Clevagal:

Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?

Clevagal:
I had an issue with my boyfriend (maybe ex now) and I want to get advice please
1. He asked me to come around and after 3 days of staying together (he was always going out and coming back). He left me in his house one particular day, didn’t call to tell me he wasn’t coming back and didn’t bother to call till the following evening when I called to let him know I was leaving. We had an argument (I didn’t mention my annoyance was him not calling to know if I’m okay…he thought I was angry because he didn’t come home) because time had already gone. He lodged me in a hotel..saw me off to the particular room and left. This is someone I’ve been there for through thick and thin. He recently lost his sister so I don’t know what is really going on in his mind.

2. The last time we had an issue. It took him 2 weeks to reach out. He apologized..begged that he wants to make things right. Messaged me on all SM platforms before i finally replied and we reconciled.

3. It’s 1 week now and I don’t know if I should reach out and tell him why I was angry or just move on because I don’t know how someone that claims to love me can stay 1 week without reaching out. He just deleted my contact today like he always does when we quarrel (I can’t see his WhatsApp dp)

4. This is someone that brought up marriage..professed his love for me and how he can’t do anything without me. He adds me to his plans. Knows when I’m troubled. Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?

immortalcrown:
And your name na clevagirl?

Anyways, let me respond to your complaint:

1.
The hotel part is not clear. Was it when you wanted to leave that he lodged you in hotel? Or, do you mean the 3 days you spent was in a hotel? If the lodging happened when you wanted to leave, why?

2.
Your anger was that he left for more than 24 hours and didn't call to check on you. Calling him now and claiming you were not angry is pretence. Don't endure in a date what you cannot endure in marriage.

3.
Before you expressed your anger over the phone when you called him, did you first make an attempt to know what kept him outside?

mmadu5:
Fake story it has been reposted many times before

Clevagal:


1. He left me in his house and came back when I told him I wanted to leave. He lodged me in the hotel because it was already late and he wasn’t going to be home again that day.

2. He thought I was angry because he left me alone in the house but my annoyance was him leaving me alone without calling. I was very okay being alone in the house.

3. No

immortalcrown:
And your name na clevagirl? This story is probably fake because it contradicts itself. Some sentences in the post say he doesn't treat you well. The rest of the post says he does things that show he loves you.

Anyways, let me respond to your complaint:

1.
The hotel part is not clear. Was it when you wanted to leave that he lodged you in hotel? Or, do you mean the 3 days you spent was in a hotel? If the lodging happened when you wanted to leave, why?

2.
Your anger was that he left for more than 24 hours and didn't call to check on you. Calling him now and claiming you were not angry is pretence. Don't endure in a date what you cannot endure in marriage.

3.
Before you expressed your anger over the phone when you called him, did you first make an attempt to know what kept him outside?

Clevagal:
I had an issue with my boyfriend (maybe ex now) and I want to get advice please
1. He asked me to come around and after 3 days of staying together (he was always going out and coming back). He left me in his house one particular day, didn’t call to tell me he wasn’t coming back and didn’t bother to call till the following evening when I called to let him know I was leaving. We had an argument (I didn’t mention my annoyance was him not calling to know if I’m okay…he thought I was angry because he didn’t come home) because time had already gone. He lodged me in a hotel..saw me off to the particular room and left. This is someone I’ve been there for through thick and thin. He recently lost his sister so I don’t know what is really going on in his mind.

2. The last time we had an issue. It took him 2 weeks to reach out. He apologized..begged that he wants to make things right. Messaged me on all SM platforms before i finally replied and we reconciled.

3. It’s 1 week now and I don’t know if I should reach out and tell him why I was angry or just move on because I don’t know how someone that claims to love me can stay 1 week without reaching out. He just deleted my contact today like he always does when we quarrel (I can’t see his WhatsApp dp)

4. This is someone that brought up marriage..professed his love for me and how he can’t do anything without me. He adds me to his plans. Knows when I’m troubled. Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?

wizrose:
who knows maybe he's botherd as you are now maybe... but you too as the lady don't let your pride turn things bad just let him no the reason that he fu~k up for not checking on you.

BigYash:
Your last sentence.. Why can’t you reach out to him,since you claimed to love him also? Two wrongs can’t make right.. Call him and let him know why you got angry and if he still choose to act funny ,then move on.. But seems there is someone else in the picture already,and you saying you want to move on so early means,you have someone waiting too..

See madam,them say bag of garri for jos now don Enter 72k ,so make una just sort una selves o.. na that garri matter I dey here dey think since.. Blike say u no know wetin be garri...

Clevagal:
I had an issue with my boyfriend (maybe ex now) and I want to get advice please
1. He asked me to come around and after 3 days of staying together (he was always going out and coming back). He left me in his house one particular day, didn’t call to tell me he wasn’t coming back and didn’t bother to call till the following evening when I called to let him know I was leaving. We had an argument (I didn’t mention my annoyance was him not calling to know if I’m okay…he thought I was angry because he didn’t come home) because time had already gone. He lodged me in a hotel..saw me off to the particular room and left. This is someone I’ve been there for through thick and thin. He recently lost his sister so I don’t know what is really going on in his mind.

2. The last time we had an issue. It took him 2 weeks to reach out. He apologized..begged that he wants to make things right. Messaged me on all SM platforms before i finally replied and we reconciled.

