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Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by MyneWhite1(f): 4:20pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
When I tell people that I write romance novels or that I blog mostly about issues in relationships, the next question from some of them is whether I'm married and for how long. I am sometimes tempted to answer in the negative to hear what they will say, but the replies when I answer truthfully gives me a pretty good idea. The assumption is that I should know what I'm talking about since I'm living it. But is it really true that married people have more wisdom about relationship matters? Read in full - http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/2012/07/does-marriage-confer-special.html |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by maclatunji: 4:51pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
It's all tied to intelligence or should we say aptitude. Some people are just poor learners and may be married for 30 years and still give terrible relationship advice or how do you explain married mothers who encourage their daughters to marry dying old men instead of a young suitor that is responsible and caring. #Justasking. 3 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by greatgod2012(f): 8:54pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
To answer ur question: YES! WHY? because what u dont have, u cant give, how and what are u going to tell smbody who is having issues to settle with her hubby,when u dont have any experience to share, so in my own opinion, i think married pple are more experienced in relatnship matters than singles. There was a time,(b4 i got married), dt i was a sunday school teaccher, on a particulr sunday, d topic we will have teat had to do with marriage,i walk straight to d pastor to inform him dt i could not teach d topic, because i wasnt married, he wanted to force it on me, claiming dt i was intelligent, but i declined outrightly. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by pendo89(f): 9:33pm On Oct 22, 2012 |
Differentiate the two>> experience and wisdom. Not all married people have wisdom and the unmarried lack experience. Are u better of listening to a married fool or an inexperienced but wise person? tricky and I am tempted to say neither,so what I do is,take in what works in my situation and spit the rest no matter what the status of the source is. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Nobody: 10:27am On Oct 23, 2012 |
@OP HELL NO!!! it all have to do with the individual. every donkey out there can be married, yet it wont make them any wiser when it comes to r/ships. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by CuntDestroyer: 4:09pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
no. only regrets 2 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by SELFWORTH: 4:13pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
greatgod2012: To answer ur question: YES!There is no guarantee. Wisdom is from God. It's like saying the elderly are wiser because of their age. Age is nothing but a number. They may have more experienced than singles but it doesn't make them any wiser. That's why you see people divorce more than once . You can tell they haven't learnt anything from their previous mistake. 6 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by princeonx: 4:17pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
I don't know if wisdom is the right word to use! I would've prefer saying knowledge. And when I say knowledge, that simple mean knowledge of each other not every marriage out there. I have said this in few threads about relationship and am saying it again, No two marriages or relationships are the same! Even if you both/guys are a set of twins. What works for your twin sister or brother might not work in your own marriage/relationship. Study your partner and know what they like or dislike and when there's problem, let others including family be your very last option. Things that worked for your parent or friends might even cause you more problem if you implement them in yours! 4 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by SELFWORTH: 4:21pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
CuntDestroyer: no. only regretsNot all of them though! |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Okijajuju1(m): 4:21pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Not really.. Marriage is like love.. Has no set in stome manual for how it is supposed to work.. No two marriages are the same.. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by honeric01(m): 4:25pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
The OP should change the "wisdom" to "experience". For now, i don't have any long comment but i should say: WISDOM is a rare commodity and whether being single or married does not give you access to it.. only few are wise. But experience can only be gotten from those who have walked the walk or those who have walked along with those who walked the walk. 3 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by OkwaIfugo(m): 4:26pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
marriage is not the basis for wisdom. wisdom is a gift which anyone no matter the age limit can have. 2 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by SELFWORTH: 4:29pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
prince_onx: I don't know if wisdom is the right word to use! I would've prefer saying knowledge. And when I say knowledge, that simple mean knowledge of each other not every marriage out there. I have said this in few threads about relationship and am saying it again, No two marriages or relationships are the same! Even if you both/guys are a set of twins. What works for your twin sister or brother might not work in your own marriage/relationship. Study your partner and know what they like or dislike and when there's problem, let others including family be your very last option. Things that worked for your parent or friends might even cause you more problem if you implement them in yours!absolutely true. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by kambah(m): 4:29pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
