U were attracted to him because u saw the chances of him winning and the u wan chop the guy money run, dude is smart.no money no love

kaen1317:
even before opening the thread I knew he can never be Nigerian because here our leaders steal for 10 generations down the line

Or one government will just compensate him with a juicy position and life goes on. No country like Naija.

hischoice:
Mums will almost definitely take us back no matter how far astrayed we've gone.

I can't say the same of dads. Egocentric noisemakers.

"If you don't bring me that cup from the table, I will disown you, blah blah blah"

God wanted to be everywhere, he created mothers. Jewish proverb

yuanexchanger:
Life is very unpredictable.

Very very unpredictable.

Many Mistakes we make as youth.He that thinks he stands, take heed less he fall.

Realtord43:
So sad he ended his life. you can't stand the disgrace then why involve ya self in theft

I guess you should read it again. He thinks he is being wrongly accused, he couldn't stand the accusation, thus the reason for ending his life . Dude is emotionally weak.

BarristerAlarig:



All that on top bad English.

If English isn't her mother's tongue, isn't it her official language?? Was she instructed in her mother's tongue?? Did she write exams in her mother's tongue? Was her bar exams administered in her mother's tongue?

And some of you Wonder why Universities in English countries require English language proficiency test scores from Nigerians. It's because of people like you. Imagine mailing the international office of a German university asking for a toelf/ielts waiver with such terrible written English.

Y'all should stop quoting me. I simply said the truth.

We ain't talking of English Sir, get this, your type talk people into depression, self let down and low self esteem, not every one is strong willed . there are power in words. Forget All those Toelf bulshit , those guys know what they are doing, they are extorting Africans, Nigerians in particular. We grow their economy through this silly exams .

BarristerAlarig:



Well, I expect better from graduates, especially LAW GRADUATES......

Maybe my expectations were too high.

Then again, you are the stupid one. What else can I do if not to tender a sincere apology which I have done already?

Get lost, Mr Know it all, get lost with your inconsequential apology, no one cares, learn to be soft on people as u wouldn't like people to be harsh on u. I guess u never liked me addressing u as stupid, do you know the impact of your rebuke on that poor woman, there are many ways to correct people, insulting them is out of it.And don't forget English is not her mother tongue. Have a nice day.

BarristerAlarig:
To believe OP is a lawyer is plausible. Her written English is very basic, more like what a Junior Secondary School student in one of those poorly funded public schools would write like.

And to believe she had to come here to ask such questions is annoying! Do your research people!!! Stop making it easy for scammers to scam you. If you aren't sure about something, send a mail to the embassy or visit their website..

Some people self. Lawyer my @$$

Don't be stupid, what's wrong with u, Mr Perfect, she is asking for advice, no one knows it all, once again don't be stupid. As long as she communicates and we understood her,she is good to go, abi u want her to speak like Patrick abeg... That man from Edo, I be forgotten his last name. Nawa for some people

I remember vividly mine happened when I was I think around 8yrs or below I was much young, after watching a movie 'baby day out ', i decided to try something out, where my dad parked his car, it was on top of a hill, I remember that fateful day, no one was around, I managed to enter my dads car because he didn't lock it, I matched on one of those three pedals, ( i never knew the one i was matching exactly, but now with my knowledge of driving, i think i was matching the crouch pedal, is a manual car )each time I match on it, it will roll and then I will release my leg, it will stop, I did it three times, I was loving the excitement it brings , oh the feeling that i can drive a car, I tried it the fourth time, the car started rolling, I removed my leg, hopping that it stops as usual, lo and behold it keep moving mind you, it was on a hill ( I guess it pulled out of gear and entered neutral ), gosh should I shout for help, dad will kill me if he find out what happen, and come to think of it there are other cars parked some distance away, this is a hill, should I run, I was in the car, it was rolling, I don't know the one to match, what went wrong , I just don't know , well I summoned courage, hold the steering and steer it towards a gutter,it entered there and stopped, I quickly rushed out of the car, look around no one was looking, no damages just that the front tyre of the car was in the gutter, all through out that day, I kept monitoring my dad to know if he will notice, off course he notice the car is no longer where he parked it, but he didn't know what happened, only me knew what happened, I believe he will be thinking the car rolled on its own and entered the ditch without bashing other cars, a miracle I guess, little did he know someone was experimenting what he saw in a movie,
The second scary thing that happened to me while growing up, I remember culling my self into a big car tyre, I usually do it and then come out of the tyre, until this particular attempt I made, bamm !!!, I was trapped, it was me and then my friend of same age that was there, I called him to help me out but he thought I wasn't serious, God, my neck was twisted, I was dying, this friend of mine was busy laughing, mocking me , you put your self in there, get your self out, Thank God some how his elder brother on hearing my voice he rush out from his room, stretch the tyre and then helped me out, if not for that guy, i would have been disfigured, My friend (same age ) was thinking it was another trick of mine that I will get off it as I usually do, not knowing that this time around i was trapped, who knows before he gets to understand what's happening it might be too late, So let's hear yours, what's the most scary thing that happened to you while growing up.

