I currently work as a teen therapist and counselor and many of my clients are having problems with their self esteem and self confidence. One thing I am noticing in many of them is poor body language and how they carry themselves. I decided to take a survey and ask people about this and got some interesting feedback and wanted to share it with the community:

Women only shook hands for professional reasons, and if they did they stretched their hand out first and the man accepted it, the man did not squeeze too hard....men have greater strength then women...if the men squeeze to hard they will hurt the women's hand. If a women squeezed the mans hand he must meet the same strength not more. As its become more general for women to shake hands a lot of men just stretch their hand out first so the women has to respond. It is still a dominate thing for men. Most women still don't want to shake hands with men.

Trying to understand body language better as an Aspire. I gotta say, I was and am confused. Nope, did not notice a difference in my mood, though I did notice a difference in his hand signals. Sigh, humans are an odd bunch that's for sure.


Also notice what he does between 2.30 and 4.35. He pulls the guy's hand towards him into his own energy. This allows him to control the other guy continuously while he's holding his hand, until he guides the other guy off the stage by moving his hand that way. With subtle hand movements he's constantly leading the other guy. People who have ever practiced Aikido, will recognize this.

Might just be a personal thing, but while experimenting after this video, I imagined asking someone if they wanted to go somewhere and noticed something. Try gesturing in a direction with your palm up, down, and by pointing, and see what your head does. On palms up, my head turned slightly, palms down, my head pointed slightly in the direction, and sideways point, my head cocked to the side a bit. Let me know what happens to you.

So lets just say someone is giving you a handshake an you can tell they are trying to get the upper hand. Now does that communicate them trying to see if they can trust you by seeing if you will submit to them which communicates weakness an unreliability or is it better to submit in due respect for the other person?

This kind of hand shake does not make sense. First hand shake should be peaceful like Islam teaches. Islam teaches hand shake should be peaceful, no matter whether your hand is on top or bottom. When you are hand shaking someone you must feel kind and generosity toward the other person. What is the point of hand shaking someone when you have superiority in your heart.

What is your take on this subject?

Sam Miller
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