Cockanfanta:
You love her so much yet you're thinking of divorcing her just because of phone calls?

ok sir.

aro1:
bro..You need only one virtue now to address this issue PATIENCE..
I wish you best of luck!

Thank you.

Please I need your candid advice on this.

I'm a 35yrs old man, got legally married to a lady when I was 25yrs while she was 23yrs. We did a court marriage, started living together as husband and wife. I met her in Jos when I went for special mission as a Military personnel, she was an undergraduate at the time. We started dating, and become very close after couple of months I proposed to marry her and she agreed.


We got married, started a family, but due to the nature of my work most times am away on Military assignments. We started from zero together, It wasn't up to 3 months that I joined the military that I met her, so we begin to build everything together, from sleeping on a hostel size mattress, to building our own house, buying cars and planning future business investment.

But there is something that troubles me so much about my wife, aside the fact that she is not business inclined, am not trying to be unfair to her, over the period of 10 years, I have worked myself to provide all the funds for everything we do, I made my wife a signatory to the main account, i put everything in her custody. Aside the military job, am a very good programmer an online content promoter, I make 500% more than my military salary from this side hustles, and I give my wife 100% unrestricted access to everything.

There was a time I was on Operation in Maiduguri, I had earned above N10million from Google AdSense and some other Advertising Network, we planned to start building a factory somewhere in South West, I asked her to relocate from the North West where we lived as at the time, but she said she doesn't wanna be far from me. I hired a site manager that supervise the project, you all what that means, they cheated me alot. I called her to invest some of the cash on any business that can be bringing returns and replenishing the account, instead of just making withdrawals and withdrawals and sending cash to site manager continuously, but she told me that I know that she is not business inclined, she doesn't have idea of the business to do.

Am not trying to paint her bad, I love her, and accommodate everything, she was the first girl I had after I got a job, the other relationship I had in the past were mere child's play as far as am concern, just campus relationship. I don't even like girls because I don't have money to finance relationship, am cute, they like me, but I run away, because man don't have money. Aside that, I don't have flair for womanising, am one lady's man. I used those school days isolation period to date my computer and learnt programming from YouTube which today become my major source of livelihood.

Now the problem, since I met my wife, she is an extrovert, she easily integrate with people, very jovial, and it annoys me some times, because am a very conservative person. The major issue is that she flirt too much on social media, we closing to 10 years of marriage, but she hasn't stopped flirting with men on social media, even after 4 kids, she claim she doesn't have anything to do with them sexually or dating wise, that she just talk with them.

Am sick of this, sometimes she receives calls from different guys, I just voluntarily retired from the military to face my business interests, and spend more time on my other skills, after 3 years that she had relocated to my geopolitical zone in the South West, though I have not caught her with any man, but every time I come home, we must quarrel because of what she call her former classmate, course mate and bla bla bla, receiving calls at very odd hours.

Worse of it, she is very jealous of me, she make love to me anytime i asked for it, she is good in bed just like I am, we both cougars in that aspect... I have talked to her severally, how does she want me to trust her, when I leave her behind as a soldier and come back home only for her to receive calls from different guys who she claim they are just friends. I know she is beautiful, and many guys makes advances to her on social media, but she reserves the right to respond to their messages or not....

Am beginning to think of getting a divorce, it is making me miserable. I love my kids, I don't want them to suffer, I don't want them to experience broken home.

What should I do now.... PLEASE ADVICE!