I have really been wondering why this is common even when the mother-in-law is nice to other people. We all know that a mother is the first girl in the life of every man, so maybe the mothers always feel that one girl that just pops out of nowhere wants to take their ''baby boy'' from them for life, so they unconciously become hostile to the lady. This has made some ladies to vow never to get married to a guy whose mother is still alive.  This is not nice because they hope to be mothers-in-law someday & not to be dead before their sons get married. Please I will like to get various opinions on this issue. How una see am?

Mother-in-law worry thier daughters-in-law?

I don't know for them. After all they are all in-law!

in law------ lawyer

because they just cannot let go.
They still want to rule the house of their son all the way from their own home.
One would think they should have other things to attend to.
they want the wife to do every thing just their way.
when daughter in law is fed up and fights back, they cannot take it.
thats when they now declare war

i think is just natural,when this happens,the man must be very sensitive to this and handle it with maturity or else it could lead to some thing else.H e must be able to present the wife well to d mother and must consciously show that he love her even if she has some weakness. and he must not never give an impression to his wife that his mother is a problem.but if he fails to handle it maturely by reporting his wife to his mother,he is given his mother more power to control his home and might affect the self esteem of the innocent wife and might lead to the collapse of the home,which is what is happening in a lots of homes now.God should just help us.

it's mere jealousy, because mother in-laws feels that once their son gets married, the love and attention they usually get from their son will be diverted to the wife

Doesnt happen if the guy makes it clear to his mom that his wife deserves respect but when you have a mama's boy who always cries to his mother about his wife, how else should the wife treat the woman?

I think its mere jealousy like zeebu said. They feel they r old especially wen d mil is the type dt painted d town red during her young days. D sons wife shld ask for d wisdom of God. Dnt get too close, dnt be too far. Respect her as a mother afterall u ave a mother too. Remember wat goes around comes around.

Most men should drop thier mom's breast and be the man of thier homes. most men are mama's boys and give way for thier moms to control thier homes and frustrate thier innocent wives.

It's basically insecurity. They want to assert themselves as being the first woman in their son's life and will do anything to make sure that the wife takes some notes on who the "boss" is.
I remember when my husband's mum came after I had my child He would ask if I wanted him to buy for instance orange and pineapple juice as usual and she would say no "you people are consuming too much sugar, or no I want mango juice" and he would either not get any at all or get ONLY mango juice. And she has this "Are you a learner?" look on her face.
Like most people have said tho men should untie themselves from their mother's apron strings and MAN up; not supporting the wife when she is wrong but protecting her from being "downtrodden".