sisisioge:


You should be advising your sister to get a job to at least pay her own way once she clocks 18yrs. That way she could buy herself a sewing machine or support her own education. The matter is way simpler than you or your folks are taking it.

There are only teaching jobs around that she could do and she has gone to some school to check, but the offer wasn't encouraging. They are offering her 7k monthly, which means she'd have to forego her fashion design training for it. She'd be left with only Saturdays for her training. She wasn't encouraged as she would be left with little after transportation fare. She can't even feed from the money.

Industries aren't that far from us also but they make it look like heavenly race for one to get in. They took pride in molesting young girls (black and white Indonesian and Chinese men) even some married women. Demanding for sex before and after giving them job, which isn't an option obviously

dawoyo:


I would love to assist; however, I’m still confused on how. I don’t mind if there’s anyone here willing so we could think of the best ways to assist.

I’m open to ideas…

Meanwhile, please send me a DM @VoidLife7

I have sent you a mail sir

GboyegaD:


Make her understand that marrying her off isn't the solution as it wouldn't ease any burden instead, she is only shifting the burden forward. She should ask those who married off their teenage daughters and how the men eventually left them after making them mothers of many children and the poverty only continues.

I would rather suggest you think of ways to raise funds for her to get the machine and pay up her apprenticeship money believing that once she's done with the apprenticeship and she starts working on her own, she would be able to contribute to the family finances while she thinks of doing her law program either at a Federal University where the price is reasonable or at NOUN. I know a few people who went through school doing their trades during vacations.

Thank you sir for your input.

GboyegaD:
When is she finishing her tailoring business? Once she's on her own, wouldn't that lighten the burden a bit? Make your mom reason along this line while you start working out how she can get the few machines she needs to start up once she's done learning the trade.

To her, marrying her out will help lessen the burden. She hasn't completed the apprenticeship money, she doesn't own a machine yet and her madam asked us to get her one, no money to pursue her law course, she believes she can't get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service without having to know someone, as my brother had attempted to get in twice without any success. I myself had given it a shot once with my degree certificate but wasn't successful

She gave reasons to justify her decision

TheGoodAmerican:
Please do not allow this to happen. Take her away from your mom and find the means to help her further her education to study law or whatever she wants to do with her life. Or if it's to continue working as a tailor in the meantime, help her establish that business. But no-no to her getting married at 18 and definitely not to a 43-year old with 3 kids whose wife left him. The man himself is a sick pig who needs a good beating.

A small girl should end her dream and aspirations in life for a divorcee old enough to be her father. The thought of it alone irritate me seriously. That will not happen while I'm still alive.

amdman:


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faithfull18:

Keep applying, the key is never to give up, getting State/Federal jobs with a degree most times requires connection - True but junior positions, some people get without connection.

Which part of Lagos?

I will. Thanks for your advice

I live in morogbo, along Badagry expressway

Richy4:
The immigration idea is not a bad one...in my opinion.. I'm glad that at her age she got an idea of what she wanted... Don't let anyone kill the dream of that young girl...

Seriously my mother doesn't want to reason with me. She thinks giving her out for marriage will help situation of things. I understand the burden is too much and heavy for us to carry considering our income. Nonetheless, i will not support her idea of giving her out for marriage.

That's babaric

gaby:
Ooops, I just saw you registered this moniker today for this purpose.

I don't think I have the time to waste here...

The last comment before this actually helped me to go check your profile.

I've been disappointed one too many times trying to assist people here. Never again.

Good luck to you guys.

I can give you my main account if you insist. I was too ashamed using my main account to post what my family are going through. I have told you I'd give out any evidence down to my abode. I have nothing to hide to anyone who's willing to support this young girl and her brother

Jozilinn:
Please she shouldn't get her married to that man, destiny killers everywhere 😨 his children would frustrate her life, even though the man has the money she would never be the same.
From the look of things [b]she might still be a virgin,[/b]I love the consistency please you people should allow her go for what she wants she would prevail, it's just with time, even army favours females than males...let mumsy try to calm down so she can enjoy the fruit of her labour,and not make it frustrate her.
God bless nairalanders willing to help this girl, God will take control.

YES she is and one of the mortals nbebed in her was content. She's contented despite our shortcoming. This was someone who wrote her WAEC last year and she hasn't been using a mobile phone till now and she wasn't bothered about it. Her boss asked us to get her a phone, because we often call through her boss phone whenever we want to speak with her if she's at work. Her boss didn't know that we can't afford that for now

Lack of content is what is fuelling moral decedence in our society lately. They long for what their family cannot afford by all means

faithfull18:
Stand your ground, don't let it happen, she can apply to immigration with her WAEC and other places where WAEC is acceptable, while perfecting her sewing skills, then save up after a few years to go back to school.

You don't necessarily need connections for lower cadre, where's your location?

my younger brother has attempted to enlist twice with his WAEC result but wasn't successful. I myself had tried with my degree certificate but couldn't make itto the end

Btw, i reside in Lagos

gaby:


Sickening.

Just reading your submission and I kept feeling my inner man being spoken to. Your kid sister's dream needs and deserves to be kept alive.

Whatever life has thrown at her was never her bargain and shouldn't be used as an excuse to kill her lofty dreams.

To this effect, I am volunteering to take charge of that kid's educational needs so long as you are able to provide every necessary and confirm able details down to the physicals.

God bless...

I will provide everything you want for confirmation. My house address, where we've lived before relocating, the primary and secondary school she attended, where she's learning fashion designing, etcetera.

I have cried my eyes out several times, asking God why all these. I don't mind being the sacrificial lamb for my family. I want them to be happy and live a fulfilled life😭

Mindlog:
How old is she now, likewise her brother?

Stand up for your cousin, don't allow your mother to have her way.

Tertiary education can wait for now while she focuses on her apprenticeship.

She will be 18 by May

Latty88:
I don’t know how you will go about it, but please do not allow your mother marry off your sister.

She is not even marrying her off to a promising young man who can sponsor her education but to a divorcée with three children! She is too young for that.

I just feel bad already. Stand up for her to achieve her dream, you will never regret it.

What about her biological father? What role is he playing in her life?

The biological father is no more. He had an accident but couldn't survived it. She and her brother are orphan but they don't know.

Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

Malory:
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