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Romance / What To Do When A Guy Friend Acts Weird *or Weirder Than Normal* by tkgz(m): 8:21am On Apr 18, 2020
Guys can be strange sometimes. What are you supposed to do when a guy friend acts weird out of the blue? First thing—don’t panic!

When your guy friend acts weird around you, there are a few potential reasons why. However, it’s also possible that he’s simply got something on his mind and he’s distracted with everyone.

Think back to times when you’ve been under stress at work or you’ve got a million essays that are due in a few days. It’s easy to become a little less available, distant and even weird in some cases. Being distracted can do that to you.

When a close friend becomes a little distant or they act a little out of character, it’s normal to suddenly panic and wonder whether it’s something you’ve done. Thankfully, it’s not necessarily the case.

When your guy friend acts weird, there is another potential reason why. In fact, there are two reasons.

When a guy friend acts weird: Two possible reasons why

Firstly, have you done something to upset him? Have you been less available recently? Have you said something offhand without realizing it? Sure, guys aren’t generally as emotional as girls when it comes to comments, but the dude still has feelings. If you’ve said something which he found hurtful, whether you meant it or not, that could be a reason why your guy friend acts weird all of a sudden.

Look back and think carefully. Of course, the chances are that this isn’t the case, because you’re a good friend and wouldn’t hurt your friend, right?

However, remember that we’re all human. Sometimes we are flippant without meaning anything by it. If that is the case, sit him down, apologize, buy him his favorite chocolate or snack to say ‘sorry.’ Then let it go.

So, what is the second option?

This is an altogether more worrying reason.

Brace yourself.

His feelings have changed.

When your guy friend acts weird, sure, it might not be for this reason. But, could it be that he’s started to develop a bit of a crush on you?

Maybe.

With that in mind, his behavior has changed a little because he’s feeling awkward. He’s not sure what to do with this new development.

Do you remember that episode of Friends when Joey suddenly started to develop feelings for Rachel? He told himself it was nothing, it would go away, but it affected the way he acted around her. In the end, he had to come clean.
Now, I’m in no way suggesting that this is the definite reason why your dude has started acting a little strange, but it’s a possible reason. Don’t jump straight in there and tell him that you know his big secret. Can you imagine if you’re wrong? Oh, the horror! But, it is something to be mindful of and see as a possibility.

Of course, this totally depends on how long he’s been acting this way and the way in which he’s acting weird. Does he avoid touching you suddenly, when he was quite touchy-feely before? Does he make more excuses to touch you? Is his behavior flirty or has he gone cold?

Of course, he could just be totally oblivious too

I’ve just dropped a bombshell on you. You’re now examining your friendship in your mind and looking for clues, but it could also be simply that he has no idea that he’s acting a little out of character.

This development really doesn’t make this conundrum any easier to solve, does it? You see, humans are complex and guys are especially. Guys in general *although I don’t want to generalize completely* aren’t as open with their feelings as most women are. As a result you might have to do a little guess work as to what’s really going on beneath the surface.

The likelihood is that there is zero untoward feelings going on beneath the surface. It could be as simple as his team losing a few games on the bounce and he’s not happy about it, or that his PlayStation broke and he’s wondering how he’s going to pay for it to be fixed.

Again, I’m generalizing, but these are definite possibilities.

If you’re genuinely concerned about what’s going on and you’ve noticed that your guy friend has acted weird for a long time now, sit him down for a chat. Now, don’t do the whole “we need to talk” announcement, because that will just freak him out.

Instead, wait until a time when you’re both chilling and the atmosphere is relaxed. Then, just say something like “hey, tell me to mind my own business if you want, but is everything okay with you?” He’s likely to say he’s fine. Then just add that you’ve noticed he’s acting a little differently lately and wanted to check in with him.

If he says he’s fine again, leave it. The seed has been sown. You’ve put it out there that you’ve noticed. In that case, he will either find it within himself to come clean on whatever is bothering him, or he’ll make an effort to stop being weird. You’ve done your bit. Guys don’t generally *there’s that word again* like being pushed.

Just let him know that you’re there if he needs anything. That’s really all you need to do. However, if it does turn out to be that he’s developed a little crush, what are you going to do about it? Again, don’t jump to conclusions. If you really do suspect this, think about how you feel in advance, so you’re not caught in the moment if a confession comes your way.

Is it something you’re open to, or is that crossing a friendship line you’re not happy to cross in your own mind? It’s something worth examining at least.

The important thing to remember: Don’t panic

When a guy friend acts weird, don’t panic. Really. It’s easy to say it. When a friend of any type starts to send strange vibes your way, you will naturally question it, but just go with the flow for now. As long as you’ve let him know that you’ve noticed and you’re there for him, that’s really all you can do. The likelihood is that he will snap himself out of it. Then everything will go back to normal, or as normal as life can ever be at least.
Source: https://examprestige.com/what-to-do-when-a-guy-friend-acts-weird

Romance / How To Make Him Regret Losing You & Find Your Way To A Better Life by tkgz(m): 9:49pm On Apr 17, 2020
When the relationship ends, a million emotions run riot. But, in the end, understanding how to make him regret losing you is actually quite simple.

Learning how to make him regret losing you can feel surprisingly heartwarming and vindictive sometimes. And at other times, it could be an unnecessary path that is best not taken. Giving it a real thought, I often wonder why we put ourselves through the agony of relationships in the first place.

Sure, they feel wonderful at the time. The heady days of having a crush, going on your first date, getting to know each other, the ‘are we/aren’t we’ stage, and then when it all becomes official you’re enjoying the time you spend together. It’s great, but then it can all turn sour so very quickly.

You see, you have no idea what someone’s true intentions are and for me, that’s terrifying. They might say they love you, they might say you’re their everything, but if that’s the case, why do they leave you suddenly on a cold Sunday morning?

Okay, so that’s a little poetic license, but you get the idea.

The fact is that good relationships can go bad for what seems like no reason and you’re left wondering what you did wrong.

The chances are that you did nothing wrong at all, but that doesn’t make the quest for closure any easier. What many people end up doing is embarking on a question to try and make their ex-partner regret their actions. They try all manner of different strategies, focusing their time and a lot of their effort on trying to get them back.

Do you want my honest opinion?

It’s a real waste of your time and effort.

Understanding how to make him regret losing you for real really comes down to doing your best to put it all down to experience and moving the hell on. If he looks back over your time and regrets it, that’s good, and if he sees you out and about, enjoying yourself and looking great, well, his loss.

For me, that’s the single best way to learn how to make him regret losing you.

Forget the in-depth strategies, forget the plans and the accidental meetings, unnecessary texts and bordering stalking missions. Simply focus your attention yourself and do your best to live your life. Without a doubt, this would be the best way to not only make him regret ending the relationship, but also to make him think twice about doing the same to another unlucky partner in the future.

How to make him regret losing you? Figure out your motivation

You might think I’m missing out on something here. You might think that I’m yet to discover this secret plan to turn the whole problem around and have him running back, but my way of thinking is a little different.

I ask myself this – why would I want to try and get someone back who left me high and dry in the first place? Why would I want to make someone regret losing me from their life if they couldn’t see my worth at the time? Why should I spend precious hours trying to accidentally bump into them looking my best when they can’t be bothered to text and ask how I am?

You might think I have an iron will here, amazing self confidence and the like but the truth is that I’ve learnt the hard way.

I had an ex leave me for no reason. Once minute everything was great, the next he was gone. I was distraught, I beat myself up about it for months, wondering if I’d done this differently would he have stayed, questioning whether I should have paid more attention or tried a little harder.

It was exhausting. I searched for answers to the question of ‘how to make him regret losing you’ and I found all manner of weird and wonderful suggestions. I even found a spell on some random website.

Yes, seriously. An actual spell.

Then something clicked.

Perhaps it was that ridiculous spell that did it, because it asked for some seriously random ingredients. It was like the slap on the head I needed. Why was I wasting my time trying to get a guy to change his mind and prove my worth? I really had done nothing wrong.

The chances are that you have done nothing wrong either. If you had, you wouldn’t be asking how to make him regret losing you, because you’d know exactly why he left in the first place. You’d be regretting your actions, and the fact that you have nothing firm to actually regret should tell you something.

Sure, it’s normal to start dragging things up and wondering maybe you should have done this differently or that, but if there is no hard and solid evidence to suggest that you committed a relationship misdemeanor, then quite honestly, you did nothing wrong. In that case ask yourself why you’re wondering how to get him to regret saying goodbye? That’s if he even gave you the decency of a goodbye in the first place.

With all of this in mind, what is your motivation for asking how to make him regret losing you? Why do you want him to regret it? Do you want him back? Do you just want him to feel the sense of loss that you did? Work it out and then do a little deep thinking.

It’s time to focus on number one

The best way to really make him question his decision (whether you actually want him back or simply to make him wonder) is to focus all your attention on you. In that case, there is no bad outcome. You’ll feel great, you’ll have that spring back in your step, you’ll start living your life and looking for new opportunities to increase your happiness, you’ll be healthier, and of course, he starts to look at you and wonder what on Earth he did to lose you.

There is a warning here however. If he left you in the first place and you start living your life, looking great and enjoying yourself, why does he suddenly want to change his mind and pursue you again? Is it a case of ‘I don’t want her, but nobody else can have her either?’

You’re still the same person, you’re just happier and healthier because you’ve shed the baggage and you’ve started to focus on yourself. If past company starts banging on your door demanding another chance, I’m sorry, but it’s time to lock the door tightly behind you.

It’s also worth mentioning that social media can certainly help you in your low-key revenge plan here, because even if you’re no longer friends on Facebook, Instagram, etc, the chances of him spying on you still are pretty high. Let’s be honest, we all do it! That means posting new photos, checking in at new places with new friends, and generally looking like you’ve having a whale of a time.

Trust me, it works!

Despite all of this, I still think that the best revenge here is to wave your hand and say goodbye in your own mind. There IS someone out there who won’t leave you and then need to be coerced back. There IS someone out there who you won’t need to try and make regret saying goodbye. Surely it’s better to be on the lookout for them, rather than trying to entice someone who is flaky at best?

Let’s be honest, if he left once, he might do it again – he’s a flight risk! Do you really want to live your life with that worry in the back of your mind?

Of course not!

Learning how to make him regret losing you really comes down to focusing on yourself and realizing that a man who can leave you isn’t someone you want back in your life. Regardless of the reasons, being with someone who you worry is just going to walk back out again is not a happy way to live.

