(Ambushing our corrupt leaders part1)
ALHAJI SHETIMA YERIMA, THE MISSING PIECE OF THE JIG SAW TO THE NIGERIA’S PUZZLE:

Most times you wonder if it takes rocket science to solve the Nigeria’s problem, or is it just the case of the “If the foundations be destroyed, what can (even) the righteous do?”as the word of God says in the bible?
From when I can remember or can read and understand events and happening in our country, from the times of Shagari, Buhari, IBB, Abiola, Shonekon, Abacha, Abdulsalam, OBJ, Yar’Aduar, GEJ, and all the other blood sucking politicians and destructive vampires waiting on line, and scrambling to ascend the leadership position of our country, none of them ever, and would ever have your wellbeing in their hearts as they currently congregate. They hold no love and think no good about you, but themselves and cronies. (Let me tell you this for free) To these crop of politicians as we have in both the PDP and the APC of today, the patronage to their fellow big men and serving their selfish interest are paramount, not you, not the country, that is the singular reason why China built the world's largest hydroelectric plant~22,000MW for $25B, while Nigeria spent $35.45B for 2,500MW, yet there’s no light, that’s why someone would embezzled as much as twenty billion and more and the court would sentence them to refund Three Hundred And Sixty Thousand (N360,000.00) or be granted presidential pardon, or still national honour and portfolios and lots other rubbishes that shouldn’t be heard even among thieves, talk less people entrusted with the piloting of the affairs of an entire sovereign country.
Sometimes you wonder what would it take for our politicians and leaders to declare a band on the importation of generating sets and crude oil produce, declared the power sector a state of emergency, criminalised corruption, discourage ostentatious living and the insatiable desire for vanity mong our public servants, and encourage selfless service among our leaders in people’s service! As you ponder on these things, then the missing jig-saw always comes staring at you. What our leaders consider as priorities are not what you and I’re thinking, theirs’ is how to destroy our country and create enclaves for themselves and those patronising them, and this they’d elevated top above serving, defending and improving the lives of the people.
Today, I might not poses or have the right to any source of power or have the authority as social science’s law stipulates to be in the right position to recommend to you a capable, trusted and credible leader that truly love our country and his people, that would bring us out of the wood as the opportunity to choose our leader beckon again come 2015. But I want to use this opportunity to appeal to you my fellow Nigerians, most especially the youth that had borne and suffered the blunt of these secret society that our past and current leaders currently practice and call democracy and leadership to rise up and say no to this settings, they’d set up in conspiracy to rape and stifle our development. This is the opportunity for us to do our own back as they’d done us, to ‘waylaid’ them, and send them all on compulsory retirements and assume the piloting of our family estate before they completely run us down and out with their inept, wicked democracy and leadership style, as they currently practice.
Are we to take to the street and protest until someone is send to jail, or killed like in Egypt, Algeria, Libya and Burkina Faso? No, we’re not going to take that route; those routes are the easiest route for them to come back, and hijack and penetrate our ranks and contaminate us with their venomous poisons of corruption, tribalism, nepotism and ‘patronage government’ as they’d already mastered the trick.
We have been presented with the opportunity with that card that’d been given to you, call VOTER’S CARD to vote them all APC, PDP, and the others congregations of hawks that’d been destroying our country out and chase them to the village, on a compulsory retirement bases, to make them leave our country alone for us to build. Though we’ll not be like them; we’ll take electricity to them and develop the rural areas and confined them their as a penalty for their wickedness against this great country, God had designed us to be. We’ll built the state of the art medical facilities they go for in abroad in the villages for them, we’ll turn our local streams and lagoons to beaches and resort centres for them to see that it’s not in all cases that “what an old man sees sitting, a young person can’t see, even climbing a tree” as they’d always wanted us to believe. We’ll, with one of us, Alhaji Shetima Yerima leading and all of us supporting and working together let them know that we could solve our security challenges, while they laid back and concerned themselves with triviality, that we could solve our unity and patriotism problem, while they destroyed and tear us apart, drumming the ethnic and religious drum, we’ll show and let them know that it’s possible to have our power and every sector working if they’d not been syphoning our money and taking them away to go and develop, provide job for citizens and grow the economy of other countries, while our own people languish in poverty and delusion.
Now is the time, this is the opportunity, this is the call. God has brought us all, the youth and the well-meaning Nigerian people to 2015 for this one singular reason, to do something differently from what our failed generational leaders had begot to us for once, which hasn’t helped our course as we can all see. We have to change the course of our lives and support truly one of us, the National President, Arewa Youth Consultative Forum (AYCF), Alhaji Shettima Yerima, who on Tuesday, joined the presidential race as he declared his intention to vie for the presidency on the platform of Young Democratic Party (YDP).not those who would claim to be one of us when seeking for vote, and after that they’ll slip back into the destructive wicked secret society they belong to and swore to continue to impoverished and suffer Nigerian people and shame our country.
Shetima is young, he has been feeling these pains as us all, I’ve heard him severally on Inspiration FM, Channels TV, and other medium, like Cheta of the Smoothly fresh of 98.1FM, Smooth FM, like Chuks, Zoe, Seun, and the others of 99.3FM, Nigeria Info, like you, like me and many of us, voicing out strongly without triviality and bias against these our current set of leaders and their approach and believe to what leadership is all about. This is our opportunity to make history and change things for us all, let’s seize it.
God bless Nigeria.

