Soknown:
Catalytic converter has nothing to do with fuel efficiency but Car efficiency.
In some countries, your car will not pass MOT test without it as your car's emissions will be above scheduled limit.

you wrong to say "Car Efficueny" it is sole there to reduce toxic fumes

like you said in your last part a car will fail MOT due to failing Emissions which are regulated and monitored by 3 parts the 2 o2 sensors and the catayst converter

the o2 sensor monitors exhaust fumes how rich or lean they are and send data to ECU and ECU adjust the mixing ratio of air to fuel

Hence if you remove the catalytic converter your car will consume more fuel due to the o2 reading more carbon ratio in the fumes and the ECU will try to correct that by changing the mixing ratio

Catalytic converter, DPF and Adblue are all
to do with emissions

fadilaMaikiriki:
I didn't say anything again after that.

then his plan didnt work

2Radii:
that one is different oga.

If u have a genuine father pls appreciate him, if he's not den relegate him.


In general, what op is saying is that the effort of the father deserve great appreciation.

I used to tell people, when mother dies, the children would miss the closeness of their mum to them but life continues. But when father dies, everytin in the family crumbles, the children start suffering, the ladies among them start doing coded oloshow.

Why?? They lack the father figure which they didn't realize when he was alive but are force to realise wen he dies.

There is one lady i met, she was ill and mommy refuse to send her money for hospital bill, i told her to call hus daddy she said daddy is no more, that if not he wouldn't have bn like this. Then i ask her to go back to mum, afterall mum are the best tins after oxygen, she went mute

Not discrediting mum in anyways, but bn a father mysef, i know how it drills.

you nailed it

i also mentioned it in one of the thread, that children tend to see with thier own eyes what the mum does eg selling fruits but they dont see the working of the father raising the money for wife to have money to start fruit selling hustle, or the small monies daddy brings in

Remember the saying when a women start providing for the family the whole village will know. but when men is providing for his family there is no one to whistles about it

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!
Please, what does it mean when a man says you should not go and meet another man. That man that asks you out, you should tell him you're married. Then when you now tell the man that saying you're married when you're not will mean you're lying. So, he then goes further to say you should tell them (any man that asks you out) you're taken. I want to know what that means. What does he mean by that? As a lady here, have you gotten such talk from someone before? Please, how did you handle it? And as a man, what do you mean when you say that to a lady, or what does it mean when a man says it to a lady.

Thanks.

how old are you? the guy is indirectly saying he is your man he is asking you out indirectly

He is telling you to tell any man interested to back off for him hence he telling ( to tell them you are married or taken ) reserving you for himself

I think he excpected you ask him (who am
i married to or who has taken me ) then he was going to say "himself" that way you have done the job for him " asking you out "

SyrusdeHansome:
I bliv the reason why in some homes the children after making it in life come back to take better care of their moms than their dads is because, in most cases mothers are the biggest support systems to their children. A dad can train the child in school but will be the first to give up on the same child if he or she comes out a failure academically but most moms never give up on their children. They'll keep pushing them till they make it in life. If a child graduates with a pass or 3rd class most times it's the mothers that make sure the child acquires a skill. They'll make sure they help the child establish a business because they can't bear to see him fail whereas mosth fathers, once u graduate frm a higher instution they're done with u.

in nearly all societies mothers are primary cares spend most times

Look at most african culture and tradition fathers, rarely babysit there own children, rarely play with them children games etc

Fathers are feared as they dont tolerate stupid aka children games etc hence children tend to go to mum

Then the other side is fathers spend more time working and providing than also giving time to know there own children. Children tend to see the mum suffering in trying to make $1 out of the $0.50 but the kids dont know that the $0.50 was brought in by daddy. so kids see the picture of mum suffering on her own. ( am not taking away credit to those mums who are really providing for families while daddy has no direction)


Mothers are the ones who spin whatever daddy brings in and make it big, so kids see mum doing the magic, in front of them while daddy's effort is not seen directly, so kids can be biased towards mum but the main thing
is mothers are primary carers that alone leaves a big impact on children

Finally women tend to be more vulnerable so as children we try to protect your mums from vultures. A man can sleep openly in a street and no one will bother him and woman can not she will end up as a rape victim

budaatum:
Mums invest 9 months carrying their child in their belly and about another 2 years letting said child eat them, so I'd say a mum's investment is far greater than whatever a father invests in said child.