3. It’s 1 week now and I don’t know if I should reach out and tell him why I was angry or just move on because I don’t know how someone that claims to love me can stay 1 week without reaching out. He just deleted my contact today like he always does when we quarrel (I can’t see his WhatsApp dp)

4. This is someone that brought up marriage..professed his love for me and how he can’t do anything without me. He adds me to his plans. Knows when I’m troubled. Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?

Kelklein:
from your post, it's clear that your boyfriend is not the 'calling' type.. since you knew this, you should have tried to keep up with him by either calling him more or via messaging, say Whatsapp.. most people who are not the calling type are always very active with messages and replies.. use that to always get the attention you so craved from him..

Also, don't assume he's fine.. you can always try to probe him if you observe any changes in his attitude mood.. he seems to me like someone who just wants a quiet life..

As to whether the two of you would decide to end up together.. only the two of you can answer that and not outsidaz..

My advice tho is that you call him and let him know why you were angry.. and try to sort things out. And the two of you should grow up and stop 'breaking up' everytime you have a slight argument..🤔🤔

Clevagal:


1. He left me in his house and came back when I told him I wanted to leave. He lodged me in the hotel because it was already late and he wasn’t going to be home again that day.

2. He thought I was angry because he left me alone in the house but my annoyance was him leaving me alone without calling. I was very okay being alone in the house.

3. No

eazzzy1:
Seems to me like every time you guys fight, you sit pretty and expect him to do the apologizing. You like him apologizing so much that you pick offence at little things just so he can apologize.

At some point he would have to decide to put his foot down or keep begging for the rest of his life. You have formed an habit of ‘moving on’, this habit is what leads to divorce in marriage.

When you move on and have a misunderstanding with your next bf, then what? You will move on too?. That’s how people carry emotional baggage around. He comes back to apologize after you have moved on then you realize you still like him while dating someone else.

Clevagal:


Thank you. I called last night around 12 and he didn’t pick up. I’ll try again this morning

Kelklein:


That's fine..

He would come around 😉

na just nyanga

Clevagal:
I had an issue with my boyfriend (maybe ex now) and I want to get advice please
1. He asked me to come around and after 3 days of staying together (he was always going out and coming back). He left me in his house one particular day, didn’t call to tell me he wasn’t coming back and didn’t bother to call till the following evening when I called to let him know I was leaving. We had an argument (I didn’t mention my annoyance was him not calling to know if I’m okay…he thought I was angry because he didn’t come home) because time had already gone. He lodged me in a hotel..saw me off to the particular room and left. This is someone I’ve been there for through thick and thin. He recently lost his sister so I don’t know what is really going on in his mind.

2. The last time we had an issue. It took him 2 weeks to reach out. He apologized..begged that he wants to make things right. Messaged me on all SM platforms before i finally replied and we reconciled.

3. It’s 1 week now and I don’t know if I should reach out and tell him why I was angry or just move on because I don’t know how someone that claims to love me can stay 1 week without reaching out. He just deleted my contact today like he always does when we quarrel (I can’t see his WhatsApp dp)

4. This is someone that brought up marriage..professed his love for me and how he can’t do anything without me. He adds me to his plans. Knows when I’m troubled. Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?

Clevagal:


1. He left me in his house and came back when I told him I wanted to leave. He lodged me in the hotel because it was already late and he wasn’t going to be home again that day.

2. He thought I was angry because he left me alone in the house but my annoyance was him leaving me alone without calling. I was very okay being alone in the house.

3. No

IbrahimSkiba:
LOve WANT JNJURE OP


Take heart, na so love matter dey be

idahme:



The most important which is the crux of your anger , you did not address it. The rule of justice even if you know that the person is guilty is fair hearing, you must give the accused the opportunity to air his own side of the story before you begin to crucify, if you begin to do this, you will understand that conflict will be better resolved . You noted he may or may not be going through emotional stress even if you may have formed an opinion in your mind still hear from people before taking decisions. It helps you have a more holistic view of the scenario, this is applicable to everyday life experiences.

Clevagal:

Lol. I don tire

Clevagal:
I had an issue with my boyfriend (maybe ex now) and I want to get advice please
1. He asked me to come around and after 3 days of staying together (he was always going out and coming back). He left me in his house one particular day, didn’t call to tell me he wasn’t coming back and didn’t bother to call till the following evening when I called to let him know I was leaving. We had an argument (I didn’t mention my annoyance was him not calling to know if I’m okay…he thought I was angry because he didn’t come home) because time had already gone. He lodged me in a hotel..saw me off to the particular room and left. This is someone I’ve been there for through thick and thin. He recently lost his sister so I don’t know what is really going on in his mind.

2. The last time we had an issue. It took him 2 weeks to reach out. He apologized..begged that he wants to make things right. Messaged me on all SM platforms before i finally replied and we reconciled.

3. It’s 1 week now and I don’t know if I should reach out and tell him why I was angry or just move on because I don’t know how someone that claims to love me can stay 1 week without reaching out. He just deleted my contact today like he always does when we quarrel (I can’t see his WhatsApp dp)

4. This is someone that brought up marriage..professed his love for me and how he can’t do anything without me. He adds me to his plans. Knows when I’m troubled. Does things that makes me feel like he really loves me but I ask again, how can someone that loves you keep malice with you for 1 week?