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Natasha,,:

south chi I match all you desires and even more I know how to belly dance I'm a funny person, I know how to . . . and other stuffs you didn't mention so can we get married? as it is now I just want to get married

Good for you! and No to the proposal.

Ms. Potato:

@ Poster, I can bet with you even the Virgin Mary no fit your criteria

You are being extreme.

Pweety4me:

^^I'm not, anywayz what do u possess from what u listed above?i mean what do u ave to put on the table?

This was just a "hypothetical" topic for my "ideal" wife, but swiftly turned into a bashing match.

So much hatred toward positivity! So much negativity towards high standards.

smh@all the negativity

10k - thats $10,000 usd right?

mirob:

Is it wrong or too early to ask a guy 4 money(like 10k) in just one month of knowing him just to know how generous he is? thou he gives like 3k for cab when I visit.

If he spending 3k for your cab?(however possible) Then obviously 10k is just pocket change but I'd suggest at least 3 months before you asked for 100k.

Mrs, Chima:

LMAO@pushing my wife in a wheelchair because I treats her like a queen.

Gone brutha!

I've seen people do this right and I've always been impressed by that. So if that day ever comes then so be it.

upendo 98:

I like this forum.It really makes me laugh so much.Keep bashing and tripping each other. Now if one needs a barbie kind of wife well they are all over really. I always fear one thing.If you are only into physical beauty,what will you do if say you tie the knot,a nasty accident happens and she gets messed up? Will you leave her for another barbie?You know God can let things happen to just teach you a few life lessons. Point is, physical beauty is just a plus not the most important thing.Of course we all know that.

I definitely regard the inner character as indispensable in terms of finding a mate.

I love a chocolate woman, they are the most beautiful females to me. However, I plan to be with my beautiful wife through thick and thin, accidents,  or any misfortune.

I will push her wheelchair around like it was the throne for a queen. Know that!

minhaz:

its like we have been goin out for 1.5 years and now i want to convince her mother to give her daughters hand to me.I have done everything for her and i also respect her family members and also have supported them in their bad times and also treated their daughter like a princess. But in the end her mother told her that "just be like friends". Can anyone tell me how to convince her mother? because i just dont want to lose her at any cost.

You sound like you have good moral judgement and are on the right track to being a success man.

Know that you can only do the best you can, never force anything!

Instead, focus on improving yourself and supporting your girlfriend the best way you can.

I also encourage you to work and go to school. Save your money and invest in things like a car.

Good Luck!

As my wife she would without question have my complete attention during her opportunity to be completely transparent about these phone calls.

I would really hope that the math all adds up!

Its okay to love and lose love.

Be happy for her but keep your eye on the prize(your future career).

Don't be so focused on somebody that doesn't want you whereby you can miss out on the ones that do.

You story as a whole gives me the impression that she's not ready to be 100% faithful.

If you lead with your heart, then approach with extreme caution!

I was born and raised in America and I hate to sound ignorant but hygiene especially orally probably ranks as one my top fears also.

Richvkunt:

Dawg,
I am a real African man and if I want a woman I would go about it in a direct way.
I would never go in such a sneaky and obnoxious way.
Dude this is my last post to you.
NL ladies,over to you.
Peace,am out!

smh@"this is my last post to you"

This post was your opportunity to say what you want in a Nigerian bride BUT YOU OPTED it better to make conversation with me about my defense of woman combined with my interest in them.

Laughable! I love womennnnnnn! And will protect them, from my grandmother on down! Know that!

I'm very direct. My compliments are direct. My support is direct. My positive thoughts are direct. However, you are so misdirected that you seem to ONLY believe in direct negative behavior with no shame.

Richvkunt:

Dawg,am finished with you.
you 've been BUSTED!
The wenches are already fighting over you.
Goodluck.

Busted? on a public forum. LOL. I have nothing to hide.

I'm SINGLE and AVAILABLE. Yessir I am!

I love educated women and no shame in expressing that!

I was raised to respect women. Yessir, guilty as charged!

I speak my mind and I hate people that prey on the weak! Guilty again!

Now, your "finished with me", you were finished when you started! Grow up.

190:

     

Richvkunt:


Storyyyy.
Dawg,I wasn't born yesterday.
Just come straight and say you want a female on this forum.
The sneaky way you have gone about it reeks of desperation and is simply pathetic.
Well Ladies I present to you your knight in shinning armour.

