hello

can someone please talk to me because am losing my mind, am happily married to a beatiful lady and yet i still find myself harrasshing guesss who?, lady cleaner in my office. though i have never slept with any of them but i usually want to just smooch them , i know this is wrong sometimes i stop for a while and later start it again. most of them usually rejects but i try not threaten them, please what do i do

ehn ehn. . .this NL sef, ur wife no get breasts abi?
one day this thing wey dey push you will make you smooch a Policewoman on the streets or better still a 14 year old gurl wey just dey get breasts.

YOU WILL DIE IN JAIL!!!
Ashewo!

i beleive one the reason why people open up here is to be help and counselled, he knows what he's doing is not good and if you understood h

unclebros this is a very terrible thing. what is it that you find in the cleaners that is not present in your wife? i think you should search within yourself. pls this can be your waterloo.just keep off the cleaners before your ruin your home.are they prettier than your wife,neater or slimmer,sexier?whatever it is,you can help it.imagine being caught smooching a cleaner at work and your wife getting wind of it.i fear for you.
hang in there.

beleive one the reason why people open up here is to be help and counselled, i know what am doing is not good and if you understood my submission you would realise that i really want to stop and infact am trying very hard. all is i need is someone to help and not to be crucified because really none of us is sinless. yours may not be this but i bet you have some hidden stuffs in your life.

Sorry about that. . .Consult a Pastor quick if you cant stop by urself.
Hope thats fair enuff?

bebe2007:

I would say its your sexual fantasy to sleep with cleaners there is no other logical explanation for your actions. Seek professional HELP!!!!!

Yes, I agree with bebe2007.

In as much as I think you need prayers to break this terrible habit, you sure do need professional help.

We often overlook shrinks and psychologist in this country and anybody who uses them (especially psychiatrists) is regarded as being mad. But this is because we regard madness as some sort of taboo in Nigeria. If we were to look at madness like any other illness, we'll seek help in the appropriate chanele.
If you ask me, I'll say this is some sort of psychological or psychiatry problem and you need professional help.

You also need to pray and pray hard but remember,you must pray and watch; that is, seek help in the appropriate chanel.

@poster

Sack all the female cleaners in your office and replace them with male cleaners _{if you have the guts!}

If your right hand will cause you to sin, cut it off!

@opokonwa
I don't think making the poor harmless cleaners jobless would solve the problem here. If there's any changing to be done, it is with our bros here.

@poster
Were u ever abused as a child? Abused people often abuse others later in life if they nevr dealt with it or got counsel and professional help.
Like Yimiton said, seek professional help (psycologists and psychiatrists). Aint nothing wrong.
BUt mainly, ask God for help to overcome the temptation. Are you born-again?

@real_Demi
are you a pastor
been noticing the tone of ur posts. . .ure the Number 1 holy holy of Nairaland o.
Keep it up sha. Nice one coming from a lady

You seriously neeed deliverance.
What do u honestly think could be attracting u to a cleaner?

This isnt a laughing matter o - you need to address this issue before it gets u in trouble.
What even trips u about the cleaners? Is it their uniform or their lipstick or what?

May God be with u my brother. . . . .thats all i can offer!

U need 2 exercise some self control, its in the primitive male species to want to sample varieties of ass, the refined man just learnt to excercise self control, and we know how primitive the modern 'refined' man can be. stay away from the girls physically as much as possible and guy ,have u even bothered to PRAYYY?

@real_demi

I understand where you're coming from.
Mine is not the best of measures but in this situation, we are looking for what works immediately not the utopian.

This guy is obviously 'sick'. He even harasses them into subnission.

So b/f he can seek psychological help or even get born-again like you advised, he should get the temptation off his face and as far away as possible.

Then medical and spiritual therapy might take-over.

Better the cleaners lost their jobs than they risked adultery or even rape. Sexual harassment is aggravated here

@tkb417
U been dey follow me around?
I'm not a pastor sha. Just a rescued sinner.
LOL

@opokonwa
well, u might have a point there so that the ladies don't het raped b4 help rescues our brother from desolation.

@ poster

Just go for deliverance.

guy ur problem is simple.
buy some dry pepper and put in a small snuff box.
anytime u have those erotic thots,mix a little of the dry pepper with water and rub on your private part.
the thots would mellow down.
i tried it when i was having similar problems and it worked.
all the best

@ Poster

Oooh, oh, oh , oh ,oh, oh , oh

You be KOLOMENTAL

@ Poster

U better pray hard, whether the cleaner don put tiro for eye so that u will keep chasing her.

@ Poster

U better pray hard, whether the cleaner don put tiro for eye so that u will keep chasing her.

na wah oh

Nothing but greediness and stupidity…, besides, if u’re happily married like u claim, you won’t have any time to be sexually harassing women.

I’d say u decide if u really love ur wife or not? Is the embarrassment and degrading ursef really worth it?
Think about that and put ur mind straight if u wanna go thru all that hassles or not.