Source: https://examprestige.com/how-to-make-him-regret-losing-you

Romance / Emotional Cheating Vs Friendship: Where Is The Line Crossed? by tkgz(m): 9:17am On Apr 15, 2020
Ah, emotions… they’re pesky things. How can you tell whether it’s emotional cheating vs friendship you have going on? The lines can easily be blurred.

From time to time, we need a certain amount of emotional understanding that we don’t seem to get from our partner. Have you ever been in that type of situation? If you have, you might have wondered about the line between emotional cheating vs friendship. Is it blurrier then you originally thought?

Perhaps you feel like your partner simply doesn’t understand a situation you’re in. Maybe they’re distracted with a problem of their own, and you feel like your own needs are ignored. It happens. But how you deal with this situation is key in terms of whether your relationship will survive the turmoil or not.

One of the main outcomes in this situation is to turn to someone else.

Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean turning to another person in a physical way and cheating on your partner sexually. Every single person on this planet of ours has a totally different definition of what cheating is. For me, kissing is a red line. For another person, that might be totally forgivable.

So, how can you tell whether it’s emotional cheating vs friendship when you or your partner turns to another person to get their emotional needs met?

Emotional cheating vs friendship

Let’s break these terms down to really identify where the lines become blurred between emotional cheating vs friendship.

We all know what friendship is. It’s platonic. There is no romantic intention involved. You support one another and love each other almost like family, depending upon the quality of the friendship and how long you’ve known each other.

For instance, I have friends who are literally family to me. I also have friends who I’m not quite so close to. I call them all friends and I have no romantic intention towards any of them, which I’m sure they’ll be very relieved to hear!

We turn to our friends during times of need because our friends know us well and understand us. That means they can give us the help and support we need until we’re feeling strong enough to help ourselves.

So, what exactly is emotional cheating?

Again, everyone has their own definition, but it’s probably easier if I share mine. Compare in your own mind what you think.

To me, emotional cheating is when a partner turns to another person for their emotional needs, but they have other intentions. They may not know this at first, but they develop romantic feelings and the connection goes a little beyond friendship, e.g. they start meeting up at odd times, they’re always talking on social media. Perhaps the partner divulges secrets about their relationship which they really shouldn’t be talking about with anyone else but their partner.

To me, when a need develops, that’s when the line has been crossed.

When you need to speak to that person, when you can’t wait to see them, when you get butterflies as they walk into the room.

That’s when you’re in trouble. And that’s when you’ve crossed the line from friendship into emotional cheating.
Of course, you’re not cheating physically; you might never kiss, you might never sleep together, you might never even hold each other for a second longer than necessary. But it doesn’t matter – emotional cheating is often harder to overcome than physical cheating because of the feelings that are involved and their depth.

Stop and evaluate your actions

If you’re in this situation and wondering whether you’ve crossed the line, think carefully. The fact you’re considering emotional cheating vs friendship in your mind means that you know something has gone a little further than it should have.

Of course, it could be that you suspect your partner may be cheating on you in this way because they’ve become close to someone else. Emotional cheating vs friendship doesn’t always mean that the person is cheating, it doesn’t always have to mean that cheating is the winner in this boxing bout. Sometimes it is genuine friendship. Simply, a conversation between partners will fix the growing rift.

So, how should you deal with it?

Think carefully about your relationship and what it means to you. If you’re growing close to another person, ask yourself a few hard questions and weigh the emotional cheating vs friendship shift. Evaluate it carefully. Decide which side of the line you’re on. If you feel like you’ve crossed a friendship line, it’s time to either take a break with your partner and work on how you feel, or take a step back from your friend and figure out the problem in your original relationship.

You cannot and should not have both in your life.

If you’re on the other side of the situation and think your partner has grown a little too close to someone they claim to be friends with, tread carefully. It’s never a good idea to start throwing threats around because if your partner is starting to grow close to this other person, you might push them even further in that direction.

Work on your relationship. Consider what is wrong and what you can change. Talk to your partner and reignite the spark. If that doesn’t work, perhaps it’s time to sit down and really address the issue. Explain how you’ve grown suspicious of their connection with the other person and that it makes you feel a little uncomfortable.

It’s never a good idea to accuse them of anything. It’s not a good idea to do this too soon, but if all else fails, what do you have to lose?

Literally nothing. At this point, it’s rescue or walk away.

How would you feel if it was the other way around?

A friendship never has a feeling of butterflies attached to it. It’s not normal to suddenly experience a rush of adrenaline and butterflies when your friend walks into the room. If you experience that, it’s not friendship… it’s something else. Perhaps that’s the biggest pointer towards your connection having gone a little too far.

At the end of the day, friendship is something we should cherish, and it helps us through hard times. It’s not wrong to turn to friends when you’re struggling in your relationship. Sometimes an outside perspective can be all it takes to help you solve the issue. However, when you’re reaching out to someone else to get your emotional needs met and rely upon that person as a result, you really should sit down and work out whether you’re crossing major red lines.

The best measure? Ask yourself how you would feel if the boot was on the other foot. If your partner was close to someone else in the same way, would it make you feel uncomfortable? Would you have a problem with it?

If the answer is yes, you’ve already strayed far beyond the lines of your relationship. Stop before things worsen. If what you’re doing would make you uncomfortable if the situation was reversed, you know it’s wrong. In that case, why are you putting your partner through it?

Emotional cheating vs friendship can be a difficult debate. We all turn to friends for support, but when that support becomes a little too much, it’s time to question what you’re doing and why.

Source: https://examprestige.com/emotional-cheating-vs-friendship

Romance / How To Recognize A Fake Best Friend Before You Get Betrayed Or Hurt by tkgz(m): 2:51pm On Apr 14, 2020
There are different categories of friends, so how do you know if you have a fake best friend or a genuine ‘ride or die’? These 10 signs tell the truth.

Do you want to know the thing that I find most worrying in the world? No, it’s not who’s going to win the next series of Love Island or whether or not we’re over Botox. It’s actually something far deeper. No, the thing I find worrying is that you never really know what someone’s true intentions are. Could I have a fake best friend just putting on a face?

You could meet someone, they could be utterly charming, you might connect with them instantly and feel like you’ve found your soulmate, but then they leave. No reason, no explanation, no nothing. They just disappear, poof! Gone, into thin air.

How do you cope with these things?

How do you cope with being betrayed by someone you trusted?

That’s what I find most worrying.

You might think I’m referring to a romantic situation here, and while that’s pretty damn painful in itself, I’m actually talking about friendships.

Hands up! Who has ever had a fake best friend?

No, I’m not talking about imaginary friends when you were younger. I’m talking about someone you thought had your back. Someone you adored on a friendship level, only for them to show their true colors and disappear from your life.

It’s happened to me more times than I can count. It leaves me wondering whether the world really is full of rather horrible people or I’m simply a very bad judge of character. For the sake of humankind, let’s hope it’s the latter.

10 crucial signs you have a fake best friend

I don’t want you to experience the same upset that I did when I realized that the person I had told all my secrets turned out to be a fake best friend. It was horrible, painful, gut-wrenching. Seriously, I think that losing a friend is actually harder than breaking up with someone romantically.

I came out of the whole situation far better than I went into it, having developed a greater sense of what to look for next time. That is the advice I’m going to impart upon you today.

So, if you’re not sure if you have a fake best friend in your midst or not, look out for these signs.

#1 They’re never available when you need them. I’m not suggesting that a real friend should always drop everything at a second’s notice. Arguably, most of the time they’re around for you when you need them. If there is someone in your life you call a friend but is never around when you need a shoulder to cry on, they’re probably in the fake category.
#2 They constantly talk about themselves. Is every conversation with your best friend one-sided? Do they love the sound of their own voice? Is talking about ‘number one’ their favorite topic? A fake best friend wants to talk about themselves all the time. Frankly, they’re not interested in you or what you have to say. Harsh but true.

#3 They’re happy to talk about you behind your back. Do you have your suspicions that your so-called friend has been talking about you? Or, do you feel like if push came to shove, they wouldn’t have your back at all? That’s another sign that the person in your life isn’t genuine.

#4 You usually only hear from them on their terms. If they want something, they’re available to talk. If you want something, it’s hard to get hold of them. Does that sound familiar? Fake best friends are usually all about themselves, so if they want something from you, they’ll be all over you like a rash.

#5 You don’t feel free around them. Do you feel like you’re always tiptoeing around them? Do you often feel like you can’t be truly yourself for some reason whenever they’re around? That’s a pretty subliminal sign of a fake friend right there.

#6 They take everything negative out on you. While they might not blame you for all the misgivings going on in their life, they’ll probably take it out on you, leaving you as their metaphorical verbal punching bag. If that’s the case, why do you want them in your life? A friend is supposed to build you up, not knock you down.

#7 They never admit when they’re wrong. A true friend would be horrified if you sat them down and explained that they had hurt your feelings. A fake best friend would not be horrified. In this case, they’re likely to refuse to take responsibility. They may even lash out in a verbal rant.

#8 They often put you down with negative remarks. Do they pull you down face to face? Do they tell you that you’re no good at something or that your clothes don’t look good for no reason? Sure, real friends need to be honest with one another. But, there’s honesty and there’s simply being mean.

#9 They’re never genuinely happy for you when things go well. If you succeed at something or have a tiny bit of happiness you want to share, your friend is never happy for you. Does that sound right? A true friend will celebrate your successes as your biggest cheerleader, a fake best friend will make you feel like you didn’t succeed at all.

#10 They never let you forget if you mess up. We all make mistakes sometimes. If you happen to mess up a little or maybe say something the wrong way, they’re not likely to let you forget it. A fake best friend is an expert at holding grudges. Let’s be honest, that’s not really what real friendship is about.

Real friendship is about celebrating one another, being each other’s rock, and standing up for the other one whenever they need a little help. It’s not about dragging someone down, making them feel bad about themselves, and it’s certainly not about selfishness.

Sure, we’re all guilty of being a bad friend from time to time. We’re human. We mess up sometimes. However, if you recognize the signs in someone close to you, the chances of your friendship being real are slim.

Friendship is a precious thing in this day and age, and most of us lose more friends as we go through life than we gain. That’s fine however, as what you’re left with are the diamonds, the ones you can count on throughout life. Those are your true ride or dies, those are the ones you can rely upon to be there when things get tough. In return, you do the same for them. If any fakery comes into the equation, the chances of that friendship lasting the test of time are slim to zero anyway.

I’m not going to lie and say it’s easy to say goodbye to someone you thought was your friend but turned out to be fake. I had to deal with it a few times. It made me question my own judgement. However, it’s always better to wave your hand goodbye to someone who causes you stress and upset, than to stick with it out of a fake vow of friendship.