It's hard to invest so much and lose hope in one's investment, so many mums tend to HODL, as oppose to [some, more] fathers who might disinvest in non-performing assets.

Children do tend to pay back in the end.

what do you mean invest in 9 month, there is not investing there its natural process there is no two ways about, if you want to have a child naturally nature lets you carry it for 9 months

Looking after a child is not an investment thats what you are meant to do

Steverolly:
I'm the first son of 5 kids (2 boys, 3 girls), we have just our mum due to my dad passed earlier last year.
I'll be 21 by July but I've been shouldering my family for the past 1 year now. Honestly it's exhausting even as the money is there. Last year, my mum lost her job and thank God for the strike I focused on my job and was sending them enough money and also made sure they all lacked nothing.
My siblings way of reasoning is killing me honestly, not that they're feeling entitled to my funds just that they appreciate nothing, they behave childish and also waste a lot, seems they're really far from the reality facing us. Although my elder sis works but I still foot some of her bills, my immediate younger sis is in school and I partly sponsor her too, my lil bro doesn't just want to do anything reasonable even school, he's way brilliant and smarter than me but at 16 he just spends most of his time playing games and streaming it on his YouTube, he doesn't really ask for things maybe he's making some change there but I want him to get education with skills, at that age I've gotten admission developing my first website, the last child is super brilliant but very disrespectful, I just changed her school and I have big plans for her upon finishing secondary school.
Thing is I love my siblings so much and want them to be coordinated and successful, my mum is even tired, it's showing on her and the way she addresses certain issues in the house. When my dad was alive he provided for us very well even in sickness, although he didn't really like me because I'm too quiet, always in my space and hardly speak out but sometimes I pray he appears to me somehow so we'll discuss on these things, don't want to bother my Mother at all about these things and sadly I don't have anyone else to discuss with.
I'm away from them now in school facing my own issues with this final year stress but the thought of how my siblings can be successful is really bothering me.
I just want them to take charge, get serious and choose their part, I have always supported them and I'm willing to anytime...
How do I communicate this thing to them in a way they'll understand?

First of all you doing a great job to pick the pieces and provide for the family

You said your father passed away last year, i see that the behaviour from your siblings has been there all along but you didnt notice much becoz you were not the sole provider now your respondibility has made you see the different characters etc


Their attiitude and behaviour will change, either by you addressing the negatives you see in them but becareful they will be resistance ad they question your authority

yazga:
I've been hearing frequent tales on this issue between siblings and its been making me wonder how it all starts.
I love my siblings to pieces and I'm sure they feel the same way towards me so I can't really imagine why anyone would hate theirs so much they do neither see nor talk.
Some even turn their lives into competitions with their brothers/sisters.
A friend once narrated to me how her immediate elder sister treated her while they were staying together and how the sister stylishly threw her out of the house for no real reason asides petty issues.now that she's even married and her elder sister is not,they are sworn enemies!
Two of my aunt (sisters) and at war now-for petty reasons!
One of my friends doesnt know ANYTHING about his brother and they don't ever call each other for no reason!
Why oh why!

being siblings doesn t mean you have the same vision towards life, same are lucky, same are street wise, good education ,good
manners and behaviour good jobs opportunity etc
all those shapes person to be different in long run even if had grown up in th same house sharing the same blankets etc

Like someone already mention we drift becoz of envy from our siblings, or through how one gets treated via mum/daddy favourite son or daughter etc

Sometimes is through our wives, some wives make us better have a direction in life etc, not only wives it can be through brother in law etc

The simplest thing is to always reflect on your own mum and father siblings do they all get along and act as one ?

nairamaniac:

And the trend just gets Transfered from Generation to generation.

