youngberry001:
I hate masturbating so am geting fuvcking outta here

you hate it because the society makes it look bad or because the act itself is bad and harmful

bayulll01:
nice and the most comprehensive write up have seen on Nairaland of recent, it so so pathetic how hypocritical our religious folks could be towards mastubation that to me should be encouraged in order to discouraged rape in our society, the truth is humans have been wired to have sexual urge and how can we settle that imbalance if not master.bation , as you said earlier our society has not helped matters at all

thanks for the acknowledgement, to the point you raised, you are just on point there because there are many things our society has made us to think, like female circumcision is good, man and desparity among other is just wrong and has caused misconception of what life and nature is really all about.

ATMC:
Op pls come, how can a female masturbate? I mean if you put your hand inside your honour, won't your brain know that it is your hand? How do one really give herself pleasure? I really don't understand female Masturbation; I touch my breast when bathing and nothing happens. Explain pls

yea the fact and act behind masturbation is stimulating ones genitals for sexual pleasure, so if you slid your hand in your vulva as a lady it could as well be terms as genital stimulation

[b]MASTURBATION! MASTURBATION!! MASTURBATION!!!
The four sound syllable that has gotten acclaimed religious leaders at loggerhead, a big word that people practice but hate to talk about albeit avoiding its discussions like plague, a topic that many condemn like fever and some choose not to.

It saddens me how masturbation 'per say', specifically outside of marriage, is often considered a 'sin' in religious circles. I think the main issue is that for some people masturbation is done in an unhealthy manner and thus causes problems for them and others. If done in a healthy manner I don't see masturbation as wrong, it is simply part of the overall sexual reproductive design in which God has given us. I think one of the main problems in our society is we are so focused on self, individualism and self- gratification that we fail to give respect and adoration as to the underlying reason such sexual pleasures have been given to us by God - for the purpose of creating new life, a child of our own, in which enables us a glimpse of the responsibilities that come with creating life.

The obvious truth is that the religious fanatics has so much placed an embargo of abomination on this act even when the Bible was never really objective of it(don't know much about the Qur'an) and to think that these same set of people never really criticize and attack pre-marital affair as much as they do to masturbation clearly shows how hypocritical and sentimental some religious practitioners could ever be, I mean how can you give little critics to pre-marital affair, ex-marital affair and at the vein amplify the disdain condemnation for masturbation that involves no second party or does not even involve harming anyone.
So please before you condemn any harmless act based on what the society, culture and religion has made you think, kindly make a comprehensive research about the said topic before coming to conclusion. Below are benefits of masturbation to the male and female folks.

1. Stress Relief
One of the best health benefits of female masturbation is that it is a terrific way of relieving stress and tension. “Anything that makes you feel more relaxed and gets you to turn off the day, whether you do yoga or get a foot massage, it’s all the same thing, ”research said. “It’s not that it has to be sexual but sex and self-stimulation is definitely one of the ways to relieve stress.” Sounds like an awesome way to unwind.

2. It can improve your sex life.
Masturbation allows you to explore your body and find out what feels best. Knowing your body in this way can make you more confident in bed and more vocal with partners. Once you figure out what you like, you can tell your partner where to touch you.

3. Masturbating can ease body aches and menstrual pain.
“If you have a uterine contraction while self-stimulating and a uterine contraction can help menstrual blood come out faster... theoretically it’s going to help with cramps,” Streicher said. While she cautioned that the research behind this benefit is relatively limited, Streicher said there’s no reason not to masturbate while on your period: “It’s never a bad thing and if it seems to help you then go for it.” Either way, it’s more fun than a heating pad.

4. It’s a great way to release sexual tension.
If you’ve chosen to not have sex or are simply going through a dry spell, masturbating is a great way to satisfy your libido. And to me personally this is a great way to avoid visiting brothel, raping and hiring prostitute.

5. Multiple. Orgasms.
Understanding how your body works helps you know exactly how to pleasure it. Once, twice, three times — it’s up to you! Climax is often times only at the end of sex for men, but women can keep going. Why stop at one?

