Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

Some people like me has phobia for wearing used clothes especially from someone you know. I don't give out what I wear to another person. Disease plenty

Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

Worry not, plenty people dey like that, don't know wether na pride or just plain jealousy.

Don't let that stop u from helping others in need.

Anybody that displays this kind of attitude to me, I just assume he/she is secretly wealthier than me & that's the last time he/she would get anything from me

How are they sure that you don't want to use him for ritual? The world evil now. Being poor no mean say Dem no get sense.

Next time you want to help person give cash or do transfer.

Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

His attitude initially did not show he was ungrateful. Even that of his mother too. Perhaps they felt you wanted to use it as an instrument of witchcraft of ritual. I won't blame them because of the level of wickedness in Nigeria today, for all they know, your intentions may not be genuine. I would have suggested you gave him money, or took him to a boutique and pay for his choices. I am not saying you did wrong bro, but just being objective as per naija matter.

The one that happened to me was also in church. I was young then, and there is this older man who was my 'friend'. He was a taxi driver and seemed to be passing through hard times then as he didn't even have a car to drive at that moment. So one sunday, I saw him with a blue trouser torn at the upper nyash side. I was trying to be polite so I went to him and told him somebody wanted to make him a new trouser and that he should meet a tailor (a young guy I was trying to support) to take his measurement.

The man squeezed his face and told me straight up that no he doesn't want. Na so I respect myself.
What you said is true, but some have their reasons. Some are due to what they have seen or where they have been in life. Some still in their past and feel receiving certain help belittles them.

nifemi25:
Definitely this is not help.... Something you did while expecting thanks is not an help... Either he wore the cloth or not shouldn't be your problem.... You have done your best for him and why not wait for God to reward you.... You never can tell the guy might cherish the cloth to the extent of keeping it as one of his best cloth that need to be wear while going to an important occasion...simply because you haven't seen the guy put on the cloth doesn't means he didn't appreciate...

I think it's even more dangerous taking or accepting help and gifts from people like the OP. Imagine the mentality and his way of reasoning. That he decided to even create a thread for it is what annoys me most.

Elsueno:


Worry not, plenty people dey like that, don't know wether na pride or just plain jealousy.

Don't let that stop u from helping others in need.

Anybody that displays this kind of attitude to me, I just assume he/she is secretly wealthier than me & that's the last time he/she would get anything from me

They didn't display any attitude to him. He concluded from his own assumptions . Because he has never seen the guy wear the clothes . Ask him if the recipient is someone he sees everyday to know whether he wears the clothes or not.
And secondly why is he concerned about him wearing the clothes for him to see. People should not accept help or favour from his type.

Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

Don't be upset about it because that could be his best cloth and may be worn during festive period or when he travels to the village. May be he may not feel comfortable when wearing it for you to see, couple with the fact that, the neighborhood could easily identify it that it is yours.

I'm not surpised about OP's complaints

Such a thing happens when you help people that are deep rooted in superstitious beliefs

drsibz66:


I think it's even more dangerous taking or accepting help and gifts from people like the OP. Imagine the mentality and his way of reasoning. That he decided to even create a thread for it is what annoys me most.

If this kind of poster help you, definitely the whole world is going to be aware of it ....

Except you're SUPERMAN, stop trying to save everyone.

One reason some poor remain & will remain poor is pride!

Jashub:
So you stopped doing good just because of one person's actions....? Your way no pure I swear

Nothing in his post said he stopped doing good. He only made an observation, read to comprehend please not to just reply.

Nazgul:

1 pair of stock jean is currently 20k at Mandilas in Lagos, long sleeve shirts is about 15k, shoes starts from 35k and above.

Imagine giving someone all that and he disposes it in the trash and you're here saying his way no pure.

Do you know what it takes to give out clothes that are still very useful to you in this Tinubu's era and the gift isn't appreciated?

Some of you just condemn people recklessly without putting yourselves in their position.

Your reason is still not reasonable. The main thing is that he has done his good part by helping the boy which he will get his reward back from God.
If the mother of the boy didn't appreciate what he did for the son he should just ignore her and focus on his business.

The bible said do not weary in well doing.

Testiebobo:
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites.
We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church.

So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha.

But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude?

Happy new month!

You've done your good part by helping the son, if they didn't appreciate ignore them and keep doing what you doing. God will surely bless you.

Don't give Nigerians used things, I personally don't wear such. Buy new and give ot to them

luluman:
Nothing in his post said he stopped doing good. He only made an observation, read to comprehend please not to just reply.

...you be mumu. Swerve jare

Dragunz:


Some of you are so daft, did he tell you he stopped doing good? Where all these kids come from sef

Read his post idìot....

Nazgul:

1 pair of stock jean is currently 20k at Mandilas in Lagos, long sleeve shirts is about 15k, shoes starts from 35k and above.

Imagine giving someone all that and he disposes it in the trash and you're here saying his way no pure.

Do you know what it takes to give out clothes that are still very useful to you in this Tinubu's era and the gift isn't appreciated?

Some of you just condemn people recklessly without putting yourselves in their position.

You're not making an iota sense . So just because one person doesn't appreciate a kind gesture means that all person(poor and struggling ) are the on the same level of ingratitude...abi?

You have given him the clothes don't monitor how he is using them so that it will not appear as if you have other motives.

God is the ultimate rewarder of good deeds

I can relate to ur feelings too… reminds of one time i gave out two dresses to my neighbor daughter… new ones with the labels in tact
I dont know how i managed to see the dresses packed up with the some old clothes she wanted to burn
I regretted everything dat very day
I say na me Bleep up sha as i no get younger sister

MrCork, Long time no see, It been a while, I guess this is the same MrCork of 2013, 14 era .


Testicle....you sayin u will stop helpin yor neibor becuzz she wear yor trouser twice...corrrrrect?..bro are u ok sir!!!((((no oofencsece))) [/quote]

Jashub:
...you be mumu. Swerve jare

Only mumus are quick to reply posts without comprehending first.

caspapa:
MrCork, Long time no see, It been a while, I guess this is the same MrCork of 2013, 14 era .


Testicle....you sayin u will stop helpin yor neibor becuzz she wear yor trouser twice...corrrrrect?..bro are u ok sir!!!((((no oofencsece)))

You are a fool sir! Using two accounts at a time SODIQ