FlowerPower:

Sandra I am very well traveled, so I am aware that there is a world outside of the US. However the US is my home. As for my friend, who by the way is not my partner, he is a proud Nigerian man. He loves his country, but he also knows that he can make more money with his education in the US. Is Nigeria's economy more stable than the US? Are jobs more plentiful in Nigeria? The man is using common sense. Many of my Nigerian associates want to return home one day, but they have no desire to go home until they have made their fortune here. Dangote is an exception and not the norm. Let's not be so harsh on each other sister. Now if I based my opinion of Nigerian women on what other people say, I would think that they were all ruthless golddiggers. Since I personally know some very wonderful Nigerian women, I know this isn't true. I still think you should consider giving him a chance. He is quite the catch. Pitter Patter away.

Golden Lady: Oh gosh, another one of these threads that seems to have diminished into an argument.

Mrs.Chima:
It is good for people to keep it real without being ignorant and people need not to wear their emotions on sleeves in chat....as long as you live there would always be harsh and truthful things said.

*Kails*:
I am half AA.
But honestly I don't really date AA men like that. TBH, I feel the AA bloodline in my family will end with me.

I prefer foreign guys. I don't know if it's the way I was raised or what, but
for some reason I just can't "click" with AA guys - at least not the ones I've met.

Again, they are my ppl so there's no hate. But dating wise...I don't think so.

tpia1: i think if the AA man has spent some time outside of his country- preferably in nigeria, there might be some kind of common ground between him and a nigerian woman?

if he hasnt, its rather risky but never say never.

btw, all the half Nigerian half AA males- who are they marrying? Fellow Americans?

SAFO:

I married an AA woman but that's mainly because I spent most of my adult years In America whereas my childhood years were in Nigeria . Had it been the other way round, I probably would have married a nice Nigerian girl. I think it just has to do with the environment your surrounded by.

obo_man: marry/date anyone you like, as long as you happy.................


Happiness is all that matters, you only live once....... My experience with an African-American might be different from yours. Also bear in mind that we are all different, and should be treated individually, not as a group....



Love and happiness should be number 1, where they come from should be relegated to dustbin.

Mrs.Chima:


There are people who marry folks simply because they love them and not make excuses why they marry them.

If my husband was from Mars....I would marry him still

Mrs.Chima:


Scammer!!!!! What makes him a scammer,because he said the truth of what he needs.Dreams are different,wake up and stop calling people names about their own views and needs.

SAFO:

I think you missed my point. When you're surrounded by one demographic as opposed to another one, chances are that you will associate/mingle more with that certain demographic. So there's more of a likelihood that you will fall in love with someone from said demographic.

It's not like I'm saying I married my wife because she's AA, that would be ridiculous.

birdman:

what makes you happy at 25 is not the same as at 45. Little wonder divorce rate is 50% and rising. I personally have no issues marrying an AA, as long as we are both open minded enough to embrace each other's cultures willingly.

ekt_bear: Sure. Most of the black women I've dated have been African American. I don't have a problem dating or marrying one, so long as she is "in tune" with African culture (or is willing to learn rapidly).

Mrs.Chima:
Goop....my friend said she like the shortcut Aframs.

Mrs.Chima:


What is African culture? You meant Nigerian culture?

FlowerPower: Also the way women are treated is apalling (to me).

ekt_bear:

Hrm...I guess by "in tune with African culture", I mean understand that I may someday want to return to Nigeria and would be ok with possibly living there. That I'm going to give my kids Yoruba names. That women I date need to be able to put it down in the kitchen.

That I am slightly paternalistic, but more in an old-fashioned sense, not in an offensive and demeaning way.

Things like that.

Goop:

ahaha....Tell her thanks abunch. I wish I could take credit for it, but the term, as far as I know, is at least as old as the traditional annual Afr'am Fest held in Norfolk, VA which has been going strong for more than 30 years. It is a cool lil' abbreviation, though. It sounds more "ethnic" than typing out the compound noun "African-American" all the time. lol

Mrs.Chima:


Cool. My kids has Igbo names. And I wouldn't mind living in African as a retiree. Just get the open mind ones and that don't care. Go for the ethnic kind....you will be okay.

Mrs.Chima:


Lol. It's cute. Now if I get cussed out saying afram I will come for you!

KINGwax: we undstnd. Nigerian men won't stand their wife having a boyfriend and talking to her friends abt their escapades. You knw? We will see it as immoral if u break wit us and consider it normal marryin his friend. Nigerian men won't allow u go all your way and claim rights of a woman. And hey i forgot...divorce! Most popular trend in the US!

FlowerPower: I know the questions is for Nigerians, but I'm African American. I would date a Nigerian, but I just don't think I could marry one. The ones who did not grow up in the US or UK, are far different, even when they have been educated abroad. Sometimes I just blink and stare at the things my Nigerian friends say. Also the way women are treated is apalling (to me). There are a few other things, but I don't want to say, because I don't want to make anyone feel insulted.