Please distinguished ladies of Nairaland this question is for you?

It's important that you give honest and candid answer because someones future happiness is at stake.

So here is a little background story, I joined this company and I've had the pleasure of working with a lovely lady who I have started having feelings for but I couldn't tell her because she has a boyfriend.

At some point in time this lady revels to me that she may probably leave this her BF because she can't wait for him forever to do the right thing (marriage). I saw this as an opportunity to tell her how I feel about her and she said she liked me too. Now she refers to me as the only one she knows, calling me honey pie and other sweet names in the office but I'm not comfortable yet with that because I know she is still with her BF.
So one day I decided to ask her if she is still with her BF and she said yes they are still together but in the office she acts like I'm her BF.
Most times when she starts calling me those sweet names I feel like telling her to stop it because I know she is still very much with her BF and probably just trying to use me and spoil other chances I may have with other ladies in the office.

So my question is this
Should I tell her to go focus on being with her guy and stop making me feel like we are dating when clearly we are not

Please you people should try and comment, this is an account I had to create for anonymity

ubunja zinny25 magnoliaa jessysparkles blackivy27 funmmyastic can you shed some light on this issue

I think she wants you

Canye:
Please distinguished ladies of Nairaland this question is for you?

It's important that you give honest and candid answer because someones future happiness is at stake.

So here is a little background story, I joined this company and I've had the pleasure of working with a lovely lady who I have started having feelings for but I couldn't tell her because she has a boyfriend.

At some point in time this lady revels to me that she may probably leave this her BF because she can't wait for him forever to do the right thing (marriage). I saw this as an opportunity to tell her how I feel about her and she said she liked me too. Now she refers to me as the only one she knows, calling me honey pie and other sweet names in the office but I'm not comfortable yet with that because I know she is still with her BF.
So one day I decided to ask her if she is still with her BF and she said yes they are still together but in the office she acts like I'm her BF.
Most times when she starts calling me those sweet names I feel like telling her to stop it because I know she is still very much with her BF and probably just trying to use me and spoil other chances I may have with other ladies in the office.

So my question is this
Should I tell her to go focus on being with her guy and stop making me feel like we are dating when clearly we are not

Please you people should try and comment, this is an account I had to create for anonymity

ubunja can you shed some light on this issue

Why must we comment when you've never bothered to comment on our posts?? Lmfao.

ubunja:

Why must we comment when you've never bothered to comment on our posts?? Lmfao.

I do comment on your post but this is a new account

Clap clap! I love karma. A case of a backstabbing opportunist enslaved by his emotions, the lady did a right one on you.
Sometimes I wonder why guys go after the other guys' women, you are aware of the fact that she's in a relationship but took advantage of her doubt and got yourself nailed. Lol I feel no pity for you Man!

Enjoy your emotional cage.

The fact that she hasnt broken up with her boyfriend could be that she's still waiting for him to pop the question. Maybe you're meant to be a plan b...

Tell her point blank to choose who she wants. You or him.

You are just like a spare tyre to her.

Canye:
Please distinguished ladies of Nairaland this question is for you?

It's important that you give honest and candid answer because someones future happiness is at stake.

So here is a little background story, I joined this company and I've had the pleasure of working with a lovely lady who I have started having feelings for but I couldn't tell her because she has a boyfriend.

At some point in time this lady revels to me that she may probably leave this her BF because she can't wait for him forever to do the right thing (marriage). I saw this as an opportunity to tell her how I feel about her and she said she liked me too. Now she refers to me as the only one she knows, calling me honey pie and other sweet names in the office but I'm not comfortable yet with that because I know she is still with her BF.
So one day I decided to ask her if she is still with her BF and she said yes they are still together but in the office she acts like I'm her BF.
Most times when she starts calling me those sweet names I feel like telling her to stop it because I know she is still very much with her BF and probably just trying to use me and spoil other chances I may have with other ladies in the office.

