Ideally you're very correct. In a typical African culture however, we place marriage at the apex of all achievements, Thereby making it a yardstick to determine true success.

It is like a football game where the team that scores the goal wins, you don't win by excellent passes or playing more professionally.

Marriage is seen to be the crown of all achievements in life. No matter how well you lived or what you achieved, if you didn't marry you're like a team that only played well without a score.

TheSonOfMark:


The author/original writer's verbiage is as simple as interactive articles go; certainly not grandiloquent or flowery. Just 'cause the average young person in contemporary times chooses to communicate with the most banal, simplistic and inarticulate sentences doesn't mean everyone should lower their literary standards. Scurry back and get sucked into your blackhole of ignorance and stop infecting folks in this 'corner' of the cyberspace with your unintelligence!

Guy, forget that thing. No be grammer make you get sense. na your type dey stigmatize average people wey no go better school. If you want to communicate only to your type, go literature or romance section na there dem dey.

But for here if you no go talk wetin person go hear then comot here.

Bros dis your grammar too much. summarize what you meant in English, then we can discuss it.

Dey people wey dey speak dis kind grammer don port comot naija because of the recession. Na we remain.

So if wan communicate, better forget grammer talk wetin person go fit read comprehend without reading it again. If not, this tread no matter how important it looks, will be unpopular.

Karspersky:
Dear Nairalanders,I really appreciate your responses to my previous question. Please may I still ask this question,we are from the Igbo tribe,and I have my late brothers wife coming very close to me,there is no decision or actions she will take without consulting me,recently she enrolled my late brothers kids into a new school near their house and use my name as their guardian,in fact she gat lots of respect for me and have me in high esteem,seeing the way I took care of my late elder brother from when he was sick and till when he gave up the ghost and also when he was buried.I am also married with kids tho not leaving close to my family because of work,but leaving very close to my late brothers wife.As for me I hold her in high respect for the way she has been mindful of her shopping business and really looking after the kids,in fact she single handedly paid the school fees of the kids.But where I am afraid is this her closeness to me that she cannot stay without asking of me for a day or two,and whenever i visit to know how they are doing she would oblige me to pass the night.please house what do I do in this case because I am afraid I don't go across boundary, please how do I contain her persistent closeness to me,so that she doesn't look elsewhere and forget her lovely kids(my brothers children).thanks

Op, be concern about your late brothers wife and their children, continue to love respect and help them. But let it end there. Be a honourable man.

If she is still young let her marry. Stand by her, advice and encourage her to take right decisions.

always do all you can to see you don't pass the night in her home, except it can't be avoided. If you do, don't give in to the thoughts of sleeping with her even if she attempts or approach you.

I know the traditional stuff of inheriting your brothers wife. But believe me op, you won't like what you'll put yourself into.

So, best you continue to play your responsible role to the best of your ability without being selfish.

nnamdibig:
The first step in solving this problem is to know what she is doing with the money you are giving her(since you buy foods, pay every other bill).
Any wife that wants to help her hubby(who earns 175kpm) should know that you guys should save at least 100k from that money but the way she is going, she is not even interested in that.
And for person say every woman adds money, there are extent you can do such not double of the amount. It's very wrong just deduction from her next allowance simple. Things are expensive now.

I do not agree with you sir. Why are you all so selfish. Why not he try been accountable with the remaining?

Here is a man who receives more than 170 in a month. Gives his wife 30K and spends let's say 50-70k if it's even up to on other house items.

What does he do with the rest? Until you learn to be accountable to your wife, she'll continue to feel insecure and suspecius of you.

You have rights to spend your money the way you like no doubt, but just explain to her how, it is her rights.

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

So sorry about that. But I'm afraid, your decision to withold her allowances will not help. It's obvious she did that because she believed you had more and she deserve more, and sincerely if you ask me I'll say 17% of your salary to your wife is mean if you're referring to your only wife.


Why not try this. Let her know exactly what you earn. Agree on what to save or invest on monthly or quarterly. Take what you can spend on yourself and give her the rest, then instruct her on what and what to do with it.

