The choice of a life partner is one of the most challenging things, some men and woman are facing today. These problems had resulted into wrong choice or selection of a wife or husband. In this write-up, you shall seek to explore in details some of the reasons why people have had unsuccessful marriages.
Lust of the flesh is one of the reasons why various individuals hadn't had a successful marriage. Lust of the flesh by definition is a strong or excessive desire for sexual gratification. The Bible also describes it as a bad appetite. 1 Peter 2:11 says, Abstain from fleshy lusts, which war against the soul. Instead of you using courtship to nurture friendship, commitment and enduring qualities like Godly character, virtue, integrity and compatibility. Some couples indulge in premarital sex and sexual pleasures, forgetting that casual sex will result in a casual relationship. Strong emotions will not produce strong commitment, just as compromise cannot produce total dedication in marriage. Sex only cheapens a relationship and breeds suspicion, disappointment, sorrow, stress, emptiness and many other destructive emotions, and will therefore lead to failure or unsuccessful marriages.
Lust of the eyes is another concrete issue that has led to failure in marriages; The Amplified Bible describes it as greedy longings of the mind. When a young man marries a lady, without really caring for her just because she is from a rich background, and when a lady marries a man only because he is rich and well to do and she can thereby assure herself of a comfortable life, she is succumbing to the lust of the eyes. Many people have married others because they had means that would help them escape their own adverse circumstances. This is lust. Marriages based on this quickly run into troubled waters.
The pride of life is another reason why some marriages are unsuccessful. The Holy Bible describes this as assurance in one's own resources or in the stability of earthly things. It is destructive insecurity that makes people want to assert themselves over others. Therefore they are never able to truly love and respect another person. Yet respect is the very foundation of a successful marriage. There has to be a great deal of respect for each other in any successful relationship. Respect involves caring about the other person's best interest and not pushing only for personal gain. Yet people, because of who they are, marry certain people or into certain circles because they believe those people are the ones who are good enough for them. They have a false and inflated idea of their own importance. They are not interested in giving or contributing to another person's life. A man may therefore marry, not because he loves and respects a woman, but because he wants a wife who will satisfy he's sexual desires, legally cook he's food, improve he's financial position and others.

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