A fake best friend is someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart. They are in the friendship for a reason only they know. Instead of building you up, they tear you down, causing stress and anguish.

Source: https://examprestige.com/how-to-recognize-a-fake-best-friend

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Romance / 13 Signs Your Relationship Won’t Work Out And It’s Time To End It by tkgz(m): 9:08pm On Apr 12, 2020
When your relationship is doomed, there are almost always signs your relationship won’t work out that you are overlooking.

It can come as a shock when a relationship ends. You think things are going great, then boom, a breakup right out of the blue. The thing is, it didn’t happen out of the blue. In the moment, it’s so surprising that things were ending because it’s easier to ignore all the signs your relationship won’t work out.

Of course, some breakups really do come out of the blue. More often than not though, there were signs your relationship wouldn’t work out that you just didn’t see.

That’s what I’m here for. I went through the shock of multiple breakups and went to therapy and worked through what happened in those relationships so that you have an easier time managing yours.

So, what are the signs your relationship won’t work out?

Why you’re worried your relationship won’t work out

Before we even get into the signs your relationship won’t last, if you are looking for signs you will find some. If you look hard enough you will find signs like this in any and every relationship.

The fact that you’re actively looking for these signs means you already know that your relationship has its share of problems. You just want reassurance that it isn’t doomed.

It may not be, but these signs can point you in the right direction.

Signs your relationship won’t work out

Relationships are all different shapes and sizes. Some are more stable and others aren’t. That doesn’t make one better than the other or more likely to work out.

But, sometimes things happen that reveal the subtle signs your relationship won’t work out. You can work on these things and hope to change what these signs point towards or you can see these red flags for what they are, caution signs to make a change.

#1 You’re not keen to see each other. Relationships, no matter how old, should ignite at least some level of excitement. You should look forward to seeing each other, not dread it. If making plans to see one another feels more like a requirement more than a fun date with your significant other, that is not a good sign.

#2 Your fights are always risking a breakup. Fights, arguments, disagreements, they all happen in relationships. The difference between that and fights that nearly end in a breakup is the trust.

In a healthy relationship, a couple knows this is temporary. They will still be there for each other when the fight ends. In a relationship that won’t work out, fights contain threats of ending the relationship which is disrespectful and manipulative.

#3 You put them first. You might think that putting your partner first is a good thing, but it isn’t. Yes, we all make compromises. But if you continuously put your partner’s needs above your own, you are not only becoming codependent but steering into dangerous territory.
#4 You almost cheat. Yes, some relationships survive cheating. A sign that yours won’t is that you are often on the verge of cheating. You may think you’ll never actually act on it or cross the line, but getting that close is not a good sign for your relationship.

#5 You look forward to spending time apart. When your boo is going away for a week on business, you would expect to miss them. If you can’t wait to have some time away from them, that doesn’t shed a flattering light on your relationship.

If you are still together and craving time apart, it will only get worse.

#6 You don’t talk. Talking and communication are key to a relationship that lasts. I don’t mean talking about the weather or the recycling. Talking about your feelings, working through things together, planning for the future. These things should be present for you to feel that your relationship brings joy to your life.

#7 You have the same fights. If you keep having the same fights repeatedly, there is an underlying problem that is not being addressed. These fights could start with someone not doing the dishes, but if it always ends on the same topic, you either need to face it and make a decision or go your separate ways.

#8 They don’t get along with the people in your life. I know our partners don’t always get along with the in-laws. Most can swallow their pride and enjoy a nice holiday. If your friends and family cannot hold back their disdain for your partner, that is a bad sign. They are seeing something you’re missing.

Hear them out. These are people you trust. Their opinions matter. They want what is best for you, so go in with an open mind.

#9 They are rude to others. Maybe your partner is the sweetest person you know, but when you go out, they have a bit of a rude streak. If they are rude to your friends, servers, cab drivers, or anyone else, that is not a good sign. Someone who can change their personality or attitude so quickly is showing a lot of red flags.

#10 The jealousy never stops. If you are jealous of your partner’s friends, job, or ex, it will slowly eat away at the foundation of your relationship. The same goes if they are jealous of you. If you don’t trust each other, nothing will save your relationship.

#11 They ghost you on and off. A healthy relationship is based on trust but also has consistent communication. This will differ with every relationship. If your partner disappears for days at a time, that is not a good sign. Not only are they not clueing you in or easing your worries, but you could drive yourself crazy.

#12 Their social media habits changed. I don’t usually put a lot of weight into social media, but if you and your partner do, it could be a sign. If you always post pictures of each other but those posts decline or get replaced with friends and activities you’re doing apart, that could be a sign of where your true focus is.

#13 You just feel it. Unlucky number 13 is your gut. This is the big one. This is the one that may not have a quantifiable definition or proof. It is all about a feeling. This is just you feeling something is off.

I’ve had this feeling the night before one of my worst breakups. What did I do? I shut it down. I convinced myself I was being crazy and overreacting, until the next day my boyfriend at the time was acting strange. Right before he broke up with me I said, “are you breaking up with me?” He looking shocked that I said it.

Source: https://examprestige.com/13-signs-your-relationship-wont-work

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Politics / Akeredolu: Akure Blast Caused By Vehicle Conveying Explosives (updated) by tkgz(m): 4:34pm On Mar 28, 2020
An explosion in Akure, Ondo state, on Saturday morning, destroyed many residential houses, a church building and a school.

The explosion suspected to be a bomb blast cut off the busy Akure/Owo road.

The incident, which happened about two kilometres to Akure Airport, affected many residents of Eleyowo community, destroying the church and the school in the area.

Many people, who lived within the the church premises, were said to have been wounded.

The site at which the explosion happened has a deep crater cutting off the road and hindering vehicular movement.

The blast was said to have occurred when a truck conveying explosives to a quarry in another state exploded at the airport junction area of Akure.

Addressing journalists at the scene of the incident, Undie Adie, Ondo commissioner of police, said the explosives were duly escorted by men of the police ordnance department, but that the vehicle conveying the items developed a fault.

Source: https://examprestige.com/akeredolu-akure-blast-caused-by-vehicle-conveying-explosives

Religion / Nigerians Await T.B. Joshua’s Prophecy On Coronavirus Deadline by tkgz(m): 2:35pm On Mar 27, 2020
Nigerians are awaiting the prediction of Pastor T.B. Joshua over the deadline for coronavirus.

The coronavirus outbreak has kept many out of jobs and at home with the hope of it ending soon. So many people are hoping that scientists and medical researchers finding a cure or vaccine to curtail this virus.

Amid all these hopes and struggles, T.B. Joshua prophesied that the virus will end on the 27th of March.

While speaking to his church members last week, Joshua said: “This month (March), before 27th it will be over
“By the end of this month, whether we like it or not, no matter medicine they might have produced to cure whatever. It will go the way it comes.

“If it is not medicine that brought this to the world, medicine cannot take it out.”

“The noise of coronavirus would be silenced before the end of March 2020”, Joshua added on Tuesday while answering several questions related to the coronavirus outbreak on his official Facebook Page.

Source: https://examprestige.com/t-b-joshuas-prophecy-on-coronavirus-deadline

Romance / How To Stop Obsessing Over An Ex & Free Your Mind For Something New by tkgz(m): 10:31am On Mar 26, 2020
You broke up with them a while ago, but you still can’t get over them. If anything, your obsession has increased. Here’s how to stop obsessing over an ex.

You don’t need to tell me about it. I had to learn how to stop obsessing over an ex too. If the breakup is pretty fresh, it’s normal to be upset and ride the rollercoaster of emotion. But at some point, you must accept the situation. It’s not easy, but if you don’t process your feelings, you can get sucked up into obsessive thoughts about your partner.

When my ex and I broke up, I was all over his social media, seeing who he recently added, what he did on the weekends, etc. I was a mess. What I wasn’t realizing is that the more I obsessed over him, the worse my mental state became.

How to stop obsessing over an ex

Eventually, someone, you or your partner, will move on first. And, of course, it’s going to sting. Your ex was someone who you were intimate with, someone who knew everything about you. But this is a part of life that you need to accept.

Obsessing over your ex isn’t going to get you any closer to being with them again, and it won’t help you meet someone new. In other words, the only person it hurts is you. So, it’s time you stopped driving by their house. Put the binoculars down. You should live your life, and it’s about time you did.

It’s time to move on.

#1 Remember why you broke up. Things weren’t always so rosy and cheery like they are in your memory. You’re focusing only on the good parts of the relationship, but there’s a reason why you aren’t together anymore.

Remember why you broke up and that it was for a reason. It’s important to look at the reality of your relationship and not the fantasy in your head.

#2 Don’t act on emotion. I have a guilty pleasure of watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians. And in one episode, Khloe said something that was probably the only line worth listening to. She said, never act on emotion. And that’s really true.

When you’re hurting, it’s easy to engage in behaviors that you’ll regret later on. Calling your ex at three am because you’re sad isn’t a smart move. Neither is sending them 30 angry texts.

#3 Give yourself some time to heal. Listen, if you’re trying to figure out how to stop obsessing over an ex, you need to remember that a breakup isn’t a small thing. This was someone you felt a connection with and possibly planned your future with.

Now, everything is up in the air. So, this isn’t the time where you should be hard on yourself. Give yourself time to heal. You will feel anger and sadness, and that’s a part of the healing process.

Source: https://examprestige.com/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-an-ex

Politics / Covid-19: Governor Yahaya Bello Shuts Borders, Schools, Issues Guidelines For Re by tkgz(m): 9:44am On Mar 26, 2020
COVID-19: GOVERNOR YAHAYA BELLO SHUTS BORDERS, SCHOOLS, ISSUES GUIDELINES FOR RESIDENTS
Kogi State Governor Yahaya Bello has ordered the closure of both land and waterways in the state and issued guidelines to residents to prevent the spread of the deadly coronavirus.

The governor gave this order in a statement signed on Wednesday by the
Commissioner for Information and Communication, Kingsley Fanwo. He also instructed both public and private schools are to remain closed for now.

“All entry points into Kogi State (land and waterways) are now closed. Entry and transit by any vehicle are subject to a successful health check of all passengers.

“To prevent avoidable delays, which may extend to preventive quarantining, persons with any disease condition which mimics CORVID-19 symptoms, including elevated temperatures, should have a medical report from a reputable hospital/medical practitioner explaining their condition before venturing through the state.