6. Cervical Health
It is generally accepted that regular masturbation helps reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men, and now, similar links are being made between female masturbation and cervical health. Regular female masturbation is healthy because of the muscular function known as “tenting.” During orgasm, the cervix opens and it is this “tenting” that stretches and pulls cervical mucus which has increased in volume and acidity.

7. Strengthens Relationships
Not everyone is lucky to have a great sex life, and not everyone’s sexual needs are compatible with those of their life partner. Masturbation is an excellent way of ‘supplementing’ your sexual satisfaction.

8. A Safe Euphoria
You don't want to use drugs or alcohol in order to make your body feel good. That's why masturbation is the best way to increase your physical pleasure. It's a safe euphoria that you don't have to feel guilty about indulging in.

9. No Pregnancies or STDs
If you want to orgasm, but don't want to get pregnant, you don't need a #partner. You can pleasure yourself, and it'll feel just as good as it would if you were with another person. It's a great way to stay STD free and avoid babies.

10. Can Cure a UTI
If you've ever gotten a Urinary Tract Infection, you know how painful and irritating they can be. In order to avoid getting another one, you should do more than drink cranberry juice and pee after intercourse. Masturbation helps flush out bacteria from the cervix, which means you'll lower your chances of getting any UTIs.
There you have it; it’s not that harmful as people make us to believe. Just make sure its done in a moderate way so as to avoid addiction and obsession.

Written by TemmyTee007
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http://mytemmytee..com.ng/2016/05/why-masturbation-is-not-sin.html

ALRIGHT THANKY FOR THE CLEARANCE ANYWAY,.. URE HIGHLY APPRECIATED

HardMirror:

I am an atheist so I don't really care. BUT that guy is a FUCcccKING LIAR. Don't know people could be so heartless and cook up lies like this.

THANKS FOR UR IMPUTE,....a private chat would also be appreciated, just want to innocently ask how hw life is being an athiest....

cocoduck:
Then you don't know him
it was because of money he left JW, he was a top member in one congregation in Lagos, then they decided to contribute money to either to build or renovate a kingdom hall, as the secretary he was given the money and when the time arrived to bring the money, the guy begin yarn tory , then after all said and done he was sanctioned, he simply left and open his own church and began to castigate JWs, When we are preaching, we usually encounter deeper life people, the way they react when they see us is very different from the way other churches react to our visit, because of the lies they have been told, they don't even want to use eye to see us. I know what I am talking about bro. Maybe he was Catholic before he became JW. But he used to be a JW.

PLEASE TELL ME URE STATING FACT OR JUST HYPOTHESIS, i'm sorry for asking just wanted to be sure

Tweetums:
Late Joseph ayodele babalola

Busted! a C.A.C member spotted. how far now, happy sunday.

WAOOW!
Now i think this is a good move by this buhari led administration, and i'm sure the Govt. workers will be happy about this move. BTW i have always said it that considering the way at which the nigerian banks masturbates on govt funds as it is been done before, it makes them lazy and unable to compete with their counterpart in the world, i mean this TSA will now make them think creatively, strategize better and get fully involved in the concept called "The Banking Business" as it is been practiced in developed countries.

Ohh Gawd......
I'm part of Nairaland ghost member but this comment of yours really brought me out of my shell, because i never really knew a female species on this planet could be void of sentiment and hypocrisy. Accessing the issue on ground now, a right thinking fellow should know they are both @ fault and infact are both to share the blame but that's a story for another day.
And as for your humble self, thatz if we are able to meet offline, I owe you a date to any place of your choice.

LeFreakSoChic:
Am I the only one that saw how she cleverly chipped in the issue of the lady she gifted 500,000naira?
She just had to do that.
I commend her for diverting the main issue into violence against women and slut shaming. Typical of snakes.
It still doesnt change the fact that she's a devious old rat.
Enough of the emotional blackmail.
I'm a lady but hypocrisy isnt my thing.

willace:
What can u buy 4 ur girlfriend as a birthday gift

Matured suggestions plss

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Islamicpope:
my wife is a naggacious type.item no 2 and 8 is a must read for her. else she will keep having issues with herself. as for me, I jump am pass. walahiiiiiiiiiii.

