Vwoman200:
Please don't.allow it.
Take a firm stand about it.
It is your wife that should be moving in not your elder sister and her children. They will suffocate you oh.

How long are you going to live for them alone?
Don't you have plans of settling down?
What about your savings? Are you having any at all?
Your younger brother in school should help you by finding alternative ways to supporting himself financially.
If they come to live with you, then you have lost yourself. And it will be difficult to shake them off you if you don't do that now.

Remember, if you keep giving, they will keep taking.
Receivers have no receiving limits.
Thanks so much
I really appreciate. Blessed you
Think. About yourself for a second, try to have your own family if anything happens to you that you are unable to provide again who will come to your aid?
Abeg oh at 35, I think you should start being selfish so that you can also grow...
Family problems no dey finish

seborrhic:
That's the human selfishness at play.
She isn't even thinking of you and your own future,just hers alone.
It may not happen to you,and I wish it doesn't happen,but a man once told me how he helped the wife's brothers in school and largely facilitated their travel abroad.
Now they are financially well off,they don't even send the man and even if they want to help,it's just the sister when she asks for help.
What of the late husband's police pension?
Is she not receiving it?
If she is,let her stay over there,find something doing with part of the pension fund or if you have set her up with something.
If you can't resist the urge to come let her stay with you,she must find something to do to ease u of the burden.
But this maybe the type of woman that would be jealous of any woman you are dating or going out with,finding fault in all of them because she knows once you start a relationship,your partner will be needing or demanding some financial help and your sister knows once that starts to happen,your help on her own side will dwindle,if not completely stop,or if u are the weak type,you may be forced to delve into illegal things,to satisfy both sides.

seborrhic:
That's the human selfishness at play.
She isn't even thinking of you and your own future,just hers alone.
It may not happen to you,and I wish it doesn't happen,but a man once told me how he helped the wife's brothers in school and largely facilitated their travel abroad.
Now they are financially well off,they don't even send the man and even if they want to help,it's just the sister when she asks for help.
What of the late husband's police pension?
Is she not receiving it?
If she is,let her stay over there,find something doing with part of the pension fund or if you have set her up with something.
If you can't resist the urge to come let her stay with you,she must find something to do to ease u of the burden.
But this maybe the type of woman that would be jealous of any woman you are dating or going out with,finding fault in all of them because she knows once you start a relationship,your partner will be needing or demanding some financial help and your sister knows once that starts to happen,your help on her own side will dwindle,if not completely stop,or if u are the weak type,you may be forced to delve into illegal things,to satisfy both sides.

Kingjames:
Good morning elders in the house. #am not good at English. pls ignore all errors and concentrate on the message.

My immediate elder sister lost her husband( mobile police officer. He was shot by arm rubbers in edo state 2014 ) leaving 5 children behind ,the eldest been 15years old. My sister is unemployed. They have long relocated to the village since then with nothing!