Toney Etido friendsofnija..com
Our country has never in her history required leaders that needed to stand up and be counted by the citizens than now. The kind of leaders we’d had over the years, apart from the likes of Gen. Yakubu Gowon, and Gen. Murtala Mohammed (All retired), had been those that only serve their interest and the interest of the few selfish fools that congregate in the door of power with the one objective of dragging as many with good intentions for the country as they could to share in their hell and the punishment that corruption, greed and selfishness holds for their likes. And one of such punishments is to be despised by the people you’d led, leading or want to lead. Little wonder they become prisoners in the midst of their affluence and ill-gotten wealth, as the God of the needy, whom they deprived of justice keep confining them to death, while they’re still alive.
Just last week, in the tumultuous rage of insurgency and aspirant trying to court support from the people as they travel round the country, the former president, and self-acclaim father of modern Nigeria, Chief, (Gen) Olusegun Obasanjo came out smoking with double cylinder barrel of daunting allegations against the sitting president, President Goodluck Ebele, Jonathan. Though the allegation have truth in them, and it has achieve the purpose in which it was meant, which was to cause resentment and stir the citizens against the president, who have declared his intention to seek a second term in office.
Talking to my friends and brothers from the Northern part of the country, more especially The North East region, the hatred for the president has assume a dimension I have never seen before, not even in the Abacha years, where people only rolled out the drums to celebrate after his dead. They’re angry at the president as OBJ would want them to for failing to protect them against insurgence, which I am too, they’re angry at the president for biting economy and dwindling hope of survival, while our economy managers chant economic growth. And scanning and taking stock of happenings as recorded in the country in the last four years, am tempted to hate and wish the president out too. This is because the president have given more promises and set up more panels of enquiries as never before, yet the bombing goes on, the blood keep flowing, properties and economy continue to be destroyed, no corrupt leader is behind bar, but pardons and rewards for corrupt people and everything seems to be going down.
During the weekend, the president issued another promised to investigate the Kano’s Mosque bomb blast, a rhetoric I wonder if the president’s advisers and inner cabinet do not advised him against! ‘Cliché’ is a word I learned in my Feature writing curse in my second year in the university, it means constantly repeating a phrase, or thought, or sentence which my lecturer said would definitely cause what you’re trying to say to lose it meaning and potency as you constantly dished out, making people not to take you serious anymore. And that’s how we’re beginning to feel about the President’s promises for investigations and silence in the midst of corrupt government, promise to end Boko Haram soon, advised not to despair, and describing stealing as not corruption.
Having hated the president this much, can we still find space in us to hate his predecessors also? Can we hate the OBJs, IBBs and our other leaders of this world, who established a faulty foundation to make sure the country does not work even if Jesus Christ is to come down and govern us? Is there a place in us to hate those that brought and sponsor terrorism and other ills that is bedevilling the country so that we can hate our leader of the day? I have heard many argument on the economy, revenue accrued, corruption and others, but the question I want to ask is, how much has security, through the insurgency they created gulp from the entire revenue accrued from excess crude during this regime, how much from the revenue accrued have this government used in pacifying lecturers, Doctors, Oil workers etc to call off strikes and return to their works, how much has been used to settled difficult members of the national assembly to allow the president be, a tradition OBJ instituted, and how much is being budgeted for the education sector, power, roads and improve infrastructure as we could see, despite the distractions?
As Oceherome Nnanna stated in his article on Vanguard newspaper, Monday, Dec 1st, ‘OBJ, THE PROWLING GOAT SELLER’ “Yes indeed, Jonathan has his problems as a leader. He is too laid back about fighting corruption. It doesn’t seem to bother him. President Jonathan is too much in the background as my leader. I like my leaders there up front, inspiring words, deeds and examples. I like them tough and decisive, but always putting the interest of the nation first. I don’t like walking up front and looking back for my leader.
Thirdly, I don’t like the way Jonathan has handled Boko Haram. If he had done the needful things two years ago, we would not have the second largest number of displaced persons in the world, with parts of our territory under devilish Salafist Islamists” Yes we hate Jonathan, but we hate you, our past leaders and all of you current crop of politicians more for you refused to do the needful that can entrenched a vibrant and a developed promising country for our generation unborn.
God bless Nigeria.

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Have you made that call? Here’s what cristie told me:

In our last issue from the “echoes of wailings and lamentations from Mubi, the government’s and world silence’, we tried to awakened and triggered your sympathy emotions and advocate a little demonstrations of love by calling and standing by our fellow country men and women, family, love ones and anyone that you know that are ‘over there in Mubi, Adamawa State and other places, whose peace and safety had been disrupted by the dreaded Boko Haram insurgence. We brought to you in our previous eye witness reports, their experiences, sufferings, dead, families members separated from their families and the world and government’s neglect and silence. Remember the idea is to awakened in us the consciousness to live to our true essence and demonstrate a little act of love and let them know that they’re not alone, that we over here in our safe heavens are mindful of their sufferings and share in their tribulations and their unease, that though we might not be able to share with them anything as per material things as the economic reality of the country that makes us work much and take less home wouldn’t let us, but a call, ‘a how are guys doing’ a pat in the back, a standing in the rain with them and squeezing their hands and assuring them that our supports are with them’ would go a long way in encouraging them to fight and stay alive. Now with the news that they’ve lost everything, the insurgence chasing and slaughtering them, the government’s troops in the attempt to bomb the terrorists, bombing their houses and destroying everything they have, the loss of documents, love ones, and assets worth billions of naira all gone, standing with them in their moments of needs, deprivation, loss and threat to life is all they’ve got and expecting from the world at a time like this, and we shouldn’t deny them that ( As Cristie told me, she was able to leave with only three dresses in her hand bag, considered lucky to others who were only lucky enough to escape with only their lives.)
Getting updated this morning again from Yola, (Not Yaba) the capital of Adamawa State, from the home of a good Samaritan’s sister of hers, who took her and over a hundred other displaced people from mubi, Gulak, Askira and other places displaces by the Boko Haram and military fighting in, Cristie told me of the love and ‘try’ her sister have demonstrated toward her and all the other people, she told me that they haven’t seen nor heard from her mother yet, though a guy that escaped through his teeth and just arrived yesterday told them that he saw her, where she was hiding in a Muslim’s neighbour’s home, near their house, which might be among those houses bombed early yesterday morning by government’s troops. She told me that their house had been bombed too and that they’ve got nothing left to go back to, even if the fighting stopped, she told me of a boy she knows that was shot point blank with his father and many others like that, while the women, (Mothers and sisters) were speared to go, she even told me of a suspected member of Boko Haram, who was all the while living with them in their compound, probably one of those who mapped out the city for the insurgence for easy takeover. All these Cristie told me the guy that escaped from Mubi, where he hid in a cave for days without food told them in the camp, after he arrived with some of the sisters and the mother of the boys that were killed with their fathers at point blank range because they’re Christians. I put a call to the guy, who chose to remain anonymous and he corroborated the reports.
Do you know that most of us, with relations over there still haven’t made that call of life to these suffering people yet? they haven’t send their token to ameliorate these people’s sufferings and show them that they truly care, you just have to imagine what those people went, and are going through as Cristie told me to be able to appreciate why they need us and the love we can share with them. You mean you haven’t felt their pains, and stand in the rain with them yet? I want you to understand and know that your essence as human being is to be able to sympathise, empathise, and stand in the rain with your fellow humans, an emotion animals don’t have.
Are you searching for peace, joy, fulfilment in life, which can only come from your true essence as human? Try identifying with people in needs, today; the Mubi people, Gwoza, Finthim, and all others around you that you know, and those from those places where the insurgence and life issues have displaced and killed. Make that call of life, and show some love today to that friend, brother, sister, and everyone, even if you ain’t giving them money or anything, but just checking out on them alone would go a long way in assuring them that you understand. God bless Nigeria:

