Please fellow nairalanders, I really need ur opinion on this issue; is there something wrong with a girl of 23yrs and in her 2nd year in the high institution to get married? Please support your opinion with reason(s).


My posting this on the family section is because I need mature opinion

Ion rili see nofin rong in dhat,,, it all depends on the compatability nd most importantly, maturity of the couple.

Meriyke:
Please fellow nairalanders, I really need ur opinion on this issue; is there something wrong with a girl of 23yrs and in her 2nd year in the high institution to get married? Please support your opinion with reason(s).


My posting this on the family section is because I need mature opinion

Something wrong as in how?

Provide more details.

The constitution of Federal Republic of Nigeria does not condemn it. You are free.

23 years na over ripe plantain o.

Why people might see it to be wrong is because it might not be easy combining school work load with the married life,coz some people make kids immediately they marry and things become complicated for those who can't handle the heat of the home front,taking care of a child,and the pressure from school.

Bt age wise u might(maturity sumtimes isn't by age) be matured enough.

U dnt determine wen u ll get married as a lady provided u r up to 20 besides u shld b bothered wit ur compatibility wit ur man nt ur age n level at sch. Some girls married at 18 to d right man n they r happy abt it forever while others married at 35 n neva enjoyed it. Notin wrong in goin to sch frm ur hubby house n in ur own case being in second year at 23yrs wen most of ur mates r thro wit nysc shows u r quite slow. An average 23yr old shld at least b in final year but Jamb sabi slow some ppl down. d story of life is different for everyone I understand dt n dts y u shld keep being an individual wit her own story.

Bottomline hw much compatible r u wit d man plus is d relationship been smooth to u so far. Ur ans shld determine if u shld marry him or nt. Ur age n level in sch is secondary.

@op, your reasons for getting married while in school @ the age of 23 is all due to financial emancipation. Well I don't blame your to be husband for taking necessary precautions because most young ladies have abused the privileges of sponsorship from men who pay for their school fees and upkeep until they finish school hoping for a marital union but the ladies ended up jilting them. Really there's nothing to worry about, go ahead with the marriage but your hubby smart o

EfemenaXY:


Something wrong as in how?

Provide more details.

Every other person in my family is in support of the union except my eldest sister who's kicking against it with the opinion that I should wait till I graduate

ogawisdom:
U dnt determine wen u ll get married as a lady provided u r up to 20 besides u shld b bothered wit ur compatibility wit ur man nt ur age n level at sch. Some girls married at 18 to d right man n they r happy abt it forever while others married at 35 n neva enjoyed it. Notin wrong in goin to sch frm ur hubby house n in ur own case being in second year at 23yrs wen most of ur mates r thro wit nysc shows u r quite slow. An average 23yr old shld at least b in final year but Jamb sabi slow some ppl down. d story of life is different for everyone I understand dt n dts y u shld keep being an individual wit her own story.

Bottomline hw much compatible r u wit d man plus is d relationship been smooth to u so far. Ur ans shld determine if u shld marry him or nt. Ur age n level in sch is secondary.

Our relationship has so far been smooth n abt compatibility, we are.

Meriyke:


Our relationship has so far been smooth n abt compatibility, we are.

If d only issue is ur age n level in sch then my ans is as follows

Age - u r old enough for marriage
Level in sch - u can finish up frm ur hubby house, u guys can discuss abt whether to defer gettin pregnant or nt until u finish sch.

So go ahead n marry him. Goodluck to u n pray abt it n commit it to God's hand

Meriyke:



Every other person in my family is in support of the union except my eldest sister who's kicking against it with the opinion that I should wait till I graduate

She's right and wrong depending on motives..

Right because time exposes people's real intentions. What if this man is not who he is but acting up?

Wrong because some elder sisters may not want younger ones to marry before them.

All in all waiting has more advantages than disadvantages.

23 + 3 years = 26 years which is not bad considering some are 45 years and not married.

ogawisdom:

If d only issue is ur age n level in sch then my ans is as follows

Age - u r old enough for marriage
Level in sch - u can finish up frm ur hubby house, u guys can discuss abt whether to differ gettin pregnant or nt until u finish sch.

So go ahead n marry him. Goodluck to u n pray abt it n commit it to God's hand

My friend forget differrment
This is Africa where once you are married everybody is asking when will you give us a grand child. His family and even yours will be mounting pressure.

Even the man may agree but later change mind. You will say let's use condom, he will say darling let's do skin to skin. Am tired of condoms. Am your husband, remember!

Fxwarrior:


My friend forget differrment
This is Africa where once you are married everybody is asking when will you give us a grand child. His family and even yours will be mounting pressure.

Even the man may agree but later change mind. You will say let's use condom, he will say darling let's do skin to skin. Am tired of condoms. Am your husband, remember!

U r kinda right but She shld discuss wit his hubby they may agree on sth. Abt d condom hw can a man b usin condom wit d wife there r other options open for birth control, dt shld nt b an issue I believe.

Pregnancy ll affect her schoolin dts my concern but who kws she may b able to handle it. It depends on d woman in questn, I ve seen a lot of ladies preg n schoolin

well I had a course mate who got married in year three. She coped, although with the understanding of the lecturers. She even had a baby in the final year. If there is a reason that puts the lady under any necessary pressure to do so, then she should go ahead. This could mostly likely be that her man is well established and isn't willing to wait or see another man take her love in school.

There is no big deal, but it's a tough fight. My husband had to baby sit in the car right in front of the department while I write exams. There times he stay over in a hotel with the kids , so I can read in my lodge. There was no case of understanding lecturers as i did the stuffs I should do and didn't go begging for there consideration. I missed 4 papers because I was down with hyperemis gravidarium due to pregnancy. It wasn't easy but is doable with a supportive spouse . The earliest part of our marriage came with lots of bonding moments due to this, there are times I send my research work via E mail for my husband to do, i just go through and edit, then submit. It's not a journey for the weak. I have submitted assignments through ABC, its capital intensive and this should be put into consideration before venturing.


The questions is, will he make the sacrifices where necessary ? Are you convinced that he is the one? What is your GP like?Does he live close to school? In my case i do travel interstate to write some papers that aren't so tough. Be sure you are doing this with a man and not a boy, if not, yawaah go gas. 23 is neither too young or two old for marriage, you will enjoy it when you graduate and take pics with your kids dressed in NYSC uniforms .

Meriyke:



Every other person in my family is in support of the union except my eldest sister who's kicking against it with the opinion that I should wait till I graduate

Your sister isn't necessarily right, If you think you can cope, then her opinion doesn't count here. Your parents have given their blessings, just be sure of what you want.

Hey, 23 isn't bad. 23 is over age in some communities of the Eastern Nigeria. As beevan said, make sure he's a man and he has a lot of value for education. When I mean value, I mean passion for education. I know men that stopped their spouses from school after white wedding. Their character and behavior is enough to stop you from school if u think he can't say it to you.
Be careful and very sure of your man. I hope you guys are not the Mr Biggs type during courtship. Some many women have been confused with the nollywood type of courtship where every guy lives in duplex, open car door for his babe and pretend to be rich. Think about what I said. If you are sure, you are not deceived, then do the needful according Aunty Princess Stella Odua.

Thanks 2 u all..I really appreciate ur opinions so far