Miyah1:
For clarity I used to smoke and now being born again anytime I remember those periods, I always feel bad.

I think it's only guilt you're suffering from.
It can be normal for one to feel this way sometimes.
We either guilt trip ourselves or the devil whisper railing accusations to our minds trying to condemn us.
In all, the endpoint is condemnation.
Glory to God, if we have received God's forgiveness through Christ, we have been saved from every form of condemnation. Either from ourselves or the devil.

When our past tries to come into the fray, we shut it down by thinking and speaking to ourselves about the goodness of God in our lives.

The devil is cunning, or should I say, guilt only leads to one not fully walking in the life we have received from Christ.

Again, when that feeling comes, just be thankful for God's goodness which has led you to a new life.

Remember the prodigal son??
The Father had forgiven him and waiting for him to come back. That's why when he saw him from afar, he ran to him and did not wait till he got closer.
God has forgiven you your sins already, no matter what they are, you only owe it to God to live to the fullest the life that He has now bestowed on you. Start by being grateful for the life instead of feeling guilty.

DaddyCK:


am a man.she a woman.its all about respet bro.dont yor woman say goood morning to u forst before ask u question?....or are u white?(no oofeinse)

This your cruise go cruise you where you no wan go o.

DaddyCK:



stop encouraging violense bro..so u want her to start cussing people fpr no reason...did she say goood morning before nagging?

You see yourself

Did you even say good morning to me too??

Just get...

Op, I feel you jare.

So many of those immature babies posing as men have their filled day on this forum.
They have no dent in their eyes, it's always others.
You'll read some of their posts and be like yuck!

See, for instance, the clowm that commented on your post.
Immature and respect demanding when there's nothing to respect in him.
Selfish creatures that demand respect because they feel they are male. It makes you wonder if they are the ones that refused to take to learning or they weren't taught at all.
They know not that respect is earned.

Although, it's not just the 'men', some females too ehn... Let's just leave that one for now.

Good evening, Leody

I see none has answered your question with the backing you requested for. Here are some Bible verses below about hell:

Matthew 13:50

and will throw them into the furnace of fire; in that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Matthew 18:8

“If your hand or your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; it is better for you to enter life crippled or lame, than to have two hands or two feet and be cast into the eternal fire.

Matthew 5:22

But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, ‘You good-for-nothing,’ shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.

Matthew 18:9

If your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it from you. It is better for you to enter life with one eye, than to have two eyes and be cast into the fiery hell.

Luke 16:24

And he cried out and said, ‘Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus so that he may dip the tip of his finger in water and cool off my tongue, for I am in agony in this flame.’

Mark 9:43

If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off; it is better for you to enter life crippled, than, having your two hands, to go into hell, into the unquenchable fire,

Isaiah 66:24

Berse Concepts
“Then they will go forth and look
On the corpses of the men
Who have transgressed against Me.
For their worm will not die
And their fire will not be quenched;
And they will be an abhorrence to all mankind.”

You see that the Bible clearly talked about a place called hell. There is a place called hell. This place is accessed when death occurs.
However, there is a clear picture about who goes to hell and what takes one to hell.
God's purpose isn't for man to go to hell.
Check the verse below:

Matthew 25:41

“Then He will also say to those on His left, ‘Depart from Me, accursed ones, into the eternal fire which has been prepared for the devil and his angels;

It was designed for the devil and his angels. It was never intended for man. However, man can go there.

Why? How?

The reason is because they rejected God. You see, God provided us salvation from the world, sin, death and the devil. He reconciled us to himself through Jesus Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17-19)
However, it is something He has done for us already and He expects that we accept this so as to be saved from sin and the consequence of sin which is death. (Romans 6:23)
John 3:16 says
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

No one has to go to hell. In fact, God dealt with the issue so perfectly that all you need to not smell hell is to believe in His only begotten son. However, refusing to believe that God has saved you from sin which brings death which translates to the visit to hell is telling God that you don't need Him not His salvation.

John 3:36
Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life, for God's wrath remains on them.

You see, it's not God that is sending men to hell, it's simply what they chose for themselves. And mind you, God's wrath there means, there nothing God can do to save them because they chose what they have.

Deuteronomy 30:19

I've set life and death before you today: both blessings and curses. Choose life, that it may be well with you—you and your children.

It's all up to man to choose.
I hope I touched your question.

There's no two way about it.

He was insecure enough to not tie the marriage legaly, now, when he has something to gain, he wants to do what he should have done.

Sometimes, this smartess we claim is just pure foolishness.

If he had not married at all it is better than to do it in the way he did.

We shouldn't allow the supposed general things to dictate how we act in our private matters. Study your own situation and act accordingly and not generalize.
Every situation is peculiar.

You don't have dictionary

Another confused one...

God help you.

Christiansimon:
What A Great Choice Op.. Just Go Ahead. I Did This And My Relationship Is Still In Tact

I'm pretty sure OP won't understand you.

You don't deserve to be in a relationship.
Y'all gon be forming smart ass but y'all be acting dumb like pigs.

Is that the next thing you should asking her...
Omo, I tire for many people on this nairaland. Just dumb as the word I can't use.

Kai!

virginprincess:
I have already encountered Jesus,he is my lord and personal saviour but guy come on,just one day of fun won't make you a sinner,my problem with all this religious people is that most of you are not what you truly claim to be.