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When Mariam called me two days ago from Mubi, the second largest town in Adamawa, Nigeria with the news of the exodus of people that was at that time going on in the town, as a result of the impending takeover of their town by the dreaded Islamic terrorist group, Boko Haram, and their unabated and unrestrained reign of terror, I was guilty of feeling indifferent as if she and everyone living in that part of the world deserved what they’re going through as many of us are doing indirectly with our silence and indifferent. Having warned her just a day before then not to leave Yola, the state capital where they’d previously fled to her eldest sister’s house during a previous attack. Prior to that day, I had in respond to her complained of boredom and home sick, having been previously driven away from school and their businesses, felt and communicated to her that it’s better she’s bored, alive and save than to end up like the poor, unfortunates helpless, over two hundred Chibok girls and others currently in the custody of the tyrannical blood thirsty and heartless devil’s inspired group.
So when she called again several hours later in the night with a cold and distance voice that carried no affection to let me and everyone in the world know that we have abandoned them to the blood thirsty group to do with them as they pleased, and didn’t even made an attempt to find out how she and many other millions in that part of the world are faring under the mercy of the brutal terrorist group , how we didn’t demonstrate enough act of love, care, and concerned at all to their predicament just like our government and the world at large, like all of us in our comfort zones, I was tempted to use my busy schedule of the day as excused and defence to justified why I have become so inhuman not to care and love my fellow human anymore as they die in numbers. How we have grown so insensitive to the pains and sufferings of others around us as long as it isn’t us. I was even tempted to feel that she’s accusing me unjustly and because I didn’t want argument, I let the sleeping dog to lie.
But later the next day in the evening, when I called back to check her out, having called earlier in the morning where she managed to tell me with a weak and traumatised voice that she’s down with fever or whatever she didn’t know what it is yet. By the time she was relieved temporarily from the strong hands of the emotional and psychological trauma that’d seized her and many others as a result of what they experienced as they flee from the terrorists and the tribulations allowed to foster on them by an insensitive, inefficient, careless government and a silence world. She told me of her mother, whom probably tired of running decided not to run anymore with them, she told me of the fleeing soldiers as they discard their uniforms, bullet proves, and arms and run, even faster and earlier than the defenceless civilians. She told me of flying bullets, of deaths, of slaughtering, of extreme sufferings and helpless situation people are going through that she witnessed, and tasted, while we stay in our comfort zones and do nothing and feigned busy. She told me of dying children and their mothers, of destructions, of government’s failings and abandonment, of the silence and hypocrisy of the world not to stop genocides and destructions like these before it happened, but to make needless noise and constitute needless bodies and panels that can’t reverse the evil done which they could’ve prevented if they’d shown genuine and a little bit of love love and be proactive in being our brothers keepers.
It’s funny how we can live in self denial and in our fools’ paradise and think that because we’re not there so it doesn’t concern us! Oh how wrong we could be! How we and government would lie to the whole world and handover the people we’re supposed to be responsible to and protect to be annihilated and destroyed while we’re buying 2015 election forms for millions of nairas, and lying that others paid, or we borrowed to pay all in the guess to fool the people. How we do nothing to show love to troubled people that needs our love when we can do something to share and ameliorating their miseries.
Our government, the United Nations, the USA, France, Germany, China and the powerful nations of the world has refused to do anything or do enough to safeguard the lives of our brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, uncles, and love ones in the North East of Adamawa, Borno and Yobe. Who do we call for help now, is it a grand ploy and conspiracy by the world with the support of our government, through it security agencies to allow our people to continually be killed and annihilated as a population control measure? If it is, then why kill us these way so mercilessly, brutally, with so much hate? Is there no any other humane way of killing us so that we die with the knowledge that we die because nobody does a thing, but didn’t have to flaunt it in our faces that we’re without help? If it’s not, why isn’t nobody doing a thing, why are the soldiers who’re trained, and armed running away, why hasn’t the government admit and declare her helplessness and inability to protect us and invite those who can to come and protect us from this tribulation, or better still arm the people to at least defend themselves, their families, their land and their honour with pride before they’re overpowered and killed and die with the pride of the knowledge that they fought and die not as cowards, and helpless.
Like a line in the Rwandan’s genocide depiction in the movie ‘Hotel Rwanda’ we’re letting the world, and everyone, most especially the United States of America, the powerful nations of this world and their moral oaths and sworn vows to be responsible to the world around her and protect the weak. We want them to know that they’ve failed us, while we’re looking onto them as our neighbours for protection, we’re being slaughtered, and they’re not doing anything to stop the perpetrators, like in the barbaric stone age of territorial scrambling and unrestrained genocide, while the world and all of us remained busy.
‘’It’s a natural mystic flowing in the air” Bob Marley said. If you listen carefully now you’ll hear. It’s not the false prophet of doom, and this is not going to be the last, but your care, your love, your calling of anyone you know that’s there to show some love and concern, your little token to ameliorates their sufferings, your prayers and your lifting of a finger to stop this evil and barbarianism, and your voicing out to get the insensitive government to become sensitive, a silence world to become vocal with actions to rescue us from our enemies would make a whole lot of difference and strengthened our people over there as they fight to stay alive.
God bless Nigeria, God protect and give our people victory over a tyrannical, insensitive and deceitful leaders and government and a silence world.

98:1, SMOOTH FM’S SMOOTHLY PRESS WITH MOZINO AND THE ALWAYS CONDESCENDING, SkEPTIC AL AND CYNICAL IRETI every weekdays Mon-Fry 7:30-8:30AM, Lagos City, Nig.
They call and address her as Miss Ireti, an air suggesting the bullying and condescending nature around an individual. If she’s not replying listeners ‘If they had wool in their ears when she introduced herself or say a thing, she’ll be critically opposing every issues that has to do with either PDP, government or the president, a position Bradiovision considered as taking side and not being objective and professional when one sits on the seat she sits with the others. She is so impatience with opposing views, can’t take it when she’s ditched, but ever attacking and ditching to others, including her fellow commentators, even after being always restrained and call to order by the talented, tactful, modest and ever sensitive and social savvy(ied)l Mozino.
The 98:1, Smooth FM’s news paper review programme, call ‘freshly press’ comes up every day mon-fri @7:30-8:00AM. It allows the random selection of news paper headlines by the invited, or in house or the mogbomoyas/gate crashers fakes and unethical commentators to analyse the headlines of the day, which gave the crop of some of the them, except for some few like, the Cheta guy, Moz’ino, to come on air and be extremely disrespectful, arrogant, dumping what they believe and think on us. The hangover of military rat race’s oppressive custom and lack of respect for others’ differences which has refused to be replaced with the knowledge of the democracy with responsibility reality of our current time in the consciousness of many Nigerian’s youths, a culture inherited from our fathers and the calamitous barbaric military regime. It is so common to find people like these everywhere in social and public places in this country thinking, believing and behaving rudely to the customers and thinking they’re doing people a favour by doing their work which they’re paid for. Their nasty soar attitudes which has now been ingrained into their DNA's now cause them to behave involuntarily, making it difficult to distinguish it from the arrogance and disrespect to others that it is, despite all their elegance, social savvy, and civilizations claim and pretense, the hangover still resurface, and make them behave like the Lord, Napoleon’s character of George Owel’s animal farm, which they’re supposed to be condemning from the government and anyone as the watchdog of the society.
The listeners, who’re suppose to send in their opinions and take through twitter, SMS, and other social media platform, are left stranded, as their opinions rarely counts, as the Ireti of this world wouldn't even let it, even others want to. It becomes so annoying when the lacking in diplomacy and tact Ireti Bakare, thinks she can come on hair and try to bully everyone to sticking with her ideas, forgetting that she and they ain't better because they found themselves in the studio, and that everyone has and is entitle to his or her own opinion and style of doing and responding to things, and that we’re all human, including Mr. President, The outgoing minister of Health, Prof. Onyebuchi and all the other people she’s always cynical and sarcastically inferring to.
Bradiovision, your television and radio watch:

