400billionman:


If a lady is punishing a guy emotionally, she is loving someone else. Or her love for you is divided.

I have been the victim, i have also been the benefactor in this circle of love. A woman who loves you wholeheartedly is never in a dilenma.

She cries and begs you to marry her. She even kneels and promises to honor you if only you can say I DO.

For the sake of that KNIFE threat, bros QUIT.

thanks for d advice

400billionman:
What of the other guy she mentioned ?

Is he Hausa or Igbo ?

This may be the source of her dilenma. Since she says North is far for her, yet the guy stays in same state with you as you mentioned.

The other guy is Igbo ooo.

zaragal:


Good bless you my brother, dis op is looking for ways to rubbish the gurl and feel like he is the perfect one jst hear him " I know I wrong her esp the break "but then no one is perfect " as he still claim right over his wrong and still feels he is alright to sin..jat I hate folks like dis...very self righteous and judgemental...why is he telling us all dis thrash no. So we can judge the the gal or wat??...this op is a very wicked person..honestly he don't worth my tym...

I respect her culture but then should dat be a priority at this point? Nobody knows who will die first and if she eventually passed on before me I will not do anything contrary to what her family will demand. D priority should be on how to build a loving family together. of course I wouldn't hesitate to pay my wife her last respect by granting her wish.

zaragal:
Una no dey judge well ooo....u guys forgot the op treated her unfairly.....we aren't meant to judge this way, no body heard from the lady in question and we are already throwing stones...Btw the op treated her badly. For breaking up with the poor lady after so many pleads simply because he wants to hook up with his parents match-mak, Wasn't he emotionally unstable too??...Where the heck was his love the first time he broke up wit her....do u hav an idea the heart break from her part?? No! Perhaps this new guy loved her when the op threw her out, and now she is finding a hard tym deciding to pick a prodigal boyfriend over a guy who stayed with her all the way. I mean dat enough to make u super confused.

My problem with this op is so much impatient and pride...jst a few days of "attitude" and u are calling it a quit??..you don't hav to idea wat u really want in life dude because marriage is not really want we watch in the movies everything is played perfectly...u can never and will never get a perfect woman....any woman will wrong u one way or the other some might cheat on u for years without ur knowledge...dis is the devil u knw for 5 years so better dan the angel u don't know. Ur woman whoever will annoy u and do lots and lots of crazy stuff I hope u file her a divorce papers few days later....mtcheew... imagine the texts over few days turn up "it's too late".....i don't think u knw wat love is about maybe you should use ur bible 1cor 13:4-7... read it through...love is patient if u really love that lady wen she was emotional indecisive the perfect timing for u to be perfect and prove her dat u hav err in the past but now u come to stay not saying "am moving on" "it's too late"...pple calling her a cheat accuse her wrongly actually she was honest enough to tell she is liking someone else and u don't appreciate that??...Wat if she kept it from you and then break up few days to ur wedding dat would serve u right...@ less she was honest the more reason u should hav appreciated her and prove to be a better man..instead u are still claiming to be right over ur own wrongs...u broke the pitcher dude...u've got to fix it! Or better still move on but don't take ur impatience and pride along

Btw....i really blamed her for threatening u with knife...dat is the only reason I can say u shouldn't marry her because of her poor anger management.....but for any other reason u are the mess

Nairaland stop judging people pple..

Seems u don't understand me. I have been supportive all d years in her academics and am not in any way trying to put in her bad light either.

I have seen enuf example of divorce stories for me 2 learn from. The question is why would she inform d other guy that she is getting married to me? all of a sudden d guy just woke up from slumber and decided to hit nails left, right and centre. That he even told her of all d pastors he visited, they told him she is his wife and he will do watever it takes to make sure am not married to her. Am not saying d guy is lying or saying d truth but Wat if I told her d same story nko? I have been praying but for God sake I can't fabricate lies to build my marriage on.

I've done everything possible within dis period to make her understand this is a distraction. love is forgiveness. I admire her courage for telling me d truth but I believe my God made dat possible to guide me in decision making.

She threatened me with knife and i still went ahead to say I will marry her but u find it hard to think I've forgiven and humbled myself to ask for her forgiveness. Nobody its perfect and I've gone extra miles.

obiorathesubtle:
Op, my advice. You from the north, stay and marry in the north, because all this Biafra protest going on in the east ehn, her people might cut off your d/ck and e-mail it to buhari the next time you visit them without your parents consent or knowledge, you loved her. Move on! There are better women out there

U funny ooo.