Lolz a beg no jump am pass oo

bayulll01:
woooaw

wat an awesome article I just read there.......

so nicely written and perfectly arranged......I know some ladies won't be happy with this article, just like the one up there. *lol*

Thanks a lot hare......you sometimes its always hard to listen to the truth

MrsPhyno:
If it takes two to "tangle", why is this epistle directed only toward females?


And men should stop this obsession with telling women how to live; you wouldn't know. You've never been a woman so leave our matters for the more experienced. Women don't tell you how to be a man, abi? Tanku.

Lolz..I assume you were being sarcastic but I never said I won't write any article concerning the husband now.
But I knew you relate with the article.
Wishing you a happy family

For a sustainable and happy marriage or relationship, both husband and wife need to make so many sacrifices.
A Wife is regarded as the home maker and the pillar of every happy home. To live happily ever after, a woman must not do the following things to her husband;

1. Never put your religious leaders, friends and family needs ahead of your Husband’s. Charity, they say begins at home. You would not like being relegated in your home’s affairs.

2. Never ever compare his level of success with that of his more successful friends. Instead, encourage him to build his dreams and support him abundantly as much as you can.
Women often expect men to be the capable breadwinner but he can only be that if you are supportive of his ambitions as he would be supportive of yours.

3. Never keep secrets about your personal projects such as land acquisition, buildings, shares, bonuses, business deals and any vital decision you make should be made known to him. It will be disastrous as hell if he finds out from an outsider.
If you are willing to be his partner, there is absolutely no reason to keep secrets as I believe relationships should be based on TRUST.

4. Some women deny their husband sex ‘almost’ all the time, Never make it a habit to deny him sex because you are trying to make a point.
He can also make many points between the office and home and you will not be one of those points. That, i believe is the beginning of family disintegration.

5. God is the backbone of our existence. Never miss every waking moment to pray for him and your family and wish him long life and prosperity.
That does not mean a man should be left out of the prayer duties, he must of-course pray always for the well-being of his family as should you.

6. Sometimes, women go through their husbands email, phones, or office drawers because we need a bit of reassurance, It’s all completely normal as long as you don’t go overboard in your tests and start questioning everything.
If you do it without his knowledge, do not get caught.

7. Also, never ever hit him, no matter how strong a woman is, a man is multiple times stronger. A happy home is the pride of every successful woman. You would not expect your man to hit you so there is no reason to do the same.
P.S: Men, bullying your girl is an unforgivable offense, hit your pillows if you are so vexed.

8. Never parcel old quarrelsome issues for years only to burst them open on his head without warning on a day peace has reigned on. Nagging is a terrible disease, get over it.

9. Never hurt his pride in front of his friends or your friends, molesting your man in public is not the right way to settle a score. Always keep his image clean even if you detest it otherwise seek counsel and other effective means of helping him or resolving the issue.

10: Never stand in support of your family’s decisions over his especially in the area of Financial Assistance. Your family is as important as his family.

It really takes two to tangle, so let both parties work hand in hand for the perfect Bliss and unity of the family and for a progressive society.

For a sustainable and happy marriage or relationship, both husband and wife need to make so many sacrifices.
A Wife is regarded as the home maker and the pillar of every happy home. To live happily ever after, a woman must not do the following things to her husband;

1. Never put your religious leaders, friends and family needs ahead of your Husband’s. Charity, they say begins at home. You would not like being relegated in your home’s affairs.

2. Never ever compare his level of success with that of his more successful friends. Instead, encourage him to build his dreams and support him abundantly as much as you can.
Women often expect men to be the capable breadwinner but he can only be that if you are supportive of his ambitions as he would be supportive of yours.

3. Never keep secrets about your personal projects such as land acquisition, buildings, shares, bonuses, business deals and any vital decision you make should be made known to him. It will be disastrous as hell if he finds out from an outsider.
If you are willing to be his partner, there is absolutely no reason to keep secrets as I believe relationships should be based on TRUST.