Who are more the criminals and the culprits whom we should lay the blame of our stunted development as a people on their door steps? The politicians or our honourable learned colleagues, who might not be learned after all.
They go by the names Learned Colleagues, legal luminaries, counsellors, lawyers, legal practitioners, Barristers and whatever hallowed nomenclatures they might’d discovered and settled on for themselves, as they intimidate the public and coarse respect from among the people. They negotiated and convince the people on their indispensability and secured a spot for themselves as an arm of government that makes things right, whereas they contribute and are part of the problems. They’re quick to jump off the board and accuse the politicians of corruption and stalling the country’s development whenever things doesn’t go well, forgetting the fact that they’re part and parcel of those running things.
They stall and constitute obstacles to the dispensation of justice. They adjourned cases, and receive kick backs behind the surface and under the tables to further their pervasive modus operandi, they proclaim their saintly and defile less lives, and are quick to deceive you that they’re your last hope. But am here to tell you not to listen to them, they’ll screw you and ask you to pay 50k for file opening and consultancy, after raising your hope, that they’re watching your back. It’s a lie, they ain’t watching no shit, if you leave your rare for them, and think they’re watching your back, you’ll get screwed. They’re like the double face Janus that looks to the front, while also looking behind. They are evil, carrying a little bit of good that has been overshadowed by selfishness and greed, just like the politicians.
In our country, if you go check the number of cases awaiting trial, and how long they’d been pending, you’ll be amaze, and wonder what the guys in the system does when they go to work. I have heard and witnessed a situation a case might’d been fixed for hearing or determination, only for the judge not to turn up for no reasonable excuse, except for that he or she missed his or her newspaper for the morning or had a quarrel with their spouses, thereby, allowing everyone’s fate to be dangling on limbo, as they prolong cases for as long as ten, fifteen, twenty, even eternity years. To them they’re and see themselves as God, who can decide who, lives or who dies.
Go check the accounts, and assets made out in the names of most of our legal practitioners In our country, and you’ll be amaze at the level of ill gotten wealth they’ve so primitively accumulated just like our rogues politicians, yet no one talks about them. They’re richer than most business men, as their wealth over the years piled up through their shady and justice obstructions activities without scrutiny. Little wonder jungle justice and lack of faith in the country’s legal system has fast become part of us, as the legendary reggae king Bob Marley said “You can fool some people sometimes, but you can fool all the people all the time”
People now prefer and glamour for the days of Amadioha, Shango, and the instant striking of the thunder to take over the dispensation of justice, as our learned colleagues, who appear dumb in most of their proclamations, and rulings, and tend to confused our judgement and insult our intelligence, claiming that cases are determined base on some technicality and whatever jargons and lies that they peddle that no longer inspire confidence.
Sometimes you wonder whether they usually travel out of the universe, or have cotton boards in their ears or wool on their eyes when celebrated crimes are committed all over the world, like that of Oscar Pristorius, OJ Simpson, Michael Jackson’s child molestation case, the propofol drug that killed him, administered by his Doctor, Corad Murray, former prime minister of Israel, Ehud Olmerd, who was jailed for corruption, and the order by the court for the arrest of Pakistani’s prime minister, Raja Pervaiz Ashraf , Damilola Tailors murder cases, and many others when they come up, the time frame the hearing, determinations and the ruling on the cases were conducted, and dispose of within a reasonable time frame, thereby reposing confidence and hope of justice on the system. But not so here with the boys running things in our house, if they’d done there work, the Ekiti State Governor’s elect won’t be slapping a Judge, and obstructing court proceedings, Oji Uzoh Kalu won’t be in USA buying new jets, and writing rubbish on his Sun newspaper about another serving corrupt none performing governor, Joshua Dariye, Jolly Nyame, Boni Haruna, Tarfa Balogun, Alamesia, Gbenga Daniel, Farouk Lawal, Femi Otedola and the Elumelu guy that was once the Chairman House Committee on power, that were investigating President Obasanjo’ regime’s wastage of over 60Billion dollars on a none existing power project would’ve all been where they truly deserve by now. The former governor of Delta state, Jame Onanefe Ibori wouldn’t had so disgraced the country and the country’s legal system as he did, Bola Ahmed Tinubu wouldn’t have become so powerful, transacting almost half of Lagos in his sitting room, Chris Uba and the oil marketers would’ve by now known their fates.
But our judicial system, workers, and legal practitioners would now allow the course to work itself, they’ll aid the politicians to distort our laws, make mess of what makes for morals in our country, insult our sensibilities and expect no one to put the blame of our degradation, degeneration and shameless and abominable behaviours on their door steps, who then should we blame? No wonder they’re as rich as our corrupt and stealing politicians, if you doubt me, go find out how much the likes of Festus Keyamo, Riki Tarfa, Femi Falana, and the rest charges on election tribunal and other cases bordering on corruption and other criminal cases, and how long those cases have been pending in court, if not completely forgotten. Shake them up a little and you’ll be amaze at the level of ill gotten wealth they’ve so primitively accumulated just like our rogues politicians. They’re richer than most business men, as their wealth over the years had piled up through their shady and justice obstructions activities without scrutiny. Little wonder jungle justice and lack of faith in the country’s legal system is fast becoming part of us, as the legendary reggae king Bob Marley said “You can fool some people sometimes, but you can fool all the people all the time” To the people, you’d been fooling us for a very long time
The concern of this writer is the fate of the judiciary in the face of the comic absurdity in our nation’s democratic practice. Prof. Yemi Akinseye-George (SAN) had sounded a note of warning to judges in his book, ‘Legal System, Corruption And Governance in Nigeria’, saying Gen. Ibrahim Babangida held the judiciary responsible for the annulment of the June 12, 1993 presidential election.
In his annulment proclamation, Babangida said that “the judiciary has been the bastion of the hopes and liberties of our citizens. Therefore when it became clear that the courts became intimidated and subjected to the manipulation of the political process, resulting in contradictory decisions and orders by courts of coordinate jurisdiction, then the entire political system was in clear danger. Accordingly, it is in the supreme interest of the laws and order, political stability and peace that the presidential election be annulled.”
In the same vein, Gen. Sani Abacha blamed the judiciary for sacking Chief Ernest Shonekan’s Interim National Government, following Justice Dolapo Akinsanya of Lagos High Court judgment which declared the government illegal and an aberration.
As we speak, Twenty five Federal High Court Judges and State High Court Judges are allegedly stewing in their own messes. The Judges are currently being interrogated on charges bothering on corruption, bribery, money laundering and abuse of office.