I really know lots of people that can't express themselves till date due to these kinds of childhood experiences.


And most of those questions they expect you to answer are actually Rheutheorical questions.

They believe that you should answer questions based on their own Tone and temperament.

Like they would yell as you with YOU THIS BOY, YOU HAVE COME AGAIN.
When you keep quiet, they get offended that you didn't respond.

What the hell am I to so?
NO MUMMY, I HAVENT COME AGAIN.

it messes up the child's confidence and emotional inteligence

Henc you find that in most african culture and tradition, emotions are thrown away, eg a daughter in law can be abused by MIL and she taught not to reply back or not voice her thoughts etc. Emotionally she will be damaged society is saying just stay cool and hubby would likely say the same. Eventually she will either snap on the kids for no reason and be a terrible MIL in the future becoz it would be her turn to be respected and not to be answered back and she would want to make sure that everyone knows that she is MIL and has power

nairamaniac:


To be honest all these behaviours mentioned here are toxic.
Just that we grow as children to see them as normal.

From birth, they program our minds to see these things as normal.


If any mother tries these things abtoad, the next door neighbour would get her reported and arrested


These things also transfers the toxicity from generation to generation.

you are actuall right most people dont see that way but a few do

For example, your mum will shout at you for not answering back a question she asked then 5 sec later she asks another question ( you keep quiet becoz few sec ago you got shouted for it) she goes haywire again for you not answering

Most people can not express themselves fully becoz we got confused when we were kids,simply becoz every expression of yourself good or bad you can be shouted for it

toxtimmy:
even a miracle cannot make you understand something so simple... forgive and move on and respect all even those that hurt you...

it can simple to you and someone who is being told what happened but hard for the actual victim

toxtimmy:
wrong... wrong ... and wrong... tomorrow na una go be the first to go church and sit in front row and speak in tongues and forget to read the first page and chapter of the bible that preaches forgiveness.

how can you be a christian that wants to go to heaven without practising forgiveness...

Let me define the word un-forgiveness for you... Un-forgiveness is like taking poison and hoping someone else dies for you taking the poison.

this is your time to shine and let the angels in heaven dance , and have a big party and celebrate your act of forgiveness.

forgiveness is not like an ON switch that you can flip to turn, its a process that either one has to go through on their own and shown through therapy or teachings by someone

forgiveness process is like falling in love, you fall in love becoz someone has told you to, at process that happens either through your desires or how someone treats you

Most people they with have to heal or accept what happened then they forgive

seanwilliam:

Same fate will befall you in your old age.

Some of you spend so much on women/people who have never contributed shishi to your life. So u want to tell me that your father never for once contributed anything to your life? Even when you were young and know nothing ? I can see your mom really poisoned your mind. Good luck .






Anyway
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i think you failed to analyse ia point

He has already learnt from
his father, so he wont do the same mistake on his own children

goodfornothing:
It's something I've come to notice in most families but don't know the cause.
I, for instance, enjoy my mom's company while my sisters, especially the last one, stay glued to my dad. What could be the attraction?

simple its For a boy -- mum is the 1st female he trust or learnt to trust

the same Girl --- daddy is the 1st male she trust or learnt to trust

Its comes natural is there is love, care and peace in the home

nurey:


If it was before that's 90s to early 2000, it would be manual transmission from stop to quater mile back then most manual always lift off than auto, manual also always have a better 0 to 62mph than auto.

But currently it would be a Tie also depending on driver, the automatic transmission may have a edge here because the computers became more effective and responsive, so if the manual driver isn't timely, he would drop back.

