NL, I publish here an observation:

A man sees a lady who he likes, the lady sees the same guy who he may/may not (or neutral) like. Under "normal" circumstances and assuming that this is a "normal" guy, he knows if he is interested and if yes, will approach the woman (assuming a "normal" one, not crazy!). Knowing how a typical woman reacts, they guy can expect an initial "no". Say after a period of time (weeks to a couple of months) of talking, she finally comes around and says yes! Man is happy, woman is happy - (1)

Man will most likely set the tone of the relationship and will seek to "prove" his love to this woman for a period of time (a few months to many months) depending on the individuals and how things proceed (2).

After this stage, they are both settled and it becomes more of a 50-50 thing (3).

If your relationship will move forward to marriage, it becomes the woman's job to prove to the man that she is all he needs and will want no other person in this world. What they guy "invested" at the beginning (not talking about money or material things) will now have to be multiplied and placed back in the relationship (4)

A normal man, who made the move initially, cannot resist asking this woman to marry her on his knees (5).

If your man never goes down on his knees to ask or doesn't ask with a lot of respect, you know what you are worth to him. (6)

After marriage and of course this man will spend anything to make this kind of woman happy, believe it or not, it is now the woman's job to make this home a heaven on earth. Look, don't ask me how but the SEX, cooking, taking care of the house, wifely duties and LOVING him truly must never be in short supply. The man of course will do his own part and I do not mean he does nothing or does not contribute significantly to the home. He must still be very responsible financially and emotionally, etc to the wife but it is the woman that must communicate to him by her actions that he needs nothing from any girl outside his home. (7)

Fast forward 5 years or 10 years and the guy is maybe around 40 or 50, he now takes over! It will not matter what opinion anyone has about his wife again. He will NEVER leave her or look at another woman. Every secret or thought that crosses his mind in daylight or dreams will be discussed with her. (

Women, this is how to have a practically sweet marriage, not all the Hollywood stories you have loaded your system with. I invite you to ask older people (parents, uncles, aunts, etc) for their opinion. These were the ideas that shaped the very sweet marriage that produced you. A word is enough for the wise but I have written more than one word so now, the ball is in your court! Now, ignorance is no longer an excuse. (9)

Go now and have a blissful, permanent-term happy relationship / marriage.

if only life was that simple n boring----there r no fast track rules to having a sucessful rel----

rel dont start, flow or end in the same way even for twins married to twins

Viva, you are right but remember there are corollaries to almost any rule, so yes! However, I cannot state all the corollaries as I don type tire o. Hopefully, some other people can further qualify some of my points with corollaries but this thing I put-up there really works.

Try it and a trial will convince you and not confuse you!

all right mate---if u say so

but i can tell u some people meet and just hit it off straight away---no need for toasting and all those wahala----man moves in with gal or gal moves in with man---somehow kids enter the pic or not-----my point is there r no one size fits all----wat one person considers to be a good wife or husband could just be boredoom for another, in capital letters

^^ In fact, it's good to do this one you mentioned too!

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