For the first time ever, I'm beginning to doubt if my girl really loves me. Yesterday I tried calling her many times, she wouldn't pick and the calls spanned a 5 hour period when she was supposed to be in school.

I called her brother around 10pm last night and he told me she was yet to return. That worried me alot because I thought something bad may have happened. Then around mid night I called her again this time she picked but told me she was just getting back from school. I asked her why she wasn't picking and her reply was "I didn't know my phone was ringing" when I confronted her on how meaningless that sounds, she changed her story to she actually left her phone with someone to charge it for her.

Meanwhile we've just reconciled after a quarrel - which is becoming more frequent! What do you guys make of these? I'm already thinking of breaking up with her but I have no proof of wrong doing!

No prove?... Dude, that is more than enough proof to dump her sorry nyash!

Meanwhile, feels good to be the first to comment. Seun, what is my price?

Abujafood,you again,I hope you are not crying wolf with this thread of yours.


You dont have the proove she is cheating on you,but you sure know she has not been truthful with you,she cant be trusted,so a break up wont be a bad idea.

k2039: Abujafood,you again,I hope you are not crying wolf with this thread of yours.


You dont have the proove she is cheating on you,but you sure know she has not been truthful with you,she cant be trusted,so a break up wont be a bad idea.

Break up with her for doing what? Not picking my calls or doing something behind my back which I don't know of?

tellwsdom: Dude, you should be spending more time on how to make some real PAPER. Money ma em sure pass..No give yourself hypertension

True talk, I'm not giving myself hypertension just need a little advice on my next move. Break up is on the table but getting more opinions is what I want!

she changed her story

It's obvious she is lying to you which means you cant trust her,besides you also have doubts about her

Abujafood:

Break up with her for doing what? Not picking my calls or doing something behind my back which I don't know of?

Investigate her well b4 u think of what to do she is nt honest with u

Ranoscky: No prove?... Dude, that is more than enough proof to dump her sorry nyash!

Meanwhile, feels good to be the first to comment. Seun, what is my price?

. What is this thing abt being the first to comment . Poster,ask her if she's cheating,she's in the best position to tell u cos what u typed here isn't enuf reason to actually prove she is cheating

fairygeh: . What is this thing abt being the first to comment . Poster,ask her if she's cheating,she's in the best position to tell u cos what u typed here isn't enuf reason to actually prove she is cheating

Will she just answer yes I'm cheating on you if I ask her just like that?

;Dof course,she won't,u should have noticed the sarcasm in that sentence.what I know is that doesnt go to show she is actually cheating,but try and have a one on one talk.since u are having doubts about her,u might wanna ask her some questions which are quite not clear to you.see her reaction.and u would knw what line of action to take next.

Abujafood:

Will she just answer yes I'm cheating on you if I ask her just like that?

k2039:
It's obvious she is lying to you which means you cant trust her,besides you also have doubts about her

Actually, the two stories can be reconciled. If she was charging her phone at her friend's place and they were getting outside, she still won't hear the phone ring.

It is dicey and the OP needs more info. Don't just jump to conclusions

Mynd_44:
Actually, the two stories can be reconciled. If she was charging her phone at her friend's place and they were getting outside, she still won't hear the phone ring.

It is dicey and the OP needs more info. Don't just jump to conclusions

I think the girl should have clearly stated that but she didnt.

k2039:

I think the girl should have clearly stated that but she didnt.

Well she did say it but she did not explain completely.

I am just trying to make sense outta everything she might have been fûcking for all I know but a relationship is about trust.

until the OP has prove that she was cheating, there is noting here

@All,

Should I still call her to get more from her or just follow my gut?

Abujafood: @All,

Should I still call her to get more from her or just follow my gut?

Don break up with her yet. Get more info

Abujafood: @All,

Should I still call her to "GET MORE FROM HER" or just follow my gut?

OP, what else do you want to get from her? do you want to be VIH+? (Rearrange it)

who doesn't cheat?? you? oh dey theere naaa.


who doesn't cheat?? you? oh dey theere naaa.

