Help the world eliminate sickle cell...my advice to you(r) friend is for them to end the relationship. When/if they give birth and the child is SS, there will be days they will secretly regret having that child or even getting married at all.

Conversely, they could take the risk. I know of an AS couple who have 3 children and none is SS. Their chances are very slim though.

Here we go, blaming the victim. If the op was a guy I'd have said it was ignorance and naivety. But Bleep it, op, you're ignorant and naive. Rape is a serious problem and don't ever try to paint it to be as trivial as closing legs like you just did.

Just pray you're not a victim of a 'rapist' in this life.

What we think of you fucking her? Or what we think of you two? Or what we think of her?

I have nothing to say.

Brightgem:
Yes I am so what? Happy now. People will see wrong things and b forming we are modern, civilised abi na westernised. I am being judgemental o, oya what next do u want2 say.

Haha, all I'm trying to say is that what you deem morally right to someone, is morally wrong to someone else. Your standards should be for you alone. You shouldn't force the rest of society to conform to your standards. Besides, you're judging her, but have you walked in her shoes? Till you do, its unfair to judge.

Brightgem:
Abeg jor!leave grammer, that she got married does not mean her relatnship has worked the wedding is just the begining, even if this is her case people just lack shame these days that they flaunt their wrong doings call it judging but its common sense.

Lol, you're just being judgmental. If she chooses to have sex before marriage, good for her. If you don't want to, good for you.

And morality is subjective ma'am.

Shame a lot of people are interpreting the lady's message wrongly. She's not advocating for more women to have sex on the 1st date.

She's asking that society be less judgmental of women that have sex on the 1st date, because sex or no sex on the 1st date is not a guarantee that the relationship will work.

kcnwaigbo:


Gani would never had sunk this low!! This falana's actions in the past months have been so irritating!! Imagine him even shamelessly defending Buhari in court for forgery of WAEC certificate!! How are the mighty fallen!!

Maybe he wouldn't have sunk this low, but definitely, some of his opinions would have gone against public sentiment sometimes, especially issues relating to the interpretation of law.

You either die a hero, or live long enough to become the villain. This is what is happening to Femi Falana.

Maybe Gani Fawehimi would have been getting this much slack if he were to still be alive. Who knows?

I'm late, but lemme join the queue. Kinginvahala...fire on!!

princeakins:

Then you shld hv stated clearly on what ground you disagreed not jux jump on dt lik dt n fink pple wil understand u

Bros, no vex abeg

Op, proceed to cell 58C...that's the cell that I can see has been allocated to you.

It's the place reserved for the people with the worst cases.

You're welcome

SANDOSKI:




Wetin u no get, another person get am excess .


Chai dis life.....

Puff, puff then pass. Don't fuc* up rotation.

Nice signature ma'am

Hahahahahahaha, a girl said 'come and dash me breast'.

Una no go sleep?

princeakins:
Your physics teacher should b jailed with immediate effect.

. I didn't do physics

Besides, I was stating a law of attraction and not a law of physics.

Josh890:
It's the physic law of attraction;

Like poles repel n unlike poles attract

In other words:

Bad boys attract good women

I disagree.

Like poles attract, unlike poles repel.

Finally, a thread on aliens and extra-terrestials makes front page. Kudos to the mod who deemed it fit.

I've always believed that humans are not alone and that we weren't the first to inhabit the earth. I think a lot of people who disagree on the existence of aliens need to read and watch more TV documentaries.

Your friend is in good company, he should bask in it, put it on like a cloak.

Abiola Ajimobi, governor of Oyo state, has requested for a letter of apology from schools whose pupils took part in a protest against government’s proposed education initiative — else their schools will remain locked.

Abiodun Jimoh, the chairman, National Parents Teachers Association of Nigeria(NAPTAN), Oyo state chapter, said this in Ibadan on Thursday after a meeting with the governor.

On June 6, pupils in the state went on rampage in protest against the state government’s proposed public-private participatory management of schools.

The pupils had protested, following allegations that the state government had sold their schools.

The government dismissed the allegations, saying the initiative was participatory and aimed at boosting the education sector.

Jimoh told journalists that the association had visited the governor to appeal to him to reopen the schools, which were shut down by the state government over the incident.

He said the governor had expressed displeasure over the involvement of pupils in the protested and demanded an apology from affected institutions before schools could be reopened.

