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Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Kobojunkie: 11:44pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
ibedun: Dasparrow - you are so right. Let them keep having their futureless children.OMGosh!!!! |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by ibedun: 11:44pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
Abbey2Sam, I will never become poor. Not in this lifetime and i wont take up issues with you. I dont carry baggages that are not mine and I avoid anything that would deplete my resources (and that includes the feckless extended family) We Africans are like a useless bunch of people who only know how to do one thing only - have babies they cannot take care of and create more heartbreaking poverty. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by ibedun: 11:49pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
kobojunkie - what i said is already happening. Parents are getting abandoned in their old age by their poverty striken -now grown up- children. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Kobojunkie: 12:46am On Sep 02, 2012 |
I am only laughing cause it might be the awakening these "parents" need. I mean even the so-called NEW GENERATION don't seem to have learnt anything . . . they are still having babies like rabbits. People still have dreams of having a big family but no one stops to think what happens if they are not able to adequately provide for all those kids, and guarantee them they have a go as a brighter future. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Mowire: 3:04am On Sep 02, 2012 |
@Ibedun, I believe you're least qualified to ever opine an advice on matters as this. You come across as an inhuman & arrogant person. I guess you also fed yourself from infancy through hardwork. Man there are people out there who more intelligent & more hardworking than you are but are not rich. You are atheist, I suppose? @oyibo, your husband's sibling are just not self respecting. Talk to your husband, patiently. As caring person he should reason out an amicable solution. @koboko, ku ise o. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by manosteel(m): 7:02am On Sep 02, 2012 |
@Mrs Oyinbo, I know how difficult and uncomfortable it could be especially this time in UK. Since you are already in it, you don't need to put up a fight or to be wearing a frowning face to show how displease you are. Just try to be the best you can, definitely, it won't be Permanent. You can talk it over with your husband, together, you provide necessary assistance to help them secure a job, get house of their and move out. If they are wise enough, they suppose to know that, as a married woman, you need to enjoy some level of privacy in your home. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by NeuroBoss(m): 8:25am On Sep 02, 2012 |
Madam, you,re African and you should try and resolve it the African way-making your husband understand on your knees. Thank God food is not the bone of contention especially the ever-increasing price of garri. #irepgarri.com |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Nobody: 8:32am On Sep 02, 2012 |
NeuroBoss: Madam, you,re African and you should try and resolve it the African way-making your husband understand on your knees. Thank God food is not the bone of contention especially the ever-increasing price of garri. For the umpteenth time, she's not African, she's Caucasean. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by stallion2: 8:37am On Sep 02, 2012 |
Mrs.Oyibo: |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Nobody: 12:51pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
[color=#000099][/color] @MRS OYIBO hold on to ur kind and concidering nature. -take it as if u are not just helping ur extended family. But also helping save souls. - i know u must have heard abt d un4tunate stories of d dreaded Islamic Sec Named Boko Haram (BIKO HARAM) here in 9ja. - would u love ur hubby's family to end up getting bombed by Boko Haram? - or would u preffer them to sterve their casava tommies to death becus of d increase in the price of garri (g.unite) here in 9ja? - learn to sacrifice most times, bt ofcource not blindly. -As 4 those of u who plan 2 kick dia porverty stricken parents away, Y'all are products of Anti-Christ. -Who told u dat ur mother neva tried or suffered 4 u? -do u have a clue on hw far they went or can go 4 ur 4king safety? -AS 4 me, i will mary my mum 1st b4 taking any Oyibo/Blacky in. -@all ma free-garri-hommies, am building a official site 4 #price-of-garri. -IF U CARE TO DEFEND D RIGHT OF GARRI IN 9JA, COME ON, LETS GET IT STARTED. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Kobojunkie: 1:28pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
NeuroBoss: Madam, you,re African and you should try and resolve it the African way-making your husband understand on your knees. Thank God food is not the bone of contention especially the ever-increasing price of garri. @Poster, if you ever bring yourself to this level, you are more than likely putting the lid on your marriage yourself. The last thing you need is to pretend that you are someone you are not. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by aribisala0(m): 2:40pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
Truckpusher: sorry to say this,from your written grammar and your English composition you are A TYPICAL BORN AND RAISED IN NAIJA LIKE ME ...SHUT UP.READ MY LIPS...Y.O.U. B.E N.A.I.J.A G.I.R.L you no be oyibo.Does not matter what she is and no one believes that anyway, People alter/modify details for all kinds of reasons e.g. anonymity etc. Even if the story is fictional the issues can still be debated |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by DANILSA(m): 4:24pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
Check this.
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Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by Kobojunkie: 4:32pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
DANILSA: Check this.That is not true. That is a lie people who are re-tarded make up. Your mother cannot take the place of your wife/husband unless you are a nimrod . . then |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by aribisala0(m): 5:29pm On Sep 02, 2012 |
Mowire: @Ibedun, I believe you're least qualified to ever opine an advice on matters as this. You come across as an inhuman & arrogant person. I guess you also fed yourself from infancy through hardwork.I agree he comes across as arrogant and could be more tactful but the sentiments he expresses are valid. I am not sure what being an atheist has to do with anything.Your conclusions that he must be atheist only expose your cognitive limitations. Some of the most humane and productive people have been atheists while many of the most evil people have been publicly declared Christians etc. Tai Solarin was an atheist and one of the most productive Nigerians ever. Nigerians as a bunch are the most religiose people you will ever come across and certainly among the most wicked. We must be careful not to confound religiosity with religiousness nor the latter with piety or elevated humanity. Let God not man judge man on godliness. |
Re: Living With Extended Family - Advice Badly Needed! by daliki: 8:35pm On Mar 19, 2013 |
Haaaaa sorry to say; really selfish man u gat there! Whose mother didn't suffer over her children Would he allow ur own family do the same?? Not even in d UK, where its every man to his own!!his family is his business, and yours yours too! So no spouse should frustrate the other with its own family issues..."A man shall leave his father and mother..and cling to his wife" and dey shall become 1!! If u are 1, such decisions must be mutual. Please ask ur own mother too, who suffered greatly over bringing you up to come and live with u unendingly and let's see reactions! |
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