Mynd_44: Beauty is subjective.

richarts: It happens to some people like that sha. Bt I dnt av ansas as 2 hw 1 can b like dat except that 1 shud just focus on his or her gifts & what the person is best at rather than beauty.

claremont: It will interest you to know that most of the so-called ladies you accuse of resorting to plastic surgery actually do spend donkey hours in the Gym to get their fit bodies. Most black ladies just can't be arsed doing any physical activity because they have an innate assumption that black men like obese, unfit, and unshapely black women. Black ladies would rather sit on a couch all day watching X-factor and Britain's Got Talent while consuming copious quantities of takeaways, rather than go work out in a Gym.

If there are components of your body you are not comfortable with, do something about it.

carefreewannabe: Beauty is subjective.

claremont:
I would rather argue that the evidence suggests that beauty is very objective. There are worldwide acceptable physical qualities that most men desire in a female. A man who says that beauty is subjective and hence would rather prefer obese, unfit, and unshapely black women is clearly ignorant. Most of the models we see on TV have not done any cosmetic surgery whatsoever, they ooze self-confidence because they know that they conform to universally accepted standards of beauty.

ogugua88: I don't think anyone feels confident 24/7. They have their moments too, just that they know how to conceal it. It's only human.

c.fours:
I consider myself average looking but on some days like this when I'm suffering from PMS, all I see is an ugly girl with a big stomach, fat and flabby arms, ugly face, ugly body,ugly hair,in fact, ugly everything! I thought it was normal to feel this way about oneself once in a while until... I met this lady who is extremely overconfident in her looks 24/7. She thinks she's the most beautiful person on earth and guess what? She looks 10x worse than me!! Don't you find this funny? How does one become that confident oneself.
Anybody met a person like this? They're so ugly but so comfortable with themselves that their confidence actually makes them appear very beautiful. I want some of what they're inhaling.
I've met guys like that too who are quite ugly but they are so confident (swag, as they call it) and that makes them so much better looking.
How does one reach that stage of confidence in oneself? Is it a case of 'ignorance is bliss' where they don't know that they are ugly? or is it a mental illness where they can't interpret the reality of their ugliness?
I pity them sometimes.... No, I don't pity them. I envy them.

claremont:
I would rather argue that the evidence suggests that beauty is very objective. There are worldwide acceptable physical qualities that most men desire in a female. A man who says that beauty is subjective and hence would rather prefer obese, unfit, and unshapely black women is clearly ignorant. Most of the models we see on TV have not done any cosmetic surgery whatsoever, they ooze self-confidence because they know that they conform to universally accepted standards of beauty.

c.fours:
thanks guys! @esp queensmith
I was just having a very very bad day then.
It didn't help that I had about 5 copies of vogue magazine laying on and around my bedside. Way to depress by bloated self at the moment. Of course my period came a few days later. LOL

queensmith:

i hear psychologies is a good magazine. I hear you on the this stuff! Alot of women share these issues, it's important to talk about them, don't hesitate to email me if you feel this way again its something I love to do!

Also there are some awesome books that might make a decent replacement for these magazines if you are interested in social studies, the beauty myth might give you better perspective on things.

ogugua88: I don't think anyone feels confident 24/7. They have their moments too, just that they know how to conceal it. It's only human.