have u ever had ur privates fondled and done much more to, by an older cousin and/or an househelp (of the opposite sex) when u were less than 10years.
are u supposed to feel bad? and go for counselling? or is it confession?
cos i think i might have enjoyed it then, and i definitely don't feel bad about it.
or is it because am a guy?

just want ur views

well maybe its becaus u were young and dint know much about scruples

u enjoyed the sensation ryte? meaning ure a spoilt brat!

Haha, Yeah when I was abt 8 yrs or so, with the housegirl, One of the best early experiences, Hell I'm not complaining, Couple of yrs ago I wished I still kept info to finish off the innocent job she started then

so you claim you enjoyed it if you were a parent would you want that to happen to your child even if they enjoyed it

omega25red:

so you claim you enjoyed it if you were a parent would you want that to happen to your child even if they enjoyed it

That is the question!

Sexually abused girls tend to suffer more amotional truama than boys.
That said, antipeadophile legislation is far too weak in Nigeria anyway.

Of course no parent would want that to happen to their kid. As for me I didn't tell no one. Not out of fear but didn't want it to stop. Geez i saw boobies for the first time on a young 17yr girl.
Tho for the next  6 yrs after that  I became a peeping tom. At least I still turned out good eventually. I'm not into all that shrink stuff. If you need to pay for someone to talk to, grab a few true friends, go out drinking and spill your guts when u r all drunk. Case Closed.

olulu:

have u ever had your privates fondled and done much more to, by an older cousin and/or an househelp (of the opposite sex) when u were less than 10years.
are u supposed to feel bad? and go for counselling? or is it confession?
cos i think i might have enjoyed it then, and i definitely don't feel bad about it.
or is it because am a guy?

just want your views

Alot of children who experience this, end up integrating the experience into their view/values about sexuality; hence why its not suprise, that some do, end up being sexual predators themselves.
Children do develop abilities to experience relatively sexual feelings, wayyy before they become adults so, how is a 9 year old to know that what this grown adult had just done, isnt right, when it felt so good?
But enough about the child.
And no, you are not "supposed" to feel bad/ go for counselling/ anything, unless it has affected you negatively (which I assume that it would). Where it becomes difficult though, is when you dont feel like it has affected you, or when you have managed to "get over" it, and you never did tell anyone and then that person who did it to you, has a child.

Then, what do you do?