striktlymi:


Thanks!

You are always welcome!

nice!!! can I be a friend?

striktlymi:


Not really...

I am still open to it.

okay, that's nice. I do like your online personality!

I appreciate your contribution on my thread, it was one of the best I got, thanks once again.

striktlymi:


Yeah for real!

Reason??

Um...proposed and she said NO!!! That was a while ago sha.

Yeah, that's me on my profile. I believe that was me a week or two ago.

wow...that's serious!

so you decided to shut down on that level?

striktlymi:


Lol!

I don't have one...sorry.

for real??

I will like to know the reason behind your singlehood and is that you on your profile?

striktlymi:
The rocks??


Or



Marriage??

op start with yourself nah, I'm waiting please

Jorgen:
Sorry about this dear. It is terrible when we have to endure the consequences of our parents actions. God is your strength.

thanks for the comforting words!!!

zeepatoprick:
Children from broken homes... Are believed to be affected when it comes to marriages... My dear dis belief is as a result of the high trend and statistics of marriages that av av failed simply becos couples are from broken homes.. Its not ur fault.. I did not believe dat bullshit, bt as I grew older my perception began to change.. Bicos I xperienced and observed lots of marriages go in similar trend.. People believe dat children are bound to pick traits and characters of their parents and that should not be totally ignored.. The good news is that this is not applicable to all as some marriages of children from broken homes has blossomed and some is as a result of sheer determination from some offsprings of broken homes to deviate from the trend..
All the same dis has turned into a social stigma.. As the likes of my mother has vowed I never marry a girl from a broken home.. Conspicuously I av dated a girl who is from a broken home for close to 4yrs.. In as much as till 2day I can adjudge dat she is of solid character(a good girl).. She picked up a trait from her dad which was so bad.. An unforgiven trait.. She herself admits it.. Which was part of what led to a dissolution of our long term relationship.. Taking me back to square one...as I was forced out of the game for so long....

Denying ur dad worsens issues.. be of the character u say u are,, (be good).. And u will surely see a man who will marry u no matter the opposition... Jst break dat jinx.. U will be fine, so far u are of a fine personality..

Thanks! It encouraging.

Jay5000:
From your story it's obvious that you're still bitter and angry with your father and everything that happened.
The greatest fear of marrying people from broken homes is the bitterness and unforgiving spirit that most of them live with all their lives.
That fear, i believe, is justified. To break the yoke, you will need to overcome the bitterness. I'm not saying it's easy or it's your fault.
Just saying that nobody would like to start a family on the foundations of bitterness, anger, resentment, hate and an unforgiving spirit. It never ends well and that is why they run. To overcome this, you know what you must do, and i would advise you to make an honest effort to do just that.
If you do, you'll find the strength and the man to help you heal completely.
If you don't and you still manage to get married, it won't be long before you end up just like them.
The choice is yours to make.
Goodluck!

Have resolved to forgive him, all the same thanks for your contribution, appreciate!

UjSizzle:

I don't believe anyone ever really forgets anything. Forgive, yes, but your past is as much part of your present as it will your future.
But let go of the pain and the crazy boxes people place you in. If a man's family can't/won't look past your background (that had nothing to do with you btw), then you should be glad you don't get to live with them all your life.


I really get what you're going through, surprised you didn't see it coming though. It's the one thing my dad has told me all my life...."Families will have a problem accepting you because your parents are divorced."

But you know what? Your parents don't define you. Bad behavior isn't transferred via some weird radio frequency.
If people can't see that, then screw them

Thanks a bunch dear, I'm grateful!

Thanks everyone once again I really appreciate your help and will stick to the advice given so far I'm grateful and honoured to have y'all listen to me

readone1:
my sister take heart in my own opinion, for the man you love to leave you because you are from a broken home is a blessing in disguise, if he loves you he won't let you go
Develop yourself trust yourself believe in yourself the right man will come and he will love you irrespective of the home you come from since you are caring loving and of good character
I don't know why some family think that humble men must come from humble background
forgive your father and thank God for being there for you and your mum, if you tell your boyfriend that your father is dead you will hurt him more if he knows you lied to him

Thanks I'm grateful!

Special thanks to everyone I'm happy I shared this with you all no wonder the saying "a brother/sister can be found on the road" I take y'all as my e-family, have always had this strong conviction that I can find solace in this section I'm glad I summed up courage to write this.

Cc: babyme1
Yields
Striktlymi
Carefreewannabe
Mymz
Miami11
Bellong
Elantraceey
JEITO

mymz:



It is usually an insane world but sometimes one finds sane, unashamed truths from true people like you.
Thank you.

To the Op, Life is what you make of it.
Are you desperate to marry? - because desperation can also lead you right back to the cycle you're trying to escape
Do you know who you are and are confident in your abilities to make your life what it should be, with or without a man? - If no, you better find out.

The horizon carries an allure so appealing, with a promise of untold possibilities.
If you intend to be fully mesmerized, you must find the strength to follow, with or without a man/woman #fact

Dear I'm not desperate I'm only pained that I was met with such treatment all the same thanks for your kind advice

Thanks emensely to y'all that pay attention to my plea I'm much grateful, the scar my dad left on my family is so deep but I'll find a place in my heart to forgive him but then the question is 'can I forget'?

Greetings to y'all family section members and a special thanks to all my followers cos I know you did follow me so you'll be updated with my sad story. Now here it is.

I'm from a broken home, my dad left us when I was a yr old. From what I gathered things got tough and he couldn't man up to face the hard times so he abandoned us to God knows where due to pride cos have found out he's a very proud man.

My mum that he forced to become a full time housewife decided to pick take up teaching job to cater to our needs, my mum was very mean during our growing up days(don't know if it was due to anger from my dad abandoning us for her), now my dad is back claiming he's sorry for leaving us but from the look of things he's in dire need of help (him and his other family are living in poverty) so I personally I'm paying deaf ear to his cries.

Now my predicament is this. Since after graduation have had two serious affairs that should have led to marriage I was even engaged in one but the men I meet and mostly their families often frown at a girl from a separated home irrespective of her good character reason being that she'll always toe the path of her parent and this has made me hate the family I was born into, sometimes I feel like taking my own life.

So dear Family have made up my mind to deny my dad cos he's the one that put me in this mess I will tell the next man in my life that he's dead cos to me he's good as dead, his presence in my life is causing me tears daily.

To y'all please all I need is an advice!!! To those that do jump on post before putting your leg in one's shoe feel free to bash me.

Lastly, advice to those searching, study your partner before saying "I do" don't depend on arranged marriage cos my parent own was a product of such that's why it was difficult for them to accommodate and understand each others flaws thereby leading to my dad abandoning us.

Love is not always enough so marry your friend so you too can still be together even when hard times set in.

Thanks in anticipation for reading!

I seem not to understand why someone vying for such a post should be annoucing his family on social media...or is this some cheap ways for publicity stunt

To me it shows he's only interested in this post for his selfish interest!
I don't do politics anyways...the game is too dirty for me

Edited: nice to be on frontpage first day of joining this forum...for those in the family section I'll need your help greatly..."I'm a depressed soul deprived of love from my immediate family"

Will find time and write the story of my life.

iykedare:
@op, nice one.
I`ll love to get married some day .
I will give it my best and also expect the best from my wife.If it doesnt work,I`ll bounce out. No time for enduring sh!t.

But I`m enjoying my single life now. There is nothing like it.

Becareful of what you wish yourself...there is power in the tongue.

Planning ahead of divorce is not a good line to toe!