This way, she does the spending and is accountable not just to you, but to herself. You may be surprised on her she is able to manage. I bet she'll spend less before the end of the month.

For your wife to have lied to you means she believe you're not been honest to her. For me there is no difference b/w telling a lie and infidelity. it is as serious as that with me.

You might be lucky your wife has not started messing around with other men. It means you can remedy the situation and put your house back in order.

I notice in your write-up that you underestimate the power of a wife and likely fall under the category of men that regards their wives as subordinates, assistant or in a more derogative word slave.

The world has gone past that now. We see our wives as associates, contemporaries and equals. This means my wife is another me in different form. When you realise that, you treat her with equal right and respect. When that is established you'll be surprised what you can make out of your home.

17% of your salary to your wife is a betrayal to "All my worldly goods I share with you". Except maybe you didn't say that at the alter.

As for me, I give her 100% then she give me back monthly allowances. It's her job, she is the manager of the home. Ironically she also manages me. And there is where I find PEACE.

Can you display your POS types here and state their prices.

Also state of it can be configured in such a way that my account can be credited in less than an hour if not instantly after transaction.

Fff

Say no to cultism

The problem is not with the interest rate, that I can see is considerate. The problem is repayment, how can you be paying same interest along 10% of capital every month.

If for instance I take 100k for 10 months, after the first month, since 10% of the capital is returned, the percentage for next repayment should be determined based on the remaining capital not the previous.

The capital is what brings the interest, when it is reduced, it should affect the interst.

http://www.ireporteronline.com/49625_impressive-sierra-leone-pastor-finds-huge-706-carat-diamond

The news today of a sierra-Leone pastor discovering a 706-carat diamond is making wave.

The pastor even though his name wasn't mentioned, has brought great blessing not just to himself and church, but to the community in particular and the nation at large.

But let us pause a bit and ask ourselves some questions.

Was this discovery made in the bible on a pulpit as he was preaching to the congregation?

Do we have an idea what a mine looks like, and what it means for a pastor of a church to subject himself to such activity?

Most people will condemn a pastor in a mine, and maybe accuse him for leaving the church to engage in other business.

Does this discovery justifies that pastors are also given potentials and called to other areas of life that when explored will be of benefit to the Church and society?

Looking intently in the scriptures, there are diversities of gifts and areas of calling.

They may not all be spelt out vividly, but I believe God gave to people this special ability to do something different something special and peculiar.

Pastors aren't exempted from using their talents and gifts to serve in other areas of life. It should be the place of the church to make provision for such areas of calling then identify and place such pastors in them. Because what you're called to do is the only thing you'll have passion for.

It is called diversification.

Is the phone out already? Where can I order it?

Never mistake poverty mentality and ignorance for simplicity and Intergrity, never mistake remorse for repentance. Never mistake old age for wisdom. And never ever again mistake the president for presidency.

All this village youth presidents are also presidents.

Exactly my thoughts. Civil servants deserve it. In some states their salaries are slashed, some for good reasons, others are just daylight robbery.

In cross river state for instance, the govt is slashing teachers salary for computers they didn't bargain or know anything about. Worse of it is that they aren't told how much they're going to pay in total and for what product and how long it will take to get it. They just start deducting random amount in this recession.

In Ebonyi state... Umahi is trying sha, but he should be considerate to teachers too.

That was how I received a call from a private number, and the voice behind the call ask, do you know who can speak to you from London without mentioning name?

The voice was a bit cracky and I can't say who, but I'm just thinking maybe, just maybe he dialed a wrong number, he should redial. I need to hear from London too.

I'm interested. But I need to know the prices and if it can be configured in such a way that my account will be credited instantly as payment is made.

holocron:
There is a mutual attraction between the two of you. Deep within you, you want him too, and he can sense this. You are the one unconsciously encouraging him.

There is nothing the pastor or anyone can do to stop this mutual attraction. Only distance can work. If you are sincere, and don't want to cause a scandal, then change your church. If he then follows you there, or to the house, then you people can keep it descreet.