What sort of picture is that?

Lv her sorry A.$$. Wen a woman start dodging ur calls, she's tired of u and spreadn her tentacles. U nor be fyn boy? Get anoda chic!

Isn't it too soon to think about breaking up? This is just one incident out of months of faithfulness plus you don't really know she's cheating.

Do you think u're begining to bore her? Why don't you try up your game, get her attention back to you!

Why do i have the feeling you've bn looking for a reason to break up with her, and suddenly you decide to choose something as flimsy as this.

My advice will be that you watch her closely if you suspect foul play (which i think is non existent).

PS. Her reasons are pretty valid.
Stop looking for faults that aren't there and enjoy your girl.

190-the-clown:
If she's NIGERIAN brof then she's definately cheating

Are u nt Nigerian,always blasting Nigerian girls

Dump her, move on, find someone else, she's probably trying to dump you too and doesn't know how.

Abujafood:

Break up with her for doing what? Not picking my calls or doing something behind my back which I don't know of?

were ni man yi kë! No be ask for advice? And u were specifically askin if u shld break up. The guy didn't even go straight, he said it 'won't be a bad idea'. U well?

fairygeh: . What is this thing abt being the first to comment . Poster,ask her if she's cheating,she's in the best position to tell u cos what u typed here isn't enuf reason to actually prove she is cheating

hehehehe...and coming from a girl. One wlda bilivd they're angels of truth! Hehehehe!

uj_sizzle:

My advice will be that you watch her closely if you suspect foul play (which i think is non existent).

PS. Her reasons are pretty valid.
Stop looking for faults that aren't there and enjoy your girl.

Excuse me please, what are you talking about?
Her reasons are pretty valid you say?
This is really serious, please allow me a moment of laughter .
How can you boldly say her reasons are valid
not just valid but "pretty valid" sef, na wa o.
What are the odds that a woman in love with her man will not pick his calls for a whole day?
Inshort what are the odds that someone will not pick his\her calls for a whole day?
She was charging the phone?
Please remind me again, how many hours does it take to charge a phone?
Just how possible is it that she didn't see the missed call?that's assuming she was really charging the phone, why didn't she call back?
Why pick at midnight? Yeah I know why, she must have successfully finished her other runs and can now talk to her boyfriend without the other guy suspecting.
Oops I forgot, she has left the other guy and is now in the comfort of her room where she can talk freely.
Which school closes by midnight?
Op abeg na night school the girl dey go?mstcheew.
Guy if you get sense you better use your head.
Those reasons she gave for not picking your calls, are about the dumbest and flimsiest of all reasons.

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@Freecococoa, the OP said she didn't pick for a 5hr period when she was supposed to be in school. You think her excuse is flimsy and yet you believe a break up from his relationship just for this is ok?

@OP i'm not trying to justify what she's ddone, all i'm saying is if you want a break up then u need a good enough reason for it and not this. Aren''t couples supposed to communicate? Talk to her, and i don't mean accuse her. You may just be wrong in ur assumptions or be the reason for her change of character. If you think a breakup is inevitable after everything then go ahead, but i just think it's unfair not to hear her side of the story.

#just my opinion, before attackers start landing.

I agree with Uju

uj_sizzle: @Freecococoa, the OP said she didn't pick for a 5hr period when she was supposed to be in school. You think her excuse is flimsy and yet you believe a break up from his relationship just for this is ok?

I'd like to believe I've lost my ability to comprehend but I'm glad that's not the case here.
Whether the call spanned a period of 5 hours or not, the time she decided to pick is very important here.
Note that the only time she picked was around midnight, its not like she picked it after the 5 hour period she was supposedly in school.
And I don't remember saying its ok for the OP to break up with her for whatever reasons, the OP is an adult and can do whatever he likes, I only advised him to use his head and also pointed out how flimsy her excuse is.
My problem is you saying that the reasons she gave is "pretty valid", its somewhat worrisome that you think her excuse good enough reason not to pick her calls.

Mynd_44: I agree with Uju

what exactly are you agreeing with?