You guys no dey understand english abi?, i said LADIES!

Its ok as long as you wont be having any other female visit you- cos if they do, you will almost certainly be served a quit notice

If you think this guy's dangerously hot, chances are, behind close doors, u'd feel cold and want some of the 'heat'. Ask urself if as a single girl you thought any of your male friends was 'dangerously hot' and how you handled that particular person

For even posting this, you have already confirmed you have mixed feelings-ur not sure if u;d handle it this time- so my advice is quit the relationship-and-if possible-the job. Any contacts with this guy is dangerous for your marriage

And if I may ask, does your husband work?, or do you provide for the house. I ask that because a man would normally frown at such relationships except they had no choices (for instance where such relationships bring food 2d table- I remember u mentioned he needs u2 keep the 'connections')

Hi people

I need your honest opinions pls,
My girl is 20 and has started developing stretch marks, although not very obvious from afar, they are quite visble when viewed closely. Her tummy is also not flat. I havnt been complaining about these things but shes quite uncomfortable with them and thats a concern, What can she do pls

You dont need anyone;s advice on this - your mind is already made up and there;s certainly going to be an exchange of Sex for money ( i hope you get the money after he;s F**ked d day light out of u anyway- cos girls like u only deserve a kick after a bang)

You're clearly a gold digger

Why did i even waste my time on this, hisssssssssssssssssssss

I think you should give him a second chance- he most probably has realized he erred. The fact is we (men) often only realize what a jewel we had after we've lost it

Good luck girl

I think this 'grow fast' guy's just pulling every1's legs. Im sure he;s enjoying the huge attention this post had generated

This indeed is quite condemnable (if it did happen) but we must not 4get that this is almost the order of the day now - most girls get deflowered b4 or at age 14, and by much older men- sometimes men in 40s (I stand 2b corrected)

I guess we r beggening to have similar beliefs as some south East Asians - that deflowering a girl rejuvenates a man

maybe there's much more we can do individually than reign curses

Kanye West n T-Pain wud be here- i saw the bill board 2day

You have a bad case girl, but not beyond redemption- i accept its completely wrong of him to call you such names but one thing is almost  sure here- this guy loves you (or wants to love you - the only reason he's so hurt at such a thing- and the reason he comes back all the time, and the only reasons he still wants to marry a 'b**tch*) and you love this guy too(the only reason you're confused about what to do) - so think before you run -you may be running from gold

I must agree with one of the respondents- that you may also have some case to answer-maybe there's something he'd been told about you, probably your past, that suggest you cud be promiscous(so think about your life- if you led a very wayward life, its possible he knows and is scared you might not change- so you need to sit down with him, tell you truly love him, and that you are really a changed person). A problem identified, they say, is half solved. You;ve identified insecurity here- what stops you from giving this guy the assurance he needs?- call up this other guy in his presence, put it up on speaker and tell him you have a fiance you love and he shud leave u alone.

Its easy for people to tell you "RUN"- my advice is 'Pray" and 'think, think, think'. Remember this is the much anyone on this forum can do- you're left alone to face the consequences of whatever decision you take

Best of luck dear

How may i remove this post please. I;ve got what i think i need

Joey82:

The only thing I see here is Jealousy, and d only reason that can make one jealous about his/her lover is when u keep thinking d other person is better than u or u don't measure up.
Jealousy to me, is a complex, the earlier u conquer it, the better.

So remove that jealousy, that fear in your heart and move on with your girl, d world is all urs

I love your Reply Joey, Thanx
n Thanx 2 all of u

Serious responses only please!

I met a beautiful girl In january of this year- I actually just wanted some fun but now i've fallen n love with her and im considering getting serious (actually her parents n siblings all know us 2gether n every1 around me including my siblings thinks we r getting married) but i have concerns.
1. She's 10 years younger and just starting school
2. She told me she got deflowered at 14 n has had 2 abortions-says one was mine

I appreciate her being open to me n i've i tried hard not to think about it  but most times when i begin 2 think about her (i have her pic as my desktop background so i look at it all the time), i see her getting deflowered in my imagination n i wonder if she still  has contact with this person, i have a feeling d person is around me n would always joke with his friends that my wife (if i marry her) was his prey. I also fear that having been deflowered that early she may have slept with many ppl including some that i may know.

I know this is all wrong cos i've had other women 2 but I hav never thot about this concerning any other girl i have dated, i just didnt give a damn what they did b4 or what they were doing. But how can i make this feeling go?. I love her and i have no doubts she loves me 2 n isnt cheating on me