So my question is this
Should I tell her to go focus on being with her guy and stop making me feel like we are dating when clearly we are not

Please you people should try and comment, this is an account I had to create for anonymity

ubunja zinny25 magnoliaa jessysparkles blackivy27 funmmyastic can you shed some light on this issue

well I think the lady is trying to be smart,since she really wants to settle down she has to keep both of you as she doesn't know who's gonna pop the question first. For her to have clearly tell you she's still with her boyfriend will justify her action if the boyfriend finally proposes, she will dump you and say after all you are aware that she has a boyfriend.
just define your relationship with her,if you ain't dating let it be clear to both of you.

Don't let someone use you as spare part...

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She is just keeping you as plan B,but you know the said lady has a boyfriend,leave her because she seems confused and does not know what she want cos I don't understand the reason why she cannot stick to one guy.

Canye:

I do comment on your post but this is a new account

Alright my good friend.....
Here goes :

1)you don't shît where you drink.
Meaning NEVER EVER EVER conduct romantic affairs at your workplace. There's a reason most companies outlaw them. That reason is: If things go sour how will face coming to work everyday and spending the WHOLE DAY infront of someone you now don't like one bit??

2)Go read about something called "Work Husbands". You are one. You are that man the girl likes to think you are her BF at work. That will translate to you spending on lunches and doing her favours here and there. Both negatives.

3)Next time never ask any girl if she has a BF. That's amatuer as fvck. Just shoot your shot. Cause a woman is never single. Always remember that. Just shoot your shot.


Now if you target a new girl at the company you'll create friction and tensions and rivalries that won't reflect well on you.

I will stop here for now.

you are a spare tyre . the boy friend wont marry her but he keeps chopping her. when he later frees her she will come to meet you. bros warn her to stop

Canye:
Please distinguished ladies of Nairaland this question is for you?

It's important that you give honest and candid answer because someones future happiness is at stake.

So here is a little background story, I joined this company and I've had the pleasure of working with a lovely lady who I have started having feelings for but I couldn't tell her because she has a boyfriend.

At some point in time this lady revels to me that she may probably leave this her BF because she can't wait for him forever to do the right thing (marriage). I saw this as an opportunity to tell her how I feel about her and she said she liked me too. Now she refers to me as the only one she knows, calling me honey pie and other sweet names in the office but I'm not comfortable yet with that because I know she is still with her BF.
So one day I decided to ask her if she is still with her BF and she said yes they are still together but in the office she acts like I'm her BF.
Most times when she starts calling me those sweet names I feel like telling her to stop it because I know she is still very much with her BF and probably just trying to use me and spoil other chances I may have with other ladies in the office.

So my question is this
Should I tell her to go focus on being with her guy and stop making me feel like we are dating when clearly we are not

Please you people should try and comment, this is an account I had to create for anonymity

ubunja zinny25 magnoliaa jessysparkles blackivy27 funmmyastic can you shed some light on this issue

You are both adults... Conversation with her will be more appropriate rather than assumption.
Don't assume she is giving you green light by calling you sweet names. You will only be building Castle on air.

From the comments on the thread by females. It is safe to say women marry who is available and not who they love.


And some people will be worshipping women

It feels great to be male.

That's what we refer to as "Assistant boyfriend" I hope you understand?

If there is an atom of sense in you, then you should be able to decipher the word "MANIPULATION" When you see one.

Office romance is a stupid idea tbh

a man in his right sense would know when he is been used, i mean she be shagging that nigga and keeping your hopes up. i'll bet she would gladly snub you when that guy propose's.


if i find out that a girl am interested in is in a relationship (serious or not), i back out no matter how i feel about her.



use your 6th bro, its vital to direct.

SyberKate:
I think she wants you

She doesn't want him, she is using him to get over whatever pains she's having from her bf.

The girl Dy keep you as a fall back guy.

boiz2men:
From the comments on the thread by females. It is safe to say women marry who is available and not who they love.


And some people will be worshipping women

It feels great to be male.

Very insightful thank God I opened this up for discussion here.
I have learned a lot guys.

Though I already suspected that was what she was doing, now I will make her my own PLAN D