You wasn't born yesterday but you should have been because you are out of touch with reality.

You have invested in so much negativity that you can't fathom the motives of people that do the opposite( invest in positivity).

I'm single and available. I'm not denying that but you must be a fool if you think I'm going to let you guys disrespect these women on here without reproof. Never that!

cold:

Ok we have heard you,can you now give it a rest

NO. No resting. The strong never sleep. ha ha!

tunnytox:


Goodluck in your search

More importantly is to be a productive contributor to the common good of all my brothers and sisters.

Richvkunt:




This guy has opened a thread where he is advertising himself as looking/not looking for a certain kind of Nigerian woman.
I know their type.
So much for all the sanctimonious BS he has been spewing on this thread.
Ladies of NL I present your knight in shinning armour sent to rescue you from dinosaurs like Richvkunt.
Pathetic!

Another feeble attempt to undermine a mature and positive brother.

I love and respect women. Point Blank!

I believe in strong independent women those are the ones I prefer to date(yes I'm single

I will always speak against womanizers and abusers without shame!

End of Story!

tunnytox:

@OP
What do you have to offer?

thats for my potential future wife to ask and discover

Richvkunt:



I knew this guy was up to no good the way he was carrying on on another thread;Acting as a cheerleader for all the misguided females on NL.
You should have told them staight away you were/are looking for a wife on NL.
Goodluck.
May you find what you seek.

Actually, I started this thread because I was appalled by a pattern of threads that seem to degrade women.

I made this thread as an opportunity to say something nice for a change.

tutuwater:

Why cant you all be open minded and allow each and every female to choose their prefered roles.

And stop claiming the american custom works better.

Actually those insinuating there is no child support laws for divorce are wrong. There is.

But contrary to your belief nigerians are more traditional and wont necessarily do something because it is the inthing. They will rather follow established norms in their culture.

@ LovePeddler chima,@southchi  i will like to know the percentage of americans who either was raised by one of the parent, has a step parent at one time or the other in their life and those not raised by any parent compared to those raised by both parent.

If raising and nurturing children is the true purpose of marriage then i beleive tne nigerian society is fulfiling its (marriage) purpose.  

Run run run, you guys are very slippery when it comes to escaping the fallacy of oppression.

Everything that America is doing wrong is NOT justification to stop everything America is doing right!

America is a melting pot of cultures, nationalities, race, gender and religion.

American laws are intended to protect Universal Human Rights(google that).

If you are fortunate enough to become a citizen you'll have a vote, the ability to sue and protest.

As a citizen from Nigeria living in America, you can marry a Nigerian woman that shares your views and live happily ever after.

That's the beauty of FREEDOM.

190:

My Nigerian wife has to be like this

Anything below this is a NULL AND VOID to her  

LOL!

I'm not mad at you. You have good taste.

[ I'm NOT looking but if I were - ]

My "ideal" Nigerian Wife has to be a virgin or the closest thing to it! (of course, there's always an exception

She needs a bachelors degree or higher. I LOVE educated women!

She has to know how to dress and speak like a grown woman. (eye glasses are a plus, I love the nerd look )

She has to be a non-smoker, drug free, disease free(and tested).

She will be small in the waist and cute in the face (No Acne). Long natural hair with good hygiene.

She'll likely listen to a variety of music including Hip Hop, R & B and Reggae Music and lovvvvessss to dance!

I'll consider it a plus, if she's a great cook! and I'd be mesmerized if she can sing!


These are a few of the qualities I appreciate in a Nigerian woman. What are yours?

kandiikane:

Your own opinion, but this my how my marriage will be. . .Being an engineer should not stop you from looking after your husband and family. . .I am not going to be a stay at home wife, I too am going to bring money in my home but even after work I will still come home and take care of my husband. . .

Lucky man!

Mynd_44:


and how do you describe the right woman?

Thats for him to decide but I would encourage a woman that is clean, perhaps a virgin also. A virtuous woman that can match you in what you have to offer.

lari03:

do you know divorce and its trauma is most prominent among educated people ?(college/uni). Well in naija homosexuals are taboos,we don't have gay activism here and black people hustle hard that's why we are in the US and in every other continent.

Its NOT intelligent to blame divorce on education.

Its interesting how you point the finger at everything except FREE WILL.

