i am frigid.
in plain language i don't enjoy sex at all though i enjoy pre-intimacy at times.
av seen some cousellors and tried all the relaxative techniques recommended.
is there any medical way out.

maybe your guy doesnt know what he's doing.

what about it dont you like? any traumatic experiences from the past?

ThiefOfHearts:

maybe your guy doesnt know what he's doing.

what about it don't you like? any traumatic experiences from the past?

That condition is real, it's been copiously described in medical textbooks. Also, it has nothing to do with her guys skills or lack thereof. Causes include past abuse/trauma, chemical inbalance, etc.

damilolami:

i am frigid.
in plain language i don't enjoy sex at all though i enjoy pre-intimacy at times.
av seen some cousellors and tried all the relaxative techniques recommended.
is there any medical way out.

Your best bet is to continue therapy as you have been doing. You'll learn different types of relaxation excersise. If you're married, be sure to take your husband along, he might understand. A steady boyfriend would also do.

The female version of viagra is currently being tested, hopefully, in no time women like you would have pharmaceutical assistance.

Care to quote where I said the condition wasnt real?

Make we try help the poster now.

Damilolami fara bale so gbo,

It seems you re a bit confused and want to try anything.

I saw one post in this same health section where a guy was advertising his pre mature ejaculation drugs that you wanted to buy.

Just take it easy and what ever it is that you re going thru,i know by Gods Grace you ll come and give us the testimony here in nairaland

A wa pelu e oooo

hi
i understand to an extent what u re going thru, though you were not very detailed,what you re goin thru is referred to as vaginismus.which has to do with sexual pain,tightness even penetration difficullty.there re 2 classes primary which is impossibility of penetration and secondary which probably relates to u.
u probably need to c a sexologist.if u no of any in nigeria let me no.the topic is actually more vast than the above just surf 4 more info.goodluck and pls be careful as i understand dat people are wrongly diagnosed of dis but trust me its a condition dat is 100% treatable without surgeries and drugs.

@ poster

hi dear,you have to make you are indeed frigid before.there are factors i'd like to call 'symptoms' of frigidity.the main one being lack of sexual desire.in most women,there are times of the month when the libido hits a peak.for some it may be just before or after their monthly flow. A woman is said to be completely frigid if at no time during the month she experiences this rise in libido.

It may be that you feel a certain pain on penetration or at anytime during coitus and so there is a subconcious fear of feeling this pain.this also is a reason for frigidity. whatever it may be however,the best option is to discuss with your husband and talk about it frankly.
Mosr people believe that frigidity is of the mind.this is why i think it should be discussed with your partner.

there are hormonal drugs which can be taken to alleviate this 'condition' .i have some constraints listing them here;and that is aside from the fact that these hormonal substances also have their side effects.they may not be readily purchased OTC. i dont know how good you are with herbal or homeopathic medicine.
there is st john's wort and then again you have the passiflora.these will definitely help if frigidity is caused by anxiety or anything emotional. The good thing about the natural approach is that there is no known side effects.

i hope you are satisfied damilolami.i have other tips,but time would not permit me to list them all.i still think you should have a chat with you ''bobo'' as regards this. relax before a session of lovemaking.i bet you,you'll enjoy it like i do
ciao

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amsky:

@ poster

hi dear,you have to make you are indeed frigid before.there are factors i'd like to call 'symptoms' of frigidity.the main one being lack of sexual desire.in most women,there are times of the month when the libido hits a peak.for some it may be just before or after their monthly flow. A woman is said to be completely frigid if at no time during the month she experiences this rise in libido.

It may be that you feel a certain pain on penetration or at anytime during coitus and so there is a subconcious fear of feeling this pain.this also is a reason for frigidity. whatever it may be however,the best option is to discuss with your husband and talk about it frankly.
Mosr people believe that frigidity is of the mind.this is why i think it should be discussed with your partner.

there are hormonal drugs which can be taken to alleviate this 'condition' .i have some constraints listing them here;and that is aside from the fact that these hormonal substances also have their side effects.they may not be readily purchased OTC. i dont know how good you are with herbal or homeopathic medicine.
there is st john's wort and then again you have the passiflora.these will definitely help if frigidity is caused by anxiety or anything emotional. The good thing about the natural approach is that there is no known side effects.

i hope you are satisfied damilolami.i have other tips,but time would not permit me to list them all.i still think you should have a chat with you ''bobo'' as regards this. relax before a session of lovemaking.i bet you,you'll enjoy it like i do
ciao

Well Said!!

@poster
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2 things - Body or mind
Body: female circumcision removes a variable portion of the pleasure causing structures - clitoris, labia, center of gravity.
your partner probably doesn't know about the different erogenous (delicious) zones of your body and how to arouse them all.
If you do, don't hesitate to tell him what you enjoy. Find out what parts of you respond to manipulation.
you may have a hormone deficiency. Easily tested at any good lab. Try Union diagnostics ajeromi, olodi.
your job is stressful and you're tired most of the time. Rest and nutritious food. avoid junk. plenty of fruits.

Mind: You're too worried about this. Step away, forget about sex for a few months. Easier if u're single or have an understanding mate.
Concentrate on the more fundamental parts of a relationship. Arousal and climax are easier when you're deeply in love.
Good luck