“Directive shutting all educational institutions in the state, both public and private, from Monday, March 23, 2020 remains in effect until further notice,” the statement read in part.

The state governor also directed civil servants to on grade level 1-13 to remain at home and work from home.

This is except those on specified essential services – medical personnel, revenue officers and law enforcement officers.

Source: https://examprestige.com/covid-19-governor-yahaya-bello-shuts-borders-schools-issues-guidelines-for-residents

Health / Coronavirus: Prince Charles Tests Positive But ‘remains In Good Health’ by tkgz(m): 9:07am On Mar 26, 2020
The Prince of Wales has tested positive for coronavirus, Clarence House has announced.

Prince Charles, 71, is displaying mild symptoms “but otherwise remains in good health”, a spokesman said, adding that the Duchess of Cornwall, 72, has been tested but does not have the virus.

Charles and Camilla are now self-isolating at Balmoral.

Buckingham Palace said the Queen last saw her son, the heir to the throne, on 12 March, but was “in good health”.

The palace added that the Duke of Edinburgh was not present at that meeting, and that the Queen was now “following all the appropriate advice with regard to her welfare”.

A Clarence House statement read: “In accordance with government and medical advice, the prince and the duchess are now self-isolating at home in Scotland.

“The tests were carried out by the NHS in Aberdeenshire, where they met the criteria required for testing.

“It is not possible to ascertain from whom the prince caught the virus owing to the high number of engagements he carried out in his public role during recent weeks.”

Source: https://examprestige.com/coronavirus-prince-charles-tests-positive-but-remains-in-good-health

Romance / How To Stop Pushing People Away: Why You Do This & How To Stop It by tkgz(m): 8:22am On Mar 26, 2020
If you’ve been hurt before, self-sabotage can end your relationship before it starts. Learn how to stop pushing people away. Embrace the love you deserve.

No matter how badly you want a relationship to work out or how happy you are with your partner, if you’ve been hurt before it is like a chemical reaction. You push people away. If you want to find happiness again, you must learn how to stop pushing people away.

Whether you’ve been dumped, cheated on, or even betrayed, getting close to someone again can make your subconscious work in overdrive to prevent you from being hurt again. It is a form of self-preservation.

It is our mind’s defense mechanism. We push away the people that make us the happiest or that we love the most. We are terrified of getting hurt again.

stop pushing people

Even when it isn’t rational or logical, sometimes we feel like we just can’t help it. We hurt the people closest to us before they can hurt us. We leave them before they can leave us. And it sucks. When you push people away, you are sabotaging your own potential happiness.

[Read: Here’s how to learn to trust again when you’ve been hurt]

Why you push people away

When we fall into the trap of self-sabotage there are hundreds, if not thousands, of possible reasons for it. Maybe you were cheated on or lied to or had a rough childhood. Maybe you have trust issues or have been left before.

When you’ve been hurt in any way, your mind and body expects it to happen again. It is only natural to protect yourself from going through the pain you went through before.

We don’t want to risk that pain and heartbreak again, so we push people away before they can do it to us. The thing is, even without red flags or any practical reason, the fear lives within us.

For instance, for five years I had a dysfunctional boyfriend. On and off but he repeatedly lied and cheated. After that I was single for a while, years actually, and thought I had taken enough time to move on.

Although I was over him, the pain I went through was still fresh in my mind. It prevented me from getting close to anyone else. Even if I met someone who gave me no reason to doubt them, I was hesitant. I didn’t want to be vulnerable because I didn’t want to go through the same pain.

I didn’t let myself truly be happy because it would hurt more if my heart broke. That’s what we do. We keep people at a distance. When we get close to the happiness we truly want, we push people away.

In reality, this is a disservice to ourselves. We are trapped by the pattern of our past and halts the potential of our future.

We don’t push people away because we are heartless or mean. It may be due to some selfishness. We are terrified. So, we protect ourselves by hurting those that truly care about us.

Thankfully, this isn’t permanent. You can break out of this cycle and learn how to stop pushing people away.

How you push people away

While some of us push people away right before things get really good, others barely let their walls down at all.

Some push people away when things get too serious. Others push people away when they see even a glimpse of suspicion or fear. You could be in a great relationship, but if your partner shares their fears for the future with you, instead of sharing yours as well, you run in the opposite direction.

You might overreact to small arguments or start a fight out of nothing. You might even ghost or start flaking on plans so that you can force them to end things with you now before you become even more invested.

In this way, you are your own worst enemy. When learning how to stop pushing people away, recognize your behavior. Because these fears often settle into our subconscious, and we may not actively realize what we’re doing before it is too late.

#1 You’re controlling. Telling your partner what to do whether it is obvious or manipulative is the perfect way to push someone away. It creates a rift. The intimacy and trust are broken and forces the relationship to run on control.

This is your way of never taking a risk or possibly letting them hurt you.

#2 You’re jealous. Jealousy can be a natural thing, but when it is out of control it can really push someone away. Think about Ross and Rachel from Friends. Ross’s irrational jealousy of Mark, Rachel’s coworker, drove them apart.

His jealousy didn’t come from anything Rachel or Mark did but from his past relationship with Carol. His fear of being left for someone else led him to the end of his relationship.

#3 You’re cold. This is something I have picked up on in my life. In my earlier dating years, I was touchy-feely with whoever I dated. I loved to hold hands and cuddle, but after being hurt I noticed myself being more stoic and cold.

Instead of hugging someone back or giving in to a kiss, I always held back. This was a defense mechanism so I could be sure that I wasn’t giving too much of myself and possibly be rejected.

#4 You don’t think you deserve it. Once hurt, your self-esteem breaks down and you wonder if you really deserve to be happy. So, when you meet someone that could really make you happy, you let that uncertainty and low confidence take over.

It shows your new partner that you aren’t confident in your connection and can make them think you aren’t in it.

Source: https://examprestige.com/how-to-stop-pushing-people-away

Romance / 15 Subtle Signs A Woman Wants Your Attention & Really Likes You by tkgz(m): 10:25pm On Mar 25, 2020
Men can’t always read the signals women offer, so here are the signs a woman wants your attention. What will your next step be?

As a man, you may not know when a woman wants your attention. Is she playing hard to get or really isn’t interested? Whether you are interested in a woman and want to know if she likes you back, or are just clueless, you’ll want to know the signs a woman wants your attention.

Does she want you to flirt with her playfully or pay attention to something important she wants to share? Is your girlfriend silently begging for you to pay attention to her? Is a stranger across the bar sending you signals?

How can you tell when a woman wants your attention?

Why women show signs they want your attention

With all the women making the first move when dating, it is still nice to have a man notice you. Women want you to realize they are there and approach them.

[Read: How to read a girl’s mixed signals and interpret them]

Men don’t always know if a woman is smiling at them to be friendly or if she is instigating a flirtation. But, why do women send signals instead of saying outright that they are interested? Well, women do a lot of prep work to get a man’s attention. The least a man could do is approach her.

To prepare for a night out, women may do their hair, makeup, get a new outfit, wear uncomfortable shoes, and more. If a woman is stepping out with the intention of meeting a man, you need to understand that she’d probably prep for a man’s gaze. They hope for his attention.

It doesn’t boost her confidence or let her know you’re truly interested if she is the one approaching you. That is why she sends subtle signs she wants your attention.

She is hoping that her signs will be enough to hook you and draw you in. When she doesn’t have to be crystal clear with her intent, it shows you are observant. You are willing to take a risk to come and talk to her.

What she wants is for you to let go of the fear of rejection. Go for it because she is worth it.

Signs a woman wants your attention

You don’t want to miss out on a potentially great thing because you couldn’t tell if she wanted your attention or not. The thing is, if a woman wants your attention there will be signs. Subtle or not, they’ll be there. All you have to do is know where to loo to read the signs a woman wants your attention.

#1 She’s always nearby. A woman who is showing signs that she wants your attention will always be within your grasp. She will sit closer to you at the bar, make a point to walk by your desk at work, even if it’s out of her way.

She will be sure to be in your sightline at parties or somewhere you can easily find her. If she wants your attention, even the most subtle sign will be within your sight.

#2 She shows interest in your hobbies. If she never seems interested in baseball until she realized you were a fan, she’s trying to find common ground with you. She may want you to think she shares a hobby with you, so you have an easy in to talk to her.

#3 She makes eye contact. You may think eye contact is just a normal human trait, but when you are talking to someone platonically, you don’t look into their eyes for more than a second or two. When you are romantically interested in someone and want their undivided attention, you linger on eye contact.

#4 She smiles sincerely from across the room. This is one of the most subtle signs a woman wants your attention, but it is also very common. You need good intuition to be sure about this though. Not every across-the-room smile means she wants your attention.

A fake or forced smile could be due to awkwardness because you made involuntary eye contact. But, a sincere or mildly embarrassed smile with a touch of blushing probably means she wants your attention.

#5 She changes her look. If you notice she always has her hair done or is wearing a new perfume around you, she may be begging for a compliment. She may be making these small changes to her appearance so you take note and say something.

One compliment can lead to a first date invite. She is sending you signs to make that ask.

#6 She playfully touches you. Women do not touch men the same way men touch women. When a man must get past a woman, he tends to touch the small of her back or move her out of the way. He might brush her hair out of her face or guide her out of his way with a touch at the waist.

These are things many men do to all sorts of women whether he knows them or not. Women do not do things like this without intent. Women will only brush your arm or playfully slap your shoulder when they want you to read into it. If your hair is messed up they won’t fix it themselves without a meaning behind it.

#7 She’s active on your social media. A woman who wants you to reach out to you will make herself available and stay at the forefront of your mind. Not only will she hang around physically, but digitally as well.

She will be sure to like your latest photos. She may send you memes or comment on your posts. But she might not make it clear she is romantically interested but will show subtle signs she is there.

#8 She remembers details about you. Did you quickly mention in passing that you were trying a new restaurant this weekend or going to visit your great aunt? She pays attention to those details. And she will remember those small things you said that most people would forget. She will ask you on Monday how your family is or how that new restaurant was. She will remember where your hometown is and that you said you like her hair down.

#9 She asks you for help. Women are very capable of most things. And women often don’t like to ask for help, especially from men and especially in the workplace. But, if she asks for your help at work, she may just want to spend more time with you. Then, she can send off more signals that she wants your attention.

If you realize she is asking for your help with something she is easily able to do herself, save yourselves some time. Ask her out so she can get her work done alone more efficiently.