The thing is, as much as it isn't sinning, but it could be the beginning.
Sin doesn't just begin. It starts when we have exposed ourselves to the point that it becomes something we act out. James 1:15 explains this.

I'm not saying that the song is worldly or not. It could be that that's not the song the man planned for that time.
Kai! People can be so judgmental.

So, what should we do now

Fry rice??

Lol...

Break up na. Abi you need someone to tell you that

If he chooses to act like an elephant because he believes he is an elephant someone would call the mental institution to come to pick him up.

But isn't that what is playing out?

If the things that are clear and natural won't give us common sense, nothing can.

You can only laugh at the foolish depravity in display.

Nawa o
What people use their minds for these days is terrible.

Vinnie2000:



Really?

But As my Landlord pointed out, doesn't Excess production of Sperms without any Release except Wet dreams, have Negative effects

Go and do what you want to do and stop looking for validation cos that's what it seems like.
By the time you find yourself in a dip pit, you can't crawl out of then, you will know it is sane to keep abstinence.

I'm sure you touched biology in your secondary school and you have google to help you.
This is supposed to be an innovative generation that shouldn't be swayed by some fables cos they have a source of getting information especially when it has to do with science.

Excess production of sperm makes you look old. Lol
What the heck do we use our brains for??
You even mention that the body by itself ejects excess sperm but no, you've still not figured it out.

Sincerely, I pray you will.

Scares like that can be draining.
Much more, it's not about saying you will change. Take steps.
Avoid getting into situations that would lead you back to this point.
Believe me, you've been there now, you will be there again unless you hold yourself and take steps to back your words.

I wish you the best.

Crisey:



Try change ur prayer point. Lol
Na wealthy people dey get allergies ��

Oh really??
What I know from God's Word is that I don't live a life with a comma. I am always healthy.
No allergies fit dey my body.
Maybe na you suppose change your prayer point make God give you healthy life.

And who told you that it's only the wealthy that has allergies
Misinformed!

Pawpaw??
Incredible...
I can't point to what I'm allergic to.
I'm not weird.

Hideki:
Definitely, he knows that...but you know sometimes when you try to kill a thought, that's when you end up magnifying it

If that's the case, he shouldn't try killing the thought, he should just not act on it.

So, what will he do about it now??

Maybe we need to remind him that he is married or that he has 3 kids.
Will he want to jeopardise the good thing he has going just for what?
Lose what is for what might have been?

Tell your friend, OP, to wake up from his daydream and focus on reality.
As someone once said, die that thought immediately otherwise a whole lot of things will die instead.

Mufakirnaqdiun:
Lol your babe is a victim of religion, ogbeni call her down and tell her about her mode of dressing.
She need to look sharp and sexy abeg.

Maybe you are right in a sense if you are going by what religion really means but if not, you are wrong big time. The Op listed 3 examples; Sinach, Mercy Chinwo and Ada Ehi. Those are Christians too and never dress indecently.

You better go do medical check-up and know what's wrong with you.

purples25:


She should have left him. He is not mature and he likes mind games. He doesn't respect or value her one bit.

People are just so messed up.
Why would he want to play mind games with someone he claims he is in a relationship with?
It's just silly to think. A relationship is supposed to be for straightening things out between you and your lover in prep for living together.
Like you said, he probably doesn't deserve the girl.

You don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill yet you brought the topic here.

Weren't you her bestie or friend before you started dating?
Why start feeling insecure
Wait sef... Is your girlfriend dumb? Or she can't hear
Why can't you talk to her about it if it bothers you??
Why are you even in a relationship if you can't talk?
What do you people go into relationship for??
Sex alone??
Nawa o...

What you are looking for, you will find it.
That seed of doubt will be planted in your mind.

Okay o, Mr trickster.
You cannot talk to her one on one and explain things to her. You resorted to tricking her like you're Mr Devil that tricks people.
Okay na, whatever comes out of it, you orchestrated it.

If we are to look at it now, the seriousness he's talking about won't be more than having sex o.

Should you return the phone
Like is that even a question you should be contemplating right now?

Aaaahhhh!

Especially that one cutting money and the ones soaking in milk...
I go first shock but I'll definitely spank them to get the message in.

It's just shocking...

Omo!

I can't help but laugh at y'all comments. However, beyond the laugh, I can't also help but notice the way you all poured out your views.

No doubt, you all have been in this writing game for some time now.

Big ups to you all.

PS: Not like I don't have a thing or two to say to the post but I no go comment.

Oh! Yes, I write too o... Let the work flow this direction too oooo.

Interesting...

For me, I had been sick for some days and unlike op I was on drip and injection. I had never been that sick in my life. So, drip finished and I wanted to go ease myself.

Like my dad and bro knew something was up, they suggested they go with me to the toilet.

Jejely i was standing and urinating with the urine looking like deep brown. Before I knew it, it was like nepa off light in my brain. Next thing, I was in my bro's hands and wondered what's up.
They said I just fell backwards and he, my bro, was sharp enough to grab me.

Tmberwolf1:
The resident evil movies were bad, but this series makes them look like cinematic gold by comparison.... Right from the trailer I already knew how bad it was going to be.... Also look out for Amazon's lord of the rings series "rings of power"... That one is going to be another sh!t show, a complete bastardization of Tolkein's work.

Seriously...
It wasn't nice at all.