“The governor said that the heads of the schools should write letters of apology to the government,” Jimoh said.

“We have promised him that we will meet with the heads of the schools to immediately write the letter in the interest of the pupils.

“We are fed up with the strike action and our children staying at home for so long. We want them back in school and for teachers to resume at their duty posts.”

Jimoh also said that the association would wade into the face-off between labour and government.

He said that the governor had explained to them the agreement reached with labour on the modalities for the payment of salaries to workers.

Jimoh said that the governor had also stressed the need for labour to embrace dialogue, saying his government was predisposed to this any time.


Source: https://www.thecable.ng/.V36oiLI-jBw.twitter

Lol, if you want to learn the political ropes, pay keen attention to what is playing out in Ekiti. All these protests are more politically motivated than anyone's love to rid the nation of corruption.

And anyone who has seen movies like 'Saworoide' and other yoruba classics, will understand.

KINGinVAHALA:
I sight you bro @surfboard

This is such a funny thread to wake up to.

Abeg...continue. I wan laugh

KINGinVAHALA:

Thumbs up man!

Thought i was the only night crawler on nairaland though. Lol

Hahaha, I'm here late at night most times...just prefer observing though.

Kinginvahala is the way to go bro. Don't let them tell you otherwise

Chief Ojo Maduekwe, former minister of foreign affairs, left a lasting impression on me the first time I met him in flesh. It was at the airport in Cape Town, South Africa, sometime in 2008, I think. I was coming from the World Economic Forum on Africa. As soon as I saw him, I looked away — for fear receiving a tongue lash, or something of a higher grade. I had been very critical of him in my articles. Not on his performance in public office, but his perceived “opportunistic” politics. I believed he would have no other option than to descend on me the day he would see me. So it was safe, I presumed, to keep my distance.

Malam Danladi Bako, my ever warm, ever lively journalism uncle, was also at the airport. He was apparently at the Cape Town event. As soon as he saw me, he grabbed my hand, towed me to Maduekwe, and calmly introduced me to him. He was wearing his characteristic smile. Instead of giving me a punch on the nose, Maduekwe gave me a pat on the back. I was more than shocked.

“Simon! I love your articles,” he said, and I waited for the killer “but…”

“You know what I call you? I call you my teacher. I find your articles very educative. I don’t miss them. Please keep it up,” he said again, without the dreaded “but…”

He gave me his mobile number and said I should keep in touch. I could not believe it. It was either he never read my articles that were critical of him or he, being a cultured politician and diplomat, chose to ignore the elephant in the room. Whatever, I was left feeling highly humbled and honoured that a whole Maduekwe — whom I admired despite my disagreement with his politics — would be that generous with compliments. The typical Nigerian response is that “you were paid to criticise me” or “you don’t like me because I’m not Yoruba”. I go through that everyday. His response went against the grain. We never got to see again, but he had won my respect for life — for his maturity.

Now compare this with an encounter I will never have with Chief Rasheed Gbadamosi. When he was chairman of the Petroleum Products Pricing Regulatory Agency (PPPRA), he ran into my chairman, Mr. Nduka Obaigbena, at the Lagos airport. Obaigbena introduced Mr. Kayode Komolafe (then the managing editor and now deputy managing director of THISDAY) to him. In a classic case of mistaken identity, a fuming Gbadamosi began to rain curses in the direction of Komolafe in the wildest language known to humanity. In fact, in Yoruba culture, the contents of those curses, from an elder to a young man, were effectively a sentence of premature death.

Komolafe was confused because he had not written anything about Gbadamosi or PPPRA. He could not close his mouth. Then it dawned on Obaigbena that Gbadamosi must have mistaken Komolafe for Kolawole. So he intervened and said “you must be talking about Simon Kolawole”. The Ikorodu chief then realised his mistake. Since then, that was sometime in 2004, I have been carefully avoiding Gbadamosi’s vicinity. I am not afraid of his curses — the Bible says those who bless me are blessed and those who curse me are cursed; that is automatic. But I’ve been avoiding him because I’m doing everything humanly possible to avoid an elderly slap. I love my cheeks.

