GerraMeh74:
Lala move to front page for Elders to comment.... Op but you no like progress? If the table turned and you are the lady who will you choose? A fresh graduate still hustling or a made man, with over 7 industries in Lagos? Please if you can kindly move on, allow your heart to heal and double your hustle.........

gracechellar:
Leave her and move on biko. There are many fishes � in the river

Charlesdmw:
. But i don't know what could have made her hate me just in this lockdown. She used to tell me she doesnt like the guy but all of a sudden , she's all he wants.. She's not even the material type

GerraMeh74:
every woman is the material type, that you were not providing it for her ,doesn't mean she is not the material type, maybe during the lock down the guy step in and was providing for her and the family,what every lady wants is guaranteed financial stability... Bros you have not even gone for NYSC, Omo road still far oh, just wish her well and move on.

Charlesdmw:
Pls i need your advise guys.. Theres this girl i met 2018 when i was in 300l. She was in 100l then. She wasn't the kind that was interested in a relationship but through naturalisation we started dating each other. We loved each other very well as we profess it and also act it. She's from Benue state , she always told me then that her parents don't want a Yoruba guy because of their experience with her Yoruba sister's husband but i told her not to worry . the love grew stronger and we had many challenges which we overcame. Now i am a graduate and she's in her 300l. She's a month older than me but was always very loyal and supportive. She even cried cos she didn't wanna leave me at school when the lockdown started but she had to go home.. Recently she started giving me attitudes . then later she told me she was bothered because her parents are forcing her and one igbo guy together. She said the guy is over 32 almost 10yrs older than her. She said the guys family have 7 industries in lag but I'm just a university graduate awaiting service..she said the guy usually come to her shop and give her mommy money. She said even the mommy call's him her husband. We spoke about it last week and she told me she would handle it better, the following day she told me she's moved on already. She really insulted me and wouldn't even entertain anything i tell her .. She blocked me . i really love her and wouldn't want her to have any problem.she said she started having issues with the guy but the mother keeps telling HER TO ENDURE. I don't know why she hates me so much now.. What could have happened?. Pls i need your advise on this..don't ignore.. REMEMBER I TOOK HER VIRGINITY

ecstasy357:


She doesn't hate you, she hates the fact that you act like your life revolves around her.

That capitalized phrase is almost laughable Did anybody tell you that taking that stuff guarantees you anything!!!

Anyway, let her go. She blocked you, accept it. Dont call, dont text, dont visit her... and if by chance she bumps into you, greet her and go on ya own merry little way.

Difficult to do, I know....but guy, get your self respect back and more importantly focus on developing you, she will come around..... they always do (I AM NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD PUT YOUR LIFE ON PAUSE WAITING FOR HER TO COME BACK, I'M SAYING THAT YOU SHOULD MOVE ON, abi na she disV you

LadySarah:
Don't worry, I will write it down in myv diary that you took her virginity.

Is the hymen with you?

Olunmercy56:
Just move on, she is after money. Her mother will still destroy your home if you get married to her

Humanoid01:
Many people find it difficult to move on when it seems like they've lost a dear person, but I'm starting to think that I have a problem because I move on too easily that it seems like that person was never there in the first place. This life nor just balance.

Charlesdmw:




ThNkz a lot boss.. She didn't DisV me...I'm a very fine boy and i have many girls that want me..i mean many but the hatred is what i have issues with

ecstasy357:


This is the problem with most fine boys, looks means almost nothing.... girls are attracted by what they hear not what they see.

Just stop being a simp, no pun intended

Fidelismaria:


<sup>I'm fresh out of advice



This means a lot as well</sup>

Olunmercy56:
Just move on, she is after money. Her mother will still destroy your home if you get married to her

ecstasy357:


Wow! You really think she is after money? He already narrated to us how she turned down guys with exotic cars and you still think money is all she is after.

Girl 1o1: Girls are naturally looking for security. This can be

Emotional security which the OP can provide,

financial security which he cant provide,

Stability I.e ability to remain centred in her moment of crisis. Girls will always have their ups and downs, their moments of uncertainty and they expect their man to be unmoved, but our dear op caved starts acting like he doesn't know himself or his worth.


Tell me dearie, how do feel when a group of guys are arguing and shouting then one guy with a calm voice spoke and everyone listens. Does that guy instantly becomes interesting to you or not?

Ability to remain stable is what most guys do not have

If you are interested in learning more about how to remain stable, let me know. I might talk more about it

MPESA:
Forget about love Baami, she earlier update you about the Tribe issue Yet you think say na joke.

Charlesdmw:



Now i believe how real it is.. Very real

MPESA:


Baami it's very real, come add am say her elder sister done get issue with her Yoruba man.

Charlesdmw:



She also told me that her younger sis of 18 years that hasn't even stepped into a uni has found her husband too. She said the guy took her to his pastor. The guy is 35yrs old.. Should i say her parents are being controlled by their Hausa minds?

Charlesdmw:
Pls i need your advise guys.. Theres this girl i met 2018 when i was in 300l. She was in 100l then. She wasn't the kind that was interested in a relationship but through naturalisation we started dating each other. We loved each other very well as we profess it and also act it. She's from Benue state , she always told me then that her parents don't want a Yoruba guy because of their experience with her Yoruba sister's husband but i told her not to worry . the love grew stronger and we had many challenges which we overcame. Now i am a graduate and she's in her 300l. She's a month older than me but was always very loyal and supportive. She even cried cos she didn't wanna leave me at school when the lockdown started but she had to go home.. Recently she started giving me attitudes . then later she told me she was bothered because her parents are forcing her and one igbo guy together. She said the guy is over 32 almost 10yrs older than her. She said the guys family have 7 industries in lag but I'm just a university graduate awaiting service..she said the guy usually come to her shop and give her mommy money. She said even the mommy call's him her husband. We spoke about it last week and she told me she would handle it better, the following day she told me she's moved on already. She really insulted me and wouldn't even entertain anything i tell her .. She blocked me . i really love her and wouldn't want her to have any problem.she said she started having issues with the guy but the mother keeps telling HER TO ENDURE. I don't know why she hates me so much now.. What could have happened?Even when we got frat threatened, she still made the most moves to ensure we were together. Pls i need your advise on this..don't ignore.. REMEMBER I TOOK HER VIRGINITY but she insisted her mom would never accept a Yoruba boy

SHE TOLD ME HOW HER OLDEST SISTER 35YRS IS STILL AT HOME UNMARRIED BECAUSE OF HER MOM'S INFLUENCE. I DONT WANT HER TO REGRET ANY OF HER ACTIONS.. She also told me that her younger sis of 18 years that hasn't even stepped into a uni has found her husband too. She said the guy took her to his pastor. The guy is 35yrs old.. Should i say her parents are being controlled by their Hausa minds?

MPESA:



Worryless about them , just concentrate on stepping up your game.

themaestro08:


So much baggage, garbage and chaos in a mere dating relationship. What for? Why not walk away and find someone who may even be better and without all the baggage?

That said, you appeared confuse and to some extent stupid. Imagine "she insulted me, I beg her, she cried" bla bla bla and all the drivel you wrote up there? What is wrong with you OP?