If you want to cultivate respect in your marriage then you have to plant that very seed into it. OPPRESSION isn't the seed for the fruit you're struggling to bear.

Mrs.Chima:

Homosexuality is looks down upon in Nigeria. Do you really think homosexuals would PUBLICLY announce they are gay/lesbians?  Come on now.  Epic fail!  

Women outnumbered men not because there aren't that many male births but because of the constant needs of wars and violence.  There will always be single women IN BOTH USA AND NIGERIA.  We do not know how many single women without accounting for every FEMALE and assessing marriage license.  Sorry boo boo.  

Domestic violence is equally in both America and Nigeria.  The harsh treatment of women in Nigeria are astounding and I do not blame them for fleeing either.  A sane person would flee from a harmful situation.  In America, women can take their husbands or boyfriends to jail and not worry about leaving with nothing because the system doesn't have the same oppressive system toward women than in Nigeria.  Let keep it real, you know that women in Nigeria leave with nothing after the divorce.  Do you really think a woman who can't support herself or has nowhere to go will ask for a divorce when problems on both side are unbearable?  Come on now.  Epic fail!

The law and divorce favoritism are the reasons why there are more noticeable divorces in the West as you calls it than in Africa.  DUH.  

One thing that I notice is the greater the need to FORCE people into hiding is indicative of the number of people that are actually in hiding. And when the walls come tumbling down(and they always do), I'd bet the numbers in Nigeria will be huge!

I've also notice that "attractive quality" women tend to live in communities with the LEAST amount of abuse/disrespect toward women. For instance, the most violent neighborhoods in Chicago are predominantly males and they are very disrespectful toward women thus there are noticeably few women in those areas. In contrast, beautiful educated women tend to live in places like my neighborhood, Hyde Park (where Obama lives) because they probably feel safer and the respect factor dominates.

There are slightly more men than women in Nigeria in particular and that disparity will likely increase as more women leave to less oppressive nations. It will take a war to stop this trend.

Again, America does a superior job at reporting domestic violence compared to countries with unsophisticated law enforcement and cultures that turn a blind eye to abuse.

lari03:

do you know divorce and its trauma is most prominent among educated people ?(college/uni). Well in naija homosexuals are taboos,we don't have gay activism here and black people hustle hard that's why we are in the US and in every other continent.

SMH@ womanizers supporting other womanizers that cheat on their women, while remaining married. A JOKE!

In other words, just because Nigerians tend to stay married while they  "cheat in the name of polygamy" doesn't not mean damage to Nigerians families & society hasn't been inflicted.

Americans divorce all the time over "adultery"( another bible word, that Nigerian men don't seem to use ).

I rather live in a FREE NATION that "divorces" adulterers  than a nation that protects them.

emmatok:

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@SouthChi

I am begining to suspect you.

Your claims up there is wrong.

Their are more educated women in the west.

But  homosexuality more among American men than Nigerian men.

Violence again women is more common among American and European men .

What about fail marriages, single mothers e.t.c.

And yet western women are more educated.

Quit hating Nigerian Men.

Honestly you are trying to compared America to Nigeria?

Less than 2% (arguably) of the USA is homosexual. How many gay men hiding behind pulpits in Nigeria?

America is filled with millionaire females. Filled with female doctors, lawyers, judges, political leaders and etc.

America in NOT perfect but most Nigerians wouldn't pass up the chance to come here, so stop kidding yourself.

I serious doubt violence against women is more prevalent in the USA. I think the American government does a superior job or prosecuting and reporting abuse than Nigeria.

I bet if American laws that protect women from abuse were imposed in Nigeria that 35% of the men would be arrested within the first month, whether it be stalking, domestic violence, violating restraining orders, child support or something. Nigeria would have to build 50 prison a year to keep up with the all the arrest.




Lastly, I don't hate Nigerian men. I hate ignorant people regardless of your nationality. Nigeria will continue to grow and develop while the old "cave men" mentalities will continue to be marginalized until forgotten.

I would report it.

I think more Americans especially Black Americans need to be more vigilant about reporting illegal Africans in America.

I think Nigerians are racist against Black Americans therefore illegal Nigerians should be reported immediately.

Black Americans should also look for signs of Nigerian foreigners abusing our women for citizenship AND DEFINITELY have that abuser kicked out on his behind!

ON THE OTHER HAND, black Americans should embrace LEGAL Nigerians especially those seeking an education.

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