Though I wonder the kind of worship u people say you are doing in the churches these days. Must you go to church?

Chai, you're bad, too bad to be my friend.

carzola:
She was putting the
Generator on to watch
Zee-world.. Cause that's the
Only reason a man would allow
His wife on a generator when
His home.. Rip to her.

Or telemundi

Extend the offer to other States.

Boy

shukuokukobambi:


Pls pity the sex starved, homeless developer of Lagos abeg

They can deceive and delude their selves like say na generational curse dey follow them

Can you imagine the level of poverty that has finished the life of this poor igbo man in lagos? why can't he relocate to his village to any thatched house and have his fill of his wife there instead of embarrassing his lineage in a foreign land?

Oh I see, its a Yoruba landlord and the victims are Ibos. No wonder, the rage of the landlord is not because of the act committed, but because of the people involved. See how deep this cancer of ethnicity has eaten into us?

Religion is far worse. We're no longer humane. I feel like leaving this country this moment

logica:
As mental people dey everywhere, wicked people sef dey everywhere.

Better to be mental than to be this wicked.

Jailing a homeless man and wife for having sex in your uncompleted building?

God forbid. You're supposed to first pity him for being homeless considering the present state of the economy, then applaud him for holding onto his wife even in such situation so much so that he can even develop sexual passion for her inspite their terrible state.

The wickedness of that man knows no bound.

coolsegun2002:


That's a three count charge if u don't know:

1)breaking and entring: if found guilty it's 2years imprisonment

2)attempted robbery(though not armed): 6 months in jail


3)Constituting nuisance and upsetting public peace(the public Sex part): 1month in jail or fine

How can he be charged for breaking and entering and constituting public nuisance at the same time?

If it was a public sex, it means the property is uncompleted with open doors and windows. From which people could see him publicly committing the act.

If he broke and enter, then it was a secured private apartment.

And if the landlord understood his intent, yet continued the case, then he is wicked. Very wicked.

I'm not encouraging such though, but I don't see myself able to warn in such situation, not to talk of arrest.

People can be so so wicked.

logica:
Oh really? So that he can start bragging to the other homeless from that side and reinforce the belief that Lagos is a "No Mans Land" where you can just break into any property and start fvcking? How long before the rest start breaking into properties on Banana Island just to fvck?

So, he has to arrest and detain them along with their only child to set example?

Wicked people everywhere.

slam7000:


Afonja.

ChelseaDr:
The Church is becoming worldly while the world is becoming churchy....chaiii!!

You just quoted Chidi Okoroafor (injury time)

Same person involved in the crises.

What irony.

He may have won the case, but surely he has lost a brother

PrettyCrystal:
Here are pre-wedding photos of a military couple who is set to tie the knot soon. Princess Adeola Ogunsina, the soon-to-be bride is a soldier who works in Lagos while her partner is a Navy personnel who also works in Lagos. See their cute pictures below;

http://www.nationalhelm.net/2017/02/lovely-pre-wedding-photos-of-nigerian.html

All I see is war.

Just look at their faces, I pray they don't make the home another battle ground.

And the lies continues

I'm just thinking, what this innocent king would be going through were he an adult.

And to think that he has no idea what's going on is amazing. I envy you king. It least you're free from the troubles of life.

kollynxofodile:
What the heck is Census if som1 can manufacture numbers and dish it out to the populace
Just to have an advantage.

I say, instead of investing billions of Naira on CENSUS

LET'S use that money to provide a DIGITAL ID CARD for every CITIZEN OF THIS COUNTRY.

it will solve
INSECURITY

ILLEGAL IMMIGRATIONS

AGE CHEAT

AND AUTOMATICALLY ASCERTAIN OUR TRUE POPULATION.

But they won't, cause Qauta system has been there means of survival

That is why you won't get your NIMC CARD cos they won't let it

Exactly my thought. Our true population will authormatically be computed once this is done.

It will be easier and cheaper to determine our population with digital ID registration as compared to head counts where figures are often manipulated.

Besides with this every citizen can have a security number tied to his/her BVN to curb security challenges.