Good day Romancelanders, Trust y'all are pretty good?
I need sincere and reasonable opinions about a issh going on with me. There's this girl i have known for over 1 year now though our closeness was totally off at a particular time but we got back later. I wanted to have a relationship with her then when we met afresh but she just left an abusive relationship so taking her time to heal her emotions.

So i gave her time during which period i was there and just playing the normal bf role even though we weren't dating. I knew what i was doing, it has worked over time for me not to demand express YES from girls but just start acting like bf and we kickstart things from there. But i noticed it seems there was a guy she was seeing immediately after her break up before we met . More or less like a consolation relationship. That was why i gave her space around the december last year.

We ran into each other around June or so and we've been talking again. The problem is unlike other girls she hardly call me or even message on social networks unless i initiate such. I stylishly talked to her about it while trying not to apppear i'm begging for her attention. Whenever she comes around, we relate , play and the likes like a normal gf/bf but she is not giving a yes/No to a formal dating yet though and i have tried to walk away overtime with her always acting nice again, i wouldn't call it a friendzone since there's no restriction to us. But all her ways doesn't suggest she is in love with me, in fact she didnt introduce me to her friends(Lol it is not what you think i'm not ugly) she won't say yes and won't let me go and i'm the one performing the role of a bf,while she will even upload the second guy's picture stylishly even though he wont call her for weeks. And No it is not friendzone(unless friendzone without restrictions exist).

I'm caught between just moving on or tarry and "fight" and win her over . I'm still young anyways just that the pressure to get serious is pilling daily.

Thanks in addy to your positive responses.

She's not dating you. you're the one thinking you're in a relationship with the said girl while she's taking someone else more seriously.

Don't be an option to anyone, and don't let people use you as a doormat.

Benita27:
She's not dating you. you're the one thinking you're in a relationship with the said girl while she's taking someone else more seriously.

Thanks Benita, i know we aren't in any formal relationship and i don't introduce her as such, i just thought it was the initial playing hard to get until i realised things were getting elongated. She was acting like i should convince her i love her. Thanks once again

Girls are always confused, she is confused and her confusion is confusing you too, brov I advice you to move to the next one coz she's def coming back to you when its dawn to her but by then the choice of what to do is yours..

Move on bro!!

Sir nah!!


Why are u still convincing yourself you've not been friendzoned.


Don't fool yourself with the no restrictions stuff o jae.Gals are cunning.We're very good at it.



Just move on jo.Infact,introduce your bae to her when u get one and stop letting her play u.


All the very best

LegitBoy:
Thanks Benita, i know we aren't in any formal relationship and i don't introduce her as such, i just thought it was the initial playing hard to get until i realised things were getting elongated. She was acting like i should convince her i love her. Thanks once again

So why you ask that question?

Quietly walk out of her life bro. You are in some kind of emotional torture. Mind u, the more you think about her, the less she even care about you. Run faster than Usain Bolt

How do u mean by 'no restrictions'...pls, kindly explain a little although, I kinda av an idea what u re implying but a little more info wud help in offering an advice...

She has someone else.

Lol... Dude if she's ain't down with you right from the word go find that someone that is n stop lacing yourselves to be an option.

LegitBoy:
Thanks Benita, i know we aren't in any formal relationship and i don't introduce her as such, i just thought it was the initial playing hard to get until i realised things were getting elongated. She was acting like i should convince her i love her. Thanks once again

please kindly look for a girl that will cherish you as her bf..you are still single but not searching

Op please Come first! Come Na!... Come Na I Am Not Beating You. Okay Oya put Your Hand On Your Head, oya repeat After Me: God abeg give me sense!

She doesn't want to date but dunno how to tell you either, she might still be hung up on her ex boyfriend.


Find another girl and love since you want to settle down.

humeeh:
Sir nah!!


Why are u still convincing yourself you've not been friendzoned.


Don't fool yourself with the no restrictions stuff o jae.Gals are cunning.We're very good at it.



Just move on jo.Infact,introduce your bae to her when u get one and stop letting her play u.


All the very best

Thanks for your advice, guess i knew it all this while just needed a restatement

Rorachy:
She doesn't want to date but dunno how to tell you either, she might still be hung up on her ex boyfriend.


Find another girl and love since you want to settle down.

That is true...moving is just the issh, gess i just have to be brave and faxe it.

LegitBoy:
That is true...moving is just the issh, gess i just have to be brave and faxe it.

Just move on alright, its might be hard but you won't regret doing it..

QueenSekxy:

please kindly look for a girl that will cherish you as her bf..you are still single but not searching

Single but not searching? Hehehe. Will surely go with your advice even if it hurts to kove and not be loved in return.

Smallville10:
Op please Come first! Come Na!... Come Na I Am Not Beating You. Okay Oya put Your Hand On Your Head, oya repeat After Me: God abeg give me sense!

Lol...funny. be like say love never grab you before

LegitBoy:
Single but not searching? Hehehe. Will surely go with your advice even if it hurts to kove and not be loved in return.

nice one dear...

LegitBoy:
Lol...funny. be like say love never grab you before

abi if e grab u e better... Love don swallow me before but when i get sense, e vomit me back... Although i understand, becus right now i am cut up btw 3 beautiful woman... Asin no be small beauty

Smallville10:
abi if e grab u e better... Love don swallow me before but when i get sense, e vomit me back... Although i understand, becus right now i am cut up btw 3 beautiful woman... Asin no be small beauty

Lol that is serious...

LegitBoy:
Lol that is serious...

one is ma girlfriend, one is my bestfriend, i met d last one some days ago... So ur own small! But its all wisdom being applied but it still aint easy