MRBrownJ:
@OP
this child is your SON whether you contributed to anything in his life or not. you have the RIGHT to demand to see him, although i am not too sure if some deluded in laws would stop you from having such a contact. if you are not a threat to the child's life and wellbeing then there shouldnt be any issue. remember, do NOT accept any blackmail that they may ask of you, in order for you to see your son. if you are broke (and there is nothing wrong with that) then you cant provide for the child, and thats what you have to say. tell them that you will provide for him as soon (and as much) as you possibly can, when you get on your feet. DO NOT GO BACK TO THAT JOB, no matter how they want to package it.

to be a proper father for this child, you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and believe in whom you see in the mirror. you tried your best to make this insane situation work, and you fail. let this be a great lesson for you.

as for your ex, you should be nice to her, but certainly forget about having a r/ship with her until you BOTH grow up, but you should be nice to her .... as for the MIL, the next time she remotely talk to you in a demeaning way, give her the best tongue lashing of her life by telling her your
mind.

eremy:
@ steeze, I would like to send you a PM. You need someone with a similar experience to advise you.

brunnette4real:
If the lady is still tied to her mothers apron sstring,not matured for marriage then don't marry her yet.since you are still a fresh grad. Why not be settled first before marriage because marriage and raising a family requires money.
I will advise you be involved in your sons life ,don't talk anything marriage with her just make your observations about her character and be careful of her mom,you are a man now,you have to be wise and apply wisdom with the mother.

Feranchek:
I still dey find that babe wey go geh belle for me.
Bro, as long as you're responsible, even the court won't deny you access to your boy. I smell doom going back to that family. You've seen more than enough even without being part of the family. Her mum's influence won't change biko. And as for your baby momma, try to be friends with her for the sake of your kid.
God bless you.

aflyingbird:
he is your son , u hv a legal right to be in his life , they can't keep u from him . get a Lawyer if u must . get ur own family n friends involved to support u , show dem u hv pple . her mother wanted to put a wedge between u and d daughter n u let her succeed . frustrating u to d point of moving out was wat she wanted . maybe she was jealous of ur relationship with d daughter but u shoulda kept in touch with her ater u left . d daughter, do u still luv her ? u don't hv to be with her if u don't . never get back because of a child unless u want all of u to be miserable including the poor baby . buh if u still love her , try working it out buh u hv to find a way to get her away from her mother's control . twhat u should do now's talk to her into letting her see ur child . buy diapers, clothes, other things the baby needs n give her when u see her, it will show u care. get a job so u can be giving her something to take care of him every month . ur son needs u in his life , do wat u need to do as a man to stay be in his life

tearoses:
Op whose 3 bedroom apartment did you move into?
When you left your MIL's employment did you leave to go to a new job?
Are you working now?
What are your parents/family doing about all this?
Were/are they in touch/have a relationship with your gf before and after the baby was born?
Do you also mean that if you hadnt seen the picture of your baby, you would have just walked away just like that?

rudebouy:


If day wont let u SEE, as in touch and hold ur child alone, Baba abeg move on with ur life oh. Abi sperm don finish for ur body?

No time for stress dis days oh, except u enjoy emotional stress and drama sha.

kelvine:
Bro I can relate with your story 100 percent. I wish to have a private chat with you if you don't mind PM me.

innervoice:
@Steeze

Be a man, grab your girl and your son and free them of the girl's mother.

Ab025:
First thing is, reconcile back with your gal,

secondly, find a way to organise and go through with the marriage with her and never mind whatever insults or curses the mum hauls at you.

Finally, get a job and man up, you ain't a kid anymore but a daddy. You need to live with hour gal and baby as a family.

#Note:, After you marry her, her mum has no more control over her again so don't bother yourself with her present insults and initial gragra

Ab025:
First thing is, reconcile back with your gal,

secondly, find a way to organise and go through with the marriage with her and never mind whatever insults or curses the mum hauls at you.

Finally, get a job and man up, you ain't a kid anymore but a daddy. You need to live with hour gal and baby as a family.

#Note:, After you marry her, her mum has no more control over her again so don't bother yourself with her present insults and initial gragra

rudebouy:


Den call her and tell her u wanna come see ya son. U dont have to have custody of him. He just nids a father's touch. Babies have emotional nids which include dia fada's cuddle.

Or wd dat cos world war 3?

corisande:
Hmmmm let me call some people to help put mouth for your matter
Babyosisi1/babyosisi
Efemenaxy

rudebouy:
Wot do u want out of dis?
Ur son, ur girl, or ur life and sanity?