A fifteen years old young girl named Islamiyat has been forced to marry an old man. According to young girl, her father withdrew her from school, forced her to wear the purdah garment and got her engaged to a very old man.... Plsssss, Young Islamiyat needs help but we don't know where to go... Anybody with advice on how to go about it should pls heeellllllp....

Which state?

ifyalways: Which state?

Lagos state... Pls it's urgent, this girl has no where to go, no relative!!! Nobody, pls guys, help, they have involved the police but it's the usual bull crap. Sh.it associated with Nigerian police

bolakale30:

Lagos state... Pls it's urgent, this girl has no where to go, no relative!!! Nobody, pls guys, help, they have involved the police but it's the usual bull crap. Sh.it associated with Nigerian police

The best she can do for herself is run. If she goes to the Lagos State social services department, they may take her back to her parents and try to resolve the matter. But it looks like the parents have already collected bride price they may not be willing to pay back. She can find a good family who will send her to school, and hire herself out as a housemaid. Preferrably for a widow. At least till she is 18, and then she is an adult with the power to reject her family and face the world on her own which would not be easy at all. Don't leave her alone, support her and follow her progress. Be her point of contact. Am sure she can make it. . Sometimes God puts us in people's lives to save them and help them. May you be greatly rewarded.

baby_123:

The best she can do for herself is run. If she goes to the Lagos State social services department, they may take her back to her parents and try to resolve the matter. But it looks like the parents have already collected bride price they may not be willing to pay back. She can find a good family who will send her to school, and hire herself out as a housemaid. Preferrably for a widow. At least till she is 18, and then she is an adult with the power to reject her family and face the world on her own which would not be easy at all. Don't leave her alone, support her and follow her progress. Be her point of contact. Am sure she can make it. . Sometimes God puts us in people's lives to save them and help them. May you be greatly rewarded.

I agree with u, however, the only person that wants to take her is not willing to send her to school and this girl is kinda willing to go to school. The girl stays in my street, a friend to my younger sister, if the father should knw I have her daughter it won't be funny... Kinda dicey

Can the mod pls help us move this to the front page

bolakale30:
I agree with u, however, the only person that wants to take her is not willing to send her to school and this girl is kinda willing to go to school. The girl stays in my street, a friend to my younger sister, if the father should knw I have her daughter it won't be funny... Kinda dicey

Please, don't give her to anyone who will abuse her and don't request to put this on the front page. Who knows who is on NL that knows her family? In this day and age anyone that doesn't educate their help is very demonic in my opinion. It is slavery because they don't want the person to ever be equipped with life skills or grow in life. I could have offered help as our housegirl shakara don dey too much sef and she is the same age. She's totally spoiled. But my mum may hesitate taking someone without their families conscent. If she doesn't mind you can take her to a catholic convent, they will take care of her there till she is ready to leave on her own.

Baby, do you work with social welfare? How did you come to the conclusion that what you said will be their line of action?
Why do we just sit and make uninformed conclusions and discourage people from taking action?
Poster go to social welfare or tell her to go to social welfare and report, the lagos office is quite vibrant, they will invite the parents and they will be asked to sign an undertaken.
Several times when someones right is being violated, we conclude and advice don't go to court its a waste of time. Abeg tell the girl to go to social welfare if she doesn't get favorable response come back here and say it, that is the right agency to handle this

baby_123:
Please, don't give her to anyone who will abuse her and don't request to put this on the front page. Who knows who is on NL that knows her family? In this day and age anyone that doesn't educate their help is very demonic in my opinion. It is slavery because they don't want the person to ever be equipped with life skills or grow in life. I could have offered help as our housegirl shakara don dey too much sef and she is the same age. She's totally spoiled. But my mum may hesitate taking someone without their families conscent. If she doesn't mind you can take her to a catholic convent, they will take care of her there till she is ready to leave on her own.

***sighs*** honestly am confused now, I guess need an NGO to take this up

Ok, go to social welfare now and try your luck. Which law says the parents cannot marry her off? Are they not muslim? Is it against their religion? Is it not in the same Nigeria where a well known politician married his child bride? As long as the parent consent is there, there is only so much social welfare can do? Is social welfare going to pay the bride price or take her on as the ward of the state? Abeg let's be realistic. This aint America.

Madam, the childs right act which Lagos was one of the first to domesticate and pass into law, visit the Lagos state Government website for more information.
What do you mean America? Read and see what works or doesn't work and stop staying in your house and concluding from no experience that something doesn't work.
Be informed of what is happening in your society and not just criticise everything. Lagos state was one of the first to fully implement most parts of the documented childs rights act. Have you heard about the anti abandonment law in this same Lagos? Where a man cannot impregnant a lady and abandon her?
Let us use resources available, if it doesn't work then we lament but to just stay and conclude this aint america is not it

Doesn't matter, even in developed countries underaged kids can get married with the parents consent. They will only make her "consent". You think having them sign some undertaking will change anything? Well, Bolakale take the girl to social welfare or take her back to her parents. Its not advisable to keep someone else's child anyway. If you really want to help, pay off her husband by paying him back his bride price and ask the parents if you can take over mentorship or sponsorship of the girl as she wants to go to school. You can get your parents involved. Hey Debrief, no one is fighting you. Give your opinion as I have given mine. I don't change my stand. If you have advice, give it.