Above all a Bugatti at 200km/h has same speed as a micra doing 200km/h, if both were side by side, they would finish at same time.

your last statement is misleading

how many secs does ir take a buggati to reach 200kmh ? thats were the micra loses

remember he asked which is quicker manual or automatic

Mindlog:


It wouldn't lead to her death, if she takes appropriate measures, Nigerians who were born and raised in Nigeria have been living in the UK for decades and surviving the winter over the years.

she is just seeking attention, most europe countries are colder than UK they have more snow that UK

yet you no one moaning about

Then we talk of Canada or northen states of US

Chepos1:
Everyone is entitled to believe or not anything he/she hear or see.

It happens to a neighbor and not a hearsay story, I know the woman and I do see the man come visit several times.

Even one of my late uncle paid me visit in boarding house and given me money before so it's not something new.

Believe it or not, it happens.

lets not divert from
the original story

she has children with a spirit,

Mindlog:


I see some folks here on the study visa and I am like what! .....

The idea is to "enter first".

then reality kicks in

its hard to balance the two if your family is not sending you money to cover some expense

student visa restrict your working hours

Your course eats most of your time, to maintain the student visa Uni attendance should be above 80%

Things have changed than before

tensazangetsu20:


UK visa is the easiest to get at the moment. Just gain admission and pay fees and your visa is given to you. Even poorer EU countries have a much more difficult process than the UK.

You see here you choose a simpler route on paper aka being a student, then when they get here things are tough

1 limited working hours

2 no public funds

total different if one comes via normal working permit

Stippy:
A pressing issue here, anytime I come on nairaland and there is news about the war going and the uk is mentioned people will start insulting them or when some Nigerians are making plans to travel to the UK countries some naira landers always lambast the UK saying it a poor country, too much tax and it doesn't encourage Iaving.

Well, in my own opinion I think the UK is a great country the only issue here is that it a small country, I don't know why they didn't expand and claim land like Russia, US and Canada, instead of forming colonies. The UK is the 6th country with the highest Gdp and they are approximately more than 60 billionaires(bristish asian and white British) but why do most nairalander hate UK?
I have family relative(ilitrate)who went there and in 6 month time started building house in Nigeria. So how is the UK a poor country?

they dont hate it but envy it,

Its like people who dont like iphones simple becoz they cant afford it

They hate UK simply becoz UK immigration is much tough compared to the likes of US & Canada

ceeceeuwa:

Just cal her first to check on her and her family. Do not bring the past incidence up. Her countenance will determine if you will credit her or not.

thats wrong in my opion

you wont be encouraging such behaviour

its need to be confronted and stopped

Nemesis0147:
Good day fam...

I have an elder sister,our only sister to be precise.
Now the problem is that she talk to us boys anyhow and hardly apologize when she offends you,,,,she can keep malice with you for 2years even when she is at fault......because she is the eldest and the only girl.....maybe sha.

The one that happened of recent was we had an occasion last month which me and my junior brother took care of the all the expenses....she didn’t call me when I went back to my base.
Only for her to call me after 3 days with insults because someone told her something which was not true and she didn’t bother to hear from me before throwing insults at me....no respect whatsoever!!

I didn’t reply her,,,I just locked up so we haven’t spoken since then......this Xmas period,I just feel like crediting her because I have her account number but I’m still pained because she don’t give me that respect.....I’m the first son by the way and she is the first daughter.....

Should I lock up or just credit her?
Don’t tell me to call her because I won’t.....


NB:she is married and their okay so the money might not be anything to her but I just feel like showing love.

think twice

Dont send money hoping that she will
say thanks, send without expecting anything back

you are hurt already, money sending might hurt you more

Its cultural thing to force respect due to order if birth and some abuse that positiion by not respecting the younger ones

My two cents is eg whenever she shouts at you without gathering facts, just cut the phone and when she phones back asking why you cut the phone tell her she must give you time to explain yourself before shouting at you . If she says cutting her was disrespecting her, inform her that respect is a two way

damoobaba:


You ain't know nothing. If you have close relationship with people who practice traditional religion, you'll understand it. Just stay clear of things you don't know, that you've not seen a place where fire has been burning in the ground for 100years does not mean it doesn't exist.

you are missing the logical thinking

1 if she got married ir means she was introduced to the family and friends etc are those spirits too?
2 does it means that eg if he was working the company employed a ghost/spirit ?


i think you got my drift

IntelChief:
Met with this dude of mine yesterday somewhere in Portharcourt, this guy had been swimming in chronic poverty for only God knows how long.

