem. We project our feelings to others, so use positive thoughts to attract healthy people into your life. Source: www.riseup247.com

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