4. Some women deny their husband sex ‘almost’ all the time, Never make it a habit to deny him sex because you are trying to make a point.
He can also make many points between the office and home and you will not be one of those points. That, i believe is the beginning of family disintegration.

5. God is the backbone of our existence. Never miss every waking moment to pray for him and your family and wish him long life and prosperity.
That does not mean a man should be left out of the prayer duties, he must of-course pray always for the well-being of his family as should you.

6. Sometimes, women go through their husbands email, phones, or office drawers because we need a bit of reassurance, It’s all completely normal as long as you don’t go overboard in your tests and start questioning everything.
If you do it without his knowledge, do not get caught.

7. Also, never ever hit him, no matter how strong a woman is, a man is multiple times stronger. A happy home is the pride of every successful woman. You would not expect your man to hit you so there is no reason to do the same.
P.S: Men, bullying your girl is an unforgivable offense, hit your pillows if you are so vexed.

8. Never parcel old quarrelsome issues for years only to burst them open on his head without warning on a day peace has reigned on. Nagging is a terrible disease, get over it.

9. Never hurt his pride in front of his friends or your friends, molesting your man in public is not the right way to settle a score. Always keep his image clean even if you detest it otherwise seek counsel and other effective means of helping him or resolving the issue.

10: Never stand in support of your family’s decisions over his especially in the area of Financial Assistance. Your family is as important as his family.

It really takes two to tangle, so let both parties work hand in hand for the perfect Bliss and unity of the family and for a progressive society.

well said @chriskosherbal we all surely need this information especially when we consider the state of most Nigerian youth
that is the reason the MODs just have to do the needful

@ bayulll01 thanks for your comment, don't mind if you share

One of the byproducts of our sedentary & isolated contemporary life is the growing epidemic of depression.
Over 120 million people worldwide are affected by the black dog of depression, as Sir Winston Churchill described it. Depression is one of the leading causes of disability, missed work, broken relationships and more.
Chances are you or someone you know will suffer from it in your lifetime.
It is truly one of the most devastating of dis-eases (not at ease!) in that it robs you of the ability to simply enjoy life. Activities that you used to enjoy leave you feeling empty. Interacting with friends, family and coworkers can be overwhelming.

Here Are 7 Powerful Ways To Overcome Depression

Cultivate supportive relationships
Getting the support you need plays a big role in lifting the fog of gloominess and keeping it away. On your own, it can be difficult to maintain perspective and sustain the effort required to beat depression, but the very nature of depression makes it difficult to reach out for help. While isolation and loneliness can trigger or worsen depression, maintaining emotionally close relationships can be instrumental in overcoming it.
The thought of reaching out to even close family members and friends can seem overwhelming. You may feel ashamed, too exhausted to talk, or guilty for neglecting the relationship. Remind yourself that this is the depression talking. Reaching out is not a sign of weakness and it won’t mean you’re a burden to others. Your loved ones care about you and want to help. And remember, it’s never too late to build new friendships and improve your support network and always try and maintain a nice relationship, so you gerrit.

Do things that make you feel good
In order to overcome depression, you have to do things that relax and energize you. This includes following a healthy lifestyle, learning how to better manage stress, setting limits on what you’re able to do, adopting healthy habits, and scheduling fun activities into your day. Aim for eight hours of sleep. Depression typically involves sleep problems. Whether you’re sleeping too little or too much, your mood suffers. Get on a better sleep schedule by learning healthy sleep habits.
Expose yourself to a little sunlight every day. Lack of sunlight can make depression worse. Make sure you’re getting enough. Take a short walk outdoors, have your coffee outside, enjoy an al fresco meal, people-watch on a park bench, or sit out in the garden. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day to boost your mood. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, try using a light therapy box.