The guy is quite hardworking, alright, but making it big is not just his thing for now, try as he may.

Dube needs quality start-up capital and other financial 'shock absorbers', but the Nigerian effect is preventing him from getting help from his paddys dem (including me)

The punchline of our conversation last night was when he told me that he has about five uncles and aunties who resides abroad in very fat countries.

"What?" I said. "Why haven't you reached out to them yet?" I exclaimed.
"Am not that dull" he said. "I've tried conversing with them infinite times on WhatsApp, but when people don't want to help you, you can tell from the manner they respond to you" he said.
"Did your pops man treat them badly when they were young?" I asked.
"I don't thing so" he said. "Pops man is a pretty nice fellow, he treated them just fine back then. Intel Chief, forget about my relates abroad, will you? They are just stingy, period".

are people supposed to make it big becoz they have relatives abroad ? alot goes into making big besides having relatives abroad that might fund you

1 you must show your own effort in having a small capital to start something or having started needing more capital to expand

2 Not everyone abroad is living well, not having papers affect your income (finding good permanent jobs) BIG TIP those who never returned to visit are most likely staying illegal and not having the best opportunity to live comfortable and having cash to spare

3 The type of relationship between the two determines how you might get help eg your uncle, brother to your mother can not take you as priority to help, he might consider that your uncles from your fathers side should help you not him.

4 these relatives also have own their priorities outside family links etc, saving for the future, building their own homes or even looking after their own parents etc

5 what if they also lost faith in helping as many people abroad have been burned by relatives, lying, creating stories to just milk people abroad

nzejulia46:
Should dis be funny at all? To me it shouldn't!!! I mean, what would have given her dat clue?

clue to what ?

I think you associate kisx with se.x

A kiss, can demostrate different things and it depends with type of people involved

On this one its parents, i assume the child has learnt that parents can kiss, ( not sexual type) but showing affection of married people nothing wrong with that in some
cultures

You can also see that child hugging the mother something she also learnt from parents, you hug when you show love, happiness etc

Wellspringbunny:
Our eldest daughter 22 years old disowned us because we didn't like the man she was dating the guy is not Nigerian which is not a problem but he has a bad reputation he is a Gold digger and gigolo he has 7 children by 6 women people from his country in our community have warned us and told us to tell our daughter to run for her life we have talked to her to no avail she left the house and disowned us. she got married yesterday Saturday without our knowledge. We didn't know that she was getting married it was my husband that saw the wedding footage on tiktok , he showed me the footage we are heartbroken we have lost sleep and appetites ,there is nothing we can do to stop her we don't have her contact nor her adress she has even stopped talking to her immediate younger sister because she advised her to quit the relationship. she went to her sister old house she heard them arguing about money he use her credit card without her consent so my youngest daughter warned and told her to send him packing she agreed only for her to blocked her till date, she has changed house . We hope that she will not end up like his other baby mamas, I need advice from other parents in the house what advice would you give my husband and I? Please note we are not in Nigeria we lives abroad

you claim to be disowned then you moan about her getting married without your knowledge what did you expect when she had disowned you

For now watch from a distance, if this is going to be a lesson for her let it be, while you watch she will come back on her own

mutter:
First of all.. I am really sorry about you loss and the whole pain.

