I never thought this can be happening now,there was a lady i was dating while i was in school,i have never loved any lady the way i loved her and even up till now. The parent and the brother thought i just wanted to use and dump her but i sincerely loved this babe. To cut the story short,we broke up then and we were never on talking terms for three years but all these years,i kept asking her to come back but she refused but later she did came back but just as a friend. She married a guy about six months ago and now the marriage has crashed and she has been disturbing me since then pleading to come back to me. Though i truly love this babe but i am more than confuse on what to do.

Power has now shifted to your side, you are free to dictate as you wish: If you want her back, take her; if you want revenge use her and dump her, the choice is all yours.

Personally, if I were you I'd choose neither; I'd rather move on than settle as her 2nd best choice or accept somebody's sloppy seconds.

TAKE HER BACK. ITS OBVIOUS SHE IS THE LOVE OF URE LIFE AS THE STARS HAVE RULED IN URE FAVOUR. DONT WASTE TIME O!

u said She married a guy about six months ago and now the marriage has crashed,
why did u break up with her? u need to think abut that befor u take her back
why the marriage crashed? u need to ask her
why she need u back? she need to explain
why do u want to accept her back? remember u said she married and crashed,
crashed is not separation she still a married women if she haven't separat from her husb
maybe i will come back to tell u my mind if u answer my q

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u said She married a guy about six months ago and now the marriage has crashed,
why did u break up with her? u need to think abut that befor u take her back
why the marriage crashed? u need to ask her
why she need u back? she need to explain
why do u want to accept her back? remember u said she married and crashed,
crashed is not separation she still a married women if she haven't separat from her husb
maybe i will come back to tell u my mind if u answer my q

Like i stated in my op,she left because her brothers and siblings told her i will only use her and dump her and they also threatened me to leave their sis then and we both decided to let go,she said the divorce has taken place and she took that step cos the hubby has turned her to a punching bag in the space of just six month.

@EREKERE
her brothers and siblings told her i will only use her and dump her and they also threatened me


this is reason why u break up with her
are they not going to threat u again
bro's u are a man of ur own and is u that we live with her
marriage is all about choice and decision,but befor u marry her
u need to apply wisdom and ignor what ur family and friend's we say
check if u are able to let the pass go
gudlucky bro's

@op
IMHO, you should never take her back. That lady never stood by you when it was important for her to do so. If she believed that you didn't deserve her when in her prime, then why does she suddenly believe it is ok to be with you now that she is soiled good?! (yes, that's what she is in the eyes of most Nigerians)

I think the only reason she comes back to you is because she knows that most in Nigeria will look at her as soiled goods, but you won't.

If I was the OP I would simply tell the gal to go ask her family

guy just move on with ur life abeg.. read in between the lines and dont be fooled.. Anywayz, good luck

Singing ... my mother told me not to play with fire reason fire will burn you.

I think u should not take the girl back.she should face the consequences of letting her mum and brother decide for her.what on earth happened to her 6months old marriage,dats kinda too early

Think well though it seems the both of u are meant for each other.

op what if you were married where would she have run to?

Hell No! dont take her back, u r jst her plan B as plan A has hit d rock bottom. It's ur choice anyway. Gudluck!

If you really love her and don't mind marrying a divorcee, then go ahead. If I was you, I honestly wouldn't because I'll always feel like second best. She knew I loved her with all I had but still went on to marry some one else. divorcees ar not the latest thing. Most people would not prefer them. She knows her worth now ghats why she wants to"settle" for you. thats what.I'm thinking though. on the other hand, you guys could be made for each other and she just made a horrible mistake. What ever decision you choose, you will have to live with it for the rest of your life. No pressure, choose wisely

erekere: I never thought this can be happening now,there was a lady i was dating while i was in school,i have never loved any lady the way i loved her and even up till now. The parent and the brother thought i just wanted to use and dump her but i sincerely loved this babe. To cut the story short,we broke up then and we were never on talking terms for three years but all these years,i kept asking her to come back but she refused but later she did came back but just as a friend. She married a guy about six months ago and now the marriage has crashed and she has been disturbing me since then pleading to come back to me. Though i truly love this babe but i am more than confuse on what to do.

Are u a xtian? If yes read Matt 5v32.

Beync: op what if you were married where would she have run to?

This question should help the op to make his choice.
If her marriage failed just within six months, what gives u d assurance that if u marry her it‘s gonna work?

tashanja: Power has now shifted to your side, you are free to dictate as you wish: If you want her back, take her; if you want revenge use her and dump her, the choice is all yours.

Personally, if I were you I'd choose neither; I'd rather move on than settle as her 2nd best choice or accept somebody's sloppy seconds.

#gbam! Spot on.
U really should get out of my head.

190-the-clown:
where is BENYC

what happen to her?