barely few days after discouraging one of my guy not chase a woman already in a relationship,
I met a lady who claim to be in relationship wt one NYSC dude currently serving.
I am done wt masters, working and ready to settle down for marriage. I will like to hear noble
views frm NLanders on how best to handle the situation.
I want the lady for marriage and not for hit-and-run

So all of a sudden is double standard because it has to do with you abi? You advise somebody not to do something, and then you want to do thesame thing you advised someone against. That's bias. Having said so, if you like the girl as you claim, why not give it a hit and see where it will lead to!