Source : https://examprestige.com/15-subtle-signs-woman-really-likes-you

Health / Victoria Lab Works On Treatment, Vaccine For COVID-19 Virus by tkgz(m): 8:38am On Mar 19, 2020
Scientists in a Victoria lab are working on a vaccine and treatment for COVID-19, as the number of cases on the Island and around the world continues to climb.

Staff at ImmunoPrecise in Victoria and the Netherlands are trying to determine how the virus is spreading and mutating in order to prevent further spread and treat people already infected.

Their work involves generating an antibody that has a broad ability to treat people, said CEO Jennifer Bath, because the virus is mutating quickly. “It turns out it’s mutating faster than we thought, and there’s more than one strain,” said Bath, who has a PhD in cellular and molecular biology with a specialty in vaccine and therapeutic design.

That makes their work a little more complicated than a typical vaccine and treatment, which usually works by exposing a person’s immune system to a portion of a virus. The exposure causes the body to produce antibodies that recognize the foreign molecule, and leads to immunity to future exposure.

The goal at ImmunoPrecise is to develop a vaccine that can stay ahead of the virus’s ability to mutate and remain effective for a long period, which means identifying multiple portions of the novel coronavirus to use in a vaccine.

ImmunoPrecise is one of several companies working toward a vaccine and treatment. Bath said most others are trying to find a way to block the virus from binding to a human cell. Her team is looking at multiple approaches to address the outbreak.

“Any time you have this sort of a virus outbreak, you have a patient population that’s not been exposed to it, essentially the human population begins to place selective pressures on the virus and the virus then begins to mutate,” Bath said. “It becomes an evolutionary race for the virus.”

The team has recently added artificial intelligence to the mix, which enables them to predict and mimic the evolution of the virus and better understand it.

Bath said the company started work on the project in early February and took time to gather data on the novel coronavirus and the disease it causes to work toward a universally effective vaccine and treatment. The company’s work is being conducted by subsidiary Talem Therapeutics, which has previously worked on cancer treatment.

It’s hard to put a timeline on when a vaccine or treatment might be ready, but Bath said if all goes well, a treatment could be in clinical trials within a year. A vaccine will likely take longer, she said.

With so many people working on a solution globally, Bath is confident both will become available at some point. “People should have good confidence that a vaccine and a therapeutic will arrive on the market that will be available, probably initially, to higher-risk individuals,” she said.

Until then, Bath encourages everyone to continue following the advice of public health officials to limit contact with other people, avoid crowds, wash hands frequently and stay home when even the slightest bit sick.

“Those protective measures have already shown to work in other countries,” she said. “There’s no reason for people to panic.”

Read More: https://9jatopz.com/victoria-lab-works-on-treatment-vaccine-for-covid-19-virus

Romance / How To Stop Being A Side Chick: You Deserve To Be The Main Dish by tkgz(m): 11:24pm On Mar 01, 2020
Nothing feels worse than thinking you’re someone’s girlfriend and finding out you’ve been a side chick. Here’s how to stop being a side chick.

You may be someone’s side chick right now, but you can learn how to stop being a side chick. It’s time to break the pattern and be with someone who sees you as their partner, not a side chick. You can do better than being a side chick.

How to stop being a side chick

In my early twenties, I saw this one guy. We only went on one or two dates, so it was nothing serious. I wanted to see where it would go and if we had a connection. We would text a lot, and he would even phone me. Things looked like they were heading in the right direction. Then one day, he just stopped. And I couldn’t figure out why. What happened?

Well, I found out his girlfriend discovered he was chatting with another chick, and that chick was me. I was shocked. I didn’t even think for a minute that I was a side chick.

The good thing is that I wasn’t emotionally invested in him and didn’t need much time to move on. If anything, I was really upset that I was being used by him and hurting another woman. He had told me he broke up with his ex a couple of months ago, but it turned out he had been thinking of breaking up with her for the past couple of months. Now, there’s a big difference between thinking and doing.

Anyways, I ended things and took extra precaution in making sure whoever I dated wasn’t going to make me a side chick.

#1 Is this what you want? There are some women out there who want to be a side chick. They enjoy the casualness of the relationship and the lack of pressure. I have my own opinion on this and don’t think highly of women who hurt other women for personal gain.

But then again, this is your choice. Decide the type of relationship you want and if being a side chick is your choice. If you’re tired of being a side chick, then you should change. [Read: 14 side chick rules to be a happy mistress minus the drama]

#2 Talk to him. Many women stay a side chick because they think one day he’ll make them the main chick. Listen, odds are that’s never going to happen, especially if he’s married. Talk to him and see where he stands. In some rare cases, the guy may be willing to leave his serious relationship and be with you. But either way, you should sit down together and see what’s going on.

#3 No more sleepovers or playdates with him. If you want to break the pattern of being a side chick, then make some serious changes. I know it’s not easy, but if you don’t do it, you won’t move forward in your life. If he comes over to your place for a sleepover or to hang out, cut it off. The intimacy is the first thing that should end.

https://examprestige.com/how-to-stop-being-a-side-chick

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Romance / Why He Chose Her Over You: The Real Reason He Picked Her Instead by tkgz(m): 11:07pm On Mar 01, 2020
If you’ve been cheated on, left, or lied to, you have surely asked yourself why he chose her over you. And guess what, I have the answer.
If you’re left asking why he chose her over you, it is one of the crappiest feelings in the world. Trust me, I know. I have been there… twice.

It not only feels like a punch to the gut off the bat, but once you sit with the reality for a while it is worse than a regular rejection or breakup. It makes you question yourself. You compare yourself to the other girl.

It also manifests a divide between you and another girl that isn’t very feminist which then makes you feel guilty at the same time.

Wondering why he chose her over you can take over your mind. It can stop you from moving on, living your life, and bring self doubt into future relationships. With that, it is obvious you want an answer to why he chose her over you. [Read: How to handle rejection without making a fool of yourself]

Why does it hurt so much

Before we get into why he chose her over you, let’s delve into why it hurts so much. This isn’t a normal breakup pain. It comes with so many more questions. You cared about him, you may have even loved him, and that makes you care what he thinks, even now.

You want those you care about to care about you too. Your feelings don’t just go away because his did. And if he chose someone over you, it feels like you weren’t enough. It not only feels like you failed him, but that you failed yourself.

Being left for another woman sucks so much because women have been pitted against each other in society for years. We are conditioned to be mad or upset at the other girl rather than the guy.

We swallow up the feelings, whether rage, sadness, or pain, about him and focus on the other woman. Because we can’t be upset with him, we still care about him which makes it all hurt so much more.

Think about The Bachelor. The girls are constantly fighting each other instead of questioning the lead about his behavior or choices which would make a whole lot more sense. Instead of comparing yourself to the girl that is your opposite, that he clearly has a connection with, asking him what he really wants would make more sense.

But it is part of our nature to blame ourselves for a failed relationship.

And with the way social media works, we can now compare ourselves quite literally to the woman he chose. You can look at her photos. You can see what her ex looked like. You can see how she looks in a bathing suit or how not awkward she was as a teenager.

You can mock her or feel intimidated by her. All of this feeds your insecurities and makes you feel worse about yourself. Can you imagine? All this pain and self-doubt because he chose her over you?

Why he chose her over you

I would love to tell you that answering this question is as simple as asking him, but most guys aren’t considerate enough to grace us with an answer. Not that his answer would really mean much.

If you could ask your ex why he chose her over you, what do you think he would say? Would he say she is hotter? Would he say she is easier to deal with or that she is more fun?

Or would he say you came up too short? Would he say the worst thing you’re thinking about yourself? Probably, almost certainly, no.

To be honest, most guys don’t even see the things we second-guess about ourselves. I can assure you he didn’t pick her over you because your nose has a dent or your boobs aren’t the same size. It wasn’t because you aren’t tan enough or thin enough or curvy enough.

https://examprestige.com/why-he-chose-her-over-you

Politics / Again, Muhammadu Buhari Returns To London, To Spend 16-days by tkgz(m): 1:29pm On Oct 28, 2019
President Muhammadu Buhari will embark on a private visit to London after attending the third edition of the Future Investment Initiative in Riyadh, the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia.
Buhari’s Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Mr Femi Adesina, confirmed this development in a statement on Monday, saying that the President will be in London for a private visit and will return to Nigeria on Nov. 17 after he must have spent 2 weeks in the UK.
Adesina did not give further details on the President’s trip to London, but it may not be unconnected with his routine medical checkup.
Adesina further disclosed that, on the sideline of the economic forum, President Buhari, who will be departing Abuja today, would hold bilateral talks with His Majesty, King Salman and His Majesty, King Abdullah ll of Jordan.

“On Wednesday, Oct. 30, the President will participate in the High-Level Event titled “What is Next for Africa: How will Investment and Trade Transform the Continent into the Next Great Economic Success Story?” with Presidents of Kenya, Congo-Brazzaville and Burkina Faso.

“At the end of the summit, President Buhari will on Saturday Nov. 2, proceed to the United Kingdom on a private visit,’’ he added.
https://yanga24.com/muhammadu-buhari-london-16-days

Romance / The Early Stages Of Dating And How To Navigate The Dos And Don’ts by tkgz(m): 12:33pm On Oct 21, 2019
A guaranteed way to reduce appetite? Start a new relationship! The early stages of dating are a minefield. One wrong move and it could be game over.
I remember those early stages of dating well. Sleepless nights, effortless weight loss, constant nervous energy, checking my phone so many times the home key stuck, and stressing my friends out with constant questions and queries.

Yes, those early stages of dating were a joyful time … or not!

In so many ways, those heady days of “do they like me/don’t they” are full of wonderful memories, but I consider this the same as childbirth *not that I have ever had children*. It’s wonderful when you look back on it, but at the time it’s a nightmare.

It might look idyllic and full of sweet nothings. The self-doubt and constant urges to check their social media pages is exhausting! Honeymoon stage or not, I would not pay you to take me back to those early stages of dating, no sir-ee!

Of course, some people love the rush. It’s a little like a chase in many ways; you set your sights, you pursue, you get them, and you enjoy the ups and downs, until you decide to stick with it, or try with someone new. Personally, I can think of nothing worse, but hey, each to their own!

Early stages of dating do’s

To help you navigate those strange and doubtful waters in the early stages of dating, I’ve put together a list of dos and don’ts. Hopefully, I can help you to get through this confusing time in a healthier way!

#1 Keep yourself busy. It’s easy to suddenly become obsessed with checking their social media page, “accidentally” ending up wherever they’ve tagged themselves into, and talking about them endlessly, but you need to be yourself!