a National Daily competent sources disclosed that the investigation of the 25 Judges is predicated by the alleged petition forwarded to the Chief Justice of Nigeria (CJN), Mariam Aloma Muktar. CJN concerning the alleged corrupt practices of the Judges and copied the Chairman of Economic Financial Crime Commission (EFCC), Ibrahim Lamorde.
Sources said in the alleged petition four Justice of the Appeal Court were accused of bribery and abuse of office amounting to over N5 billion. Five serving Federal High Court Judges and eight Judges across the country. “Punitive action will be taken against the affected Judges when they return from annual vacation. The CJN has been interacting with EFCC Chairman, Ibrahim Lamorde in other to fine tune details of impending trial. CJN assured the petitioners that no stone will be left unturned in riding the nation of corruption.”
It was further learned that Justices of the Federal High Court and Chairman of Code of Conduct Tribunal, Justice Danladi Umar are also facing the EFCC over allegation of corruption, bribery, money laundering and abuse of public office. The affected Judges are currently telling the EFCC of what they know about N5 billion found in their account as Judicial Officers. The National Daily impeccable sources hinted that Nasarrawa Chief Judge, Suleiman Dikko may soon face the CJN over his alleged misconduct in the impeachment saga involving the governor, Tanko Al-Makura. It was learned that 20 members of the Nasarrawa State House of Assembly are writing a petition against Suleiman Dikoo raising 16 allegations against him.
While Al-Makura believe that the dismissal of the petition vindicated the lawmakers rejected the finding of the panel.
The 20 lawmakers are expected to submit the panel’s decision to the State House.
The National Judicial Council which is charged by the same 1999 Constitution with the appointment and discipline of judges have always taken exception to action of judges who violate the otherwise clear provisions of the constitution, but since corruption, dubious activities and greed runs in the veins of most of our dishonourable learned colleagues, who fight on daily bases to portray that they’re honourable just like most politicians, they continue to act against every measures the council is adopting in order to inspire confidence from the people and honour for the body.

At an emergency meeting held at Abuja on December 20, 2006, the National Judicial Council, acting with powers vested in it by Paragraph 21(d) of the Third Schedule to the 1999 constitution suspended the Chief Judges of Anambra, Plateau and Ekiti states for the partisan roles played in the impeachment of the governors of their respective states.
Those suspended were Justices Chika Okoli (Anambra), Ya’u Dakwang (Plateau), and both the Chief Judges of Ekiti state, Justice Kayode Bamisile, and the former acting Chief Judge of the state, Justice Jide Aladejana. The suspension takes immediate effect.
Chuka Okoli, former Chief Judge of Anambra State, was placed on suspension by the council for what was considered to be his inglorious act in the controversial impeachment of Peter Obi as governor of the state. Before Governor Virginia Etiaba effected the decision of the council to appoint an acting Chief Judge, Okoli even tried to discountenance the directives of the NJC.
Justice Kayode Bamisile, his Ekiti State counterpart, was also sanctioned for similar misconduct. The former Chief Judge allegedly compromised himself by appointing on the investigation panel persons believed to be cronies of the then Governor Ayodele Fayose, to probe the impeachment allegations levelled against the governor. But Justice Jide Aladejana, who stepped into Bamisile’s shoes without due process, went down with his boss in line with the council’s recommendation.
Lazarus Dakyen, the Chief Judge of Plateau State, also lost his job because of his reluctance to be guided by law in his participation in the processes leading to the removal of Governor Joshua Dariye. Before them were Okechukwu Opene and D. A. Adeniji, who were indicted for taking bribe on the matter of the senatorial election in Anambra State. Though a former Attorney-General of the Federation, Akin Olujimi, (SAN), advised President Olusegun Obasanjo against their dismissal, the President upheld the decision of the NJC. Olujimi based his advice on the procedure adopted by the council in determining the case.
They are not the only judicial officers who fell victims of the political crisis in Anambra State. Stanley Nnaji, then a judge of Enugu State High Court, was suspended in March 2004 for wrongly assuming jurisdiction on a matter outside his state. The judge had ordered Tafa Balogun, then Inspector-General of police, to remove Chris Ngige, who was then the governor of Anambra State. Nnoruka Udechukwu, the state Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice, petitioned the NJC, complaining that the ruling was in bad faith and against the code of conduct of judicial officers.
Nnaji was probably encouraged by the reluctance of the Federal Government to implement a similar decision of the council on Wilson Egbo-Egbo, another High Court judge, for granting an injunction directing Ngige to stop parading himself as the governor. But shortly after Nnaji was accused of misconduct, Obasanjo approved Egbo-Egbo’s retirement. The latter is one of the nine judges so far retired for endorsing unnecessary ex-parte applications.
But they are not the only casualties of political cases.

Five others were implicated in the 2003 Election Petition Tribunal in Akwa Ibom State. They adjudicated on the petition against the re-election of Governor Victor Attah by Ime Umanah, candidate of the defunct All Nigeria Peoples Party, ANPP, at the election. By the time the NJC concluded its job, Matilda Adamu, a judge of the High Court of Plateau State, Christopher Senlong of the Federal High Court, Lagos, and James Isede, a chief magistrate in the Edo State judiciary, had earned themselves dismissal from the judiciary because political issues. D. T. Ahura of the High Court of Plateau State and A. M. Elelegwu of the Customary Court of Appeal, Delta State, were recommended for suspension. The Federal Government, after approving the verdict of the council on the judicial officers in February 2004, sent their case files to the Independent Corrupt Practices and other Related Offences Commission for trial.
It on these grounds judges and Chief Judges who are involved in various political cases, especially as the 2015 general elections approach, are advised to learn from the eventualities
which befell those of the past by doing justice in accordance with their oath.
Heads certainly will roll in the ongoing EFCC investigation of alleged corrupt Judges.
Some recitations FROM NATIONAL DAILY

In those days when men were men and soldiers don’t run away from war fronts, and when they used to sacrifice their lives for their country. In Those days when all that soldiers were required to know was nothing more than to fight to the last man, for pride and honour and to understand the consequences of letting it known in Gad, and telling it in Askelon that Nigerian soldiers lose the fight and run away from their enemies like shameless, powerless Olees, Rogos, Onyeumengwos. And whatever they were using to impress it upon the psyches of the soldiers that it wasn’t going to augur well for the country and for them as men, if the enemies and the daughters of the Philistines should reiterate their defeats and rejoice over them.

