Rubyjade:
Following this thread https://www.nairaland.com/8084969/married-men-envy-bachelors

Do married women envy spinsters?

ChybuzzDD:


You certainly don't have the number for a successful counter attack.

ChybuzzDD:


You certainly don't have the number for a successful counter attack.

TempUser:
How can I envy a person who have not exercised his ability to make a woman change her name to his?

TempUser:
this was my response on the first post of married men envying bachelors:


Now I will ask you another rhetoric to respond to this inverted post:
Why should a product checked out envy the products still on the shelf - that have not been able to get into the cart 🛒?

fyzaila:
Why would a married woman envy a spinster?? When majority of spinsters are they one envying a married woman and would always wish to find love and get married someday. If staying single is nice then why are people getting married every week? 🙄

A married woman might envy a spinster only if she is not enjoying her marriage to the fullest.

Rubyjade:
Following this thread https://www.nairaland.com/8084969/married-men-envy-bachelors

Do married women envy spinsters?

fubongfoodies:
Yes.
Motherhood can be a trap.

Klass99:


You can't say something like this without elaborating na. Why do you think or feel that it can be a trap?

fubongfoodies:
two people have sex to bring a child into the world. Only one person will risk her life to bring the child into the world, and in most cases takes almost the full responsibility of raising the child into adulthood and still has to work to provide for the family. If that is not a trap for women, I don't know what is. Typically a woman loses a large portion of her identity when she has a child, she is now the 2nd priority in her life.

There was a man in my place of work whose wife was went through a CS about 30mins prior and as he was holding the newborn, she pooped. The man's face twisted like amala, so I decided to be mischievous. I as the doctor who was called in to check the baby, gave him the diaper to change. The way he looked at me as if I gave him an Ak-47, the nurses were busy lifting the mother from the stretcher to her bed. I simply told him that it's his child so he should learn how. He said he was going to call his mother, that it wasn't his job. I told him that the child is his responsibility, especially as his wife is recovering and still asleep. Welcome to parenting sir. I gave him detailed instructions without lifting a single finger on the steps to clean a diaper.

I hope he learnt something that day.

fubongfoodies:
two people have sex to bring a child into the world. Only one person will risk her life to bring the child into the world, and in most cases takes almost the full responsibility of raising the child into adulthood and still has to work to provide for the family. If that is not a trap for women, I don't know what is. Typically a woman loses a large portion of her identity when she has a child, she is now the 2nd priority in her life.

There was a man in my place of work whose wife was went through a CS about 30mins prior and as he was holding the newborn, she pooped. The man's face twisted like amala, so I decided to be mischievous. I as the doctor who was called in to check the baby, gave him the diaper to change. The way he looked at me as if I gave him an Ak-47, the nurses were busy lifting the mother from the stretcher to her bed. I simply told him that it's his child so he should learn how. He said he was going to call his mother, that it wasn't his job. I told him that the child is his responsibility, especially as his wife is recovering and still asleep. Welcome to parenting sir. I gave him detailed instructions without lifting a single finger on the steps to clean a diaper.

I hope he learnt something that day.

Hathor5:
Before I got married and had kids, I was asking myself if some married women/mothers sometimes wished they were living my life. I was successful at my career and had a lot of freedom to enjoy the money I was making.

Now that I am married and have kids, I can answer the question for myself.

Even though I loved being single and had a really good life in my beautiful apartment and lots of freedom to do all the things I enjoyed, which I don`t have time for anymore, I wouldn`t trade my husband and kids for anything in this world. I love them so much. If I didn`t have them, I wouldn`t know what I am missing but now that I have them, I feel that nothing would bring me more joy than them.

However, I am looking forward to the time when the kids depend less on me and give me more space to binge on a Netflix series or read three books in a week or just go on a shopping spree or for dinner with my friends.

But then again, by that time I will miss it when my little one wanted to cuddle mama and when it took only my presence to make them feel that all is well.

fubongfoodies:
Yes.

Motherhood can be a trap.

Klass99:


I read this twice and I was beyond perplexed, just scratching my head. You didn't answer the question.