I am sorry, don't mean to be rude, sorry about that. I am only asking that you be informed before waving aside agencies which you haven't used or tried and discouraging others from doing so.
I know social welfare can be underfunded and officers over worked but they are some of the few agencies that truly sacrifice their time, sometimes money and energy to really work.

baby_123: Doesn't matter, even in developed countries underaged kids can get married with the parents consent. They will only make her "consent". You think having them sign some undertaking will change anything? Well, Bolakale take the girl to social welfare or take her back to her parents. Its not advisable to keep someone else's child anyway. If you really want to help, pay off her husband by paying him back his bride price and ask the parents if you can take over mentorship or sponsorship of the girl as she wants to go to school. You can get your parents involved. Hey Debrief, no one is fighting you. Give your opinion as I have given mine. I don't change my stand. If you have advice, give it.

@Baby_123 I am an undergraduate with no major source of income, so I can't do all that o, I have violated many laws by allowing her to pass the night in my parents' house bkos she doesn't have where to go her father has stated categorically that she remained disowned hence sent her out of the house since she doesn't want to do his wish, but she can't pass more than this nite in our home, concerning the lagos social service dept, who has their contact ?

If they don't sell her to this guy, they will sell her to someone more influential who can shut down this case. Ask the mallam's who own kiosks around Lagos where their young girl children with so many promises suddenly disappeared to. Girl child education needs a lot more promotion especially in the North. All the parent needs to do is marry her to someone outside Lagos and the law is no longer valid. These things are even harder because people in Nigeria hardly have necessary identification

Just get to the local Government Secretraite I guess in Aluasa, that's their office. Ify seems to know it well. I wish she would come back

bolakale30:
@Baby_123 I am an undergraduate with no major source of income, so I can't do all that o, I have violated many laws by allowing her to pass the night in my parents' house bkos she doesn't have where to go her father has stated categorically that she remained disowned hence sent her out of the house since she doesn't want to do his wish, but she can't pass more than this nite in our home, concerning the lagos social service dept, who has their contact ?

Oh, so they have already disowned her. Well, try the social services department. If there are no changes, then if your parents are willing, they can adopt her or sponsor her. But get your parents involved in the case. This story was in the news right? I remember reading something like this with her name. The girl has to be willing to go through hell to follow her dreams, just in case her parents stand on their word. She will have to find a job,or maybe you guys can take her on and help her. If all fails, take her to a convent. They cannot send her away. But always keep in touch with her, so you can check on her progress.

debrief08: Just get to the local Government Secretraite I guess in Aluasa, that's their office. Ify seems to know it well. I wish she would come back

Tanks... I wish she can come back, cos am pretty scared now, ppl av been telling of similar cases that backfired... And am a nobody!!! Them go just lock me up nobody go fight 4 me

baby_123:
Oh, so they have already disowned her. Well, try the social services department. If there are no changes, then if your parents are willing, they can adopt her or sponsor her. But get your parents involved in the case. This story was in the news right? I remember reading something like this with her name. The girl has to be willing to go through hell to follow her dreams, just in case her parents stand on their word. She will have to find a job,or maybe you guys can take her on and help her. If all fails, take her to a convent. They cannot send her away. But always keep in touch with her, so you can check on her progress.

Hers is not yet on the news, I just want the situation to gain enough publicity!!!!

In the main time, get her to the convent. That way you are both safe . From there u can do whatever waka you think is necessary

You can't take the laws into your hands @ OP. Fortunately, lagos state is one of the states that signed a law against under aged female marriage, under 18 specifically.

Depending on your location, you can go to "the ministry of youth, sports and social welfare @ sabo, yaba or the social welfare office @ Alausa, ikeja". Mrs laide latinwo is the head @ Alausa and she's dedicated to her duties.

Office of the public defender @ alausa is another place to go. The girl can even go alone, that would prompt them to swing into action immediately.

ifyalways: You can't take the laws into your hands @ OP. Fortunately, lagos state is one of the states that signed a law against under aged female marriage, under 18 specifically.

Depending on your location, you can go to "the ministry of youth, sports and social welfare @ sabo, yaba or the social welfare office @ Alausa, ikeja". Mrs laide latinwo is the head @ Alausa and she's dedicated to her duties.

Office of the public defender @ alausa is another place to go. The girl can even go alone, that would prompt them to swing into action immediately.

Tank you sister !!! We will do just that
But is it possible for us to get her contact

You already got a name swing into action.

@OP, what's the situation now ?