But do you actually realize that the real harm came from your brother!.
You ought to disown him if at all you want to disown anyone.
Your mother on receiving the news has two blows... One loosing her grandchild and two knowing the pain her son was in.
People can say allot of things in pain and shock!
I habe actually heard people say thebwishbitbwas their father that died when their mother died.
That was really very wrong of your brother.
I wonder how sorry he felt for you and how pained he was at your loss that he had the mind to tape that conversation and then go back to you to play it to you.
Was it right to confront you with that added pain?
It's obvious that your brother has no love lost for your mother!
It was very wrong of him.
When you confronted your mother on the phone what did you expect?
An apology? You know that parents aren't used to apologising and secondly her apology at that stage wouldn't have meant anything to you.
It was the will of God to take your child back home. The ways of God are not known to man.
In your pain it seems better to feel anger than hurt. I guess anger makes us feel the pain less.
But if your wife is aware of what happened she will only be hurting the more.
Please give yourself and your wife the time to heal and don't project your anger on a mother who lives you but said something stupid.
That your mother does not like your wife could have reasons..
Now you knew this all along but you omitted to correct that issue.
It is often the case that mothers are extremely jealous of loosing their sons to another woman.
May God give you the strength and wisdom to solve this issue

you raised one side of the effects, also think of how the brother felt when he heard the mothers remarks on his brother's wife?

What if the brother felt that may next would be his own wife or even got shocked about bad words towards without remorse. Think of how much he much love he had for his mum and how much respect he had for her and its lost

Lets mot try to protect bad character by attacking the messenger. Is the brother going to trust his mother with even his wife ?

Common problem among africans we protect bad characters in older people and the people they abuse end up being like them. Simply becoz no one put a stop the older abusing the younger ones

sajmark:

YOU'RE JUST A SIMP, NO WOMAN WILL EVER LOVE YOU LIKE YOUR MOM DOES.

i think you fail to realise the bigger picture

life has stages, mom take care of you till you atleast 18, thats stage 1, stage 2 she loves you as son and she can not provide some of the needs and wants eg companionship from female who not your mother, se.x, adventures etc stage 3 marriage and kids, wife will cook, wash l. se.x plan the future of the kids, invest for the future, retirement etc ( this is your future and next generation planning, mother doesnt much play a role in this its usually u and wife .

in normal circumstances our wives/husbands take care of us/each other than our parents mum/daddy. You dont expect a 35 yr o old being bathed by his own mum/ daddy (yes it happens in circumstances with are not our day to day living)

These two women play individual roles in our lifes and one needs to know were each starts and ends

Eg why is that some guys marry to have a wife who can also look after his own parents ? its means wife has to love and care for 3 people hubby and his parents

We shouldnt down play the role of a wive and the love and care she gives to hubby

The same love you claim for your mom is the same love claim your own kids have on their own mother but with a twist, mostly not liking you becoz you would have choose your mother over their mother

sajmark:

don't do drugs... I wasn't referring to wayward girls when I said mother.

why are you only focused on the wayward girls only ?

in mothers you find waywards ones same in fathers

The problem here you think thats their is a special reason for mother to be like that but the truth is we are humans we are bound to be like that in our own individual capacity. If one mother is like that just accept it for who she is than trying to find reason to justify the behaviour

Blessedmercy8:
Someone raised this question in church last week being a family weekend in my denomination.
She asked if it's right for christian couple to do other sex styles apart from the "mummy and daddy " style and there were mixed reactions from the youth and some of our old school parents.

One elderly woman said, there's only one way to the door while some young mothers said if both parties agree then it's fine but I ( representing the youth) was of the opinion that it's a sin. This didn't go down well with some of our middle aged mommies until I backed it up with some points..

One of the mommies was like, since they are now married, they own their bodies and can do whatever they like with it but I countered her by asking if such styles glorify God.

I went on to ask where such styles were copied from... Pornography. This dirty styles were not in existence before now and was not practised by our forefathers; even if it was, it was probably during Sodom and Gomorrah and we all know God's take on their actions. Now bringing to our own time, these styles became popular when pornography took over the internet and most couples practicing it learnt it from pornographic contents ( which is a sin) probably during their worldly days and are now gradually bringing such practice into the church and trying to paint it nice by saying their bodies belong to each other therefore they can do anything.