Keep yourself busy with the things you normally do, such as work, study, socializing, hobbies, and exercise. Trust me, they’ll wonder why you’re not chasing them around, and they’re likely to do the chasing instead!

#2 Keep your social media page full of positivity. If you’re in those heady early days, the likelihood is that your beau is checking your social media pages just as much as you are checking theirs. In that case, keep it light and positive.

Nobody likes a constant chatter of deep and meaningful quotes, woeful messages of love, and a downright negative feel. It’s exhausting and likely to make them run a mile. Keep it light and positive, and make sure you tag yourself into some fun places with your friends!

#3 Make time for your friends. This is a bit of a do and a don’t, but you should never let your friends slide because of a new relationship. I don’t want to put a negative spin on it, but what happens if it all goes wrong? You need your friends!
See More At: https://aprokoman.com/the-early-stages-of-dating

Celebrities / Davido Welcomes Baby Boy With Chioma [PHOTO] by tkgz(m): 7:32am On Oct 21, 2019
Chioma, fiancee of popular singer, David Adeleke AKA Davido, has delivered a baby boy.

Chioma gave birth on Sunday at an undisclosed hospital in United Kingdom State, UK.
The excited Assurance crooner made the announcement on his Instagram page

He wrote, “Omoba ti de!! Davido Adedeji Adeleke Jnr 1. The prince is here. 20-10-2019. Love you my strong wife @Chef Chioma I LOVE YOU.”

APROKOMAN recalls that the 27-year-old on September 5, had his introduction ceremony with his would-be wife’s family.

https://yanga24.com/davido-welcomes-baby-boy-with-chioma/

Romance / Controlling Women: Can You Have A Happy Relationship With One? by tkgz(m): 10:04pm On Oct 20, 2019
When it comes to controlling women, some people say you can never really be happy with one. Here’s what to think about so you can choose for yourself.
Everyone likes different things in a partner. Some people like quieter significant others who just like to relax and others like loud, outgoing people to keep things fun. But what about controlling women? Is there a place for them in the world of relationships?

If you started seeing a woman known as being rather controlling or even have noticed those traits in her yourself, you might be rethinking your interest in her. The thing is, you have to know more about what controlling women have to offer before making a final decision.

You should never put up with someone who tries to control you 100% of the time

Being controlling is one thing. Trying to control someone constantly is another. No matter what is said here, you should never be with someone who wants to control all of you all the time.

It’s not right and it’s not fair. You’re not a child and she’s not your mother. There’s a limit to this behavior that should be tolerated and you have to know that before continuing with someone you think could be controlling.

What you need to remember when it comes to dating controlling women

Could you really be happy with this type of girl? Short answer: absolutely. Long answer: you really have to know more about her first. There are a lot of great things about being with a woman like this but there are also some not so great things.
https://yanga24.com/controlling-women-relationship/

Sports / EPL: What Mourinho Said After Man Utd’s 1-1 Draw With Liverpool by tkgz(m): 9:44pm On Oct 20, 2019
Jose Mourinho felt Manchester United had both “heart” and “a game plan”, following their 1-1 draw with Liverpool on Sunday.

The Red Devils led for a large period of the game after Marcus Rashford’s first half opener, but Adam Lallana struck a late equaliser for the visitors.

Former United boss, Mourinho, claimed his successor Ole Gunnar Solskjaer would be feeling “proud and a little bit frustrated” after what felt like two points dropped.

Mourinho told Sky Sports: “It’s hard to say. I think they did something to hurt them, and Jurgen, in the last 20 minutes of the game, he tried to do something.

“He tried to give the team different problems for United to resolve. More people through the middle, more occupation of spaces in the box, more projection of the full-backs.

https://yanga24.com/epl-what-mourinho-draw-with-liverpool/

Romance / How To Make Him Want You And Not Even Think About Other Women by tkgz(m): 9:22pm On Oct 20, 2019
Want to know how to make him want you and ONLY you? This is what most women hope to achieve when dating someone new. Here’s how to get his attention.
This is what we all aim for when dating someone new. It’s always awkward never knowing where you stand or how they feel. Putting forth your best effort and learning how to make him want you the most is what it’s all about.

Because he could be dating other women. That means you have some competition and if you really like him, you’ll have to put in some work to make him see you and only you. And that’s a very tough thing to do because we all know guys don’t exactly have the best attention span.

The dating game can be extremely competitive

This is especially true if the guy you’re after is a catch. They’re far and few between. Meaning, every woman in her right mind who’s been on a date with him is trying to do exactly what you are. They want him for themselves.

And he might just be basking in the attention. When a guy catches wind that women are into him, he’ll milk that for all its worth. But if you truly care about him and have a feeling he’s feeling the same about you, doubling down on your efforts to make him yours is a wise idea.
https://yanga24.com/how-to-make-him-want-you/

Romance / Don’t Push Away A Girl Who Shows These 20 Signs She Cares About You by tkgz(m): 11:31pm On Oct 19, 2019
In everyone’s lives, there is the one who got away. If she’s showing you these 20 signs she cares about you, don’t let her go.
Have you recently met a girl and think she might be someone special? You’re probably a little confused to where her feelings stand. Don’t panic, it’s normal to experience these insecurities! To help you out, here are 20 signs she cares about you. If you notice a majority coming your way, she certainly is wanting the same thing as you.

20 subtle signs she cares about you a lot

If you want to meet someone on the same page as you and experience the deep connection only love can bring, your journey towards finding them can be full of pitfalls. The problem is, after a few false starts, recognizing a genuine person in your life can be tricky.

Finding real, true love can be difficult. We meet people who don’t want a relationship, people who say they do but don’t really, those who simply want fun, and those who have no clue what they want deep down. Watch for these 20 signs she cares about you and see where you stand.

#1 She remembers small details about you. If you don’t mean anything to her, she wouldn’t bother remembering your birthday, favorite color, favorite meal, or the other small details which make you the person you are. This means you’re clearly in her brain. It’s a surefire sign she cares about you.

#2 She’s genuinely interested in how your day went. If she doesn’t care, she won’t have the slightest interest in whether your day went well or not. If she always asks how your day was, and always asks if you’re alright, etc., that’s a great sign.

#3 She worries about you. Perhaps you have a headache, or maybe you didn’t sleep well the night before. Care means she will be worried about that to a degree. Okay, she’s not going to be full scale panicking, but she will be concerned, e.g. ‘make sure you get some sleep tonight, you look really tired.’

#4 She will give you advice. Most girls are great at giving out advice. Is she advising you on the best way forward, especially in terms of the future? This is a girl with your best interests at heart. Sure, if you only notice this one sign then there is a possibility that it’s a friendship deal. But, add in a few more signs, there’s definitely romance in the air!

#5 She wants to know about the people in your life. If she seems genuinely interested to learn about the important people you have in your life, such as your family and friends, that’s a great sign too. She could also be trying to find out more about them so that if she gets to meet them, she can impress them. Every girl wants to impress her partner’s parents and friends!

#6 She tries to help. If you have a problem, giving advice is one thing but actively doing something to help is quite another. A person who cares will jump into help. If you notice that she actually does try and solve a problem of yours, or at least helps, that’s a sign she cares about you.

#7 She’s happy when you’re happy. A girl doesn’t need to be an empath to pick up on your bad moods or other emotional cues. If you’re in a bad mood or feeling down, she’ll reflect it. On the flip-side, when you’re happy, she’s happy, and a true sign of affection.

#8 She acts selflessly around you. A girl who cares about you will put your happiness a little in front of her own, not completely, but she will want you to be the one smiling. This can be something big or small, like giving you the last piece of chocolate cake, or missing out on a party because she knows you need her help with something. [Read: The signs of a healthy relationship you should always look for]

#9 She encourages you to achieve. If she cares about you, she will want you to achieve and do great things in your life. She encourages you to go for opportunities and try new things. She will feel proud of you and be your biggest supporter.

#10 She lifts you up when you’re down. Perhaps you’ve had a bad day at work. The big presentation didn’t go as well as you’d hoped. If she really cares about you, she will be the one giving you the pep talk, lifting you up, and pushing you to try again.

#11 She does her best to make time for you. It’s impossible for her to drop everything for you all the time *and quite frankly, why should she?*. But a girl who cares about you will do her best to prioritize you in her schedule. This means fitting you in whenever she can. Maybe she has a pre-arranged dinner with friends in her diary, but she’ll meet you before or afterwards, just to see you.

#12 She lets you know you’re on her mind. If she’s out with friends, working late, or away, you’ll probably receive texts from her. Simply to let you know that you’re on her mind. These texts won’t be anything important, just a reason to reach out. This is certainly one of the best signs she cares about you.

#13 She laughs at your jokes, even when they’re not funny. If a girl cares, she will laugh at your jokes, even if they’re terrible. She will also sit through your long stories, just because she likes to hear you talk. She likes to see you become so animated when talking about something from your past.

#14 She will still make fun of you. There’s an old story that you ‘pull the pigtails of the one you love.’ That basically means that boys are mean to girls on the playground because they actually like them. This can work for girls too! If a girl is always making fun of you in a playful and affectionate way, she cares!

#15 She doesn’t play games. A girl who cares about you won’t be interested in playing games. She doesn’t want you to misunderstand or get hurt accidentally. She will reply to your texts in a timely manner and be honest with you.

#16 She does her best to remember the things you like and don’t like. I mentioned earlier about her remembering small details. But if she specifically remembers the things you like and don’t like, that’s a great sign. For instance, she’ll cook a meal but she will leave out the mushrooms because you hate them.

#17 She will look at you, simply because she can. If you notice your girl just looking at you with a coy smile on her face, she cares about you. Sure, it’s also a sign of attraction, but there is a difference between looking at you with passion and looking at you simply because she wants to.

#18 She apologizes when she is wrong. A girl who doesn’t care about you won’t bother to apologize if she does something wrong or unintentionally hurts you. One of the biggest signs she cares about you is that she will say ‘sorry’ when she knows she is in the wrong.

See More At: https://yanga24.com/dont-push-away-a-girl

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Romance / 12 Real Signs Of True Love In A Relationship by tkgz(m): 11:01pm On Oct 19, 2019
True love is the true definition of a perfect romance. But it’s not easy to find. Do you see these 12 signs of true love in your own relationship? By Elizabeth Arthur
True love isn’t felt in a heartbeat or in a second glance.

True love takes time to take shape.

And contrary to popular belief, love at first sight isn’t really love at all.

In fact, love at first sight is nothing but an infatuation.

It’s a strong surge of romantic and sexual emotions that overwhelm you.

