"Your mates are out there, doing something meaningful with their lives"..mom yelled at me.

I was in the sitting room watching Game of Thrones series at 7 am in the morning.

"Do they have two heads?"

"Why can't you start something? Anything. Apply For a teaching Job"

These are scenarios a lot of graduates face while waiting for the “perfect job”. {I made a previous about the types of pressures unemployed graduates face}

You can't blame your parents. After putting you through school. Imagine the fees and other expenses, just like any human, they expect a great return on their investment. In fact, they want it to yield greater interest.

And imagine when you are unemployed for over 3 months. They can't stand it. Truth be told, you'll be like a football player bought from another club but can't score goals.

It might be our fault, or not. But the bottom line is you are unemployed.

Truth is that pressure might make you depressed, some take irresponsible decisions, some even commit suicide, some rush into marriage and others yield to peer pressure.

It can either make or break you but you have control over it.

Here are tips to help you ease the pressure from your parents

1. Restore or Build their faith in you


You must earn your parents trust, It is important. Try as much as possible to make them understand your plight. You must also Be open and productive. You must remain idle or stay at home all day long. Go out there, discover new opportunities. When they see all these, they will ease their pressure and give you all the necessary support you need to excel.

2. Make sacrifices, stop demanding

“I need a new phone, pocket money, laptop, shoes……….”.the list goes on.

You must learn to stop being totally dependent on your parents, uncles, and aunties.

Learn to let go of some things especially the excesses. Try as much as possible to save during your "period of Trial". It shows that you can take RESPONSIBILITY.

3. Do some volunteer work


Join any group, whether at church, community or anywhere similar.

Do some charity work, give back to the society. This will add to your experience professional or not and will help you acquire leadership and management skills.

4. Do not react (The golden rule)


Honor Your Father and Your Mother... It is the first commandment with a promise. Ephesians 6:2

You must not react to the pressure. We've seen cases of frustrated graduates hitting their parents or disrespecting them. Don't forget, You too will become a father/mother Someday. Then you'll understand their position. Try as much as possible to absorb the pressure

5. Be strategic and update them on progress.

You must be proactive. Finding the best Job can be tasking but it’s very possible. Update your parents on the progress of your Job search and they'll encourage you

Like I mentioned earlier, do not react. Honor your parents, try to understand their point of view. You are a million dollar prize just sitting on a shelf. They want you to soar, they want you to be their pride and if you have a vision, you'll make it.

For more examples of pressure you face from parents or elderly folks, drop them in the comment box.

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1forall, CrazyMan

Don't stay at home after service. Go and start your life whether rugged or not.

You earn more respect for yourself by not staying at home.

If you're currently at home after nysc it because you never wanted to leave home in the first place

Continue staying at home.

Orphans are surviving. Keep shouting your mummy this your daddy that.

Especially if you're a male

Thank God there is nothing like peer or family pressure in my life.

The truth is most of us are lazy both mentally and physically.

You would be successful when you stop blaming others for your failure.
I know the government isn't doing enough. Please let's look beyond the government and put our own destiny into our hands.

Are you employable as a graduate? Did you pass WAEC and JAMB by yourself? What about your final year project, didn't you pay to get it done?

Equip yourself with necessary skills needed in the market and mdke yourself useful for yourself.

Okay

Even before service... Immediately after final exams. I didn't return home

To avoid that, work towards leaving their house rather thsn feeling comfortable watching game of thrones

my girlfriend leave me cause she dey go NYSC...omo...i tell her say she never see anything

How many times una go post this stuff

Dear New graduate, don't ever go back to your father's house after service. What are you coming back to do? For them to continue feeding your ass? Nah! This is what happens when we devote all our time and energy in the library without an attempt to break the matrix. As an undergraduate, start preparing for the future. Start saving.. The world is not smiling, your parents are not even smiling.

If as an undergraduate and you still ask for haircut money, cream, blah blah blah.. you're hopeless. Start learning the act of independency.

Things will be easier when you become totally independent.

Good luck.

There are lot of things to do to make money these days even if its a little. No one should stay idle.

How can an unemployed person be watching Game of thrones by 7am in the morning?

Do you want to be another Little Finger?

Life after school is difficult. The transition between being a dependent to an independent adult.

OrestesDante:


Don't stay at home after service. Go and start your life whether rugged or not.

You earn more respect for yourself by not staying at home.

Go and start your life under the bridge abi... No plans, nothing nothing... All because you don't want to stay at home

Though, I'm still an undergraduate, I'm not being pressurized by my parents but I keep pressurizing myself on how to be useful to them financially.

