We know this is a woke generation that's quick to challenge wise counsel that encourages proper conduct - and the average young person today just wants to be allowed to do what they want unrestricted. But, come to think of it, with all our wokeness, where have we been heading? In the area of marriage, for instance, a lot of folks have replaced ancient principles that guarantee success in marriage, with woke liberty to do whatever they want. The result? Emotional trauma, high divorce, suicide, etc.

Hence, you should pay serious attention to ancient and proven wisdom that will guarantee success as far as the ancient institution known as marriage is concerned (hey, marriage is way older than you, you shouldn't approach it just as driven by your feelings or what you think).

Having said all this, let's go into the subject at hand.

When Your Dating Partner Is Disturbing You For Marriage

In a previous post, I summarised the protocol to be observed from the point of dating someone to the point of being wedded (you can read it here https://www.nairaland.com/8075548/what-girlfriend-disturbing-sex)

Now, let's say you were ignorant of the knowledge of when and how and who to start a relationship with, and you are currently with someone, and the person has been disturbing you for marriage, you should first check them out keenly before you decide if you should agree to marry them or go your separate ways (yes, if you can't marry someone, you have no business wasting your time dating in the first place).

Here are basic things to look out for from the person you want to marry:

1. Must Be Genuinely Saved

A person who is not saved will struggle to be a good person and to do you good perpetually. The person might think and make you feel they love you and won't do anything to hurt you, but if they don't have a good relationship with God (who is Love), how can they know how to love? True love can only be imparted upon a person by God, and folks who don't have a good relationship with the LORD can't know how to define and give true love (so they keep mixing up lust for love).

The way to salvation is to have faith in Christ Jesus, embrace Him as Lord and Savior, and repent from anything sinful. Through faith in Jesus Christ, a person is injected with eternal life (the life of God) and becomes a living and new creature.

2. Must Be Submitted To the Holy Spirit

After embracing Jesus as Lord and Savior, we get started off on the cadre of babyhood in the faith. A baby does what he or she wants without shame, and we ignore their babyish acts because we know they are not yet mature. However, a baby Christian is expected to grow into maturity after some time and should grow from childhood to sonship.

And the way you identify a mature believer is through their submission to the government of the Holy Spirit.

"For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God." Romans 8:14‬‬

In other words, such a mature believer only do the things God wants them to do, and not what they feel like doing. You can rest assured that such a person won't intentionally set out to do what will hurt you in marriage.

3. Fulfilling destiny already

First, the person should have started fulfilling their personal unique life purpose. Our life purpose (what we are meant to do on earth) are tool for our eternal destiny. They are pathways that contribute to us becoming all that the Lord has destined us to be in all of eternity.

Before a person should get occupied with the busyness of marriage, they should have first discovered themselves in their singlehood. They should have first discovered their life purpose (the paths God would have you thread on earth) and should have started going that path - already experiencing the fulfillment of doing what God would have you do even while still single.

Such should have discovered their talents and spiritual gifts (as well as other necessary skills they can learn) that can be utilized to become all the Lord has destined them to be in eternity.

Finally, if your dating partner is a female, she must have already embraced the destiny of a wife -i.e she already knew the conduct of a good wife and is already displaying it around her even before being married (I explained this better in my book "Getting A Correct Lady To Say Yes To Your Marriage Proposal).

If your dating partner is a male, he must have already embraced the destiny of husbandhood - which primarily revolves around acting and exhibiting leadership that can guarantee the woman protection and security, even before he becomes married (I also explained this better in the book "Getting A Correct Guy To Propose Marriage To You".

Follow godly principles in all things, you won't experience many of the heartaches and headaches the average young person is experiencing in this generation.

I'm still giving free copies of the book "Getting A Correct Lady To Say Yes To Your Marriage Proposal" to interested nairalanders... Follow this thread to get yours (either you are a male or female)>> https://www.nairaland.com/8075271/free-copies-getting-correct-lady

If you are a woman, I'm also still giving free copies of the book " "Getting A Correct Guy To Propose Marriage To You" to interested nairalanders... Follow this thread to get yours (either you are a male or female)>> https://www.nairaland.com/8075264/free-copies-getting-correct-guy

lalasticlala Nlfpmod

How does the wedding Jesus attended in Cana satisfy all these conditions?