Before you wonder what true love is all about and what the signs of true love really are, you need to understand that it’s very important to take things slow in a relationship if you want to ensure its success.

When you first start dating someone or fall for someone at first sight, what you experience isn’t love.

As much as you feel like you’re head over heels in love, you really aren’t.

You’re just experiencing the first stage of love, a small part in the stages of love known as the infatuation stage.

What is true love then?

True love, ironically, can’t be defined.

It’s the kind of love many of us chase after, but few truly find or realize it until it’s too late. So what is true love really?

True love is the kind of love and affection you have for someone that isn’t bound by the laws of human behavior. Human behavior is simple to understand. When someone hurts you, you get angry with them. When someone gets lucky or gets a better job, you get jealous of them. And when someone shatters your ego or humiliates you, you want your revenge. This is human behavior, because these traits are engrained within us.

But when you experience true love with someone, your primal instincts and behavior change only towards this person. True love transcends typical human behavior. It makes you a better human being towards a special someone.

When does one experience true love?

True love takes time to bloom. What you experience in the first year or so of a relationship is infatuation and sexual attraction.

As the bursts of infatuation start to fade with the first few arguments and the first few misunderstandings, that’s when love starts to enter the picture. And this is where most couples start to drift away emotionally, or even end up breaking up because of incompatibilities.

If you’re in a relationship where both of you truly understand each other and feel compatible with each other, and most importantly, love each other, chances are, you’re experiencing true love already.

Experiencing true love in your life

Is true love a once in a lifetime experience? Not really. You can experience them many times over, and with many people at the same time. You can experience true love with your spouse or your lover, your children and any other person you’re attached to in your life.

But true love too, can fade with time. For most of us, our first love is the first time we would have experienced the purest form of true love. We aren’t afraid to let this special someone into our heart and we aren’t afraid to experience heartbreak because we still don’t know what heartbreak feels like. We’re fearless in love and we love passionately with all our heart.

But when the first romance dies, the true love we had for our first partner too eventually fades, even if it takes years and several new relationships to overcome. And as we enter more relationships, most of us split into two groups. One that believes in true romantic love and the other group that convinces itself that true love doesn’t exist. The kind of relationships you’ve had in your lifetime can play a big part in your understanding of, and expectations from, true love.

And if you’re wondering whether true love and romantic love are the same, it really isn’t, even though we almost always associate true love with romantic love. True love is love in its purest form, while romantic love needs sexual attraction to stay alive.

True love can’t be forced

True love has to be experienced naturally and wholeheartedly. You can’t fake true love no matter how hard you try. If a couple fails to pass the test of compatibility in their infatuation stage, it’s pretty hard for both of them to ever experience true love.

On the other hand, if both partners can understand each other and relate to each other, they’ll start to love each other’s company and start to become inseparable. And eventually, this bond will turn into a pure and selfless love that we call true love.

See More At: https://yanga24.com/true-love-in-a-relationship

Romance / How To Tell If You Love Someone: Will You Actually Just Know? by tkgz(m): 9:52pm On Oct 19, 2019
Knowing how to tell if you love someone can be daunting. Some say when you know you know, but is that true? These signs will help you know.
Love is different for everyone. Some people say they knew at first sight. Some after their first fight, and for others it happens much later. So, how to tell if you love someone? You may think, you should just know, but it isn’t always that simple.

Whether you’ve been in love before or not, figuring out how to tell if you love someone can be more complicated than you think.

Why do you want to know how to tell if you love someone?

Are you in a relationship, dating, pining after someone from afar? If you have yet to meet, this may be the wrong feature for you. You might want to look into how to approach your crush.

But if you are in a relationship and feel unsure about your feelings, this feature should help clear things up.

Are love and in love the same?

Not necessarily. You love your parents and your best friends, but you are not in love with them. “In love” carries a romantic meaning along with the deep affection and care you have for someone.

So, you can love the person you’re dating, but if you are in love with them there is a passion and urgency to the love that differs from the feelings you have for friends and family. We’re focusing on the romantic love here, because that is what takes a relationship to the next level.

How to tell if you love someone

Questioning your feelings is not abnormal. Many people think there is no way they’re in love if they don’t know instantly. Others are a bit more analytical about their feelings. But there are no right or wrong ways to contemplate your feelings.

More often than not, you don’t decide to love someone, so knowing how to tell if you love them isn’t immediately obvious. But there are signs both subtle and apparent that can help you figure it out.

#1 What makes you unsure? Fear? Being open? There is something making you hesitate and question your feelings. That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong, but the reason for this could give you some answers.

Have you shared your feelings of love before and not gotten the response you wanted? Are you afraid of being that open and vulnerable with your feelings? If that is the case, you very well may be in love with this person. But if your reasoning is a lack of passion or connection, you may not love this person.

#2 Is it infatuation? Infatuation can sometimes trick you into believing it is love. There is an excitement and adrenaline that makes you feel that burst of happiness. This strong joy can falsely appear to be love, when in fact those feelings can fade, and leave you in a more serious relationship than you may actually want.

To tell the difference here, it is vital to separate yourself from these feelings. It may feel perfect when you’re together, but do you truly know this person? It can feel exciting and new, but if you can’t see that lasting, it probably isn’t love. And you don’t want to blurt out the “L” word without being sure. [Read: Clear ways that show the difference between love and infatuation]

#3 Is it attraction? You maybe asking yourself, aren’t infatuation and attraction the same? Nope. Infatuation is an excitement, but attraction is surged by hormones. Attraction can also expose itself as love if you aren’t careful.

Finding someone wildly attractive upon meeting can be so intense you think it is love at first sight. Not to disregard love at first sight’s existence, but this feeling tends to be intense attraction. Of course, it can grow to real love. But getting to know someone above their physical appearance is necessary to discover if you really love them.

#4 Do you have the urge to say it? If you are with the person you’re dating and constantly want to tell them you love them, you may very much be in love. This urgency can arise due to infatuation and attraction, but if it is something you can’t shake, it is probably love.

#5 Do they love you? If yes, this does not mean you’re in love. But it can nudge you in the direction your heart desires. If their feelings for you makes you beyond happy, you may be in love. But if you immediately get nervous or scared, you may not be there yet.

Of course, any fear in the situation can be due to a hesitancy to be vulnerable. But if your initial feeling upon hearing that they love you isn’t joy, you probably don’t love them back.

#6 Do you want to say it back? Due to guilt or desire? A lot of people think they are in love or should be in love because their new partner has shared that they are in love. But if it feels more like a mandatory response than a natural feeling, you may be settling for like over love.

That is not to say that immediately responding with “I love you too” is the only way to be sure you’re in love. Everyone comes to their feelings in their own time. It could take you days, weeks, or even months to catch up to your partner’s feelings. But if you feel guilt to return the love rather than desire, it most likely isn’t love.

#7 Have you been in love before? Now this is tricky. If you’ve been in love before you may think, well, this doesn’t feel like last time so it can’t be love. Love is not always the same. Which is good if you ask me. Just because it is different from last time doesn’t define what you have now as any worse or any better.

If you haven’t been in love before, you may automatically have an alert telling you this is different. Many people describe love, or true love, as something they have never felt before. Although identifying love can be tricky, a difference that you can’t define may signify love.
https://yanga24.com/how-to-tell-if-you-love-someone/

Romance / Why Do Guys Stop Texting For A Few Days And Leave Us Wondering? by tkgz(m): 9:15pm On Oct 19, 2019
You’ve been texting this guy you really like, but randomly, the conversation ends. Did he forget you texted him? Why do guys stop texting for a few days?
Don’t even get me started on this subject! Listen, if anyone knows about this, it’s me. And, probably you. We’ve all been there. You like a guy, he shows interest in you, you exchange numbers, and you text each other for a day or two. And then… nothing. I mean, why do guys stop texting for a few days?

You’re left thinking, what did I do? Wait, is he okay? Maybe he lost his phone or dropped it in the toilet. Oh, his phone is just fine, believe me. I used to get worried, thinking something bad happened to him. In reality, it was something bad happening to me.

Now, I’m not saying his phone didn’t fall in the toilet, maybe it did, these things happen. However, if he posts on Instagram or Facebook while cutting off contact with you, he’s not having problems with his phone.

And, of course, you’re waiting for him to reply to your text. Maybe you even sent him another “follow-up” text to see what’s going on. You’re just looking for answers, and I get it.

Why do guys stop texting for a few days? 13 reasons

It’s a horrible feeling when someone is ghosting you. I mean, come on, who does this? Whether he writes you or not, you still have one thing on your mind: why didn’t he reply right away? I know you’re trying to solve the mystery. Hell, we’re all trying to solve it.

I’m telling you though, it’s time to put the magnifying glass down and get to the truth. If you’re wondering why do guys stop texting for a few days, you’re about to find out. It’s time to stop overthinking!

#1 He’s not that into you. You may have been on a couple of dates, though you find out he’s not really into you. He texted you for a little bit, but he’s realized that you aren’t a match. And now, he’s too much of a coward to tell you straight up that he’s not that into you. So, he decides to slowly cool you off in hopes you get the hint.

#2 He doesn’t get the hints. Maybe you made a joke and he’s not sure what it meant exactly. Or maybe you’re naturally sarcastic, but he thinks you’re being serious. It’s texting. You don’t see each other’s faces when you’re speaking. So, this mix-up can easily happen. Make sure you make it somewhat obvious what you’re trying to say.

#3 You text him too much. In other words, he’s bored. You text him all the time and it’s killed the mystery and chase that he’s looking for. Plus, what can you possibly talk about via text all day long? Exactly. The conversations are getting boring, so he decided to put you on a time out for a couple of days.

#4 You don’t text him promptly. He’s made an effort to reply to your texts right away, but you take your leisurely time. If you take a few days to reply to his messages, you shouldn’t be surprised that he’s not texting you so quickly. He’s strongly hinting of how he’s feeling. If you liked him, you would have responded pretty quickly.

#5 You’re coming off too strong. I don’t know what your conversation looks like with him, but it could be that you’re coming off way too strong for his liking. He’s feeling a little uncomfortable with the topics and he’s too nervous to tell you to back off. So, instead, he retreats, thinking that it’ll help create some healthy space between you.

#6 He doesn’t have time. I don’t know what this guy does for work or school, but it could be that he doesn’t have time to small talk via text. Maybe he works late shifts or is always on the go. If the text isn’t related to what he’s doing at that moment, it’s not important. It’s not a good time to reply to your texts.

#7 He’s not a texter. Some guys love texting and other guys aren’t into it. He may text you a couple sentences here and there, but it’s not his thing. I know guys who don’t check their phones for days. Look at the way he texted before and compare it to now. Is there any change? Or are you just overthinking things?