I can't really say weda her parents have direct influence negatively on this situation. for now am sure my next trip to d east will be on official assignment from my office of which chances are very slim but not on love voyage.

I admit that I had treated her badly especially the break up but then nobody is perfect and I did asked for her forgiveness and second chance to make up of which I endured bashing and all sort of insult from her.

While I was in her village back then in August, she made one silly request that shocked my bones. That I should promise to bring her corps back home wen she die. I was like its this gal ok or its just my ears deceiving me? how is dat an important issue? does burying person in his home guarantee eternity or what? I pretend not to hear her and warn her to desist from such ill talks.

Its obvious to me now that this a case of two like poles that will repeal each other. Again I have to agree with d saying that "What an elderly person see from a far even if a child climbs d tallest mountain cannot see it" My mum might not be right always but I trust her intuition/judgement on most cases.

JumpingChicken:


So after the above, you still need advice abi? If I slap you, you will wake up in yesterday. Ode!

Guy sometimes things like this is not easy to strike out wen at a point I felt I could still make it work. But now I think am done.

Strahovski:
Even the Epistle of Peter sef... no reach this one.

Ha bro I did not read the thread but my advice don't marry her because you mention forgive which means she did something wrong and it means she can do it again.

Tanks bro, but honestly speaking she threatened me with knife on two occasions before but later told me she didn't mean it. I guess my love for her made me weak to take a strong position on dat but I think these recent events makes me flash back at those instances.

I have been dating this gal for almost five years now, though we had issues but we were able to manage tough situations along d way. My mom likes her as person but being an Igbo gal and me a Northerner doesn't attract my mum support to finally settle down with her.
So early this year, I decided to quit the relationship on ground that lack of support from family could spell doom for her & my entire life as a whole if I eventually go ahead to marry her even though my family may not stop me. She begged and cried but I stood my ground on ending it. It got to a point where she was not talking to me while staying in my aus cos her parent had moved to d East and she only came back to pack sum of their belongs and join her family in d East but also to confirm d position of our relationship as well. after series of talks and explanation that didn't yield understanding between us she finally left on Val's day to d east.
My mum had a preference 4 me but I don't really like her plus she seemed not smart/intelligent, and does not posses sum qualities I like in my ex. I tried to work it out but to no avail. I couldn't cope so had to quit after four months and during that period I had 2 admit dat I kept in touch wit my ex once in a while. After quitting with d new gal, I started apologizing to my ex and finally won her heart back and promising not 2 break her heart again but it was not easy for me.
I travelled down 2 East in August, to meet and discuss our future (me & her) with her family based on our understanding for me 2 declare my interest/intention to her family and discuss d way forward. I went to d east without my family consent though but we held discussion with her family and they were happy to see me.

After all said and done, I promise to fight 4 for our love and convince my family to reconsider their position on d gal especially my mum of which I succeeded in doing so. I had my family support this time around after rigorous talking. We agreed that she will come to my place to see and familiarize with my entire extended family during xmas in preparation for our introduction in January 2016.

Now problems started creeping in more than a month a ago wen her attitude towards me started changing. She doesn't answer my calls as we used to. sometimes harsh on d phone and boring and i tried to understand wat d problem is also she but I fail on several occasion. I gave her little space but then I began to worry cos prior to this she used to tell me jokingly "wat if she decides not to marry me" several times but I didn't take it serious not until she told me to put d marriage preparation on hold. I was shocked. I persuaded her to tell me why and was going but at first, she told me d north is too far from her and later told me she is in love with me and one other guy. I became confused. I tried hard to convince her its a distraction and funny enuf d guy she is talking about lives in d same town with me and i used to caution her about his antics towards her but she gives me assurances not to worry.

Again she started bringing up past issues on how I maltreated her the last time she came, and that she wanted me to feel d pain she felt. that I cos it at first for allowing her find comfort in d guys arms wen she was heart broken but i counter it by saying I tot we had gon pass this level why d sudden change? why did she have to allow me start all dis process and after struggling to convince my people. She said I should wait for her decision on who to choose. My major concern heighten again on what are d chances she will not change her mind maybe few weeks to d wedding proper even if she said she will go ahead and marry me? she spoke with my aunt and also told her that she can't go ahead with d wedding and now my aunt has told my mum already about d recent dev. just few days ago. My mum is asking me wat is really happening but am speechless on how do I start wen she had warn me in d first place.