its true coz married people knw exactly how it feel and pinch 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by tomakint: 4:30pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Myne White: When I tell people that I write romance novels or that I blog mostly about issues in relationships, the next question from some of them is whether I'm married and for how long. I am sometimes tempted to answer in the negative to hear what they will say, but the replies when I answer truthfully gives me a pretty good idea. For where, for the mere fact that you are married does not equip you with more wisdom on relationship, you may have some experiences above someone not married, but most times married people still engage in many 'illicit acts' not expected of them, so where is the wisdom? 3 Likes |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by chalyotas(m): 4:50pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Dat u re married does not implies u knowing much about relationship. Information gathered and individual personality matters. Myne White: When I tell people that I write romance novels or that I blog mostly about issues in relationships, the next question from some of them is whether I'm married and for how long. I am sometimes tempted to answer in the negative to hear what they will say, but the replies when I answer truthfully gives me a pretty good idea. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by lucom: 4:56pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Yes (as expected) but No (with what you see around in this society. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Roland17(m): 5:04pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
20 years of Dating and cohabiting without legally, customarily or religiously getting married can never be compared to to a couple who have been married and living together for a week, Marriage itself is courage that brings wisdom. If i need advice on Marital issues, i would be confiding with couples whose marriage has been tested over the years and have matured into it, am talking about old couples with huge experience. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Mckybarf(m): 5:10pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
I do believe they do especially if 'experience is the best teacher' adage holds. Married have gone the double mile of courting and living as man and wife. They sure ought to know more. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
^^^^ think of what you just wrote, and imagine the following scenario: the first couple dated for 3 yrs, got married for the next 7yrs, the second couple dated for 10yrs.....and then come and tell us why you would automatically assume that the first couple have more wisdom about relationship than the second one. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by cowgurl: 6:44pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Yeah some of them do. 'v spoken to a trusted few about their challenges and I must confess talking with them has helped me plan ahead. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Donbrig: 6:46pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Not certainly wisdom, but experience. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by vanbonattel: 7:34pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
tomakint: If you are not married, you have only seen the tip of the proverbial iceberg! The realities of marriage will shock you to your bone marrows when you get in. There is nothing you know about marriage till you get married, just wait and see. 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Nobody: 7:35pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
No. See Jesus. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by vanbonattel: 7:37pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ think of what you just wrote, and imagine the following scenario: arrant nonsense, the lady in the second scenario will still be pretending like an actress! Till she says "I do" on the alter, then you will see who your wife really is! 1 Like |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by vanbonattel: 7:40pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
tomakint: Do you even know what marriage means? |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by vanbonattel: 7:44pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
SELFWORTH: There is no guarantee. Wisdom is from God. It's like saying the elderly are wiser because of their age. Age is nothing but a number. They may have more experienced than singles but it doesn't make them any wiser. That's why you see people divorce more than once . You can tell they haven't learnt anything from their previous mistake. How many times do guys change girlfriends on the average? sometimes 7 times, and you are here talking of one or two divorces. |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by vanbonattel: 7:53pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
pendo89: Differentiate the two>> experience and wisdom. The married fool may not have started that way, he may have been turned from a brilliant young banker/fast rising businessman to a broke, sacked, disgraced, bitter ex convict and drunk fool by his nagging wife. You have to listen to the married fool before you end up like him! |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by princeonx: 7:55pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ think of what you just wrote, and imagine the following scenario: van bonattel:In addition to the above comment, the guy probably can count how many times he had spoken to or been in the present of the girls parents during those 10yrs not to talk of spending a week or a month under one roof with each others family or parents. In other words, you can date for 10yrs and not have the experience of those married for 10 months! |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Nobody: 9:33pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Spending a week or a month with each others family?a week is sensible but a month ![]() |
Re: Do Married People Have More Wisdom About Relationships? by Johndoe100(m): 11:01pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
Children, children, children. Why of course teenagers and people in their twenties have infinitely more wisdom than their elders. Is it not our tradition to turn to the young and inexperienced when we are troubled or in need of advice? My people have seen the error of their ways and have wisely replaced the council of elders with the council of youngsters. 1 Like |
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