Yield: How long has he been living with you and is he contributing in any way to your rent or is he living there for free? Is he working and does he have enough money to move out? Why would you spend his money without his permission? You're having "emotional traumas" in what way? What do you mean by you "feel as if you're betrothed" to him? There's no such thing as "I feel as if I'm bethrothed to my boyfriend". It's either you are and both of you have vocally expressed that to each other and want the same thing OR YOU HAVE NOT. So, which one is it? Unless we're talking about an arranged marriage, but that is not the case here.

Yield: How long has he been living with you and is he contributing in any way to your rent or is he living there for free? Is he working and does he have enough money to move out? Why would you spend his money without his permission? You're having "emotional traumas" in what way? What do you mean by you "feel as if you're betrothed" to him? There's no such thing as "I feel as if I'm bethrothed to my boyfriend". It's either you are and both of you have vocally expressed that to each other and want the same thing OR YOU HAVE NOT. So, which one is it? Unless we're talking about an arranged marriage, but that is not the case here.

HARDDON:

very cogent questions that should be answered before one could have a grasp of what is really going on and thus lend a helping thought.

if I may add to the Qs, where you the one that invited him over to your abode when his rent expired or he just thought it natural to move over?

are you both students?( seems so) . if both of you are students, is he in any strange group? do you feel intimidated by him?

HARDDON:

you didn't answer me lil Qs

Allurefunky:
he pleaded to stay for a week or two and i agreed. I dont no about any group but hes been acting really strange lately.

190: that guy must be Ghanaian
cos no nigerian would live with his woman

we nigerian men have swag

Paterico: At times, things are allowed to happen. He is not the only man on earth that you can endanger your life. Live things to be the way they are and protect your life

Allurefunky:
actually hes nigerian

No he cant be

HARDDON:

How about the last one: do you feel intimidated by him? his presence?

Amelian: Op, uv made a huge mistake already allowing him to put up with you... Pay him back his300naira..... Then try evict him .... But it's gonna be tough and messy... Except u have older brothers or cousins , or even yur dad, that will come up and tell him to leave that same day... Even at that.... U will still need a male family figure to live with you for a while after he has been removed from yur apartment...or be patient for a while, then tell him your rent will soon expire and u can't renew the rent anymore and your going back to your parents house, to live with them...also talk to your landlord to collaborate your story and to warn both of u , in his presence that you should vacate his house orelse wahala go happen....he has to pack, as you are packing as well.....that's the only two ways...I can figure out .... Cos it's gonna be hard and tough telling a possessive guy like him , to leave yur apartment.

Best of luck, cause u sure need it.

190: that guy must be Ghanaian
cos no nigerian would live with his woman

we nigerian men have swag

Amelian: Op, uv made a huge mistake already allowing him to put up with you... Pay him back his300naira..... Then try evict him .... But it's gonna be tough and messy... Except u have older brothers or cousins , or even yur dad, that will come up and tell him to leave that same day... Even at that.... U will still need a male family figure to live with you for a while after he has been removed from yur apartment...or be patient for a while, then tell him your rent will soon expire and u can't renew the rent anymore and your going back to your parents house, to live with them...also talk to your landlord to collaborate your story and to warn both of u , in his presence that you should vacate his house orelse wahala go happen....he has to pack, as you are packing as well.....that's the only two ways...I can figure out .... Cos it's gonna be hard and tough telling a possessive guy like him , to leave yur apartment.

Best of luck, cause u sure need it.

Princessmel:
U call it swag, I call it unnecessary pride and ego

Yield:

I don't agree with her kicking him out the same day. Only animals behave like that. Unless he's a threat to her (which he's not) or her life is in danger by him being there (again, he's not), there's no need for her to tell her older brothers, cousins or dad to get him to leave the house. There's no need for her to tell her male family members to gang up on him.

I also don't agree with her lying to him by saying her "rent will rent will soon expire and she can't renew the rent anymore and she's going back to her parents' house nor for her to get the landlord to lie with her!

Allurefunky:
sometimes

Allurefunky:
we are both students (fulltime) and hes been living with me for almost a month nw. He said he was gonna stay a couple of weeks till he gets his own place but he doesnt av any money. I was going to tell him dat i spent his money and btw its just 300 naira, i used it to pay for something in skul. On d betrothing ish, hes acting as if i have no choice i just av to be with him. When i talk to him he shuns me, he doesnt take to correction and hes preventing me from having friends..

Amelian: Op, uv made a huge mistake already allowing him to put up with you... Pay him back his300naira..... Then try evict him .... But it's gonna be tough and messy... Except u have older brothers or cousins , or even yur dad, that will come up and tell him to leave that same day... Even at that.... U will still need a male family figure to live with you for a while after he has been removed from yur apartment...or be patient for a while, then tell him your rent will soon expire and u can't renew the rent anymore and your going back to your parents house, to live with them...also talk to your landlord to collaborate your story and to warn both of u , in his presence that you should vacate his house orelse wahala go happen....he has to pack, as you are packing as well.....that's the only two ways...I can figure out .... Cos it's gonna be hard and tough telling a possessive guy like him , to leave yur apartment.

Best of luck, cause u sure need it.

Allurefunky:
we are both students (fulltime) and hes been living with me for almost a month nw. He said he was gonna stay a couple of weeks till he gets his own place but he doesnt av any money. I was going to tell him dat i spent his money and btw its just 300 naira, i used it to pay for something in skul. On d betrothing ish, hes acting as if i have no choice i just av to be with him. When i talk to him he shuns me, he doesnt take to correction and hes preventing me from having friends..