Ishilove:

You stoop to conquer. When you were marrying her, there were elders, not so? Go to those elders since her mum is not behaving like one.

You obviously love your wife. It is written all over your posts. Don't let useless pride rob you of a good thing, so be the man and initiate a reconcilation via those elders, but you have to lay some ground rules.

I really love her so much. both of us have made great sacrifices for each other.

MrBrownJay1:


sista Ishilove, why na?!? the woman wasnt driven away, she left on her own decision. so at least, he should make sure she has all her belongings, so that she can do what she pleases, and so can the OP. or you think she can go and hold him prisoner while she plays with his emotional state?

if this woman believes she is free to leave and live her life doing whatever she desires, then why cant the OP do the same with his own life?!?!?!

You're so on point my brother, that's exactly what I've been thinking & feeling ever since she left. Seeing her stuffs at home is hurting me the more & hindering me from moving on with my life

Ishilove:

OP, disregard this advice please. It is on Nairaland that we see single people advising married people how to make a marriage work.

Thanks a lot.

GraGra247:
In all marriages that work, one person always stoops low and bears a lot of the brunt. The other partner eventually learns to reciprocate or even may not. I mean all marriages that work.

In the posters marriage nobody wants to stoop low.

Perfect reason why many marriages eventually fail.

You're very very right... But she has tried a lot too in being the fool & making it work. Right now I don't know whats in her mind. Could she have gotten over the marriage

thorpido:
The way you're both handling your marriage isn't right.
If you can't talk to the mother for reasons you stated what about an older sibling is a close elder in their family?

They all behave like her mother

Deffjam:
u better don't call her 'yet' but i will advice you to call her dad and explain to him don't explain as if you are begging oo.....explain like you are telling him let ur voice be loud and clear.

her dad is late, one of the thing that is hindering me from going to tell her mother again is cos the mother believes anything she tells her without hearing from me

Few days back I posted a topic on how my wife left home with our 2years old son after a little issue that even animals will laugh at us when they hear it because of how trivial the issue is. Now this is what is at stake

1. She hasn't called since she left a week ago & I haven't called either because I didn't chase her.

2. None of her family has called to know why she came back home though I don't Blame them, it depends on what she must have told them.

3. Perhaps she has moved on already, its no problem but let her come and pack her belongings. I sent her a text to come & pack her stuffs then whoever she is ready to come back she's free but I'll never follow up at her family house & she replied that she's not expecting me to follow her up cos she knows I'm not gonna come after her.

5. My decision is, if she doesn't come back by Sunday or at least come to pick her things, I'll move on & I don't care if she comes anytime & see me with a babe at home. I can't remain single hoping she comes back when perhaps she's already found a boyfriend.

6. Some of you would think its pride that is making me not to go to her family but no, I don't want to look stupid cos I've done that severally.

7. Maybe I'm here killing myself with thinking while she's at her family house laughing.


Waking up to see her stuffs in my house is really hurting me the more & making it difficult for me to move on.

I really need your advice guys, pls

DICKstractor:
From the tone of your voice on the first paragraph, I thought you lost your family member to death. Thank God I was wrong.




Back to the topic
Since, it's just one week since she left, you should give her time and space. Let her reminisce about old days, she will come back to her senses.

Answer this questions first
1. Have you tried contacting her family?
2.What did you do to prompt her to leave in that manner?
3. Is this her first time of leaving or have she trethened you before with it?
4. How many second chance have she given you?

I've not contacted her family yet cos I feel they are suppose to contact me & ask why she left, then secondly on a very fair basis, we've both given each other several second chances.

I've never known loosing someone you love could be this painful. I've never experienced a heart break in my life, I'm 30years of age. We've been married for almost three years & blessed with a baby girl.

Pls guys I really need help on how to move on its really draining me & causing me serious depression. I've not done anything bad to her, she just left on her own after a little issue. I'm not perfect though. Its exactly a week now since she left, no call & no text at all but she's yet to pack a lot of her clothes & other stuffs.