Just leave d house even if u dont hv a specific destination. Better still, go join free readers association. There r lots of valuable info in newspapers.

i haven't go for my NYSC but I can relate wt the pressure already. May God help us to help ourselves

YoungRichRuler:
How can an unemployed person be watching Game of thrones by 7am in the morning?

Do you want to be another Little Finger?

U cracked me up dude

Look for a way to leave your parents house especially if you are a guy,and see your thinking improve coz you have left your comfort zone....

Great advice

OrestesDante:


Don't stay at home after service. Go and start your life whether rugged or not.

You earn more respect for yourself by not staying at home.

that's a valid point,get out of that comfort zone! Immediately after school I never went back again.after service I volunteered for a token of #5000 monthly.after 3 months I was given 10k for a regular work from 8am-5pm.many times I felt depressed and frustrated,but I choose to be positive and encouraged myself.two weeks ago I signed a contract with an international NGO.its now all story and bygone.my pay now is over 1000 percent increase!! Have faith,patience,persistance,humility,hardwork,build relationship and above all trust God.don't give up! Your season will surely come.

Those of you saying leave home, where to? Your parents know how the labour market is right now and it's only psychotic parents that will expect their kids to leave home after NYSC. No wonder most youths end up doing fraudulent activities, squatting with people who don't want them and being treated like nonentities. Where you are going to live, ain't you going to contribute anything? So why not do same at home?

It is the responsibility of parents to care for their children, provide security for them. Nothing is ever too much for your kids, until a child find his way in life, a parent is responsible. Too bad African parents breed kids to care for them when they grow, irrespective of their financial capabilities.

What you need to do is to start acting like an adult living at home. Go and find some manual jobs, volunteer in churches, foundations anywhere they need help. Ask if your parents need help with anything, repair jobs, errands etc...

The menial jobs you do here and there will allow you have pocket money so not to depend on your parents for little things. As long as you have a roof and food, you can save money and re-strategize.

Just don't be lazy staying at home, simple!

My fear is staying home after NYSC

SirLakes:


U cracked me up dude

Abi na, even if you don't have a job yet, you don't have to show signs of irresponsibility by watching movies at 7am when you can get out and do something more productive. If it's on a Saturday morning, it may be excused

U can't be broke and be sleeping, it's a sin

edwife:
Those of you saying leave home, where to? Your parents know how the labour market is right now and it's only psychotic parents that will expect their kids to leave home after NYSC. No wonder most youths end up doing fraudulent activities, squatting with people who don't want them and being treated like nonentities. Where you are going to live, ain't you going to contribute anything? So why not do same at home?

It is the responsibility of parents to care for their children, provide security for them. Nothing is ever too much for your kids, until a child find his way in life, a parent is responsible. Too bad African parents breed kids to care for them when they grow, irrespective of their financial capabilities.

What you need to do is to start acting like an adult living at home. Go and find some manual jobs, volunteer in churches, foundations anywhere they need help. Ask if your parents need help with anything, repair jobs, errands etc...

The menial jobs you do here and there will allow you have pocket money so not to depend on your parents for little things. As long as you have a roof and food, you can save money and re-strategize.

Just don't be lazy staying at home, simple!

my dear staying at home and running errands for ur parents is most frustrating, the insult u receive alone is non comparable, its better to look for a small job,maybe teaching but still stay at home .

hoover420:

Go and start your life under the bridge abi... No plans, nothing nothing... All because you don't want to stay at home

If you're currently at home after nysc it because you never wanted to leave home in the first place

Continue staying at home.

Orphans are surviving. Keep shouting your mummy this your daddy that

YoungRichRuler:


Abi na, even if you don't have a job yet, you don't have to show signs of irresponsibility by watching movies at 7am when you can get out and do something more productive. If it's on a Saturday morning, it may be excused

I thought I was the only one that noticed the act of irresponsibility in him. Imagine an unemployed individual watching a movie by 7am... And you expect your parents to give you kudos. Continue to wait for 100k job ooooooo

egbonodjetj:



my dear staying at home and running errands for ur parents is most frustrating, the insult u receive alone is non comparable, its better to look for a small job,maybe teaching but still stay at home .

I am talking in lieu there is no job. If you read my post carefully you will see that i touched every circumstances. Those teaching jobs are just laying somewhere you can pick?

Such parents should check themselves psychologically....

thank God... it tru.. i started teaching job after nysc... and now I am into npower teach.. living on my own, ... although I still get some financial assistance from home... also try to proceed for your masters degree.. and skill acquisition... Also from work you make new friends and hear of job interviews..... And also get a good browsing phone for job info...