Those were the days when Alfred’s father, Bulama’s father, AKA Danger, my father and your father, running side by side with nothing else in their knowing, but the orders of their superiors as they run with honour and sacrifice to preserve for us an heritage and protect our lives as a nation. From the hierarchy of WO2 Iliya Manzo, AKA O2 Mumuye, and Captain Dansanda, up to Major Ibrahim Babangida, Buhari, Lt. Col Obasanjo, Docat Bali, Dimka, Murtala Mohammed and the rest as they fought, and sacrificed to retain and keep as one the only country they came to know and swore to protect, in an occupation they chose with pride, and were accorded their respects and recognitions as heroes and legends of the country willingly by their fellow country men and women.

But the same can’t be said of our today’s soldiers, who’re even considered lucky, as international relations and diplomacy is gradually eradicating and replacing war completely, and the needs for hostilities between countries no longer holds. (Sorry to some of my friends who are currently in the military profession) but the truth be told, you guys of today’s military have disappointed us completely. With your jumbo pay and improve condition of service compared to what our parents used to have in their days as soldiers, yet you still couldn’t inspire the confidence and trust that’ll guaranty the us safety. With numerous shameful reports of soldiers running away in the midst of hostility with civilians, turned terrorists, with less, or no training occupying news heads lines on prints, broadcast and the new media, I feel very uncomfortable reporting these kind of sacrilegious reportage, to me I allow the dooms’ day sayers to pick the bad news, as it sounds sacrilegious to the ear, and very difficult to understand what’s going on. What has happen to our once trusted and dependable military? Who are the types of men that are finding their ways into our military today? Who are the recruiters that couldn’t identify hints of cowardice and lack of bravery when these fellows trained and weed them off, before they proceeded to go and so humiliate the country and dirtied this noble profession as it’s being played out?

Mutiny, sabotage of the country’s army is the highest sin a man can commit against his country, and those involve should purge themselves if not they would not qualify to belong to the community of people, they’ll be concern into the dark bottom of history. But if they can allowed their souls to purge off their treachery- their types have a way of reversing the ties of history and redeeming themselves with good deeds for the favour a merciful and benevolent God bestowed upon them by allowing them to live.

The General that was said to have run away with his troops in the front, the Col. that set three armored tanks ablaze, the others they said used to divulge information on the military to the terrorist and others that have sabotage this fight against the terrorist passively or actively should be made public, their ranks, their families, the records they hold in the military and any additional information that might interest the public. They should be then ostracize and castrated for all I care.

But when men were men and soldiers don’t run away from the front, when Murtala Mohammed commanded three different battalions that couldn't penetrate Abagana, in the documented infamous battle of Abagana during the Nigerian civil war, that the renegade run away Biafran broadcaster Okokon Ndem jokingly described what Col. Hassan Musa Katsina reply was when the president, Gen. Yakubu Gowan demanded to know the where about of COL. Mohammed. It was said that the Col was left dazed under a tree drinking his shayi. It later took Murtala another brutal battalion comprising of the brutal likes of Major Mohammadu Buhari, Capt. Sani Abacha, the slimy sleeky young Capt. they said was Ibrahim Badamosi Babangida, and my father and your father and the Nigerian people to break the resistance put up by the Biafran side and take back our eastern brothers, and sustain a country for us, despite the misunderstanding and mistakes made from both sides and the other side taking it to the extreme. That was when men were men and soldiers don’t run away from Metesine and don’t sabotage the country’s course.

When Nnnandi Azikiwe committed to national unification, Pa Obafemi Awolowo and the Sadauna and the other good people we heard contributed positively to the begetting of a country to us. God bless Nigeria.

mkoabiola:
I see u as an ardent listener of inspiration fm.
Bella is very nice ,outspoken,verstaile and humble ,I nva blv shud cud keep listeners spell bound with rufai.
But d fact is dat most ppu stil prefer Dan foster.

Why Dan Foster, what's about Dan Foster? Let's keep the conversation on

When suddenly, without prior noticed, the voice of the American cum Big Dog, Dan Foster seized to resound anymore from the inspiration fm broadcast tube’s box, many, including myself thought the flame has finally gone out on the Lagos base family lifestyle radio station, 92.3 Inspiration FM, after her credibility to represent the ideal moral value of family had earlier been brought to question after her benefactor, the former MD of the defunct Intercontinental Bank, Mr. Erastus Akingbola was accused, arrested and charged to court for corporate robbery.
See, Dan had come to become the face of the Lagos base family radio station, trying all the mixes to keep the station afloat after defining the station’s niche and what they should be known for, unlike the other jacks of gbogboero and holding unto nothing that we have scattered around. Ever then, the likes of Wana, Heavy Man, Titi, Charles B, and the annoying bunch of Eyo and Dalas had all always been seen as ‘adds on’ Though Charles B later left, and now resonate from Rhythm fm, 97.3 or 93.7 with his’ all knowing’ ‘Sharing Life Issues with Charles B.( Wonder how one person can be that smart)
Scrolling through the stations this morning, Saturday 11th/10/2014 to track a programme I have interest in on 99.9, the Beat FM, I caught a sonorous well riming voice, that was not lacking in something reasonable to say either a joke, explaining, narrating, calling to order, in short she just flows, having something to say at any giving interval, without stuttering. I was forced me to pause on the station a bit, and listen for a couple of minutes.
There the idea to resurrect my rested column on Citiwatch Magazine ‘BRADIOVISION’ stroke like a thunder bolt, there also I was forced to change my view on the Family Radio Station, and declared that Inspiration FM is back, and thanks to whoever is doing anything there to cushion the effect of the vacuum the “two face” American, Dan Foster created, twalle to BellaRose, Rufai Husenni, who has also live up to expectation, bringing some seriousness and direction to what a morning show should be, not an Akin and Pawpaw comedy to set one’s day on a retrospect, as they were beginning to do. Wana, Titi and others also are living up to the billing. I owe nobody.
Thanks

Sometimes early this week, I stumbled unto a post on FaceBook that reads 'Don't turn down gifts from your ex, because that is your pension'

Pension means a severance package, or benefit from a long time of service to an organisation. With this, what the author of that post which has since found it way to several online forum didn't specify was whether he was referring to the female folks or their male counterparts as the severance or retirement victim here! But with the mentality we hold over here when it comes to relationship between a man and a woman, the victim here is the female.

With the following questions and answers excepts from an Ebonylife TV talk show call 'Love Lounge' which feature Lanre Olusola, Life Coach, Psychologist and Peak Performance Coach, you would understand that putting one's self in a position of a victim is putting one's self in a powerless state with great consequence.

HERE'S Ex FACTOR FOR YOUR INFORMATION AND ENJOYMENT.