It is not only confidence, timing, understanding your enemy and then know when to back off was also in play here.

BillGoldberg:
Boy, I must say you are a very big foooooool! Pardon me for being brash! Let me tell you, what you did is technically and morally right! But is it rational? CAPITAL NO! You will soon come to regret your actions boy.

Good must be done always but do you rememeber that we live in a jungle? Nigeria is not a place to be good or live by good. You must grab bread at any given moment. It may sound bad but this is the harsh reality. This is a game of survival of the fittest! The goal here is to stay alive and survive. If not, you will be deleted from existence! Quote me anywhere.

I pray and wish that you serve a living God who will see through your honesty and reward and protect you! Because when you start facing the harsh realities of life viz a viz sorting of lecturers, buying of text books, payin of hostel fees and departmental dues, sug dues, school fees etc... You will wish you never resigned! The average Nigerian is a thief and will loot you at any instance you loose guard. From your Pastor, Politicians, lecturers, friends, family, Land Lord, Priest etc... All are thieves!

It would have been better you put in someone to replace you or sort your headmiss! So that you will still be on Payroll! That money is important. Its part of your national cake that you just threw away!

I only pray God protects and keeps you. Mind you that what you did is honourable and good. But its not sensible. If you don't have spiritual backing and support, you will regret this in the future.

Take care boy!

Is obvious his parents are still feeding him, he doesn't know the country he is into.

Next level things

Free n fair

The volks wagen crew ( the one like a bus) rocks

lalasticlala:
I said it here immediately I saw the earlier thread last weeks

Nawa o

Never knew u got a handle, I was thinking lalasticlala was just a code folks use for getting new topics to front page...awesome. Back to the topic...Jungle justice is evil and should be stopped.

edicied:
Ahh this one yaff know our secret

I dey tell u, the guy too much

Kingpee2:
I miss maze too..

Is he dead.

stanliwise:
wish you all the best bro. Good night

Gnit

stanliwise:
I didn't mention beating in my post and when I say men are being bad in marriage I mean men becomes unfaithful and some go to extent to do it in their wife matrimonal bed. Many of the past marriage lasted because women were afraid of being stigmatized in the society. people are used to generally thinking it was the womans fault each time a marriage do not work. In the past it was generally believe that if you last long in marriage it was because of good character and because of this women had to suppress their voice and freedom to appear to public eye that they were well behave in marriage with all manner of men with all manner of unspeakable characters.

what I see here is since you believe this, you in the future could act as you have said, no problem and maybe you know some who did it but please please dont generalise it. I am a man too just like you.
Character of a women has never been the ingredients for we men to respect women. it has been successful in holding marriage in Africa, but we men all know Greed is the major factor, not just been satisfied with the one you have. I have been with many of my friends with good wives but cheating and disrespect was just a product of their selfish fantasy and for the lucky ones who have wife with bad character, it becomes an easy plot for them.
yeah you're right in some cases as I seen women with extremely bad character not fitting for marriage at all.

I ve modified it ,Is still character bro, some men have nasty character which may be born out of heart break, disappointment, experiences in the past , or how badly they were raised ,so they do transfer of aggression to an innocent or a non innocent woman. many women are crying in their marriages , they don't want to leave the abusive marriage because of fear and stigmatization, rather they stay put fighting and enduring bull crap. i am not an advocate of divorce, all i know is life is short, marriage is made to be enjoyed, if you leave an failed marriage find out the reason why it failed, if it from you as a woman change, if it is from the man, when u meet the next man, look for those trait, if u see any trace of it run. gone are the days of arrangee marriages.

Daeylar:
Please next time, before wasting the space on my mentions, ask yourself if you really, (and I mean REALLY) have anything worthwhile to say.
What was the point of this post now?
It isn't personal as well. I just can't be on a dear level with people who think emotional abuse and manipulation is a normal and accepted part of a relationship.
That level of dysfunction is not for me.

I can't tell you to have a nice night when you were literally wishing for op to basically give someone terrible nights.

You know what.
I wish you what you wished op's girl
Bye bye
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Except you are the girl the op is referring to, is not proper crossing some one's else comment, it is freedom of speech, try and quote him and not cancel what he say, it doesn't look good, after all he is not entirely wrong, that something doesn't seem right to you doesn't stop it from being right, be free with people, abi u and the guy dey get issue.