Have a good diet
This would also be included because what you eat has a direct impact on the way you feel. Aim for a balanced diet of low-fat protein, complex carbohydrates, fruits and vegetables. Reduce your intake of foods that can adversely affect your brain and mood, such as caffeine, alcohol, trans fats, saturated fats, and foods with high levels of chemical preservatives or hormones (such as certain meats)
Additional tips:
Don’t skip meals.
Minimize sugar and refined carbs.
Focus on complex carbohydrates.
Boost your B vitamins.
Try super-foods
Consider taking a chromium supplement..

Get outside.
Our friends saw lots of daylight; getting up at sunrise and going to sleep at sunset. Exposure to bright sunlight for 30 minutes a day either through sunlight or a light made for this helps keep your internal clock set. This act helps to regulate our sleep/wake cycle and insures a good night’s sleep which in turn, helps our physical and mental health. Don’t wear sunglasses though; the exposure must come through your eyes!

Aerobic Exercise.
The truth is that morning walkout and street exercise is not so common in our society here in Nigeria. But 30 minutes at least 3 times a week means those ‘runner’s high’ endorphins get released regularly. It’s also a good way to work through and release stress. You don’t have to run a marathon, just get your heart rate up to your target range – around 120 to 160 beats per minute depending on your age and condition. Walking works wonders. Abeg get your doctor’s approval first oo!

Start a journal.
Yes you heard me right, starting a journal can help you reflect on your depression and feelings and monitor your sensations throughout the day. Make a goal of writing in your journal at least once a day, preferably in the evenings, when you can wrap up whatever the day brought you. Writing in a journal can make you feel more in touch with your thoughts, less alone, and more aware of the things that make you happy or unhappy.
Writing in a journal will also help you focus and shut off your mind from all the stressful tasks around you.

Watch your thinking!
The last but certainly not the least is to be mindful of whatever you think, the fact is that, Anti-rumination strategy is vital to breaking out of depression and other emotional ruts. Become aware of those times you dwell on the negatives in your life – both real and imagined – and stop them. It takes work and persistence but if you constantly tell yourself to ‘stop it’ when you start to go over and over the negatives, then you are building a positive habit that will change your life for the better. Whether it’s the guy who cut you off in traffic or something a little closer to home, don’t give yourself the luxury of a negative thought.

conclusion
Always try not to get yourself depressed because it works hand in hand with low self esteem thereby leading to self destruction. So here you have it fresh and juicy, put this to action and save yourself from personal destruction and societal irrelevance. Well in case you still need help then p.m me.

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To All Married Ladies....
21 Ways That Will Make Your Husband/Keep
Loving You more and more
1. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of
the family.
2. Discover his favourite pet name and call him
by that.
3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to
him in his sober moment with apology and explain
why you behave that way that annoyed him.
5. Be quick to say " I am sorry dear". Whenever u
offend him, insist on his forgiveness and kiss him
when he does.
6. Speak good of him before his friends n siblings.
7. Honour his mother.
8. Insist that he buys gift to his parents and so be
sure that he will do same for your parents
9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially
when he has no enough money at hand
10. Do not allow maid to serve him food when you
are at home, because you may lose him to them.
11. Give him warm reception with an embrace
when he returns, collect his luggage and help
UnCloth him.
12. Smile when u looks at him and give him
occasional perks when u are out socially.
13. Praise him before your children.
14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or
shower.
15. Put love note in his lunch or purse.
16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.
17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell
him I love you
18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently
wake him at the early hours of the morning and
romance him to the point of demand. He will not
be enticed by any other woman that day.
19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as
your husband.
20. Give him a hug for no reason.
21. Appreciate God for the Adam of your
life.
We all assume to the fact that there's no certain procedure or know-how to having a blissfull/successful marraige but putting some one or two strings together might just make the union work as we desire.
Albiet Implement this law that every morning your
family will wake up n pray.It brings unity. Value
your husband because you may not have the
second chance to love him. Pray to God to protect
him. If u practice all these, your husband will be
afraid to cheat on you, even if he does his mind
will not be at rest. If your husband is already
cheating on u, begin to practice these and u will
win him back. Do support it with prayers because
nothing is impossible 4 God. I wish you a happy
home and lovable husband.
from the Desk of .....Temitope Abodunde.....