there so many things we can choose become, but the question is what do we finally settle for?

there so many things we can choose to become, but the question is what do we finally settle for?

Jezzy:

Homosexuality is a form of sexual immorality.I could go on and tell you what a beautiful person you are and how you are unique(you are) and how you should not let anyone put you down(don't ever) but if I said that and omitted the fact that the way you are headed leads to destruction,I wouldn't have done you any favors.My dear,think it through ok.Your emotions and desires shouldn't be the master of you.
I hope you think hard and long.Wishing you the best.

i do not dispute that. clearly thats why it bothers me. pls know that i have never live my life that way and i am not saying i intend to but i know i feel these things and i cannot deny it either. i really appreciate any suggestions u have on moving forward cos i have tried all i can.

Happy New Year, handell!      Are you starting this year off as a happier person?

Handell I really feel u and sincerely I feel so sorry and sad life is treating u this way. . U moved me to the point of tears.

I want to believe you have not exhaused all avenues of trying to become what God has created u to be. There is still hope my dear and please don't give up on hope. I'm a christian (wich i bliv u also r) bt I would like to go a little unconventional about this.

Gay pple exist everywhere. In som societies it is legalized and in some it is not. I guess u find urslf in a society where such is a taboo and abomonable and that's why u can't ril xpress urslf the way u would want to. It doesn't mean u r an outcast. U av tried to be like any oda human bt u dnt kno y u can't. It is not the end of the world my dear. God will help u and may He bless ur siblings and friend who are a rock to u.

This may sound weird but have u ever been in front of a naked (and drop dead georgeous) lady? Did u feel anything? Were u aroused?
If u avn't I want u to please give it a try and not jst once please, maybe 2ice or 3ice. Let the lady romance and caress you. It may not be approved by all bt pls try it. I want it to be the last confirmation you try and make. B4 u do it, talk to God about it, funny ba? Yes, talk to him about it and tell him to help you this one last time.

If nothing TRULY happens, then you av to accept urslf the way you are. Dnt let anytin or anybdy talk u down. Be urslf always and may the Almighty God be with u and bless u. May GOD really help you. Amen. God bless

Top-kin,which kin advice be this?In one breath you ask him to talk to God and in another you ask him to go before a gorgeous naked woman.Is it so he can commit fornication?Or so he can get aroused and just walk away?Doing that is very unnecessary.All the help he needs is in God.

Happy New Year,Handell.Remember to fight the battle one day at a time so that you won't be overwhelmed.Much love.

Jezzy:

Top-kin,which kin advice be this?In one breath you ask him to talk to God and in another you ask him to go before a gorgeous naked woman.Is it so he can commit fornication?Or so he can get aroused and just walk away?Doing that is very unnecessary.All the help he needs is in God.

Happy New Year,Handell.Remember to fight the battle one day at a time so that you won't be overwhelmed.Much love.

Jezzy, i didn't expect my advice to be accepted by all or any. It's jst my candid and sincere opinion. He has a choice to accept or reject. It's just an advice. Hope u cool. Cheers

Handell,

I hope I have this right, but I read a saying sometime that said:-

" God grant us the courage to accept the things we cannot change,
The strength to change the things we can, and
The wisdom to know the difference."

I wish you God speed.

@drri: happy new year 2u too. wishing you God's best in 2008! thanks 4 being a shoulder to cry on.

@top kin: thanks alot my brother, as crazy as ur advice was, it made me smile. . in latter part of my teenage years, i explored that option by watching alot of porn, hoping that the image of naked females would somewhat correct my sexuality. but later i realised it was way more than a sexual twist. i have had countless girls who give their left arm to have sex with me but i declined. like u said, God is in control and i do believe He alone can is able.

breed: ur sure right! one thing i can say is that the yrs have taught me that though i feel that way, i do not necessarilly need to live my life that way. i have to admit that i do get frustrated and tired alot but i never cave in. i just dont want to live my life fighting this battle every day.
i would kill to have a normal relationship, a family, my own kids, even a heartbreak no matter how bad but, am still waiting.


thanks alot, you guys really spurn me on to believe.

It's been 8 months--where are you, handell?

@Handell.....
I must confess to you! i feel your pain.

Your story reminds me of a course mate of mine, whom i had known was a gay, but still maintained my friendship with him. A year after our program, he opened up to me and told me how he has tried all he could to stop being gay.

He almost gave up by accepting that he was gay. At the verge, Hope came.

My friend, you are not born this way!!!! you are only a victim of circumstances by virtue of how your body has been taught to respond to sex.

I have heard series of gay story. Most of them turned out to be what they are by virtue of assaults which is more rampant in same sex school.(even though you didn't state yours @poster)

The moment you refuse to accept that you are gay,that moment you begin to experience freedom. Yes! while trying to do that, to you it appears you are telling yourself lies( that's how the devil wants you to feel) cut all supplies, get wise counsel, be disciplined, Go back to your source(THE WORD OF GOD)* you were created with the word, and if there is any deformity in you, it is the word of God that would repair it...Rom.12:1-2... My dear friend, don't give up! Cos God has not given up on you!!!!
be good!!!!