Na only good wine Jesus gave them!

There are no hard and fast rules to life.

That spirit filled brother or sister may backslide and before getting back to faith, make their partners miserable.

One of the best ways to go about the uncertainties of life is “Never over expect”. Just drop your expectations, a step or two down.

Always hope for the best, while expecting the worst.
In all remain grateful…

Happy Sunday to those who could not go church today.


I prayed next Sunday you make to church so will see who to marry too

Then pray to God for direction or wisdom to handle the matter

Book her flight

😁😁

Some marriage no b achievement....👰🤵


Be patient and be wise...🙂🙂

We have to know that no marriage is perfect but by the help of God it will stand

A

Sometimes eeh, I dey confuse because I no know why I go dey date person but I go still get to think if I should spend the rest of my life with him/her. No be juju be that?
So what's the essence of been in that relationship if I go still dey think say "should I marry him/her if dem propose"?
But here again, this na Nigeria wey some gender dey see relationship as a job and a passport to leave abject poverty while others dey see relationship as a medium of having free sex and explore.
Abeg jare, what do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news


Oga instead of you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooo because boreholes aka non-virgins can't be trusted.

Evening newspapers leaves thread

Ko

Na simple thing....who hol money make he pay for the wedding wey he/she want asap.
Funny enough its always the partner on the broke side that'll always be gingering to seal the deal.

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A

Interesting15:
3. Fulfilling destiny already

First, the person should have started fulfilling their personal unique life purpose. Our life purpose (what we are meant to do on earth) are tool for our eternal destiny. They are pathways that contribute to us becoming all that the Lord has destined us to be in all of eternity.

Before a person should get occupied with the busyness of marriage, they should have first discovered themselves in their singlehood. They should have first discovered their life purpose (the paths God would have you thread on earth) and should have started going that path - already experiencing the fulfillment of doing what God would have you do even while still single.

Such should have discovered their talents and spiritual gifts (as well as other necessary skills they can learn) that can be utilized to become all the Lord has destined them to be in eternity.

Finally, if your dating partner is a female, she must have already embraced the destiny of a wife -i.e she already knew the conduct of a good wife and is already displaying it around her even before being married (I explained this better in my book "Getting A Correct Lady To Say Yes To Your Marriage Proposal).

If your dating partner is a male, he must have already embraced the destiny of husbandhood - which primarily revolves around acting and exhibiting leadership that can guarantee the woman protection and security, even before he becomes married (I also explained this better in the book "Getting A Correct Guy To Propose Marriage To You".

Follow godly principles in all things, you won't experience many of the heartaches and headaches the average young person is experiencing in this generation.

So we that are not genuinely saved are condemned even in marriage. Yet Pastor Chris is a divorcee.

Just watch your back,a woman too desperate to marry can be sometime hiding something or dangerous to your well being

If you rush in, you will be rushed or dragged out.
Marriage should no be a parlour party.

When I was under pressure to marry, I almost made a terrible mistake of marrying someone. Thanks to my Godmother, who stood her ground and vowed the marriage will not happen.

It's not something out of place because one partner always ready beforetheother, but you should not rush the process no matter how

LadyRosa:


If you rush in, you will be rushed or dragged out.
Marriage should no be a parlour party.

When I was under pressure to marry, I almost made a terrible mistake of marrying someone. Thanks to my Godmother, who stood her ground and vowed the marriage will not happen.

thanks to your godmother you are still single and seriously searching

Ok like https://www.nairaland.com/8068251/which-gospel-material-pastors-message

kennyz247:
Just watch your back,a woman too desperate to marry can be sometime hiding something or dangerous to your well being

So true in most cases.

Bb

theredaddy:



thanks to your godmother you are still single and seriously searching

Unfortunately for you, I'm currently nursing a third.
You better start praying for your unfortunate sisters with white hairs already growing an amazon forest on their puzzies, yet unmarried, and without even a goat to leave behind when they die of depression.

Even most of your so called church brothers and sisters are pretenders, sheep in wolves clothing. I would rather marry a casual Christian than marry to all these holy holly sisters

Anything forced will be divorced...