D situation made me do stupid things but now I have decided to move on with my life and forget about her even though she calls me endlessly for d passed few days and send me text message to tell me she has accepted to marry me without apologise. I refused to pick her calls though but I responded with "its too late. wish u all d best" and she replied me back with "tanx wish u same too" Guys pls should I forgive and marry her or its a big red flag? cos we are not yet married but am beginning to have high bp already not from 3rd party but my fiancée in particular.

Before nko? Its only d wind of change that has d masses at heart. PDP believes in rigging but they will fail this time around. We are praying & fasting against there evil plans and we will vote and safe guard our votes to make sure they count.

GMB 2015

Op next time try harder. U failed like ur master gej.
Assuming fr. Mbaka was bought/paid, are all those points he raised not true? Pls search ur soul and tell d truth.
I wonder wat ur new year resolutions are but I recommend u include "stop spreading lies" beside its 10th january its not late to do so.

Pls hit like if u only read d caption and comment.

Jonathan scorecard is F9 period.

Gej is disgracing this country and d whole world is laughing at us. Very soon d tables will turn in Febuhari 14.

In my country Nigeria, the more money our politicians come across the more problem we see in the life of the common man when greedy and clueless politicians are in power. May God save us from these mess we are currently facing in this this country.

How Boko Haram Overwhelmed Nigerian Troops Trying To Reclaim Mubi, Leaving Lt. Colonel, Several Others Killedhttp://saharareporters.com/2014/11/10/how-boko-haram-overwhelmed-nigerian-troops-trying-reclaim-mubi-leaving-lt-colonel-several

Nigerian army source, speaking with SaharaReporters this evening, has confirmed that Maiha Local Government Area in Adamawa State was overtaken today by Boko Haram militants.


Boko Haram militants
The military source disclosed that several units were this morning given the order to liberate Mubi, which is currently under the control of Boko Haram terrorists. Soldiers were given a complex strategy which included surrounding Mubi from multiple sides, led by a special strike force.

Setting off at 10 a.m after breakfast, troops from a temporary army base in maiha were ambushed by Boko Haram terrorists miles from Mubi, an attack they successfully overcame.

The source further confirmed that after troops advanced, they were again ambushed, during which time weaponry on two armored personnel carriers (APCs) became jammed. SaharaReporters was told that the helicopter which crashed today a few minutes after take off from Yola was carrying reinforcements.

Militants then swarmed troops, killing several of them and conquering Maiha LGA.

Many soldiers were also killed in nearby Maraba, including a Lieutenant Colonel, the source told SaharaReporters.

Several soldiers remain missing, the source said.

President Jonathan and cohorts lying to Nigerians since 2011. Nobody who failed in his primary responsibility deserves another term. We just learned that Maiha lga has been captured yesterday evening in Adamawa state. Sometimes I just wished that all the killings and BH things were just a nighmare and i will just wake up from the sleep and realised its not true.

So many things keep falling apart in this country, but for how long will the poor masses be killed before the international community will come to our rescue from this merciless politicians killing this country.

Buhari is not a religious bigot neither a corrupt individual in my personal opinion. PDP have been on this cheap blackmail of this man personality to dent his chances of becoming president. I believe so many ppl have come to understand this fact this time around especially the Christians. I am a proud Christian.

omenka:
I can't read what you just typed.

Olodo, you are high on ogoggoro at dis time of d day. I guess dats y u can't read becos ur brain is like 1st generation computers.

ramdris:
I weep for my country. How did we got here?

Now is not d time for weeping. Its battle time. Buckle yourself and face d reality of this situation. Our politicians have failed us.

Desperate times calls for desperate measures. All d youths must unite and form a strong resistance and defeat book haram. The Majority should not be oppressed by the actions of the few. We need everything we can use as arms and weapons in this fight. We must also overcome our fear and even if we have to die in this fight, at least we die for d sake of the young generation and generation to come. May God help us.

Make em smell pepper and tell us the BH plans. God will expose dem them in his own ways. Lets kip praying and be vigilant and hoping God will deliver our once knwn brave army from corruption to clear dem out for good.

God na ur hand we dey ooo b4 Jona and Co go finish us.

Another RMD admirer hmmn.

And the price of spare parts will still sky rocket unchecked by the dump administration. Only God will deliver this country.