Lack of security

stanliwise:
keep consoling yourself with a woman character and don't face the reality of life, in few decades the right of a woman would rise in the society so much that the ability to discard women in a marriage will come with a big price.
A woman indeed need to be respectful and posses a character to submit to the leadership of a man. But it will be a big mistake to think that any man wouldn't discard you because of your good character. Men globally out my small year on earth, I have come to notice they don't have a favorite mode of behavior infact some bad ones treat a good woman too badly in marriage that at some point it makes me pity the female gender. when it comes to Africa especially most men are just too power to do and undo because they are backed up by the society.
My advice to all women out their is to be strong as much as they live with the complexity of men and societal values of marriage they should expect anything from a marriage.

We are now saying same thing,it is only in awkward situations goodness is repayed with evil,but then why would a reasonable woman keep staying with a man that treat her badly. is it until he kills her , is that time it will be done on her that she is staying with a dog, I said it earlier a woman need care, and i know treating a woman badly is not in any way the way to care for her, most women that stays in abusive marriages stay either because of shame or the fear of how to Carter for herself and her kids, marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured. Am not consoling my self, am telling you the truth, I have seen a guy promise to a girl after sexing her.No rule is permanent though, but character is everything in life.talk no more of equal right of women with men to happen in future,alas it is happening now, yes it is in high gear in America and other parts of the world,I mean feminism and co, but guess what, America have the highest rate of divorce. Let me now shock you, Some of these women get divorced, marry again ,get divorced,marry again get divorced again, I guess it seem like this men want same thing.

stanliwise:
The old lies we men have used to deceive ourselves for long is the same lies you're preaching here. A typical African man wants to marry a virgin but does not want to be a virgin himself.... period.

Have you asked your self why they say, the beauty of a woman is her character, if that is her beauty will you discard a beautiful stuff, virginity is also a beauty because it takes discipline and character to be a virgin unlike a hoe ask your self why people divorce in Marriages , it all boil down to one thing, Character ...your actitude determines your altitude. I tell you, if you marry a virgin and after wards she start talking to you like you are no body, bro u will be forced to react accept u are a sissy. A man want respect, a woman want care, remove this two in a rtship, that rtship is dead and buried. Fvck virginity, I takes one night to make a virgin, a non virgin, her characters determines if she is indeed a virgin, or just a pretentious demon waiting for the time to unleash the dragons in her. Be wise bro, beauty fades,every woman is a virgin even a hoe until after the first sex, but a virtuous woman who can find?

Quinolone:
Listen brother, she is using you for the attention you give her. Right now, she holds the power in the relationship, and you can't have that now can you

What to do -

1: Don't get angry at her, its not worth it

2: Talk to other girls and have sex with them, if she gets angry, don't say anything,other than you have needs and you need to do something about them

3: If she threatens to leave or is angry or jealous, let her leave, this is a power move, and its extremely manipulative

4: When she sees that you don't care less, she would come back, this time, you have the power and can set the rules

Note: Don't rub it in her face that you are seeing other girls, it will only make you look childish

Remember a relationship is a two way thing, if you want to be intimate with her and she doesn't want that, you're free to go, and so is she, you guys simply don't fufuil each other's needs


if you want more advice, follow me

In this game, there are no permanent rules, you just flow with the moment. What works in girl A may not work with girl B, is about knowing who you dealing with. But still u are on point...play boys gets played sometimes, matters of love are matters of heart, no one is immune to the sadness or joy it brings.

adekalumichael:
Relationship is not meant for selfish interest;sex is one of such.
Why you still stick to her is because she has not given in to your pressure for sex.
Even when you talk with other girls, you still uphold her to a high esteem. Once you have sex with someone you never married to, aside that it's a sin, you won't value her anymore.

No sir, it is not after sex it is about the woman character as time move on, once a woman have sex with a man, she talks to him the way she wants with the mindset she already know him after all I be seen everything in him. , it is when she starting displaying pugnacious attitude that is when a man start losing respect for such woman, if she respects him, he will reciprocate accept he is a fool.Respect is reciprocal.

adekalumichael:
Relationship is not meant for selfish interest;sex is one of such.
Why you still stick to her is because she has not given in to your pressure for sex.
Even when you talk with other girls, you still uphold her to a high esteem. Once you have sex with someone you never married to, aside that it's a sin, you won't value her anymore.

No sir, it is not after sex it is about the woman character as time move on, once a woman have sex with a man, she talks to him the way she wants with the mindset she already know him after all I ve seen everything in him. , it is when she start displaying pugnacious attitude that is when a man start losing respect for such woman, if she respects him, he will reciprocate accept he is a fool.Respect is reciprocal.

N

Ok, money have change hands.

Welcome to next level. Who knows how many people will remain after 4 years.

Gone like that, it takes only wisdom and proper discretion to live longer in these damn country.if you come to harsh environment, Bro no ask questions, just comot, because stray bullet no dey look face, if police come, they do massive arrest that's the only way they do their investigation, I pray God give the family the fortitude to bear, because this is somebody's son, someone's brother, a patriot and a good country man .

Dumb girl, am sure she is still a teenager still living under her parents provision.