Divorce for me starts from the mind. We tend to nurse insecurities about our partners in our minds before they get actualized. It is a no for me.
But there are exceptions.

I am sorry to say this but how did you get to this stage? Pls don't give her the money.

This is serious

Obe

By 2017, snakes would be extinct in Nigeria

This is why I love nairaland.Most especially the family section. If only a larger part of our population can invest in quality information. I have nothing more to add than to have an entrepreneurial mindset and read a book everyday on different subject.Also pick the positives from everyone you meet. You will eventually laugh last. See you at the top.

Insightful interview, pls I have said it time and again that there is no concrete plan by this administration to move this country forward. They can't tell me that the funds are not available, even if we have to take a million naira from each lawmaker in this country.
We need a leader with an entrepreneurial mindset. That is the way forward.

pocohantas:
Before this turns into a case of Nigerian ladies are this and that, let's take a moment to ask how many Nigerian men are actually RICH.

Some people would confuse being financially stable to being rich.

That a woman desires a financially stable man isn't materialism or parasitism. It's nature playing out, it's common sense (in Ben Bruce's voice), it's her being real and pragmatic. Men are natural providers, while women are care-givers.
Twist it any how you want, it is what it is.

I keep seeing people ask this question (what if he goes broke), but in reality what's the actual ratio of men that go 'broke' after marriage to those that get richer. This is just a case of extremes, it doesn't always play out like that.

Now for those ladies that desire a man all because of money, it isn't even the worst thing to happen. We all desire the other for something. The man himself probably wanted a trophy wife...I think that makes them a perfect match. If he isn't discerning enough to know the real from the fake, that's his luck.

You men should be more discerning, don't end up with parasites then come crying and generalizing.
Stop nagging...some men want figure 8, some say it must be a graduate, men have even taken over in the search for financially stable females. We haven't killed them...it's all individual choices. People would keep on marrying for reasons other than love, get used to it.

The smartest response so far. No need to comment again.

Dyt:
Nawa oo
What will the man do to build relationships na

That is exactly what the O.P is saying. There are already enough articles on what men must and mustn't do to build a relationship.

Don't talk while saliva is in your mouth, what am I even saying, don't retain saliva at all. very disgusting.

I must also add that people who do not have a flair for some of the subjects you mentioned have the ability of applying intellect in resolving issues.

I will say that you caused it. You see the logic is that as a man you must make the woman feel that she can lose you at any moment but while still being faithful. Probably you are too soft. Be the man.

I can only say that this act is a plea to well meaning nigerians with intellect who have a conscience and put the people first before anything to start developing interest in taking into politics, so that we do not keep lamenting like this.

To beat the algerian national team we need to deploy the tactics chealsea used against man utd. We already have a right back in victor moses, we fit even call dat aina boy from chealsea. God bless Nigeria

Sometimes the solution to your predicament can be found in some of these threads. Visit the family section also. Money is good but be certain that the one you are going to spend it on is worth it. Many of these girls can take care of themselves. Also try being a gentleman and you won't need to spend much.

The problem especially with majority of the
ladies is that they always think that there is always somebody better. And I can bet that the list of what women want is synonymous to the kind of person that you are. Let's not forget that humans vary in personality.

Best team FC Barcelona.
Started supporting them when I watched Patrick Kluivert score 4 goals in the first half against yugoslavia at euro 2000. And then they took him off before the first half even ended, so I traced him all the way down to barca. And he was a cool guy. Secondly, when they bought Ronaldinho, the most skillful player to play the game. He is part of the reason why I am good in soccer. Many great games I can't pick one.

Best manager is Frank Rijkaard. Best player Ronaldinho.

But just to add, I could have supported arsenal then but they broke my heart when they lost to Liverpool in the FA cup 2-1. Goals from owen and fowler. I con de wonder say hw this kind team go play fine game con lose on top. So I said it is not my portion. Na why I port.

And glory be to God,barca has not disappointed me ever since. Pls give us bellerin so that we can help his career.

He who feels it,knows it. I can bet your mom is always thinking about you even if you find it hard to communicate, just the same way you think about her. Just concentrate on fulfilling your dreams and get busy doing what you love. By doing that,you would have made her very proud. Don't worry about it too much and always have a positive mind.

Time heals everything.

The statement Donald Trump made was to highlight the reality of the American Society where you can have your way with any woman no matter her caliber, whether smart or unintelligent because when the worse comes to the worse,the man will be the biggest loser( marriage settlement ).


#my opinion

You see, as the Albert Einstein of this generation if I give you my answer,it would take 40years for you to decode it so I have authorized the guy below me to give you the answer in the language that you understand.

This write up has been the cause of my solitude for years now. But it is a good thing because you won't want the same to happen to anybody under your care. I wish lalastica can take this thing to family section. I have so much to say on this topic that I don't know where to start from.

Let me clarify the point of the O.P. No man in his right sense would go through the rigour of carefully selecting a woman out of the many women in this world only for him to start cheating on her in whatever form. What I said before and what the O.P corroborated is that he doesn't encourage cheating. But if it so happens that the man cheats, let it go for the sake of the marriage. Nobody has justified cheating. If the woman also makes the mistake, same rule should apply. We are talking about rare occurrences.

Respect should go to this wonderful woman. Very hot but very focused when she was younger.Can we say the same of our ladies now? Food for thought.

Is it until you collapse before you know that you will stop.

where do I start from.That guy that did all those things to you is not normal.The guy no matter how introverted he is should have spoken his mind instead of doing what he did.I am also introverted,but I detest wickedness.I would have done the same too, because the guy went too far.But please,please and please,don't generalize, because you have just painted us as bad people which is very far from the truth.

If that white stuff they poured on him is flour,then some people must be arrested. But all the same,I am happy for him,they should also get ready to do same if it is a girl.

First of all,I would like to acknowledge that not all men cheat.But that is not the point of discussion.The joy of every marriage is for it to be blissful and both parties can have peace of mind.That said,if u want this to happen as a woman(for the sake of this post) is to have it in mind that all or most men will cheat so that when it does happen you won't be surprised.But if as a woman you respond by doing the same, then the end of the marriage is almost inevitable.And if that happens who loses the most if not the woman. But if u do as the O.P suggested, in no time,he would be repentant.

I will like to add that I don't encourage cheating.

Na wa o. Nigerians no get chill. Dem go just de kill everything we dem see. I am sure the people that did this can't eat it.

it is very sad indeed.

Where do I start from. Looking at it the ladies have a strong point for not dating broke guys but in the real sense, the few guys who are already made are in their 30's who are looking for ladies that are doing well for themselves.And these guys are about10% that is if it has not dropped because of the economic conditions we are at the moment.Guys this same ladies will come running after you when they feel the need to settle down.But that is not an excuse not to work hard cos it is to your own advantage at the end of the day.

In the real sense of it, mr bruce is right but at the same time, we can't pay for what we don't enjoy. There is no value for money spent on glo and its services, same goes for anything locally created in this country. The future of our economy lies in what we are able to create by ourselves but the environment is not conducive for that. If we continue to favor foreign products and services to the detriment of our own, then this country would be worse than what we are currently facing.

There have been so many topics that discourage all the aforementioned for men,but when it is addressed to women,they take it to heart. The topic is for you to change if you are guilty of it.