EX FACTOR:
Needs heads up on how to manage break up without being weighed down by the emotional trauma characterize with it? HERE IS XFACTOR TO YOUR AID.

Q1. What are the three most recounted reasons why people break up? (In a Relationship)
A1. I’ll call them the triangle of power, and the first one is vision. Without a common vision, and without both parties in the relationship pursuing the same vision, they’re heading nowhere. The second is values, you know, the reason why you do everything you do is to validate your values. And if you have a spouse whose values violate yours and run contrary to your value, you’ll always be in conflict. The third most powerful thing is your believes. Believes are those philosophies that you live your life by. Now without an alignment, a perfect alignment of all of those three, it’s impossible for you to have a happy and healthy relationship.

Q2. How should one handle beak up?
A2. It is important for both of you to ask yourself: Did we break up for the right reason? Because fundamentally if the reason for breaking up wasn’t for the right reason that deals with core values, differences in core values systems or something really powerful, then you’ll find yourself keep coming back to each other. And then you ask yourself, did we both know that? It’s important for the break up to happen for the right reason, but it is also equally so important for the both of them to know that, because if one person feels that the reason was not good enough, it wasn’t that the value system was not different, was just an issue of circumstance of time at the time, then there will be those wink wane feelings. And number three, was there a closure? Because if we broke up for the right reason, and we both know that we broke up for the right reason, then there’s no closure, then there’s a problem. So make sure that there is closure.

Q3. If I or my partner realize that we were not meant to be and separated, can we still be in each other’s lives? Is it advisable to still be best of friends with your ex?
A3. You can have your ex in your life, but then the boundaries of that exchange have to be properly communicated, so that everybody in your life and all the stake holder of your life and the new life can be at peace with that relationship.

Q4. Should we use our previous relationship as a bench mark for what we want in our future relationship?
A4. No it’s not right, it’s wrong, and every time you focus on what you don’t want you have it. Because focus create, focus attract. So if you’d gone through a bad relationship, or you’ve a hang up in your past relationship and you keep focusing on some of the dimension of that relationship, you’re going to attract same dimension in another relationship. So one of the greatest thing you need to do for yourself before you get into any relationship is to count the cost, ask yourself what is the purpose for it, what is my objective and ultimately, what is it that am willing to give in that relationship, not what is it am willing to get? We must understand that relationship is a need. Now, the more you give the more you get, and the more you demand, the less you get.

Q5. In a situation where children were involve in a relationship that is heading separate ways (DIVORCE), how does one manage the breakup without affecting the children?
A5. Well, I must say that it’s impossible for it not to affect the children, because the situation is no longer a deal, is contrary to design. A family is not a husband and wife living apart, is not Daddy and Mummy living apart, and is not a kid living with Daddy and another kid living with Mummy, the idea of a family is daddy, mummy and kids living together, and so you no longer have an ideal situation, it’s like pulling my hand off my body, it’s off the design, so there’ll be a clash of experience whether we like it or not, so the kids are going to suffer some kind of lost, but the parents can respond to their situation by being solid for each other, in spite of their differences by recognizing that they have a very critical interest, common interest that’s important for their peace, so both of them would work together to offer the children the best support their individuality deserve as kids. But most importantly, God will have to help those kids within their own reality to come in contact with a kind of knowledge, with a kind of education that can allow them to re-interpret all their experiences and put it together in their life time so that they don’t recycle the same experience and reproduce it in their own time.

Q6. Let’s assume they've understand and accepted the reality of their separation, wouldn't it be confusing to the children when they start seeing their parents in another relationship?
A6. You know, that’s what I’ll call complication. And the reason why I’ll give it that simple interpretation is because they’ve just begin a new design. Now the original intent for family is husband, wife, and children in one home focused on birthing the destinies of their children and living them a legacy. But in this situation, you've got father that has ran away with another mother, and you’ve got mother that has ran away with another father, you've got step sisters and step brothers, which makes it an abuse, because it’s tantamount to you detaching an arm. It’ll be painful, now that experience in itself is traumatic, and it’s bound to affect and infect the children, including the parents. So over time that concept of family is water down, and who suffered? The community. Who suffered? The nation. Who suffered? The continent they found themselves in.

Q7. , there’s this phenomenon known as ‘Okafor’s law’ (Once there, always there) How true is this, and must it be so?
A7. And part of how it work is that people are weak. If you have a relationship with someone, a sexual relationship with someone, and now you’re married, if you’ve not been able to outgrow that weakness that allowed you to open yourself in the first place, definitely that kind of relationship can continue, but transformation is always possible, behavior governance, behavior transformation is always possible. You can come in contact with some kind of information, knowledge or experience that allows you to completely change who you are. Some people are trying to change, ask anyone who has experience change, you can look at people of your past and see them completely new.

Q8. Is it advisable for you to maintain a cordial relationship with your ex’s family and friends?
A8. You know, part of what people don’t understand is that relationships are very vital to human advancement. It’s practically impossible for anyone to have a great life without meaningful relationship. At times, some of the best relationships do not necessarily begin with the best of experience. One thing is clear, if you break up a relationship, you would always have a reason to determine how that relationship will go forward. There’re situations that will demand that you completely cut off permanently from this person because you need to do so in the defense of your integrity, and you’re sure that in the future you’ll not need that relationship for any value, God will not put your miracle beyond your reach, and he won’t put it in the hand of your adversary. Now, you have to be careful how you short doors, it’s very important, because you might need to return through those doors in future, because of that you need to judge, do I really need to break away from this relationship? And then you can have somebody in your life and not have him as a friend, the person can remain in your life, it’s all about different level of commitment and different level of engagement, you need to define it properly.

Q9. What do I do if I have an Ex who’s over familiar in public, am at a wedding for instance, friends and family are around, he comes and grab my ass and shoulder at the same time in a very familiar way?
A9. What do you do? You shock the system. You’ll have to introduce something that would cause him never to do it again, or maybe you give him a dirty slap, or you scream. You know, you must create a scene, a scenario or an experience that every time he remembers he’ll not do it again.
Q10. How do you handle ex that refuse to accept and admit that his era with you is over?

A10. What I’ll say is that the meaning of your communication is in it effect, you’ve not communicated well. If you really communicate, they’ll understand it’s over. Now 93% of your communication however, is none verbal, it’s not a function of your word, now 55% of your communication is based on your body language, 38% is based on your tone, which leave 7% to content, what you actually said, or 55% is based on your presentation, how you present your case, 38% is based on how the case appears and that is the perception that they get, which leaves 7% to what you actually said. Now a lot of people put much emphasis on the word they’re saying, they don’t lay emphasis on the 93%, and the 93% is the most important.

