Excelboi: You just want this boys should come here and start calling you a gold-digger. Why should he pay for everything? Are you guys married yet? Even married couple share responsibilities among themselves to support eachother. Life don't swing that way...

Idowuogbo: Wen it comes to spending dats wen u'll see dem drawing out the equality cards, majority of such example are wot u call d freeloaders not Men.

My dear, A man gats to know his sole duties without bin instructed.Dat said, a woman should also not be a liability unto Man just because she feels it's d guy duty to cover cost.IMO,spending should be reciprocal.

Shollypopz: it's so funny that you think this. i get very infuriated and caustic when a guy is asking me out and says the phrase "i want to take care of you". I'm like WTF?? do i look like i need someone to take care of me? lol, what can i say, i guess i can't kill you for having a different mentality. I know of many guys that would buy anything for their girl friends, i mean they have no limit on how much they spend, but they have absolutely no respect for the babe. The way they treat those girls is far from how a queen should be treated. The last thing i would ever want a guy i date to feel, is as long as he can get me that expensive wristwatch, he is alright. Personally, i don't need a guy to pay any of my freaking bills to make me feel like a queen
Just like you, I'm just saying.........

Idowuogbo: Wen it comes to spending dats wen u'll see dem drawing out the equality cards, majority of such example are wot u call d freeloaders not Men.

My dear, A man gats to know his sole duties without bin instructed.Dat said, a woman should also not be a liability unto Man just because she feels it's d guy duty to cover cost.IMO,spending should be reciprocal.

Shollypopz: it's so funny that you think this. i get very infuriated and caustic when a guy is asking me out and says the phrase "i want to take care of you". I'm like WTF?? do i look like i need someone to take care of me? lol, what can i say, i guess i can't kill you for having a different mentality. I know of many guys that would buy anything for their girl friends, i mean they have no limit on how much they spend, but they have absolutely no respect for the babe. The way they treat those girls is far from how a queen should be treated. The last thing i would ever want a guy i date to feel, is as long as he can get me that expensive wristwatch, he is alright. Personally, i don't need a guy to pay any of my freaking bills to make me feel like a queen
Just like you, I'm just saying.........

La Parisienne: Personally, I like to be treated like a Queen by my man. He's my soulmate, my best friend, my shield and my provider, all wrapped in one. As the head of our union, it's his responsibilty to care for me and to provide for me the best way he can (that's the traditional purpose for which God created the alpha male ). I know I can be high maintenace sometimes, but my man derives joy in pampering me. Now that's one hell of a responsible man who knows how to take care of his family

My duty is to love him back, respect him, appreciate his efforts, remain faithful to him and only him, help where I can and also spoil him with gifts once in a while.

I don't get it when some lame men want their women to pay 50% of their expenses, WTF
Why is she with a man then, isn't she better off alone?

Advice to the sistas: ensure that your man can take care of you, it's very important. Don't let some wimp take advantage of you

Just saying......................

Killz.:

Unless you are a wife to the aforementioned "Man", everything you wrote up there is what? Is Bullshit!

La Parisienne:

MRbrownJAY: sista Parisienne, there are few things in your post that stands out:

you wrote that it is your man's RESPONSIBILITY to care for your needs the best way he can, yet you write thereafter that he derives joy from pampering you......so my first question IS: which one is it? many men do stuff because they want to, and others against their will simply because some women demands it in order to stay in a r/ship........ how are you sure that your man actually enjoys doing it?

also, how does pampering you equates to "caring for his family" (if you guys aint married yet)? shouldnt you say care for his high maintenance GF?

and last but not least, dont you think that what you bring to the table is a little "weak", compare to his input in the r/ship? especially when after pampering you, he STILL has to love you back, respect you, appreciate your love, remain faithful to you and only you? unless of course there is something else he can do to balance paying for all your needs, that you aint telling us?

yes, some women deserve some gifts once in a while, but handing gifts for no damn reason is not a wise move.......... like children, it will just bring lazines and make someone ungrateful, instead of put value on rewarding a good deed.

La Parisienne: @Replies
LMFAO. Nah fight?
Was just bored yesterday, that's why I created this thread to keep me busy. I knew some folks will not hesitate to throw punches

Next Please

queensmith: Well my man must take care of me but I think we mean different things by that. I also take care of him. I don't believe he should pay my bills, I don't think he owes me anything and I certainly owe him newt.

His duty is to throw it down in the bedroom, watch gossip girl and not complain, listen to me moan all day, take me out whenever I want, and drive me and my friends around and not complain.
When we get married obviously it will be a completely different story, if i'm gonna push out a baby i'm going to be compensated heavily for it, thats a given. til then i'll maintain myself myself!

La Parisienne: @Replies
LMFAO. Nah fight?
Was just bored yesterday, that's why I created this thread to keep me busy. I knew some folks will not hesitate to throw punches

Next Please

La Parisienne:

queensmith:
When we get married obviously it will be a completely different story, if i'm gonna push out a baby i'm going to be compensated heavily for it, thats a given. til then i'll maintain myself myself!

La Parisienne: Personally, I like to be treated like a Queen by my man. He's my soulmate, my best friend, my shield and my provider, all wrapped in one. As the head of our union, it's his responsibilty to care for me and to provide for me the best way he can (that's the traditional purpose for which God created the alpha male ). I know I can be high maintenace sometimes, but my man derives joy in pampering me. Now that's one hell of a responsible man who knows how to take care of his family

My duty is to love him back, respect him, appreciate his efforts, remain faithful to him and only him, help where I can and also spoil him with gifts once in a while.

I don't get it when some lame men want their women to pay 50% of their expenses, WTF
Why is she with a man then, isn't she better off alone?

Advice to the sistas: ensure that your man can take care of you, it's very important. Don't let some wimp take advantage of you

Just saying......................

queensmith: Well my man must take care of me but I think we mean different things by that. I also take care of him. I don't believe he should pay my bills, I don't think he owes me anything and I certainly owe him newt.

His duty is to throw it down in the bedroom, watch gossip girl and not complain, listen to me moan all day, take me out whenever I want, and drive me and my friends around and not complain.
When we get married obviously it will be a completely different story, if i'm gonna push out a baby i'm going to be compensated heavily for it, thats a given. til then i'll maintain myself myself!

pendo89:
compensation for giving birth to your own child? You make it sound like a punishment.Perhaps I didn't understand what you meant.

It's good to have a willing paying your bills and stuff.Question is,will you be able to rise up, move on and maintain the same standard once he's out of your life? The reason why I believe a woman needs to be self sufficient is for her own good. Most of us unfortunately as shortsighted.
We enjoy fully today without preparing/insuring the future.
A calamity can strike any min and then what?

queensmith:

Yes compensated for giving birth to OUR child! Thats exactly what I meant. It is a physiological punishment I dont care what anybody says. I will be rewarded compensated pampered cherished etc etc etc.

queensmith:

Yes compensated for giving birth to OUR child! Thats exactly what I meant. It is a physiological punishment I dont care what anybody says. I will be rewarded compensated pampered cherished etc etc etc.