Pornography where these styles emanated from is a sin and this makes the practice of such styles a sin as it doesn't give glory to God but the devil. As christians, I believe everything should be done in moderation and to the glory of God.

Remember, your body is the temple of the holy spirit. So, do not use worldly practices and fetishes to defile your bodies.

What you guys think?

Nlfpmod.

no verse in thr bible talks of which position is accepted by god. if there was sinful position then sex would be sinful in two ways 1 outside marriage and 2 the position it was done

Unfortunately the bible never said anything about a glorifying sex position or sinful position

Edenbello:
I earlier created a thread where I wrote about the rent issue I am facing at the moment.

I'm sponsoring myself in school and also responsible for my upkeep and other things in life including house rent.

As I am unable to meet up with my rent while my landlord will not let me rest, for the last option, I had to travel to see my uncle concerning the rent. Why I had to travel was because I wanted him to see how serious the matter is, rather than phone call.

You won't believe what happened.

My uncle's new wife embarrassed me and chased me out of the house.

My uncle wasn't like this until he married this woman. He used to be kind to us until he married this woman. My father is late, so he's been like the father to us.

I went to him to help me with 30k as part of the rent only for the woman to put in a fight I didnt understand and as if I was the one who stopped her from getting married at her younger age.

She used all sort of derogatory words on me. Telling me I should never come to the house to ask for any favour again. This is a woman that my uncle married just for companion sake. She's in her 50s.

Apart from the support for my house rent, my mother just had operation in which he was supposed to help financially too but still this woman didnt allow the man to do anything.

Even the can soft drink i was offered which I didnt even open, she carried it away. It was like a film honestly.

Imagine my uncle watching over all she was doing and he couldnt even tell her to stop. I think he's under a spell. That woman must have hypnotised him.

Finally, I left the house in shame without getting any assistance, not for my sick mum nor for the rent. Not even transport fare back home. I had to maneuver my way back.

Worst is that she's the one managing his calls now. Once you call and she picks the call, she will ask you what is the matter. If you cannot tell her what you want to tell him, you should forget about it. Can you imagine that?

I feel frustrated. I don't know how it's going to happen but i trust God to come through for me even though I may be locked out of my apartment any moment by the landlord.

I am currently in my 300 level and I believe God will see me through till graduation. I'm still applying for a new job as I believe I'll get one soon.

who is meant to control him ? you ?

The two people in marriage control each for some the control works for both extended families and for some it doesnt hence you find people not getting along or not liking relatives

TastyFriedPussy:
I've come to notice that Igbo parents especially, especially more emphasis on the especially, the mother's (not excluding the father's) love to boast alot about the accomplishments of their children alot. Anytime I see Igbos gather together talking, I can't help but notice that majority of their conversations is mostly about each other's child. You'll begin to hear things like

Parent A: my son sef would be graduating from medical school next year. Parent B what about that your son.

PARENT B: Ohh, he's still in 300L he'll be entering 400L next Month.

PARENT C: ohh that's nice. Which school is that sef.

PARENT B: Mazamaza University

PARENT C: ohh wow,that's nice ohh, your son in now a big boy ohhh.....

And so on....

Where I used to work before I quited last month, the woman I used to work for was always bragging alot about her daughters. Both to customer wey ask am, and customer wey no ask am. Sometimes she'll bring her phone to show me pictures of her daughters, yelling me "this one is my first daughter,she'll be finishing NYSC next month, if you see her ehh,you'll think she's 30,she's just 21 ohh".... " this one is my second daughter, she's in 300l,this one if she stands here, her head will be touching here"

Although I'm not hating on anyone, even me sef I'm an Igbo boy but I don't just understand why my people are like that. Everything is like competition for them.

its a matter of trying to feel important and recognised through what their children are doing or who they are

those type of women are you usually housewife nothing personal to brag about besides two things my husband is so & so and my kids are like this and that

Most are known for bragging and gossip, usually they know the inside out of other people