Q11. You haven’t spoken to your ex, you claim you’re over them and yet go on twitter, you follow them on face book, you text their family, you know exactly what they’re doing, you know their schedule more than they themselves, how do one get out of this circle?
A11. There are two things there. Most of the times, it’s not true that you want to stop it. Pursued they say is the proof of desire. What you do, tells me what you really want to do, and so if you’re doing that, it is most likely that you want to do it, and you can’t stop what you want to do. And if it happen that you truly want to stop doing that, and you find yourself doing it, then what it will require that you stop doing it is not in you, and so you’ll need professional help.

Q12. What about people who said they are over their ex, and they end up dating somebody, when you meet the person they’re dating, they look exactly ex, or act exactly like their ex?
A12. That person is creating more problem for him or herself, and for their relationship because they’re in reality dating the same person they claim to be done with in another person. And my advice for them is stop it immediately, because you would discover certain things that you’ll not be able to handle. Now a relationship is supposed to be open, and you should create enabling environment for openness and effective communication, you should ensure that it’s a non-threatening relationship, not the kind of a relationship that the guy is going to beat you, abuse you, and put you into abnormal use.

Q13. What is your advice for someone that was in a relationship that is over, you want nothing more to do with him, and may be you have business to tidy together or money, or maybe you leave in the same house or you share the same lease, how do you get the valuable property or money he’s owing you that you need from your ex?
A13. You see I say to people, what you cannot let go of don’t lend it. One of the various abuses is financial, one of the ways to lock you down and keep you in bondage is when they know that you like money too much, they want you to keep coming back, they want to have one over you, and they want to have that power over you. You got to be able to walk away. The person with the most power is the person that is able to walk away from the negotiating table, from the deal” you got to be willing to walk away, ten thousand pounds, you have to walk away. You may see it as a lot of money to walk away from Yeah, not walking away can bring more complication than you could bargain for.

Q14. Can one ask for financial favor from their ex? I mean finding yourself in a tight corner where you need urgent financial assistance?
A14. The quality of your network determine your net worth, the quality of your character determine how much credibility you have. Sometimes people get into challenges, nothing is wrong if you have a good relationship and a good rapport with your ex, and if it’s an ex that will not take advantage of you, and you’re not going to borrow that money for the right reason, because there are some people that are finding access, and they are looking for way to get back. So money is a tool and a means to get back. If you know that your need is genuine, and you know that you have that kind of relationship with your ex, then by all means you can. If your purpose and your reason is not genuine and you know that he’s not mature enough to manage that relationship and to keep it at the level of being platonic that you guys have gone into, then don’t do it. And you’ll have to check it out with your current spouse if he or she is ok with you going to seek financial assistance from your ex.

Q15. What do you do when your ex is getting married and you’re still single, and you have all these emotions and resentment, how do you manage that within yourself?
A15. It’s obvious that you have emotions you’ve to deal with from time to time. If you’re still emotionally involve with your ex, and you’re getting emotionally worked up that he’s marrying, some people advice that you go to the wedding and get over it, I don’t think so. What you want to do is to explain it to yourself and put it in perspective, if you cannot do it by yourself, talk to people who can help you. You just need to put it in perspective, and you’ll be alright because you’d broken up already, and you’ve the reason to do that. Your conflict is, maybe you made the right decision or not by breaking up with him, all the emotions that come with the idea that he’s getting married, that could have been me, then you have to remind yourself of the reason you broke up.

Q16. What about if he’s the one that broke up with me, I didn’t want us to break up?
A16. Then comes back to your self-esteem and your dignity, because if someone said “I don’t want you” it take self-esteem to have issues with that. Because you’d been with the person, you’ll miss the person, but somebody who does not want you is not fit for your life, that’s what it mean, it mean the person is not fit to be with you. You got to see it from that perspective, you don’t see it as a lost, and you have to see it as a gain. This person has looked at me and he said he cannot be with me that mean the person cannot actually be with me.

Q17. Is it okay to go to the wedding and raise my hand in objection when the priest ask for that?
A17. You would face the consequences of your action, in African you’ll face the consequences. Very critical is, you’ll need to ask yourself “Why do I really want to go for that wedding, what is the purpose for me going?” if you’re true to yourself, the answer would stop you from going, and you know, if you find the answer and you’re not being true to yourself, you need to have people you’re accountable to, good people. Because there’ll be some friends that would say let’s go and see what that girl is wearing, also your companions, friends that you keep may lead you to doom. So you must have a good friend that would give you intelligent advice and give you wise counsel. They said, “In the multitude of wisdom, there is security. It is ignorant that is our biggest enemy” “My own people are destroy for lack of knowledge” so said the bible.
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PMA, THE JOKER IN THE PACK TO GUARANTEE YOU A PLACE AT THE TOP:
From the day I stumbled upon various research about what determines success and guarantees happiness in life between IQ (Intellectual Quotient), EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient), PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) and others, I resolved deep within my heart to develop all but most essential to improve more on my PMA as it’s a component that runs through everything in the success story line.
PMA can impact on every aspect of your life. People who maintain a positive approach to life and challenges are able to move forward constructively than those who get stuck with negative attitudes. Your mental and physical health can be improved by learning how to maintain a positive state of mind.
WHAT IS AN ATTITUDE?
Attitude, according to Merriam- Webster dictionary “is a mental position with regard to fact or state: a feeling or emotion toward a fact or state” The dictionary goes on to add that the word “positive” can be used as having a good effect, favorable, and mark with optimism”
Personal mental attitude (PMA) is a success philosophy, it is one of the greatest and most powerful keys needed to achieve your dreams and succeed. It is an optimistic disposition in every situation in life, it employs the state of mind that continues to seek, to find and to execute a win-win situation, and it helps you achieve your desirable outcomes regardless of the circumstance or situation. It opposes negativity, defeatism, and helplessness.
PMA is the attitude that comprises of positive characteristics, it is symbolized by words like faith, integrity, hope, optimism, courage, initiative, generosity, tolerance, kindness, and a good sense of purpose.
QUICK TIPS ON DEVELOPING YOUR PMA:
1. Know that the power of choice is in your hand.
2. Focus your attention on what you want. Not on what you don’t want. What you focus on is what you will attract
3. Watch less TV, do more of positive things and read positive books. Pick up a new hobby
4. Develop the habit of thinking and speaking positively.
5. Always be around positive minded people.
6. Develop a win-win mentality.
7. Be selfless.
8. Invest in yourself.
9. Learn to forgive, release, and love.
10. Stop focusing on speculation
11. Take charge of your life.
12. Have positive realistic expectations, and always take action. Even within the game of life, there is always a choice.
Bottom line is, attitude is everything, and everything is energy. Every thought and every emotion generates power.
Nobody has the power to create your life experiences but you. Take ownership and responsibility for your own destiny. Eliminate every limiting belief, every limiting perception, thought, emotion and values.
“You’re the captain of your ship, the driver toward your destiny, you’re the master of your fate”.
- The Catalyst, Lanre olusola