Traditional marriage to me just means an approval from the parents of the bride and payment of dowry to the brides family. This alone to me qualifies as being married. Why then must a man not be allowed to sleep with his wife after that has been done.

What gives the church the sole right to make a man and woman husband and wife. I believe that as long as the parents of the bride have handed her over to you, she becomes yours.

Aside the issue of church blessing, church marriage is a mere formality.

Traditional marriage is the ONLY way to confirm a marriage. it depends on the custom of your respective tribal group.

Nigerians must stop doing these curch mariages. it is useless and a waste of money. the church came just 100-200 yrs back. they have no right to confirm any marriage, not even that of an animal. unless anyone is trying to imply that all our ancestors, for 1000s of years were all b.astards and illegitimate children, since they didnt do church marriage. that is jsut bull****.

Traditional marriage is perfectly legal. Once a man and woman formally declare themselves to be husband and wife in the presence of authority, then the marriage is complete. simple. If you want to add church(also an authority) formality to it, then it's up to you.

teeo: Traditional marriage to me just means an approval from the parents of the bride and payment of dowry to the brides family. This alone to me qualifies as being married. Why then must a man not be allowed to sleep with his wife after that has been done.

What gives the church the sole right to make a man and woman husband and wife. I believe that as long as the parents of the bride have handed her over to you, she becomes yours.

Aside the issue of church blessing, church marriage is a mere formality.

Seconded....

ijawkid:

Seconded....

wow i cant believe!

Once their is an agreement in the presence both parents that they want to marry each other and every other thing done that day...they now husband and wife.

Traditional or church marriage are mere celebration.

Boomark: Once their is an agreement in the presence both parents that they want to marry each other and every other thing done that day...they now husband and wife.

Traditional or church marriage are mere celebration.

what about the sigma that people who didnt do church wedding experience. Is it a sin not wed in the church?

teeo:

what about the sigma that people who didnt do church wedding experience. Is it a sin not wed in the church?

RUBBISH OF THE HIGHEST ORDER!
I did church wedding but to say without it you are a sinner, very Lets pls stop fooling ourselves with this borrowed culture.

WHERE IN THE BIBLE IS MARRIAGE CHURCH BUSINESS? JESUS WAS A GUEST AT THE CANA WEDDING NOT OFFICIATING PRIEST!

Well Nigerians like copy copy that's why gay marriage and lesbianism is also being openly advertised on NairaLand

PAGAN 9JA:


wow i cant believe!

Why ??

teeo:

what about the sigma that people who didnt do church wedding experience. Is it a sin not wed in the church?

Its not a sin...

Infact Church wedding was borrowed from the whites...

I still can't understand why we get ourselves worried about church weddings in african.....

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ijawkid:

Why ??

nothing. i just remembered this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/1037632/question-ijawkid

PAGAN 9JA:



nothing. i just remembered this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/1037632/question-ijawkid

Lol....

That funny thread.......

On that thread you were encouraging me to worship the IJAW gods.......

teeo:

what about the sigma that people who didnt do church wedding experience. Is it a sin not wed in the church?

If you wear knicker in a society where everybody wears pant(sister to boxers not trousers) to wherever they go, you will feel awkward.

The most important thing is knowing if it is right to wear knicker. Those that say church wedding is a must are forming their personal opinion.

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In catholic church 2dy,u must do traditional mariage b4 church mariage

engrtee: In catholic church 2dy,u must do traditional mariage b4 church mariage

Then whats the need for the church wedding when they know how important Traditional marriage is?

im telling you, there is no need.

PAGAN 9JA:
im telling you, there is no need.

What are your reasons for this statement, Mr Pagan

teeo: Traditional marriage to me just means an approval from the parents of the bride and payment of dowry to the brides family. This alone to me qualifies as being married. Why then must a man not be allowed to sleep with his wife after that has been done.

What gives the church the sole right to make a man and woman husband and wife. I believe that as long as the parents of the bride have handed her over to you, she becomes yours.

Aside the issue of church blessing, church marriage is a mere formality.

Very true.

teeo:

What are your reasons for this statement, Mr Pagan

PAGAN 9JA:
Traditional marriage is the ONLY way to confirm a marriage. it depends on the custom of your respective tribal group.

Nigerians must stop doing these curch mariages. it is useless and a waste of money. the church came just 100-200 yrs back. they have no right to confirm any marriage, not even that of an animal. unless anyone is trying to imply that all our ancestors, for 1000s of years were all b.astards and illegitimate children, since they didnt do church marriage. that is jsut bull****.

and also it is an institution of man-worship.

and also what business do foreigners have in deciding we are married or not? it would be a different matter if we were slaves in the americas and our slave-master decided on our marriage.

As AFricans, dont we even have this basic human right to decide on our marriage? why should a foreign institution decide on that too

teeo:

Then whats the need for the church wedding when they know how important Traditional marriage is?

That is called extra curricular marriages.

i regret not stoping at the traditionalwedding alone.

There's absolutely no scriptures that says a Christian MUST adhere to a particular type of marriage, not even the church marriage. Whatever marriage anyone desires, let him\her go ahead - we do not have a 'law' to follow that it must be done in church to be valid or acceptable.

Boomark: Once their is an agreement in the presence both parents that they want to marry each other and every other thing done that day...they now husband and wife.

Traditional or church marriage are mere celebration.

Nay, I disagree. Even if there is an agreement to marry in the presence of both parents, but the bride price hasn't been paid, you are not yet husband and wife.

Where I come from, once the bride price is paid the marriage becomes legal. The rest become mere formality. Personally, I doubt if I will do a church wedding.

Goshen360: There's absolutely no scriptures that says a Christian MUST adhere to a particular type of marriage, not even the church marriage. Whatever marriage anyone desires, let him\her go ahead - we do not have a 'law' to follow that it must be done in church to be valid or acceptable.

Goshen, I am still awaiting the ring o. Mere 5000 dollars ring is taking so long to deliver.

Ishilove:
Nay, I disagree. Even if there is an agreement to marry in the presence of both parents, but the bride price hasn't been paid, you are not yet husband and wife.

Where I come from, once the bride price is paid the marriage becomes legal. The rest become mere formality. Personally, I doubt if I will do a church wedding.

What happens in a society where bride price is not required?

traditinal mariage is a pre requisite b4 church mariage

but i dont like the idea of making ch0rch wedding compulsory.i rate traditional wedding above church weding

tobechi20: traditinal mariage is a pre requisite b4 church mariage

but i dont like the idea of making ch0rch wedding compulsory.i rate traditional wedding above church weding

I agree with you, Church wedding to me is like a western tradition which they themselves seem to have kind off forgotten. Our own legal agreement is the traditional marriage and thats what i feel God approves more.

Registry?

naptu2: Registry?

Registry is a must. It wasn't popular in the past, but women are now wiser. In case you mess up in future, I can drag you to court and sue the shirt of your back.

Therefore, people can decide to forego church wedding without suffering any consequences, they cann decide to forego traditional marriage without suffering any consequences, but if they decide to forego registry. . . . .consequences.

Traditional marriage is only marriage that God endorse and others are meri making and country law