Now what did I even write? In truth, I never attacked the respected playwright and accomplished industrialist. It was in the heat of the debate on deregulation. I was making a regular argument then that the government of President Olusegun Obasanjo should build refineries, lease out the management and privatise them later — since the private sector was refusing to build because of the pump price. The part that irked Gbadamosi, I would guess, was my insinuation of a fuel subsidy scam resulting from a collusion between marketers and government agencies — and government officials. I did not mention names or agencies, but PPPRA was a key player in the subsidy chain.

When Maduekwe died on Wednesday, my mind strayed to his response to my criticisms — compared to Gbadamosi’s. It somehow dawned on me that most Nigerians, inside and outside government, are very passionate about the progress of our country. But we often assume we love Nigeria more than the others. This creates a tension in our conversation, leading to the exchange of uncomplimentary words. Beneath the surface, though, we really want a better Nigeria, only that our views and methods could be very different. Everybody is entitled to freedom of expression and freedom of association without being molested. That’s the law.

Unfortunately, it is increasingly becoming difficult to have a decent conversation in Nigeria. An intellectual like Maduekwe would like to listen to you. He loved the contestation of ideas. Dr. Kalu Idika Kalu has challenged me to a debate on economic policy over breakfast or lunch a couple of times, and I often laugh it off, knowing he would sting like a bee and knock me out before the first round — he has seen it all! He was finance minister while I was still reading OA Lawal. But you could see his genuine desire to engage. The late Dr. Stanley Macebuh, as adviser to Obasanjo, once spent a day with us at THISDAY in 2003 for an intellectual tussle on the performance of his principal.

But a lot of people cannot stand debate. When you express a contrary opinion, some phantom group would put up multimillion naira advertorials in the newspapers to announce the astonishing discovery of a sinister plot by some disgruntled elements to destroy their paymaster, as if they just uncovered a plot by ISIS to bomb the White House. You can attribute this to intellectual laziness, if you will, or intolerance of contrary views, or red herring, or hysteria, or overreaction, or whatever. But the audience stands to benefit better when the conversation is civil and the motive is positive. We may still not agree, but we don’t need to exchange blows.

Alas, the biggest stage for public debate today is the highly unregulated social media. The anarchy, regrettably, is doing a lot of damage to civilisation. It is rapidly lowering the IQ of millions of Nigerians. The quality of some comments I see on Twitter, Facebook and online responses to articles is scary, not just disgusting. There is a race to the bottom. Who can say the silliest things? Who can type the nastiest insults? Who can inspire the vilest hate? Who can provoke the bloodiest ethno-religious sentiments? I hope these are not the future leaders of Nigeria. They can talk the country into another civil war. It is terrifying.

Anonymity has helped a lot of cowards build sheds on the internet — to promote and provoke hate and mischief. There is a reason I am not active on social media, apart from sharing articles from websites. There is also a reason I hardly read comments on my articles. I do not get edified most times. Anytime I choose to read anything, I seek three virtues: honest presentation of facts, clear articulation of logic and elegant use of language. I don’t always agree with my favourite writers, but I always get something out of their articles. We cannot all be facing the same direction. That is why there is debate. But if debate is not decent, it loses direction. It achieves little or nothing.

As we continue to debate the nationhood of Nigeria and the contentious issues that so easily stoke tension in the land, maybe we should step back a bit and take a deep breath before we open our mouths. I would humbly propose a three-way test (1) Are my facts honest or sexed-up? (2) What sense do I really want to make? (3) Am I seeking to build or destroy with my choice of words? Nearly everyone has missed it at one time or the other, but if we are sincere enough we can always retrace our steps and repent. And remember: even if people disagree with you, you don’t have to curse them. Maduekwe taught me that. Classy.


Source: https://www.thecable.ng/can-we-have-a-decent-conversation#.V3jnMpFgnQw.twitter

Seems like Ambode is continuing right from where Fashola stopped with the elitist policies. One day, the poor will have nothing else to eat but the rich.

Such insensitivity from our leaders, really annoying.

What's past is past bro, look forward. All the best for the future.

mhiztee15:
Am surprised this is coming from a lady! before a lady will cheat on his partner I mean a faithful lady o she would have complained countless times and the guy would have cheated and hurt her...ladies don't usually cheat ## am a living example

Just look at...smh

Meanwhile, Op, women cheat cause they want to. Simply. No one pushes anyone to cheat, and continuously indulge in the act. Trying to seek reasons for cheating is you simply trying to justify it.

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