#8 You aren’t clicking over text. If you aren’t on the same page, texting can become more of a chore than a delight. If you both understand each other’s sense of humor and lingo, great. But if not, then he may be turned off and uninterested in keeping the conversation going.

#9 He’s spending time with other people. Some people make an effort to make sure they’re not texting during the weekend or evenings. Can you blame them? We’re literally addicted to our phones. If he made this rule for himself, he’s going to follow it regardless, but he probably would have told you this from the beginning.

#10 He forgot. Our days are usually packed with people to meet and things to do. So, it’s pretty normal for people to open a message and forget to reply. These things happen. It doesn’t mean he’s not interested in you, but it’s more than a day. I would say it’s a little odd. I mean you can forget for a day, but for three days? I don’t think so.

https://yanga24.com/why-do-guys-stop-texting/

Romance / How To Start A Conversation With A Stranger & Say The Right Things by tkgz(m): 8:49pm On Oct 19, 2019
Most people don’t know how to start a conversation with a stranger. It’s time to learn and make many new friends as a result!
Are you someone who knows how to start a conversation with a stranger while waiting for the bus or standing in the supermarket queue? Be honest. Most people shy away from talking to people they don’t know. They’re terrified they’ll turn out to be a clinger or a serial killer, or simply because of their own anxiety.

I’ll admit, I used to avoid talking to anyone unless they decided to speak to me first. I was terrified that if I made that first move, they’d think I was strange and simply smile politely, while waiting for the first opportunity to move away.

Then I decided to start traveling on my own a little. Then, I didn’t have a choice. It was either go overseas alone or don’t go at all. You’d be surprised how many people start to talk to you when you’re alone, and from there the chances of making new friends, and possibly more, is huge!

I’ve made many new friends simply by sitting in a cafe alone. Someone makes one very random comment about the weather or the coffee they’re drinking. A chat starts and before you know it, you’re friends on Facebook. It really can happen that easily. Finding the confidence to be the one doing the talking first can be difficult.

What to consider when deciding how to start a conversation with a stranger

My advice? Just go for it! There are a few things which can it make easier. Let’s examine eight things you need to bear in mind when working out how to start a conversation with a stranger.

#1 Be mindful of who you choose. Of course, be open to talking to anyone, but there are some people who aren’t the best candidates. You’ll recognize the ones you can talk to versus the ones it’s best not to as you get more experienced to talking to strangers.

For instance, it’s not a good idea to try and speak to someone who looks angry, someone who’s just come off the phone from having an argument, someone who looks generally very aggressive, or someone who reading a book. Remember, some people want to be alone and unbothered!

#2 Make eye contact first of all. Once you’ve identified a person you’d like to start a conversation with, ascertain eye contact. This will allow you to figure out whether this is a good choice or not. A quick fleeting glance and a smile should do it. If they hold your eye contact or smile back then you might have found your next conversation friend.

This is one of the biggest things to bear in mind when deciding how to start a conversation with a stranger. If they refuse to hold your eye contact and turn away abruptly, move your attention elsewhere.

#3 Read their body language. We all give off signals without realizing it. Sometimes our body language can be deafening. I mentioned earlier about being mindful of who you choose. A person closed up and with defensive body language is not someone who wants to chat.

Alternatively, if they aren’t crossing their arms over their body, frowning, *hopefully not* crying, or scowling in your direction, their body language is open enough for you to drum up a conversation. Eye contact also flows into body language.

#4 Small talk works. The number one best way to start a conversation is to talk about the weather or comment upon a situation that you’re both in. Small talk is a fantastic ice breaker. If you’re both in a queue in a coffee shop and it’s taking forever, use a little humor and say ‘I think they’ve gone to pick the coffee beans’ and smile.

If you’re both outside waiting for the bus, ‘this rain never seems to stop’. It doesn’t have to be a hilarious one-liner, it simply needs to be disarming, and something you can both connect with.

#5 Compliments always work too. Everyone loves to be complimented. Humans love to have their egos stroked after all! I find a great way to start a conversation is to say something like ‘I love your dress’, or ‘that shirt is a lovely color’.

It doesn’t have to anything major. Be careful to walk the line between compliment and full on flirting, but a compliment is often one of the best answers to how to start a conversation with a stranger.

#6 Make sure you smile a lot. Okay, I’m not suggesting you paste a smile on your face and look deranged. However, regular smiling and eye contact as a combination will help to disarm the other person and let them know that you’re friendly and not about to grab their bag and run away.

Smiles help us feel comfortable. Think about people you’ve spoken to in the past, did it make you want to continue talking to them if they were frowning all the time? No! Smile and you will make the other person feel comfortable, encouraging the conversation to continue.

#7 Avoid ‘yes’ and ‘no’ questions. Asking questions which require a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer isn’t the best way to encourage a conversation. Instead, opt for open ended questions, e.g. ‘what do you think about the weather today?’ You basically ask questions which require a sentence to answer. From there you reply, they reply back etc. Before you know it, you’ve got a conversation flowing away!

#8 Get over your own anxiety! Honestly, what is the worst that could happen? The worst thing is that they smile and move away. So, what? No harm done! It might be slightly embarrassing for roughly five seconds, but at least you tried. The more you do this, the more your confidence will grow. The easier you will find it next time you’re wondering how to start a conversation with a stranger.

https://yanga24.com/conversation-stranger/

Education / 2020 UTME: JAMB Issues Strong Warning To Candidates On Payment For Services by tkgz(m): 11:24am On Oct 18, 2019
The Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board, JAMB, has advised candidates not to pay money to any of its staff for any services.

Rather, JAMB has asked the candidates to direct all payments for its services to the Treasury Single Account, TSA.

This is coming on the heels of allegation that some workers of JAMB in its Lagos office were extorting N2000 from students who wanted to do any documentation with them.

Reacting, JAMB said it frowns at any form of financial dealings between candidates and its workers.

In a terse statement on its Twitter handle on Thursday, the Board said: “All payments on JAMB services are made directly to the board’s TSA. Please be informed that the board frowns on any form of financial dealings between candidates and workers.

“Candidates involved in any financial transaction with a staff of the board should notify the board immediately and also provide any useful information about such staff for necessary action.”

Recall that the board had earlier advised candidates who wish to write the 2020 UTME to visit the nearest National Identity Management Commission’s office to have their data captured.

It said candidates must register for the National Identification Number as a prerequisite to writing the 2020 examination.

“All candidates wishing to take the 2020 UTME must have the National Identification Number. Prospective candidates are urged to visit the nearest NIMC office for their capturing. The board would only register candidates with NIN,” it said.

SOURCE: https://yanga24.com/2020-utme-jamb

Sports / Champions League: Lampard Speaks On Changes To UCL Format by tkgz(m): 11:09am On Oct 18, 2019
Chelsea manager, Frank Lampard, has kicked against the idea of increasing the number of Champions League group matches, as he fears it could lead to player burnout, according to UK Mirror.

European Club Association (ECA) Chairman, Andrea Agnelli, has proposed a restructuring of the competition’s format, to prevent it becoming predictable.

Plans to include up to 96 teams and bring in a promotion and relegation system were shelved last month, but discussions are still ongoing, as to how to revamp the Champions League from 2024/2025 onward.

“At the minute, I think the level is about right,” Lampard said at an event organised by the umbrella organisation of European Leagues.

“The competition is good. I like the format personally.

“If you ask me can we play more European games, I personally don’t know where you’d fit them in amongst our busy schedule.

“I always find it hard with the players to keep the quality level and the freshness within the team, so I think if we did do that there would be a lot of discussion about how that worked practically.

“As a manager, I actually feel the weight of games more than I did as a player, even though I was running around as a player.

“You’re thinking about how can you keep the team fresh, and it’s a challenge with all the competitions we have now.”

Source: https://yanga24.com/champions-league-lampard

Travel / Another Fuel Tanker Catches Fire In Onitsha by tkgz(m): 10:21am On Oct 18, 2019
Tragedy was averted Friday morning after another petrol tanker fell, spilling fuel into a canal in Onitsha, Anambra State.

YANGA24 gathered from residents of Omagba Phase two in Onitsha that the tanker fell at about 4am on Friday, the whole content spilled and caught fire.

“As the product flowed through the canal, its fire was spreading too,” a source in the area said.

Our correspondent gathered that the incident caused confusion in the town because of Wednesday’s incident, which residents of the city were yet to recover from.

Narrating the incident, the source said, “PMS laden tanker early this morning lost control and rammed into a parked caterpillar in front of Bessoy Filling Station, along Enugu-Onitsha Expressway, Onitsha.

” The tanker started emptying its content on the tarmac, parked cars and balls of fire erupted.

Meanwhile, like the Wednesday’s incident, another source told YANGA24 that Anambra State Fire Service men were unable to put off the fire, until their Delta counterparts came to their rescue.

“We called the Onitsha fire service, but they said they didn’t have a functional vehicle, we called Awka, and they said they were coming, but miraculously, it started raining and the Delta State Fire Service came too and helped to put out the fire.”

It was, however, gathered that immediately the fire broke out at about 4am, residents of the affected area vacated their houses for fear of being caught by the fire.

SOURCE: https://yanga24.com/fuel-tanker-catches-fire/

Politics / New Minimum Wage: NLC Suspends Strike by tkgz(m): 12:41am On Oct 18, 2019
The Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) in Delta State, on Thursday announced the suspension of the strike embarked on over the failure of the federal government to fully implement the new N30,000 minimum wage.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the NLC in the state had on Tuesday embarked on strike to protest what it considered a failed negotiation by the Joint Negotiation Council (JNC) on the new minimum wage.

Addressing newsmen on the sideline of the 5th Quadrennial State Delegates Conference of State Chapter of the Medical and Health Workers Union on Thursday in Asaba, Mr Goodluck Ofoburuku, the NLC Chairman, announced the suspension of the strike.

He said that the strike was suspended in Delta State following intervention and directives from the national body for it to be allowed to conclude the negotiation on the consequential adjustment on the new minimum wage.

“The initial directives that we received was that, if negotiation was not concluded by Tuesday, we should commence strike by Wednesday, which we complied with.

“That is why, yesterday our people moved out to ensure that there was a compliance but based on the advice of the national body, we have advised our members to return to work and gradually they are going back to work.

“We have been told that significant progress has been made by the Joint Negotiation Council (JNC),” the chairman said.

Source: https://yanga24.com/new-minimum-wage-nlc

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